 You want this man to be so into you that You're the first thing that he thinks about when he wakes up in the morning and the last thing he thinks about Before he goes to bed at night. You want him to absolutely adore you and cherish you and think that you're amazing and special and Wonderful and everything that he wants in his life and you want him to think about you all the time So how do you do that? That's what I'm going to be talking about In today's video, so I hope you're excited about it as excited as I am Because I'm pretty excited about it. Hello. My name is Matthew coast and welcome to Commitment connection today. We're gonna be talking about how to make a man crave you and just think about you all the time even when you're not around just Obsessively think about you because you are just so amazing and wonderful and special to him So how do you do that? How do you make this happen? first way is to entice his senses specifically the senses of smell and sight so There have actually been a whole bunch of different research studies done on the different senses as you can imagine over the years And what they found is that the sense of smell actually creates the most Emotion in all of the senses. So when you smell something you're more likely to feel some kind of emotional experience because of that smell and It actually makes you remember things a lot more and so it in maybe you've Experiences yourself where you smelled something for instance like I if I smell apple pies I immediately think of my mom Baking my mom and I actually baking apple pies together when I was a kid and how much fun it was and You know the connection and love that we experienced together from baking apple pies What you can do it with your lover as well, right? Some some people even if you've dated somebody or he's dated somebody before and he smells something similar To what she wore and he has a good experience of being with her He will remember her almost probably until the rest of his life Because of that smell and so you want to smell good. You want to smell delicious you want him to connect Positive emotions to you and your smell and you want to have a scent that he can recognize And that when he smells it he thinks Mmm, I just love this woman that I can smell right now. I look she's amazing and she's Absolutely awesome, right? You want emotions to be triggered by that sense of smell and the second one is sight, right? It's sight triggers his internal drive to chase you and so think about things of just once making sure that you take care of yourself in general and just you know making sure you take care of your body and Even more than that making sure that you learn how to dress yourself and dress yourself in a way That's enticing to him find out One find out about your body and what works for your body, right? Like find clothes that really accentuate the best parts of your body and find out what he is most Attracted to because all guys have different things that they're attracted to some guys like But some guys like boobs some guys like back some guys like legs some guys like arms Some guys like all kinds of different things right some guys like everything and so you want to find out about him And what is he like and does he like you know different at what aspects of you? Does he like that's actually a really great question to ask him and just find out what he's into and what he's into about you And what he likes the most about you and Accentuate those parts of yourself so that when he sees you it kicks in his internal primal biological drive to pursue you and and Come after you and and you know ravish you right that's that's what you want to trigger in him So that he's moving towards you and he's chasing you and he's investing in you And one thing that I want to mention about these two things is that you don't want to go overboard on either one of them Always remember the magic is in the middle. So if you jump to extremes It's not really a good thing that there are a lot of women that will sometimes like just douse themselves with Perfume and you don't want to be like that right you want him to be able to smell it a little bit And if he does smell it you can then you know connect with him on that or if he's like that smells good right you can you can have him smell more of it on you and That's that's a lot better than him being five feet away or five meters away Whatever country you're from and him smelling it and it being way too much when he gets close to you So instead you just you want it to be you want it to be in the middle, right? You want you don't want to do too much and not too little and Then number two is that you want to encourage him to invest in you And so there's three different ways that you can do this by the way if you're here with us right now Say hi in the chat and tell us where in the world you're watching this from it's cool to see so many women from all over the world watching these live streams, so Number two is encourage him to invest in you and the first way that you do that is to give him some space So always remember he can't miss you if you're always around you need to give him some space I call this the rubber band effect right imagine that you're both in a rubber band and You push him away and it makes him want to snap back to you right if if you're always next to each other There's none of that tension that tension can't be there And so you want to create some tension by giving him some space encouraging him to go live his life and Pursue his dreams and have hobbies and goals and other things in the world that he's doing and You should be doing that as well, right? You shouldn't be making your entire life about a man or being in a relationship or any of that kind of stuff You should have your own life and your own things that you're interested in your own things that you're doing and an abundance of connection and Options and different things in your life so that you're not completely reliant on Everything happening with him and I need to get his love all the time and I want to be around him every moment Right, you don't want to be like that because that's not attractive That's that's repelling and so you want to give him some space and allow him to come and connect With you and then the second part of this is creating standards or having standards