 Good day, and welcome to another Autie time live stream autism Q&A. We are back For the 27th time in a row Wow craziness Let me just wait until we have some People rolling in and then we can get tired with a little bit of an update Hello, Joshua How are we all doing? We are back indeed and you can see that I am Sporting a my my own t-shirt today my intact top because it is absolutely Sweltering in the UK at the moment Sarah says what's up? Pretty good feeling pretty good today, actually Let's see if it's staying hydrated with some water. Indeed. I have having I'm No lie. I've had about five of these today. This is about 700 and think about 750 milliliters in this bowl I've had like five of these today. It's been absolutely Crazy warm everything like that. Let's make sure that the Wi-Fi is not on because it's a bit unstable Okay, it's back Awesome, so yeah, just just as with usual we will be doing a Q&A session So if there's anything that you want to ask me about autism mental health Anything like that. This is a place to do it Personal questions also allowed Happy Friday says open shield happy Friday Joshua says it's 24 degrees here in Northern Ireland where I live today 25 Wow It is definitely like Definitely definitely hot like I would say It's interesting to see that it's still warm in Northern Ireland as well Jackie says ha You're not in your snuggie. You're feeling better. You're looking better Thomas. I am indeed looking better Well feeling better I think I'm lucky bear as well. Like I've been very dedicated over the past week Month few months or so with my weight loss So I'm feeling feeling good in myself being quite confident Which is something that you wouldn't have heard me say a month ago. Definitely not Hello up time. It's nice to see you again Wet toast enjoy a very interesting name. You got that. I hope you're doing well Your posts have been really helpful as an autistic person love hearts It's that little that thing that they do. There you go Yeah, I went very very glitchy there thankfully only for like three to five seconds. Yeah I was turning off my Wi-Fi, but for some reason Instagram just can't handle keeping the Livestream on while that happens. She's a bit irritating Jackie says still a bit smoltering yet less smoky in a Canogan BC Canada Interesting does everyone with autism look younger? He's with his adults. Are you saying that I look young? I do actually look pretty young when I've shaved my facial hair off. So When it when I do have my first year, I think I look my age, which is about 26 But when I don't I feel like I look like a teenager genuinely But I'm pretty consistent with my skincare routine I've got like some prescription skincare stuff that I get from this company, which is actually really good I only use one thing really So I am staying on top of that definitely We've got a question first question here from Sarah, but I'll get to that in a sec I just want to give it a little bit of an update I have this week being a little bit more diligent on it with actually doing things like productive things this week Which has been a big change for me as many of you will know from You know my past probably past a couple of months being very you know quite a severe depressive period very big burnout for quite a while and so It's it's starting to alleviate a bit and usually the reason the way that I can tell that my burnout is alleviating is my transition times between things are getting shorter and social interaction Communicating things like that. It's just a lot more easy less over thinking things like that So it does seem like things are on the upwards and I will be back to it Mind you, it might be a little bit different to the post I've done before I've been having a good old Think rethink about the content. I'm gonna put out soon, so Yeah, just look forward it's gonna it's gonna be a bit different But I hope you hope you like it So first question from Sarah Good Lea, how do you deal with autistic burnouts? Very good question. I'm having difficulties finding a balance between over-stimulation and under-stimulation So the autistic burnout component it's a lot to do with management of stresses that happen during during your day during your week during the month Obviously that there is an aspect of work and productivity that's involved there. I find that sometimes This the sweet spot for productivity kind of shifts week to week depending on how stressful that week has been You know, so so just trying to adjust as much like how much you work can be quite important There's also the aspects of sensory adjustments stimming, you know, as many of you know, I go to the gym like Five well, I am going six times a week now five or six times a week. That's really good for me It regulates me a lot It helps a lot in terms of stimming as well because it's that kind of proprioceptive Vestibulate input that I really enjoy do my kicks and stuff there So that that definitely helps me a lot Hesitant say about medication medication is quite a big thing for me in terms of like depression and anxiety Just keeping me on a level to some degree something that I've taken since I was about 14 so it's You know, it's it's very much an important thing that I don't want to gloss over and for me And then I suppose that there's also that that under stimulation over stimulation thing. I think Definitely when I'm in a good place, I can handle a lot more stimulation I find that there's certain aspects to myself that need that Other things not so much so very hypersensitive to noise lights Smells pretty much all of my senses. So trying to eliminate as much of that In my life helps me out a lot But I'm very understood like insensitive to my vestibulant proprioceptive sense. So I need a lot of movement I need a lot of spinning, you know vestibulant input that that really helps me out a lot. I Hope that that that's helped you some degree Big boy Thomas. Hello Austin. How are you doing? Okay, we're having a chat about some sphinx kitties very cool And the annoying part is I'm going to be getting some rain here. I think tomorrow, you know what today Considering the heat I would not be opposed to a little bit of little bit of rain, you