 We will let Ken魔wa kwa when we seeang o blendikayatuição But we will not want community hunger but we must aside many values We may want toarms but we must is toen a harder to settle why you want the best jeans also why name them maybe we should give them a chance We don't want to give chance. Like ata mwenyumende ya haku taki. Sesa unna jamia wenye wa mekata na e. Zi actually wakitemba kwa gru. Mwenyumende ya wakit a bit cooperative dan awengini. Mebe endyumenshai kwa gru. Pa jy kusema no. Sisi ndotunam sayde ya kusen. Neee. Yenimenshai, seti ya taki. She's just shy. Sasa skia. Saita kwa cha lazima by force by fire. No. Si lazima wakit ma boi cha ndyum na umia. Because you know you have to use your lure. Let me cut you short. Cut me short. I want to think kuna mahalia tuji elewana. Akia raminonevo. Kwa sababu gani. Mwenyumende na takaloia. Sawa. Na sasa mekwambia uniputofu. Ata sila zma niyambie. Ani angaliye tu. Ani petu no gani. Iwi tu. Yani nizileza anajua kana kufanyanin. I want to think you had a discussion. A good discussion here. He lazima ifanyike. Na hindiwa ina create problem even after marriage. Na hindiwa ina sababisha, marriage niyungi kuisha kwa sababu gani. Hatu kwa rooted into what we are supposed to get first. Na if we fail, tu kisha fail kupata, ina itwa, ground, hila foundation, then there is no stability. Whichever, hila building ni defu, ina depend na vene, the foundation is deep downwards. So, ukekuja tuwane kusma, you need to dig down one foundation ilikwani ni. Sasa unapata, the moment umetuma the other party, the other party now, the other party, ina kwa, however, how jailed, and this is what is creating problem after umetuka kwa you state, meyungi kumarito status agai. Ume, you are married now, na already sasa, hau takana wa tutena, because lazima kwa ina transition. Uke, ukiwa dem ni sasa, ukisha oleka, una kwa husband na mahi wife home too, na lazima kwa obedient, and that is a must, akunaga option, kingiwa kwa marriage umengia. Sasa una kutakusababu kuna uta, biya ulipata ukiwa bado dem, umetwingia na doko nyumba, ina sababisha ili marriage iwezi kwa, iwezi sumama. The reason, kwa uulipenda kwa ungelewa. There is no way you will approach your husband and say, this and this and this, this is the way out. Unona kusabu geni, wewa mazo ulizuia kutu mi aloia. Sasa ni ulizuia konyumba, yumuko na mze, uta, uta, nina uta finia macho, yovitu iwa. But then, by the time you get married to me, you already know, I do not like talking up and close. There's a way we, when you are dating or when you are quoting, you knew if I want to tell you something, there's a way I'll come and bring it to you. I just think you are shutting yourself kusabu geni, kama sita kujua tukikot, ile, ile, ile, unipe opportunity. I always say this, ata kama ni madman, murusu unge. Aksha ungea, wewa, piweka kwa mi zani ma ungewa, ya kia mane mane na ya kia. With that one, uta elewa hui unimtu weina, geni. Rizone kusama mi have very many friends. Older than me, but nipaka lewa wajawa iwa. Rizone, kuna foundations waliweka, na wakatini li kuna grown outu nikiwa adu. Ile challenge. Ladies. I mean ladies and boys. Na wakatini li kuna wachalins, waliweka namin ni, fala. Ion na wada wali tu miya. Ui fala naji fanyagasa, God sana ilo agivi tu. So leo hii, mi minda wana, mi minda wana wasa idea, na wili wu fala yango. So ata nikiwa sa idea, fala meku help. Kusabu geni, maza wali yari buku create, kitu eni na unesha, yei akoju, ama akoza idea wewe. Kwanini, kutaka ku elewa, unaji yari buku, kutengeni za ni ni, so that you can grow together. Na hino ina fanya tu onekama kwa kiasi, ui umutua mama ingiha kwa ii grub. Intensioni ya keni gani, motive ya keni gani. Because if you don't understand as to why you are getting into a given group, otomatikali hau fit. Kusabu geni, hata uki wa pali utapiawa information inya iiku fae. But if you get into a group, and you have, I mean a goal, you set your goal, you know what you are going there for, you know what you want. Otomatikali you come out with your achievement. Lakin ni kama hauna, it is a big problem. I like your voice of reason, I don't dispute that, but not all girl groups are the way you put it. Unona, because I'm so sure, if you are like literally up in terms of your thoughts and your reasoning, you know if this group is actually helping you, because let me use a perfect example, my mom, ako na chama, maa chama, chama oku inje, all of them, but there is one particular chama she knows, up evi, niki enda tan kituwai yo doni ni, it's more than about money, because they sit down, they talk about their marriage issue and stuff like that, and she gets good advice. You get, kuna zene ata peak, na kuna zene utawata, unona. But then, these other certain types of groups whereby you're like, let me say the alpha, a female is there. So what she says goes, unaga. But then at times, she may not be right. It's now up to you as the lady inside the group to put your weighing, niniu, should