Which is just having preferences, right having things that you want things that you're not willing to settle for things that You you want more of or that you want to have in a guy and then communicating what those standards are and I've talked about this before and in other programs where I Talk about Things like talking about what you like right or what you what you like got in a guy or what you like in a man or in a Friend or in a relationship or what you like in him right? Encouraging him in in the different things that you see right if he does like Gentlemanly behavior calling that out and being like yeah, I really like I really love it when a guy acts like a gentleman, right? So that's that's kind of the verbiage. I really like when and then you can say a guy acts like this or a guy acts like that or Whatever right or you can it can even be preferences. So I like this I don't like that having standards or things that you do and don't like it's actually really really attractive To have things that you do and don't like and sometimes guys Now I hear women that are like oh well, you know This guy said that he doesn't like it and he just you know wants it to have it his way or he acts like he wants to have it His way well a lot of guys might act like that But they won't respect you if they get their way all the time and you don't have any Preferences and standards and he won't value you and so what he likes or what he thinks he wants and what he actually Values are two completely different things sometimes and you don't want to always go with what he Says and instead you want to go with what he responds to because that's far more important than what he says Because he might say some things we all think that we want things and then we end up with things that are different than what we Say that we want and so don't always listen to what he says and listen more to what he responds to and what Guys will respond to especially high-value men is they will respond to you having standards So number three is reinforcing good behavior And I already talked a little bit about this like if he does something that's gentlemanly being like oh I really liked that like that was really attractive like you know that that's kind of hot You know saying things like that just talking about things that he does That are good behaviors and behaviors where he invests in you behaviors where he acts like a gentleman Behaviors where he acts masculine be any kind of behaviors that you want him to do more of reinforce those behaviors by Complimenting him doing those behaviors and he'll start to do more of those right? That's what a guy he wants to feel like he's Attractive he wants to feel like he you are attracted to him And so when you let him know when you cue him in on that he'll start doing more of those behaviors There's some dating coaches out there that I'll talk about. Oh, don't tell him you know things that will help him win with you That's crazy right you want him to feel like he's winning with you and you want him to do more of those behaviors that you want Him to do and so the best way to do that is to communicate that with him and so That is number two which is encouraging him to invest first is enticing his sense his senses Specifically smell and sight Second one is encouraging him to invest in you and number three is playing with his emotions And I don't mean this in a gamey way. I'm not talking about like, you know messing with him or whatever What I'm talking about is creating fun right creating Playfulness right playing as in having Playfulness and connecting and having fun and enticing him and connecting with him and and have it weaving through These different emotions with him and so basically what you're doing here is you're having a lot of fun And so what the way this looks like in real life is you want to be reliable But you don't want to be boring right so a lot of women sometimes I'll talk about the idea of Unpredictability because it's it's exciting right that being unpredictable is exciting It creates variety and varieties the spice of life and that's what creates excitement in a relationship in an interaction Is having variety in that interaction if you want your interactions to be more interesting and exciting create variety in it and not just any kind of variety, but Unpredictable variety right if he knows if you know what's gonna happen if you watch a movie and You know what's gonna happen. It's a lot less interesting, right? If you watch a movie, that's a really great movie that you've seen before it's an absolute thriller and you watch it And it's like oh my god, you know the first time you watch you you're like, oh my god It's amazing you can watch it again and again and again But it's never gonna have that same impact as the first time that you watched it because it's it's unpredictable It's something that you haven't seen before yet And so you want to create a little bit of unpredictability there You want to go to the extremes right if you go to either extreme It's bad if you're on one side you're boring and uninteresting and he's gonna Find something else right and if you're on the other side where you're too unpredictable Then it's really it's you're like a crazy person and he has no idea what's going on He's like he's gonna be like I don't know if I can handle this this is way too much Way too much craziness for me right now And so you want to be in the middle right the magic is always in the middle And so how do you do this you just you just do things that are a little bit different each time right you have fun You play with him you you have play in your conversation So let's let's get this really granular if let's say that you're having a conversation And let's say you just met each other and you're talking about what it is that you do or you're Talking to each other about what it is that you do instead of having a boring conversation where you're like, what do you do? Well, what do you do? Well shucks gee whiz golly. That's really interesting. Let's talk more about that Instead you have fun with it right in your life. You're like, what do you do? Wait? Wait? Wait? Don't tell me let me guess You are a secret spy That works for the government, but wait you're not supposed to tell me about it Right you just have fun with it right have fun play with play with