know Go outside breathing the fresh air and nature and Bask in its glory Sleepy while working Have you had a bad night's sleep. It's been really hard for me to sleep at the moment with the heat In the UK. It's been absolutely sweltering It's a good job that I've got fans both on my desk and in my room that I just don't all the time Ah N says hey great day any favorite books about autism you reckon and somebody from my english I highly recommend the book neuro tribes It goes into the the history of autism very comprehensive Comparatively also talks about kind of how autism is in the modern day as well to some degree I had the Offer of that book on my podcast at one point. He's called Steve silverman. He's the one who wrote the The hit article the geek syndrome Quite a while back very very quite quite a while back But it's it's a very good book. I highly recommend it to anyone who's interested in like the history of it Uh, oaken shield says here's a question. Do you feel like autistic people manage better in long distance relationships and entities? um Two faults there think it would probably be better for autistic people because You naturally have space away from people from your partner, which I know that from talking to Um over autistic people and also my own experiences that too much interaction with one person A long period of time. Um, it can be very overstimulating. So in in that sense, yes, um in another sense Contact I I do get a lot of neurotypical partners who come in Um telling me about how they've been ghosted by their autistic partners for months on end. Um I don't know that personally I sometimes struggle a lot with maintaining Texting things like that just throughout my day. Um, if it's part of my routine Like if if if I was in a long-term relationship with someone and I was uh, perhaps You know, there's the thing where we called like once a night or something like that. Then I'm sure that that would work. Um But uh two differing differing views on that I'd say that overall probably probably a bit better than most people I would say Work up early then tried to take a nap but woke up feeling worse Oh dear My mate uh interest is very romantic. Um I less so it seems like I heard his feelings Yeah, um, I think I think some people can can struggle with like our need for distance It's not to say that we should try and make up that distance, but um, I know that You know the the ideal for a lot of neurotypicals out there is that they they live with their partner And they they do things in the evening. They do things on the weekend with a partner I feel like that's quite a lot for me personally. Um, so I I imagine that there is kind of that um gap That the neurotypicals try to close especially in in neurodiverse relationships You like your distance on space. Yeah me too Uh little creative cows says hi I've had four people ask me if I'm autistic because I show Traits such as flapping hands being hardworking hating noise wagging my tiptoes Good good good good set of traits there I definitely have a look into it more. Um, I think one of the things that holds people back from exploring an autism diagnosis or exploring, um autism just on their own Is that stigma that's attached to it? It's not always got the best kind of If you have it there's the stereotypes of autism are still very Consistent in us even in our modern day. So I feel like that is quite a big barrier to it, but 100% Um, I would definitely recommend having a look into it Okay, she says I love neurotypes are recommended to everybody 100% it is like a really really good book I really enjoyed it And I don't really read a lot to be honest most of the information that I Consume is usually like video content or audiobooks That's usually what I go for If you've ever tried a scotch editor or a pot pie, I I hate both of them. I have tried them Uh fiams says hello from italia. Hello How you doing welcome to the stream Anyone have any recommendations for helpful things to help with uh cancelling noises? um JBL live headphones the ones that I've gotten at the moment are pretty Good in terms of noise cancelling. Uh, there's also some sony. I think wf Some number, uh, they're they're pretty good with noise cancelling if you want something that's in here um, I also do have some non-electronic non-musical Um noise cancelling earbuds that you can get through my link tree on my profile if you are interested in that You're welcome little creative cow What you don't like about scotch eggs and pork pies? I just don't tend to like processed meat and uh scotch eggs just have a lot of I don't like hardboard eggs either so that'll be why Um, austin says uh sony xm5 headphones are pretty good if you want to try those Sony headphones are very good for noise cancelling at 100 joshua Atoms says when I'm in relationships, I'm overly attached, but once in a while. I feel really overheated and tired Interesting, uh, that that's definitely something that uh, I've experienced particularly during my early early teens up to my um Early 20s. I was very sort of anxiously attached quite quite a bit. So um, and I experienced the same thing. It's like Yeah, um, I'm less so like that now. I'd say that I sit honestly sit somewhere more more across like to the the avoidant side of the spectrum um in terms of attachment You want to read the stuff on internal family systems? I do need to have a look a bit more into that I have heard about it from talking to some individuals who are very much into um that kind of thing So I hope I'll be able to understand and be left behind for a day or two 100 percent Ali asks, uh, what's your workout routine? Interestingly, you say that I've recently changed it. Um, I'm doing an upper lower split six days a week um, on my upper days, I tend to do a lot of bench press uh, ad press which is like sort of a slanted seated shoulder press I do seated rows and I do weighted pull-ups and then I do a bit of upright rows and You know a little bit of arm stuff I have been trying recent I've been really liking Smith machine school crushes at the moment for like triceps, which is quite nice um, and also lower body days Very much liking the three second pull squats that's been