 What's up everybody? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. Today I got a question from a viewer So I'm gonna bring it up And he says, Lloyd, I was talking to this girl who seemed really interested in me at the beginning She would respond super quickly all the time. It was really enthusiastic to meet up At the time though, I wasn't very interested in her But as soon as I started actually showing some interest and opening up she started taking longer and longer to respond Why did she start doing this? How can I get her to start responding again? This is really annoying Thanks and look forward to hearing your answer Okay, so this is a question that I probably get I don't know Maybe every day Several times a week Okay, I get some form of this question So what do you do when she backs off? Okay, so I'm gonna give you the first answer that I'm gonna give you is we'll solve the problem, you know for now but Not for long term. Okay, so this is something that Can give you a temporary fix, but if you want the longer term Actual answer to this then I would recommend you stay to the end Okay, so the first thing that you want to do is don't contact her But if she contacts you then respond and be positive and you always want to keep good vibes between the person, okay? So responding to her is fine But I wouldn't be reaching out all that much because it sounds like when you started to reach out That's when you started to get problems. Okay now you're probably thinking, okay How do I actually like text this girl if I can't text her, you know, I can only respond to her If she had that interest with you and then you take it away. She's gonna want it back She's gonna feel something missing chances are you're probably acted needy or she probably sensed something or you know Sometimes with these young girls, especially like they just if you start acting really into them They think something's wrong with you So that can happen a lot too. So if you back off a little bit let her come to you Then a lot of times you will and then you can respond there. Keep it positive. Keep it fun You basically want to seem like you're doing something and you want to seem like you're you're on your path You're doing the things that you got to do. Okay, that's Temporarily going to get her back and a lot of times you can sleep with this girl a lot of times You can you know even date her for a little bit, okay? but if you are Using this tactic a lot You know again and again, okay? You have a relationship of deprivation meaning she only wants it when you're depriving her of the happiness that you're giving her Okay, it's not something you really want and look dude. I've hooked up with Dozens of these girls. Oh my goodness like I know how it goes. I know how it goes But you really want to find someone and express yourself in the right way So you don't have to be playing these freaking games man. Like it's yeah, it is annoying, okay? And I'll tell you why it's annoying Because you're doing something you don't want to do that's really what's the stupid part about it, okay? Now at first you said that you know you weren't really that interested in her You know when I'm pursuing a woman I act as interested as I am going to be like right from the get-go You know and if she likes me great if she doesn't you know no big deal either, okay? That's what you want to do Most of the time it works out for me And I don't have to I used to deal with these games constantly like that's why I'm saying I you know hooked up with dozens of these Kinds of girls I was doing that shit all the time I was like, okay Well now I got to pull back to you like you know If you do some form of the no contact rule or whatever no contact rule actually works a lot better for women than it is for men But yeah, you know, I was able to sleep with a lot of them Even date some of them for a little bit, but it was a lot of times it was a headache I'm not saying it wasn't fun But what you really want to cultivate and this is what I really try and train my students to do And I work with them pretty intensely over this Is you want to cultivate like a high value mind? So you don't have to be thinking because I'll see people's messages and chances are if I saw this guy's message, too I could probably see when he was texting that You know the neediness was coming through or like the low-value behaviors were coming through like it's subtle You know and if you're not if you don't already have that mindset That is very difficult to fake You can do it for a little bit You know a lot of times guys do the tricks where they you know, maybe they act, you know Not really available and that can work for a little bit, but a lot of Women will be able to once you start texting them they can see oh, you know this guy is not You know, he's not who he's pretending to be okay, and that's probably why she pulled away from from the get-go So you want to develop a high value mind? Yes being on your purpose helps Yes doing all that stuff can really help but developing it Developing it requires a series of habits and it requires a new mindset because I deal with a lot of guys who actually have been on Their purpose who actually have accomplished a lot of things and that is really really good for it It solves a lot of people's problems, but not for everybody and sometimes, you know You go through it and you you're still maybe you've got the career You got the all the other aspects of your life figured out and this is still the final part That's missing and it comes through when you're texting it comes through when you're talking to the women So we want to do is you want to have a series of behaviors think about things in a different way And what you're actually going to notice is you're going to get me getting way more results with you know a fifth of the Effort, okay, you're not really going to have to be micro guessing about what she's saying Oh my acting alpha now and my you know my high value now like should I pull back like all of those games You're not gonna have to play and it's honestly so frustrating have to deal with that sort of stuff And you don't really want to get in a relationship with a woman or date a woman Or even even hooking up with them. I guess that can be fun for a little bit But yeah, you're still going to be dealing with those problems So the way that you cultivate a high value mind is I go over this tons of times, you know In other videos that I have But if you want to get personally coached by me to be able to do that There is a form in the description box below fill that out And we'll get back to you if you're a good fit But if you're kind of strapped on cash like you you know, you that's my more premium program Then I would recommend that you sign up for the mailing list about a I'm coming out with a system that will I'm not going to personally be there. Hey, you know walking you through it But it's this video series that you can get signed up for so send it for the mailing list there You can get notified about it, you know So that's going to tell you a lot of the stuff that you need to know in there as well too So watch a lot of my other videos, but you want to start cultivating the habits where you put yourself first You know, I talk about this so many times But really it's not about whether the girl likes you. It's not about whether she responds to you It's about whether she makes sense for you and your life And if you're just trying to get laid like I did for years Then yeah, you might be able to get her back and and sleep with her But if you're trying to date her for a serious relationship, you know I'd recommend that you start putting yourself being yourself from the get-go And then taking things that way even if you're just trying to hook up I would recommend that too but especially if you're looking for a strong relationship and a lot of times Especially if you haven't even met up with this girl if she's already pulling back before you've even met up Probably not a great sign. It's I'd highly doubt it's gonna work out. So Anyway, that's what I have to say about this you guys Consider subscribing again if you want to get signed up for that program form the description box below You want to sign up for the mailing list to get notified about the program that I'm gonna be coming out with Which is gonna be a lot cheaper then I would sign up for that as well too. So thanks a lot you guys