what you're talking about a real great way to do this Is what I just talked about guessing instead of just asking questions and and you know getting an answer to it You can guess right you can say hey You know, where are you from? Oh, let me guess, you know, you're from Antarctica right somewhere that he absolutely isn't from right you you just have fun answers and just play with it Do a little bit of role-playing and and it'll be fun instead of boring But it's also not so unpredictable that it's you he thinks that you're crazy, right? You want to be in the middle magic is in the middle. That's number three is playing with his emotions number four is Making sure that he's having a positive Experience with you when you're around him, right? So this is really really essential, right? Like emotions can be transferred. So if a Guy hates you, right? That's actually not a horrible thing necessarily because he's really emotionally invested and you can kind of turn that anger and hatred into Genuine connection if you Diffuse it the right way, but you don't want to Plan on doing that right because you can get yourself into really bad Situations and so instead what you want to do is create positive Emotional interactions with them they actually did a study on this in the relationship research Institute where they studied everything about couples and that were either Just together for a while long-term relationships where they're either married or they were just couples committed to each other and they tested everything to try to figure out how to determine the Who would break up and who would stay together and they were able to figure it out with 90% accuracy with 90% accuracy They could put you in a room and watch you for five minutes ten minutes something like that and then determine Whether you're gonna break up and how long it was gonna take Before you did break up if you're going to or whether you're gonna stay together for the rest of your life And they could figure that out with 90% accuracy and they said the number one determining factor for this Was how much positive interactions you had with each other compared to negative ones? And so you have to have at least five times as many Positive interactions with each other than negative ones and so you want to create just a positive environment You want to connect with him in a positive way where he feels Happy he feels like you're you're you're bringing value to his life. He feels like you're blessing to him He feels like you're pulling out the good aspects of him, right? And you want you want to experience the same thing You don't want to be with a guy who's not you know, who brings out the worst in you You want to bring you want to be with a guy who brings out the best in you who brings out the best aspects of Who you are and so you want to create positive? Emotional experiences with him as much as possible And if you are in a positive emotional experience with him That that's a good time to cut things off and like say goodbye for the night or stop texting each other for the night Or whatever because what you're trying to do here is is leave things on a positive note and so Always make sure that you're doing this if you get what I'm talking about here Say I get it in the chat if you don't get what I'm talking about Ask whatever questions you have and I will answer Whatever questions you have at the end here and just a little bit so The last one we just did was making sure that he had he's having a positive Emotional experience when you're around him and number six. I think this is six one two three four Oh, this is five last one was four so number five is making him feel significant and Everyone wants to feel like they're special and different and important and Unique and he wants to feel like he's better than any other guy that you dated That's how he wants to feel right and so you don't want you one You don't want to compare him to your exes. I don't ever do that Verbally to him and two of you do what you want to do is you want to talk him up as Him being so much better But ideally you don't want to do it at all because if you start talking down about your exes He's gonna start thinking like well Why was she with that guy and am I on the same level as that guy? And so you don't want to do that But you do want to make him feel like he's different and special and important and better than the other guys that you've met Out there the other guys that you've dated, you know anybody that's out there in the dating world or whatever and So what the way that you do this is you talk up his uniqueness find things about him That's different right? That's different than all the other guys that you meet that are out there and talk up those things and compliment him on those Things and just be like wow, that's it's really cool when you know, you acted this way because it's like, you know, I Talked to my girlfriends and stuff and it's like nobody ever meets guys who are, you know Gentlemen anymore or who are, you know, so such hard workers or who are, you know So compassionate and so caring or you know, whatever traits you find in him and just Complementing him authentically on those traits so that he feels special and he feels significant And he feels different than than everybody else, you know Because that that'll stroke his ego that'll make him feel like he's a man He's a million bucks around you, which is what he wants to feel like you both want to feel that around each other And so you want to be around a guy who acts like that and you want to act like that and a lot of women Sometimes they're like and we'll get this on our page or sometimes in the in the comments of some of the different sections of Our stuff that we're doing. They're like well, I'm not gonna do that if he's not gonna do that. Well Here's the thing if you want to get something my suggestion is you start by giving it And so if you want to feel significant and important and different and cherished by a man My suggestion is you start valuing you start appreciating the men in your life start appreciating everyone around you and you'll start getting more appreciation towards you and So my suggestion if you're in one of those kind of battles of like, you know Who's gonna do it first my suggestion is that you start first and you'll be surprised at how how much you