It sounds sounds like it would be worse, but because I can lower the the weight that's on the bar to do those um, that's like perfect for me because I always Really worry about my lower back and being able to really just sit and like control my reps and stuff has been really helpful um I've also been doing trap trap bar deadlifts like elevated um, that's kind of like a different more explosive way of doing remaining deadlifts um Doing a bit of hack squats bit a bit of leg presses sometimes obviously calves and um hip ham raises as well those have been glute ham raises rather those have been so that's that's pretty much been my My my workout program at the moment. I can post it. Maybe after after this I'll post it to my instagram story and um Try and try and post it to my youtube as well. What's your ab routine? um, my ab routine is just three sets of um hanging leg raises I used to do um weighted crunches. Um, I got to a point where I got up to 50 kilos, which is the max that I could do um on the weighted crunches, so I've switched to doing hanging leg raises And there's a lot of misinformation, particularly around abs for some reason on the internet A lot of people seem to think that you have to do very very high reps like every day You need to just like grind them out almost like a cardio workout But actually the the best way to grow abs is to treat them like every other muscle in your body um So like It's not going to make you your waist tinier. It's it's in fact going to make it bigger But if you want your abs to pop out when you're at a lower body fat um doing doing some actual like bodybuilding rep ranges for that like three three sets of 10 to 15 if you want on on an exercise and really going to You know really really try and harder those you'll seem so much better um So so much better results than than doing like 100 crunches or something I used to do that a lot That was before I got into the the literature around it Definitely going to have a look into them indeed uh Autistic tajanas has finally made it to your live stream high from sweden. How often do you do this live stream? I'm pretty new to instagram. Uh, I do it every friday So if you're interested, I do I do also do youtube live streams where I look at mainstream autism content, whether it's from autistic creators or from um other creators outside of the autism community And I give my feedback on it and my thoughts on it And I do that over on youtube. You can find that through my from my link tree on my bio as well Um by every week for the aughty time questionnaires stream q&a Thank you very much. Mr. Joshua G for another badge. You are absolutely funding these live streams to a T Um, I really appreciate it man. You're always a pleasure to have around honestly Uh, do do do Do you pick hiring split squats? Um I might do I think it's it's definitely I'm not really wanting to be Like I've I've such a like a diversity of movements in my like program because I I find that It takes me a while to warm up and get into them and do them properly So I try to keep it quite minimalist when it comes to like the big muscle groups Just take to like five sets of barbell squats, you know that seems to be working for me Uh app term says it's more like I want to be the best of what the dating pool can offer But sometimes it becomes a huge barbell on my shoulders that I can't lift and just go silent for a day or two 100% um I think that that mentality is something that you'll find that's shed by a lot of people um, I don't think it's the best mentality to have because You know comparing yourself to other people, especially when you're in a long term relationship is Not a good thing. Um You know you you are you you do as you are If people don't really fit into your life in that way and it becomes difficult then maybe maybe it's not right for you Or maybe you need to talk about it and have a conversation about it And advocate self advocate, you know Alex says I grew considerably in just years by lifting to failure for fitness and longevity I do stuff from the knees of a toe guy. That is a very good way of doing it. I do the To failure kind of stuff as well Uh dark moon says I used to work out like that getting back into it Uh while using soap fans for weight lifting very inspiring interesting Uh austin says for hypertrophy gaining muscle high intensity to failure anywhere from three five to 30 rep range will yield results Uh, though the higher the reps will be more fatiguing 100 and lower reps will definitely beat up your joints a lot more as well Thank you, mr. Austin for your um super chat your boop much appreciated man Really helps me out with these live streams Uh, hello, angela. How are you doing? Welcome to the stream Tatiana says um I have been in burnout for seven years Is it usual to have a burnout for so long? Have you experienced a long-term burnout? What do you think I helped better than when being exhausted? Uh, this is something that I I answered at the start of the stream. So we won't go too much into it Um, I haven't heard of people having burnouts for seven years It sounds more like like a long-term kind of fatigue related syndrome that you might might be have I'm not a doctor. So I can't prescribe in that. I can only encourage you to look more into it Um, but seven years does seem like a long time to be in a burnout um, I'd say that you know Maybe maybe trying to add things in To to your routine slowly Um, have a goal things like that. Um can be quite helpful getting out of those burnouts Arguably lower reps results in less fatigue. So you can recover quicker a hundred percent. Yeah I will with the lower reps bench press. That's how I messed up my elbow Um, so that's that's that's the reason why I say that but if you do it correctly and you you're you're Conscious about it and you take it take it slowly and such. Um, that works you know you just you just gotta have good form and um, also strong tendons strong ligaments Aspey network says do you work from home? I do indeed. I work part-time from home As well as doing this kind of stuff online Little creative cow asks, uh, do you have any tips for trying to ease off masking? Um, it's hard when in class, but