I take this, should I not. You can also decide to leave the group, because I think also, most guys think, because we are in a group, wu ya kisha wongia, nyi vo. You can also leave the group. Because at times, I might actually send you for a reason, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, o ye ni mo mbe wu, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia, nyi wongia. So I'd rather I send you, but then most of the time when the guys see that, unona, na kakafile aluka mese maati, unona approachu yuba, ... creative groups can solve events like particular cases where it's easy, when a amount of power you have on your hands is the big problem. Naine na kwa makaban gota income because women freedom, if you know women's freedom you are getting support from your friends. That's what we did. The good men kuna madahen, kuna sijinini. At times those groups actually help out women outside here. It's not all about what... You're right. Kwanini sifanike moende basika malazima, when the man put off. Why don't you go both of you? Ili ailewe si... No, you are. Let me tell you something. With the man, like today I have a wife. Akinitumia dem, yoni vita. Atu sa elewana. Kwanini. Kamakulikwana kasoro na hatuja elewana na protoko na fakutumia. Si, just send me. Kwen serikal, ati protoko? No, yes. Most marriages and marriages... Let me tell you something. And that is why you're called a man. Na usipo juwa kuongiako ako, my friend don't ask here kuna otome kaliwa. No, no, no. Kuna wadi mefunguliwa, fubatad no. Me na batuma wei niwa na kaliwa, wakaliwe tu lakini miwi, nili katata my wife penya kwa na niwa na juwa wezi. Yari bukwanini. Because kuna vitu via mi miku sema, na kuna via kia kusema. Right, we sit down and discuss. But if there is a dispute, lazima kuna mahalia na faa pitiye. Si, just anywhere. So I think, ui uboil chalda na ona aki umi ya kusawa bugeni. Wakati umi me pitenana e. And like you don't want stories aki. Kunemji ya uku pitiye. So you just came, nisha e niwa ni kama kumudarawe no. Na aki kumbuka e ni muwanaume. Wadiwa, ataka leka tutokadogo na nika boi. Wata ni kwa mbe, I have a son, a growing son. He, I mean he is now nine months. Laki ni ni muhaipata saizi. Uu na onata dada kia kujakariwe ya na mchapa. On his own. Anakwa nisha e ni muwanaume. Laki nisa kina tuna yari bu. No, no. Let me tell you the truth. Ui na just aki kiesho, ati niske ui nukomare de lafu afterwa niya. Na why do these things happen like this? Ya apeni kwa sababu. That's why we need foundation. Ya, see foundation e na onge lendo e na leta shida. Kwa sabu gani. Hatuku ipea the basics. Zile witu wa mazo zina ita jika na ni, zina oneka na ni nindogo o hazina value. Ndezo zina da minis zina, ziditamin sana, the destiny of that marriage. Sa sana kutua, loya na sama vizure. Being in a group see problem. Mi yata see blame group. Na napenda sana infat. But the problem is this. You go there and you want people to think on your behalf. You should not be in that group. Kwa sabu gani, as a person, you need to make your decision. Uki se mandio yako, wacha iwen dio. Uki se ma no, wacha iwen no. Sisa problemi na kua, you don't understand where to say yes, where to say no. Kwanini? Because you have people that will say yes on your behalf or no on your behalf. Na hino inafanya tunanza kua so much inquisitive, na easy to group. Kwa sabu kama haungi ingia. There are people we know them before they went to given groups. They were very good. But after getting into that group, they became ya ni atokimuangali ya unamogopa. Atabila kukwambia, why? There are things that are taking place hazi kuwepo. So automatically zina kwambia, So we want to pray, we want to ask that our young generation how to put the foundation because it's a simple foundation. That's what we want a girl child to have opportunity kubosana. We love it. In fact, it's the best. But look at this. Sia tukienda jusasa, mimi na kua useless. Ataukienda juku mbuka badumini kichu. Nasi wepia stand out. So we had slides. I just want to read them really quick. Tumapitia, easy point. But effort was put into these things. So let us read. More often than boys, girls express agreement to their friend's suggestion. Like when they make a suggestion of their own, they often tag a question. Shall we, should we? And that's why a pastor was very passionate about it. So na zapata. Should we do this? Ananguja kwambia wa either yes or no. And that's how I interpret your situation. Evolutionary psychology says that women need to protect themselves from physical harm. So indirect aggression keeps us safe. And I feel that sasa apuki dogo umkiyonatu me jamuki dogo and leave us alone. It is just... I think I am... I thank God for my voice and my stand look. Because naturally I don't like kujirudia. So once I jirudia like three times, that's when all my haywire breaks loose. Because I'll be like, yo, what is your problem? Nini nini. Uta ai yuta tenebana nini. Or I'll leave you there high and dry. Okay. Literally. So now we're about to finish as we're wrapping it up. Yes. But let me just speak honestly. Kitutun monatu say goju kwa gallery. Napastutani yembe na taka aji boy child. Because there was many my own business kidogo ananzokusema wo ati see what it's na fa... Algo asimani ni. Ati... By the time we're 35, if we're not married, no one will want us. So tunafahutu wakubali, chalazi ma... What is up with this 35 thing? 