can get from doing this first and just giving and You know being somebody that connects with other people in a way that you make them feel significant You can do this with the love as well if If you really want to get love in your life give love to other people it is it will change your whole life And it does wonders just trust me on this one and try it just try it out And so number six we're on six here is Avoid over investing in him too soon So his investment in you women who work with me know that his investment in you is Far more important than your investment in him This is something I call the investment principle and you want him to invest in you because men Value things that they invested that they work for that they have to do something in order to get They don't value things that are easy and simple right they think in their mind if they have to do this stuff That it's gonna be worth it or that it's gonna be worth more Right, and so you want him to invest in you and you want to avoid Over-investing in him too soon because you will start Feeling like you want to get attached to him and you're falling in love with him And you're gonna start valuing him so much because of your investment that you're gonna get overly attached to soon And so you don't want to do that right you don't want to overly invest and Instead you want to wait things out a little bit and allow him to invest allow him to chase allow him to pursue and Make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation because a lot of women what they do is they they start feeling Something for a guy and then they're like all in right they're like Okay, this is on and they'll do anything and they're you know start planning everything and chasing and they get super invested and then the next thing you know They're finding out all the real things about him because we're most of us are just putting on a face when we first meet each other and What ends up happening is then you find out that you know He's got a alcohol addiction or you find out that You know he lied to you about You know wanting or having kids or something like that or you find out that he's not really interested in a commitment or a real Relationship and you don't want to be in a situation like that right? We had a woman not too long ago in our community who was talking about how she's been with this guy for a year and a half and I Give these warnings about things and what things mean and what don't mean and she didn't listen to it And she didn't believe it and now she's finding out that she's with she's been with a guy Because she didn't do all the things that I talk about where you ask questions and make sure you find out what he's actually looking for and all that kind of stuff and she's now in a situation where she's Basically invested over invested for a year and a half and a guy who's not looking for the same thing that she's looking for And you don't want to be in that situation instead you want to be in a situation where a guy Absolutely values you and cherishes you a situation where you're both aligned in what it is that you want and you're going in the same Direction in life where you can grow together and you can create a beautiful Amazing life together where you both value and cherish each other and you both know that you have each other's backs and That you're there with each other committed really committed to being in a relationship and making things work and And so that was the sixth there and Tyson senses Encourage him to invest play with his emotions Make sure that he's having a positive experience with you when you're around make him feel Significant and avoid over investing way too soon and by the way if you want some text messages I just created this program about text messages getting a guy to chase you with his text messages It's brand new brand new program. You can check it out. It's at commitment connection calm forward slash text And you can go check that out and it's called irresistible text and you can check it out. It's pretty it's pretty absolutely amazing so go go check that one out and Let's see what kind of comments everybody has here Today so Kavita says to turn on his senses. That's right Kavita. Turn those senses on lots of highs Valerie arena Marie near Aggie Hello, hello, hello and says she's excited. I'm excited too and thanks for being here So really Rosalinda Butchering names, that's what I do Candice says she's happy to catch one of my lives. Well, thank you for being here Candice. I'm very grateful for you being here Phoenix says hello handsome. Well, hello. Thank you for being here Suzy Siri Carla hello. Hello. Hello. Who has some questions here? I want to answer some questions On me, yeah, I'm really bad at reading Russian. I need Niggur Niggur This is hello from Ukraine or is that Ukraine? No, it looks Russian. It could be Ukrainian I'm not sure. I I spent a little bit of time in Ukraine. I love it there. I love Keith Let's see Linda's from South Jersey So Seiki says Sika says hi, how are you? I'm doing great. Thank you. Thanks for being here. Thelma Nadia. Well, there are lots of people on this live stream. Thank you everybody for being here What questions do you have? Heidi says what do you mean by invest in women? So investment is things like putting time Emotion Energy Finances any of that kind of stuff right doing those kinds of things thinking about you Verbally communicating with you So there's lots of different types of investment and you want him to invest as much as he can In you because the more he invests in you the more that he will start feeling like he's attached to you The more he'll feel like he doesn't want to let you go and so you want him to do a lot of talking You want him to think about you a lot? You want him to? Spend move over to you You want him to think to put energy and effort into Creating dates and showing up on these dates and doing things for you You want him to buy you things you want to receive all this stuff and thank him for and do for doing it and Encourage him to do it even more. That's what I mean by investing right? So you want him to invest in you as much as possible I hope that answers your question there Heidi Nadia says you the best. Well, you the best. Thank you Thanks for calling me the best Melinda says hi from Ireland love and light for you