so obviously apparently to the friends that I'm autistic Ease off masking. Hmm I'd say that that unmasking is is more of like a long-term Whole person process. It's not necessarily I think it's it's very different for each person. You do have different types of social camouflage that that we do um You know for me personally I don't hide any autistic traits that I have I don't really mask to be honest anymore. I used to quite a bit when I was in my early 20s Um, not so much during teenagehood because I didn't really understand social stuff um I'd say that One of the one of the first things to do to unmask is to go through your life and try to re um, understand What's happened in your life that has been negative from a different perspective? uh, sometimes that can do a lot for like Feeling forgiveness towards people who have wronged you and also giving yourself a bit a bit of understanding and and love for like the things that you might have done wrong That's definitely the number one thing that I would encourage. Um other things that you can do is um It really it really depends on the person like for example for for myself one thing that um, I struggle with which i'm trying to change is um mirroring And I've had a little bit of a revelation recently because I was thinking like Are there any actual downsides to mirroring? It makes it makes sense to me It's it's like an unconscious thing that I do not not a conscious thing I just mirror the emotional states of the people that I'm talking to um And it helps with communication helps with connecting with people So like who is there actually any downside to this and I have been thinking about that And I'm I've come to the conclusion That yes, there are actually downsides to doing that because Number one, I think the main the main thing Is when you mirror people you are um Adopting their vocal tonality. You're adopting their facial expressions their body language When you do that, there is a there is a feedback system to your brain to your emotions A lot of people think it just comes from the inside out Like you just feel an emotion and then it comes out on your face and your body Um, it works both ways. So when you So, you know, when people say oh you should smile you should laugh because it actually makes you feel better It does to a certain degree. Um It's not going to like erase depression or anything like that. But um, and so when you mirror people you are soaking up The emotions emotional state that they're in Uh, which is not which sometimes can be nice and sometimes could be good other times not so much Um, if someone's very sad very down and you mirror them You're probably going to feel a bit more saddened down um So that that's the first thing and also another thing which perhaps is a little bit more social is the um um That the mirroring it can also Sometimes appear to other people as being like too faced as well, which I think is a very minor thing Um, I'm obviously like having a lot more thoughts about what exactly um that that could cause uh mirroring but For me that is a very unconscious thing. It's not something that I consciously do. Um, but it's also something that I'm trying to Um, learn how not to do at the moment So that's that's that's me in my unmasking process at the moment Uh, it's it's very difficult. I'm not going to lie. I catch myself doing it. Um, emotions are infectious But sometimes if you're in a good place, you want to keep that a good place, you know When I worked home worked from home worked out more. I wasn't as depressed 100 and there are a lot of I mean I've said this many times if you can bottle up exercise into a pill it would be the most successful pill ever It's so good for physical mental health everything like that I'd say even more important for autistic people and even more for autistic people You'll have a proprioceptive vestibular hyposensitivity Um, because sometimes that input can be really really regulating You have a lot of like reductions in cortisol Increases in serotonin you have the release of a compound during Um, strenuous exercise, uh, which actually mimics thc in a way It's like your body's natural thc compound that that it acts on Um, and that that is very sometimes a little bit dissociating, but it is also Really good for anxiety and it can help a lot um, if you are Going to a social event which is exercise related it can help you a lot more with Communication if that's something that you find very difficult and no cannabinoids 100% The actual compound it's called anandamide So it is what's associated with that? um runners high That people have so it's it's definitely worth having a look into it's very interesting So your your your body's natural endocannabinoid Hello, mr. Thomas. How are you doing a yoga guy? I knew told me depression sadness is sometimes habit induced I'd say yeah to a certain extent it can be. Um, it can also just be neurochemical there's lots of different different You know things involved in that Austin says environment genetics et cetera all into play when it comes to depression anxiety 100% man And jack says uh spank the like button for or t time If you're if you're on instagram or you're on youtube and you want to support um, these live streams these things that I do You can always give it a like Or you can um become a member Uh for 99p over on youtube if you want to support me Or buy a badge if you're on instagram um to do Joshua G says, uh, how would you deal with a breakup especially after your first one? um The first one's always going to be the worst Especially if you have kind of this very romantic attitude to life like I have um in the past I think it probably took me about three years to get over my first breakup with somebody which is very excessive Um, but I was I am and was a very emotional person when I was younger um I would say that the things that have helped me the most is um, breaking up processing the breakup um and Doing other things. So like a lot of people will say stay distracted. Don't think about them all of that kind of thing Yeah, to to an extent it is good to to get your mind off them Get on with things if it is something that is just looming over you and is very