30, when you're what, you cannot start getting... You know, first nika mwangali, nika nzakuskia, some fire in me. Then I just relax. I said, no. Maybe this is not... It has nothing to do with you. Anongia tu. Mwenza kia kakuja. Hey! You know, sayim na jifanya true wo na ringa ringa pa they even remove for me photos of old women. Ati you see beauty fades. What is this pressure you're giving me? Are you also not going to grow old? And who said it's a must? Niku kubali. Unatika kuwa kiyongiaivi. Unataka aje boy child. Tell me as we finish this. Unataka umtupatia chansi. Unto umbagi chansivo. The person, like, okay, see ma boy, when he took you up a group, then I spot a girl. So nambia ma bestiwangu. I need to talk to that girl. Atu ta henda wote, like, I tend to mwongeleshe. Like, atu shewa na labda memes, unawana boy na skumu. Henda, henda kwa ke. Sa, like, naji, naji henda ya. But nima dem, niku ta kongeleshe ade moja, mwenakuja pa wote. Just excuse yourself. I think it's manners. You excuse, wengine mi excuse. Dori kuji unyongelesheivo? Sini kikuja, tu kwanne, nga gote a wote. Then, ma intended, nini na henda kwa ke. Sini wengine, I think, nima na suini mtuake kiasi, tuongeleshe. No, kuji uni ambene kiringanda zeka, na sta pata boana, na sta eza kuza. It's like we can't adopt nowadays. You guys are so disrespectful. Then this is why I say, pasto, nituake kuja, and they have a certain type of vibe. Na naona anenda kongelesheivo. Nani katae, mwenu na nilaumu. Let me say this, I was not blaming the culture. Jya pokuwa, wakuwa kublenio. Na niao, na ona nambiawa, uli kuwa smart size kawanao. Sayo me bit. Na niau kweli. By the way, it is very true. Every other day we are expiring. The way I was 20 years, it's not the way I am. Na niau, that's a fact, but sasa hi-fi kutumika na in that negative manner. It's horrible, na minim zima. I think, nita provok mwenya na semaivo, nima mbi, if kama yupo, na na expect a pataio relationship, hatawa hi kusabugeni. If that is the way of approach, akuna demata, atas mama, kusabugeni. Let me say this and be honest, kawaliwa na niyona. Waremo, na wana penda kubembelezo. That is the truth. Na ukitaka kwen, ukitaka kwen, ata kama ni monaume, ukitaka kwen dem, you must lie low. Ile, you must, ma namke na mbiwara bebeleya, be submissive to your husband. Laki ni when it comes to that relationship, unetaka kumuin, na zima moanzo, kukude chini, wile mtu akwele wile wile. I wish you were a million in this world, you do. Okay, kufisha wile wile. Okay, guys, all time. Muxiongi, it's when you come to kwaile facts ya, mimi na penehivi, ispenehivi na penehivi. And that one, it has a chance. Ya wile mtu, you will work with, I'm out of work with. Mi I've seen a lot of people come into relationship, na ile relationship high end, it's not ending to a marriage, but wami a chana vizuri. And I've seen people come into relationship, na ile relationship, ina end up to marriage, na ile marriage high last, kwanini, katikati ya iyo umda. I'm sorry. They misplace something. Yes. Last words, mommy. All I can say is, not all groups are bad, and if you are a lady and you're in a girl group, know where you stand. Not all the time your girls will actually stand up for you. Sometimes you need to boss up and do it yourself. Sorry, your last remarks. Girls should think for themselves. Like wachana na easy groups, easy groups, zdawa ributu, like achanim jibu kiasi. She said that tema coating, ata kwanari, ati boyata ata realize, vituanataka, ile marriage is a breakup. Temia coating, mbado, mademo wa disediya. Oh, the mother in wa disediya, everything. That's why I'm in a kujanga day to come, see me. Makana, kido wa kudrop mic. Okay, guys. Mina, what do I tell you? First of all, remember we have this hashtag going on, katikana mash auto. Just take a short video of yourself dancing. Put it on social media, tag Y254 and then get as many people to like it as possible. So you can get to the competition on Saturday from 10 to 4 p.m. And there's monies to be won. And there's certificates and all these amazing things. Also a limo ride, by the way. So you don't want to miss out on that. I love in regards to the topic. Boy child, let me tell you something. Ata gemi ajana, Chelsea did not stop attempting to shoot. Ataka wakwing is ata moja, walingizwa sita. That does not mean they'll never play again. So shoot your shot. Ukishindo wa sorry. There's next time. Lage is itchalazi ma, okay? It's not by force. My name is Valentine or Kalamival. Please have an amazing Monday. Let's wave, guys. Bye.