and your family. Well, thank you. Appreciate that So Siri says first month of dating how often should you meet each other per week? Well, it depends It depends on how much you like each other, right? So if you're really into each other, it's one of those things where you just have to gauge it, right? And my suggestion is that you kind of follow his lead So if he's like really into you you can hang out a lot more often However, you don't want it You don't want things to go so quickly with you that you end up like cooking up with him really early, right? You want there to be some time because it takes time for you to really get to know who he is and for him to Kind of pull down that guard and for him to stop idealizing you, right? and a lot of times guys will like have this fantasy of a woman and Idealize her and be like, oh my god. She's everything I want in the world, right? But he's not actually falling in love with you He's falling in love with an idea of you and this happens a lot of times over text message If you guys haven't met up Which is why it's so important that you guys meet up because the magic is not only in the middle It's also in the meetup and so you want to meet up and hang out and It depends on how quickly he's doing things right if he wants to meet up I would suggest not hanging out more than like two times a week, right? I mean if you guys are really into each other and you're really falling in love you can You can kind of play it by ear, but at the same time you don't want Like I said, you don't want him to fall in love with this idealization of you And you don't want to end up hooking up with him and getting overly attached, right? So part of it has to do with how quickly he's moving and part of it has to do with with you and how you connect to a guy and what you do and Knowing yourself and your own emotions and are you falling in love a little bit too quickly and You know, is he promising you the world and all that kind of stuff? And if he is you want to slow him down a little bit and make sure that He's actually getting to know the real you and that you guys are opening up to each other in a real way and being vulnerable with each other and learning about each other and connecting with each other on And you want to look for things right what's going on with him right talking to him about his life and and you know What happened in his previous relationships? I know a lot of people a lot of dating coaches say don't talk about that I disagree Because people live in patterns and so what you're looking for is you're looking for patterns, right? Because whatever patterns he's had the past doesn't have to equal the future However, most people for most people the past does equal the future And so you want to look for patterns on what he's done in his previous Relationships what he thinks about those women how how that ended up it because whatever he looks at It's very likely that there's going to be some kind of similar pattern going on with the two of you And so you want to find out what that is right and find out where he's going with that and what he does and What kind of relationships he's had and and what his blueprint looks like right? So I talked about this thing called a relationship blueprint And so you need to find out what his blueprint for being in a relationship looks like What what he thinks is normal kinds of behavior whether that's You know talking all the time or not talking all the time so that you don't have a lot of miscommunication here And you understand what's going on with him and the way that you do that is by talking to him about his blueprints and what Relationships look like to him and asking him a lot of smart questions around that Good question. No, Siri so Chelly Chelly Chelly softy Fun name says how can you be playful with someone if you don't spend much time together? Well, you can be playful when you do spend time together. That's that's when you're playful It's not about how much time you're spending together. It's about the interactions, right? You can be playful in Your text messages. You can be playful in your phone conversations Depends on what kind of a relationship you're talking about. It's just a long-distance Relationship is this guy not actually connecting with you like what what is your situation? And then we can talk a little bit more about how you can be playful because Playfulness isn't about the amount of time that you spend together But the quality of the time that you do spend together Wendy says I love that phrase the magic is in the middle. It is it's the truth magic is always in the middle Remember that magic. It's in that middle Rose says how can you be playful with someone who does not show you interest? Well, you can be playful with anybody right if we're hanging out and having a conversation and You're kind of dull and boring, right? I can still have fun, right? What you do has no Bearing on what I do, right if you're if we're hanging out and and you know, I've been on dates like this before I've been in relationships like this before I Was in a relationship for a while with a woman that wasn't very playful That wasn't very Interactive that didn't show a lot of interest and I just I had a lot of fun And I just had fun with her and everything right and it was a good time because I am What I create in my life isn't dependent on other people what I create on my in my life is dependent on me and The motion that I come from and that I connect to the moment And so you can absolutely be playful in any moment with anybody no matter how they are behaving Now obviously there's another question here about like why are you dating somebody that's not showing any interest in you? like well What kind of an interaction is this where you're talking about being playful with somebody who's not showing any interest, right? Like what does that mean? Like is this somebody that you work with is this somebody that you're dating that just doesn't show a lot of interest Like what is this? What are you talking about? Jenny says hi from Croatia. Hey, I'm actually in Croatia, too. I'm in Zagreb right now hanging out Hang out here in Croatia Angela says right that study is amazing. Yes, it is. I think you're talking about the one from the relationship Research Institute Kellyanne says yeah, I want to be with the person