kind of raw Um impacting you quite a bit. It's very difficult to not think about it um set aside a time during the day to think about it and process it feel all the emotions that you feel write about it Do all of that once that period of time that you set yourself is over Try and get back on back on with doing other things That that that would be the the top thing that I would Recommend it. I think it is important to process and feel those negative emotions because They they are important and it's it's what makes us human. It's important to um Acknowledge that within yourself and that it's a normal thing to feel and it's a good it's a good thing to feel because you know if you if you didn't feel The the negative effects of after it means that you you didn't really have something there, you know which is Suppose not the best thing to say but you know You care about people and you you You know, it's it's important to to recognize that We truly need more lot more enlightened autists out in the world teaching us more 100 percent Uh, the aspie network network asks do you play video games? I do indeed I play renscape I play pokemon go and I play a bit of apex legends and I over watch for my brother sometimes Am I am I am my friend? Uh, I gotta hope dream is very good. I I was thinking of getting a home gym Uh, but the only reason why I I haven't fought like a little bit more about doing that is because um I like the aspects of having to go outside Into into the social realm To exercise because it's one of the only times that really gets me out the house, you know, I work from home Um, it might be a little bit too much sometimes. I've had some meltdowns at the gym very minor ones um Sometimes very overstimulated sometimes forget to charge my headphones So I don't have that noise cancelling aspect to it, which is very difficult I can I can definitely attest to that but it is important for me and I feel like You know going out there and and mixing with people maybe saying hi to the odd person It does does a lot to kind of You know help with help with connection depression all of that Just personally Uh, is it true that neurodivergence can tell other neurodivergent people even if they're not diagnosed? Hmm I'd say so I think the main thing there is the communication styles Because it just kind of feels normal To talk talk to another autistic person like it just there's no You know, you're very direct with each other. You give each other processing times. You let each other monologue It just kind of feels a bit easier. So I Definitely agree Like I'd say that you'd be able to tell Uh christly web says that I'm learning to Unmask and I'll just be who I am if I'm overwhelmed. I'll allow stimming and crying even public Very good. Thank god I It's um crying is not something that I tend to do a lot only when I'm like really in a bad place Uh asiah, how are you doing? Hi? How are you? I'm not too bad. Thank you very much Um Brennan says suck folks. Welcome Brennan to the stream We have about half an hour left uh for asking questions So if you've got anything that you really want to ask, uh, which is autism Personal exercise self-improvement mental health related. Please go for it and you know Please make sure if you are enjoying this and you want me to do more of these um support through Memberships for spot free badges really does help encourage me to do more of these these things I will start likely probably still do them anyway Just just being honest, but it does it does help me out a lot Um as I am trying to transition into being self-employed I like actually going outside and touching grass interesting Regarding depression. Um, also look into the mthfr gene mutation. Interesting Christly says, um, really grateful for being led by you thomas led to you thomas. Okay I'm glad Did you did some did someone recommends coming over to check out my stuff? Yeah That says hey tom. Hope you're doing well man falling into depression and the moment myself after seven months of struggling with a breakup Any advice? Um, I hope the advice that I gave earlier about breakups will help um Really feel for you. It is awful like First breakup probably took me about three years to get over second one like two years Makes me like it. Yeah, it's it can be really really tough. Um I think it's just it's just something that we as you know emotional people very much like Very much like need to go through. Um, but it does get easier if I if I if that helps at all probably probably doesn't help But I definitely if you haven't heard the the comments that I made up on it before Um, you can always check like the replay that I put up on on instagram or youtube Autistic thought said what is something you are looking forward to thomas I'm looking forward to getting back into creating stuff and doing my instagram and doing the youtube and doing the podcast because I am I i'm wanting to i'm excited as as usual as usual with Getting through my burnout. I'm excited to actually get back to doing stuff and like Enjoying it. Um, because I really do enjoy doing this kind of work. It's just When i'm in a burnout when i'm in my low mental health periods Oh my god, it's it's a lot. Um, and Even fun things that are not work related are just dull You know The holder says hi there In your knowledge, how good or bad is it to work out with allergies? It depends what allergy. Um I think if you if you have hay fever And you you're going to the gym and your airways are a bit more close than usual Could be a difficulty if you're doing a lot of long cardio related stuff, but if you're doing weights I'd say I'd say it's not wouldn't be too bad But I I hesitate to give any advice on that because i'm not a doctor Um, so I definitely ask your doctor if you can So me scow has bought a badge free badges. Thank you so much for supporting me You're a very lovely person Overcoming burnout is significant. You should feel proud of yourself. It's hard 100% It's it's something that I've learned and it's very difficult for me to tell myself when I'm in those states That things are actually going to get better because I know that they are because they always do Um, it's just when when I'm in that head