 The human being, which is identified, the mind identified with the ego, believes it is lacking, that's where the incompleteness comes from. And therefore, that's what the special relationship is about, is to make a trade. It's like trading up an incomplete self for another self-concept or another image that is believed to be better. So that's where the gain seems to come in. In other words, if you're identified as being single and you have in mind this concept that it would be better to be a couple self, rather than a single solitary self, then you see the advantage of the trade up and therefore you will seek to find the couple self. And basically that's what this whole world is, seek and do not find. It doesn't matter how many forms you look in to find a better form or a better concept, the whole thing is set up as like a giant trick, so that you will forever, so to speak, in time terms seek and do not find. And therefore the solution of course is to go within and find the love within yourself, which is only where the completion is. And the sooner you become disillusioned with this trick, then that's when you can find the fulfillment and the satisfaction and the completion. Because it is an attempt to trade a defective or lacking self for a better self. Some of you have seen the movie Jerry Maguire, where Renee Zellweger has the comment, you complete me. You can always tell that when you're watching that movie with metaphysical students, they all go, ugh! And the rest of the audience goes, ugh! You can tell, you can tell, you really want to see who's on this spiritual journey. Oh, it's all based on the perception of the line, you complete me. Because clearly, clearly, clearly the teaching is that you don't need to seek outside yourself for a partner, a friend, a person, a situation or anything that will complete you. You have to find the completion within yourself. What we say within yourself, we're not talking about within the body, we're talking about within the mind, because that's where the completion is. The completion is mind itself. Mind was created whole and complete, and once you get out into the fragmented images, that's where the problems start. So ultimately, what we're talking about is spiritual fulfillment. You know, it must come, you have that mirroring, mirroring, mirroring, and then as long as there seems to be a temptation for a form outcome, then that's where the wholeness is not fully experienced, because wholeness is complete contentment. There is no sense of even bonding with another in that wholeness, and so that's where the final wisp of illusion has to be given up. So he started feeling all this was being reflected back to him that he valued, and he loved being with her. And yet it got to the point where, you know, he said, until another man walked into the room and he would see her kind of turn and reflect, start to reflect what that man wanted. And then he got to the point where he was able to notice he didn't want another man to come into the room because of the competition aspect of there. As if she is one, he is one. Two's company and three's a big crowd, you know, and that was the sense where he was noticing perhaps that he wanted her all to himself. And again, that still has aspects of specialness to it until you come to realize that who I am or the I am presence is all, is all in all, and that there is no other. So it's beautiful. These movies kind of really get to the nuances of really getting more and more to that point of cleansing the mind, purifying the mind, purifying the heart completely of specialness. And that's the whole point of spirituality is to sink deeper and deeper in the mind into a state of wholeness and completion which is in the mind. There's no form to that state of mind. There's no form outcome. You can't get to a point where you go, aha! The perfect mate has arrived or the perfect situation. Whatever, you know, there's a great line in the Course where Jesus says, When you decide upon the form of what you want, you lose the understanding of its purpose. Why is that so? Why isn't there such a thing as a perfect form? Well remember, the purpose that form was made for was it was made in hatred. The world was made as an attack on God, a place where God can enter and mount. The form was made as the distracted device, as the Hall of Mirrors. And the Spirit will use that form that the ego made as part of symbols to lead the mind more and more into a state of first through a disillusionment with the form and then turning the mind inward to go completely inside, completely within to the Kingdom of Heaven because it can only be found within. There is no form that reflects the Kingdom of Heaven. We could say, except the Forgiven World, the Holy Spirit's perception of form. But the Holy Spirit sees the big picture. The Holy Spirit reflects that beautiful light of Heaven onto the whole screen, onto all form. And so the big picture is what we could say fulfillment is in terms of waking up. Not a specific form. The specifics were made to deny the light. And whenever you think you've arrived at a specific where you go, got it. Got it. Finally achieved it. Finally fulfilled it. He says you will notice that you will not be fulfilled. You may have a little glimmer of, finally got the thing that I wanted, but you will soon find there's a disillusionment after that. And then the ego will say, well, keep seeking. You just haven't found it yet. But it's not there. It's not there to be found. So that's why a lot of times, spirituality is talked about in terms of renunciation. Another word for renunciation could be emptying the mind of all false desires, of desires that were made to take the place of God. And it's really not so much of renunciation because everything that you seem to be renouncing on the spiritual journey, you don't want. Really, it has no value. It cannot be difficult to renounce that which has absolutely no value. It cannot be difficult to renounce that which can only hurt you. And so that's why there's no sacrifice in the journey. But as long as you believe in the ego, the ego will take every step inward that you make into your mind, it will see as a big sacrifice. What are you doing? Are you crazy? You're going to give up that and that and that and that and that and that. The ego made that and that and that and that and that as a way to distract the mind from coming inward and finding that fulfillment within. So it's really quite a beautiful opportunity. Basically, the divine law is as you sow, sow, sow, you reap and giving and receiving are the same and what you give is what you get obviously because giving and receiving are the same. So if you're perceiving a relationship and there seems to be one person of the couple that's a little more into bondage than the other as you're saying. But if you bring it back to mind, you start to realize that whatever is reflecting is coming from mind, it's just being acted out. And so once you start to say, oh there seems to be a bit of a desire for a bonding, then that's part of the purging or the purifying that's going on because the world that's perceived reflects what's in the mind. Prayers are always answered and the prayer of the heart is mixed until it's pure, until it's unified. So that's why it's kind of a mixed picture. At some moments it's like, whoa, spectacular. And there's others and it's like, ooh. It's flushing up that unconscious desire, that unconscious death wish is getting flushed up and acted out sometimes. Maybe we've talked in the past in terms of anger or the expression of anger or something and it's like, ooh, what's this showing me about myself? It's quite intense mirroring. But ultimately you can't help but be grateful for that because in that sense the mirror is helping you with whatever was pushed out of awareness. It's helping you become aware of it. And then the more you become aware of it, the more you have that opportunity to really release it, to really face it and say, no, this is not my desire. I want a piece of God or I want peace of mind more than this. And so in that sense the mirroring is serving that way. You know, you have to feel the gratitude of that. The movie stated that really perfectly as far as the reflection of mind goes. He said, haven't I, I can't remember how he put it, done everything possible to deter you from this continuing to come towards me? He said, yes, but some part of you must desire it, otherwise it wouldn't be happening. That was it. You do see that it's not so much what seems to be in front of you that counts. But it's what purpose am I holding onto in my mind? That's the crucial question because we're teaching what we would learn based on our purpose. So many times people have been put in what seem to be dire situations or difficult situations or challenging and they thrive.