space It's so difficult to to see any positive thing, you know, it's It's it's absolutely it's like I think of myself when I'm in that really low state and I'm like, oh my god like like the difference between myself when I'm At a Copal level of depression anxiety is so much different to like those severe periods. It's crazy And I'm glad to some degree that I've managed to maintain the live streams because I'm sure that if you go back and you if you actually look at some of the odd live streams that I've done Um during that period because I did did keep it up like every every friday You will see quite a marked difference in the way that I like am Now in comparison to back then um So I I hope that my intention with with doing those was one because it actually it helps me Stay connected with you guys being able to talk and I really enjoy doing these live streams And the other thing as well I think it's important that with social media that I don't just always present myself as being all happy Good confident all the time I think it's definitely the case for a lot of people that they they kind of hide that aspect of themselves. I think I don't think that's the best because I feel like If you're going to put yourself out there, you know, life is not all fun and games Everything like that all the time We have bad times and it's okay to have bad times and Um social media people are not super heroes You know Still working on dealing from the trauma from my first relationship and that was a decade ago I'm sorry to hear that Brennan Sorry to hear that Jackie says you will appreciate the habit and are you talking to someone else? Uh Jackie asks are you dating slash? Uh in a relationship now thomas. I am dating at the moments indeed Um, although I'm taking a bit of a Break from it. I think at the moment because it's it's a lot. It's always socializing Joshua G says what your plans for next week thomas apart from staying hydrases Snuck in that hydration reminder there mr. Joshua G Remember if you if you are in a hot place Especially if you're from the uk make sure to double down on the hydration at the moment Um, I've got myself in many states where I thought that I was having like a really low day Where I've just been dehydrated Plans for next week, uh, I'm going to be Increasing the amount of stuff that I'm doing work wise Writing posts doing um Clips things like that trying to do that a bit more possibly being a little bit more consistent with Uh doing my live streams over on youtube if you are interested in that And I'm also just trying to do some stuff behind the scenes in terms of working in my workbook for um late diagnosed individuals Autistic thought says I feel like it's like emotional imper Imp, imponence Impa, impermanence, impermanence. There we go Like object impermanence, but with feelings it feels impossible to remember other emotions exists. Yeah And it's I'd say the same with like breakups as well like You can just really get stuck on a certain feeling or thought It's tough Uh, Brennan says it's actually the relationship itself that was The issue more than the person but dating an nt when you're Unknowingly and he is rough. I can Definitely imagine that 100% She one of your audio all the podcast interviews at thomas, uh, which person Tatianus asks are you into tv show criminal mind? I have not I'm not into I don't watch a lot of tv actually to be honest They were asking about my partner Are the old podcast episode. Do you mean the video that I did there isn't why I don't watch criminal stuff is because um I I've I've read some research about Watching criminal related things before bed and it does impact your sleep to some degree Because I think there's a lot to do of like the adrenaline that you feel when you watch that kind of thing The lack of safety Joshua G says, uh, what is your sexuality? I am straight Beholder mx Says socializing burnout is horrible. I want to do stuff, but I know I will be more and more exhausted And if I don't do it, there's pharma 100% um, I I find that It really depends on my routine So like if if socializing is part of my routine And it's the only thing in my routine It's very exhausting because I constantly feel like you need to socialize Because it's part of my routine and it also exhausts me um But when when I've got life right when I've kind of got myself sorted out um my routine of Socializing to work getting that balance Um, it's actually quite helpful because you know work also doubles up as a long time for me. Um You know When you're post coming out of a harass tea, it will be here soon It will be here soon I've I've got some some things in the works. I'm doing some writing on different topics Uh, we will be back up and running at some point. Don't you worry, but Um, I still need to try and ease myself into a new routine of working So once I'm feel like I consistently Um produce stuff put stuff out then I will be like I'll be on it and it'll be out Oh, you're good. Um, have to go listen again Thomas. I think she was the uk last in the wheelchair No, that we we're not partners. Um that was Sarah hope um friend from from the uk Gb gb aflate paralympine Thomas asks, uh, how do you think the hack from the movie? Mr. Robot is an autistic I think it's just the way that he's written and also the the style of The actual series is very much in his in his head all the time. There's a lot of self-talk a lot of like Think like the way that he thinks about stuff is it's not is very akin to how I think about things um So definitely I I really enjoyed mr. Robot just because it was You know, I felt Because it was so internal focused as well as being like an external thing Um, it really vibed with me quite a bit It's quite a good watch for me Brennan says, uh, screw sleep disturbances watching crime shows make me sad. Well, I'm awake 100% I think some people call like murder pee, you know like I don't I don't know what the the internet term for that word is You should look it up though As I says I can watch paranormal and ghost like Movies before bad, but it's the documentary stuff that scares me before bad because it actually it seems actually real Well, if it's a documentary, it is real, you know Um, I I'm the same. I'm fine with horror movies before bad too Murder corn. That's that's that's the word Uh, ptsd. So I don't watch real crime or war movies. I'm okay with violence in fancy like The Witcher Very cool I I haven't really watched anything that I like I've felt genuine fear watching it um, I think it's somewhat in part due to my desensitization to adrenaline Uh through through my you know during my fighting years when I was younger um It's very difficult to find something that scares me like People people have tried jump scaring me in real life and also like during Spooky horror walks and stuff. I just don't react like I feel like my my adrenaline systems just always all like F'd up like from my fighting fighting years All right, so we have um Just coming on 10 minutes left of the stream So if you've got any questions that you want to ask Please go ahead Ask them You know what I I thought I would be a lot more Like soaring stiff from doing my new workout program Because it's a lot more volume Like I'm hitting all of my muscle groups three times a week, which is pretty intense Um, but I'm actually feeling quite good about it Because because the gym helps so much with my mental health I feel like going to the gym a lot more and like actually just committing to doing that It's it's helping so much with my overall mental health It's been crazy I jumped scare from the smallest thing so annoying I like jump scaring people I'm bad for that Especially when watching a scary movie Pedro, how are you doing man? Uh, actually feeling not too bad, man. How are you doing? Don't mean dull asks. Are you still practicing taekwondo? um I'm not training at the moment But I have been working on my flexibility and practicing my kicks in between sets at the gym So I'm at a point I'm at a point where I'm quite happy with my technique and stuff now so it might maybe I may be producing some more videos about You know with me doing my kicks and stuff at some point Um, but I've I've lost quite a bit So I'm quite a lot lighter than I was when I made my my previous video about that um So I'm a lot quicker a lot more bouncy as well, which I like it's good Send this to your to stick crush you My artistic crush is you Well, I'll take that as a compliment. Thank you Um, Brennan as uh question about the gym. What are your thoughts on going to the gym when you hope being around other people? um I think it's difficult. It's more difficult for us Especially when it's a busy busy time I'd say as much as you can try to eliminate as much of the sensory component as possible Uh, take your phone with you a lot of people say like oh you need to be locked in you shouldn't be Doing stuff on your phone. The phone's really great because the phone allows you to not make eye contact with people Which is a is another source of stress I find um, I'd I'd say that it's it's good to get yourself out And experiencing that and get and getting used to it to some degree We don't tend to habituate too much to sensory things But I think different environments getting used to different environments is definitely something that we can um Learn to um cope with a lot better So I'd say as much as you can try and If if I'd say even even in non-gym situations, even if it's just clubs or uh, not not like nightclubs um social groups um Going out for coffee getting a coffee and like sitting in the cafe Little things like that. I think can can do wonders for like managing with with day to day life Because once you get out of the habit of doing that it can be very difficult to get back to it Hello, Hina. How are you doing? The answer is um, I've been having Trouble this past few days. I try to use my voice Through ai to make a video where I stalk women As I said last time Pedro Get out of those internet spaces Just do like I I know that you you want to You don't want to let them win or anything, but like you shouldn't really care about these people You should just you you should just try and try and Edge out a little bit Maybe get get outside Play some games get some new hobbies things like that Um, because it will happen with the internet that kind of thing You should try for a thrill of the fight vr boxing game. Ooh, that sounds good Sounds good Used to do sure to conquer a very cool When did you start taekwondo? Um, I started When I was about 13 14 I was inspired by some of the anime characters that I watched particularly narratives rock Lee and Obviously pretty much every character in Dragon Ball Z And so I started it trained for a few years in traditional Move to a sports club um Started competing Competed locally went up competing nationally started going abroad to compete um Probably about seven eight years I don't know if you can count like me me doing kicks and brats and kicks at the gym or not but um Yeah, quite a while. It's it's definitely something that I'm very good at kicking Freddy tiny design says the stupid thing is that I did security work bodyguard stuff um Somehow I was okay with violence and work setting with any idea why Because you're allowed to there's no social ambiguity to it. I'm the same with taekwondo Never never had a fight with someone outside of um competition grounds You know consent people having medical teams nearby um Because it just it's like There's no socially acceptable time to Fight someone like it's just not a good thing. Uh, but also people do can can be quite aggressive. So it's like That that is difficult. Um That would probably be why You know, it's a bit more bit more of a social acceptable thing to do I'm doing well. Thank you. Just a smidge to warm here. I know exactly how you feel I'm doing well. Thanks. You know Thank you. Thomas. No worries Brennan push-ups crunches sit-ups sprints during nature works works well That's very cool I'd say that is that's definitely Good things to do um Jackie says when your confidence builds up Uh with strength then you can jump into more crowded gyms A great way to meet love interest too, maybe I mean I've I've tried like in the past talking to a couple of people but To be honest When I'm going to the gym, I'm like locked in. I don't want to talk to many people I just want to put my music on work out Very important question. Do you Naruto run? Uh, I don't I can do Naruto kicks and punches and stuff though Back took a work call. Uh, I considered uh being a bouncer for a nightclub Very interesting It's not really something that I would particularly like to do because I suppose if I can wear like sunglasses And I can look intimidating then maybe but I feel like I've got too much of a kind face to be a bouncer Um, so I'd have to make up with it with verbal aggression. I think Freddie tiny design says true never had a fight outside of name of protecting Uh, never thought about that. Thank you. Yeah, it's something that I thought about as well, you know You know, I Find that, you know, if it makes sense like if your job is to protect and to manage and to like crowd control things like that You can't really go wrong if you do that kind of thing But any any other context It's a little bit more gray. You know, it's not it's not as black and white as that When I've been to the gym, I just get very just distracted very easily Uh, you got to work on that You need to find some good music to listen to Get to it, you know you got I I find that Watching videos on it has has been really inspiring for me because I get to hear about different techniques different like ways that the gym works like the the theory behind it and stuff Um, I very much but like quite a long standing special interest in in in the gym Like exercise science and stuff So if if you're struggling to feel motivated by it Start researching it. See if see if it's something that you enjoy You know, there's loads of content out there on youtube if you want to start somewhere I recommend uh renaissance periodization It's a guy there called mike. I think mike Is it mike? He's a funny guy. He's so funny. Um, but he also is very very Give very very good advice I got jumped walking once that wasn't fun. I'm sorry to hear about that mike is retell there you go my man is definitely Clued up on all the youtubers spots youtubers Freddy time says, um, yeah, I think I enjoyed the full control. Is that wrong? I suppose it depends on the context But no, I don't think that's wrong I have a whole list to recommend put me put them in the chat or stim Uh, the holder says since we are working Since we're at work confessions video interviews are easier than person But recorded interviews are much harder. Uh, just super stressful for myself having to trying to perform all the time I know how you feel It's definitely not something that I can relate to just because of like how much stuff I do that's talking online Um, so I didn't really have much to much to add on that Sadly Yeah, put put them in mr. Austin. Please please do Uh, there's there's some good ones out there. There's jeff nippard. You do some really kind of science based stuff um I'm struggling to think of the names. I know I know the people that I watch um It's another guy who does like power lifting that I've watched Um, I think there's the guy called ryan who does does some interesting Interesting ones interesting videos. I don't think they're for everybody, but he's got some different approaches to training which I found quite helpful like, um His uh, it's called ryan hummestani. He makes some funny videos as well. He's a funny guy as well um, some of his advice is very questionable to be honest, but um, his advice about three second poor squats Man, I love them so much, you know you know Remember to stay hydrated everyone else with some water indeed mr. Doshu g and it's coming to the ends of our live stream Do you know people who work out with movement disorders me? Well, I don't have a diagnosed movement disorder, but I'm definitely like clumsy and Perhaps a little bit dyspraxic, but um I've done a lot of coordination related sport stuff exercise over over time So I feel like I'm pretty good at it. Uh, I haven't really got the hang of walking properly Tend to injure myself a lot Okay, well, I'll answer well, that's a one more question because I I'm I'm feeling feeling nice today Uh, we'll answer one more question from uh, Tatiana How do you motivate yourself to go to the gym and being around so many people? um Motivation is not really a component In in me going to the gym It's a routine for me It's a it's a regulation thing. It's like taking my meds. It's very important for me to maintain my mental health um I think as well just just the fact that I'm interested in it's a special interest that I like to learn about and Do practically it really helps a lot um And also I think just in general I'm quite a conscientious person so Having an uh external motivator Like a goal a desire like a point to to strive towards a mission very much um drives me through life um I'd say that I Motivation is very overhyped with with diet and exercise. Um, it's a lot about consistency It's a lot about Just day to day just just going even if you don't feel like it and doing a little bit, you know um I think you'll you'll find over time that once you once you get into it you'll The the paranoia thoughts of people judging you at the gym is gonna Start start to fade a little bit. You're gonna start to focus on yourself a little bit more um, you'll find some exercises that you really enjoy doing and do those exercises um over time It'll just become a natural part of your routine and you'll feel weird when When you when you don't Go you'll feel worse. So um, it's an interesting one um But yeah, I'm not like a super motivated person all the time It's just just part of my routine and if you want to you can very much do so do the same I know I know a lot of people like who've joined these live streams and Uh got inspired by by me which is weird Uh to to start exercising And they report the same thing, you know Well, uh, this is the the end of our live stream today. I hope you have very much enjoyed it um I'm feeling good today got one more gym session on sunday I've got a reunion party to go to tomorrow from from uni Which is gonna be really fun a bit of a social event And uh, yeah, I hope you guys are having A good day and hope you have a chill weekends Do some rest stay hydrated all of that and I shall see you later See you later youtube