who will bring out the best of me Yeah, absolutely you do that is the best kind of person to be with somebody that brings out the best in you Jody says what if you didn't meet and just talk for four years just meet him He came here for five days and now he's really shirt. Good morning He's really shirt. Good morning and good night a Really short are you saying that he's doing a really short good morning and good night? I you know, honestly Jody I'm questioning everything that's going on in this situation right now if you didn't meet and just talked for four years That's that's craziness And then you just meet him he comes for five days and he's really short Well, you should be dating other people Jody you need to get into something that we call abundance I Don't I don't know I did that but you want to remember abundance abundance is important, right? If you're just stuck on one dude, it's something that I call scarcity, right? You're in a scarcity mindset. You have one guy and you're like I gotta make you know This thing work with this dude where I We just talked for four years and he showed up for just five days and now he's Not being very Connective to you, right? Like this is one of the reasons why I say the magic is in the meetup, right? because sometimes things happen where you meet each other and it's not like things were over text message or calling or whatever and all of a sudden you realize that you guys don't really like each other or he realizes that he's not really into you or Whatever, right? Or you guys were lying over text message or you were showing each other photos that aren't really you or whatever, right? whatever crazy thing people do these days and so you want to meet people quickly and You want to have an abundance of options to choose from because if it's just this one guy and he's not acting, right? This can devastate you But if you have an abundance of different options with men then if one guy's acting weird It's like who cares, right? And so you want to meet people you want to meet more people and you want to have more options With men that's your best best case scenario That's what you want to do That's what you want to do So Shelley says I I get it now. We don't really see each other often Okay Lisa says I am asexual Disabled and can't wear perfume because of my COPD. How do I incorporate smell you? Clean yourself really well is what you do is you make sure that you're very clean and that you smell good On all parts of your body. That's what you want to do and Yeah All right, so Sherry says after we did the break and after giving him the space it made our Relationship so much better. However, I noticed see see what I'm talking about with the space thing However, I noticed that he don't say I love you that much and he doesn't call me babe What to do well you you start so if you have a break, right? And you give him some space and then it makes things so much better What you want to do is start doing things that work, right? So giving him more space right connecting with him in the right ways doing all the things that I literally just talked about in this video, right? creating making him really Crave you right just connecting with him in his different senses and Connecting with his emotions and playing with him and giving him more space and letting him invest and doing all those things That's what you want to be doing there Sherry and the more that you do that Over a longer period of time the more that you'll create a stronger and more powerful Connection that you guys can have and if you really want to make sure that you're Doing things the right way make sure you get my program the forever woman. It's at the forever woman formula.com You can get free access to it and if you want to get coaching and all that kind of stuff You can get a 14-day free trial for all of that. Go check out the forever woman formula calm and Sign up there watch the video. It's a great program. You should definitely check it out Definitely check it out for who everybody that hasn't checked it out yet. Make sure you check out my new texting program here commitment connection com forward slash texts Great program lots of women have already gotten it and love it So make sure you check that out if you need some things to say in your text messages Boop-a-doo Madeline says I'm not dating right now too hard during COVID plus I'm in corpus and there are a lot of flakes around here the girls here are known for putting out first night ouch I Guess I'm no fun. Well, you can be a lot of fun in other ways, right? So you don't want one of the mistakes that a lot of women make Madeline or Catalina or what Madeline Catalina one of the big mistakes that a lot of women make is trying to connect with a man Physically in order to get him to pursue them Right like if women put out on the first night in the area that you're in which is Entirely possible if you're in the United States because that's okay. That's kind of what American women are known for America it's funny like I try I travel all over the world and everywhere I go The people I talked to are like yeah American women are known known for hooking up with everybody right and so that's that's kind of the the The the stereotype that American women have and you don't want to be like that, right? You want to Change the way you want to be different, right? If you want to be unique and you want to be different than all the other women that he meets don't be like that instead connect with his emotions, right? Trigger his primal drive like I talked about at the beginning of the video But then connect with his emotion so that he has a real connection with you And he starts thinking about you in a completely different way You can go out with these guys and create a real in practice Creating a real emotional connection with them and see what kind of a difference It actually makes in the way that he connects with you That's what my suggestion is that you do Madeline Catalina Gabriella says love is giving that's right love is giving Fiona says what do you think about an eight-year age gap? I am 30. He's 38 Do you think it becomes a power dynamic when the age gap is too big? How to know if it's a serious pursuit and not just ego for him. I Think that an eight gate at eight gauge an eight gauge eight-year age gap is is a Perfectly fine in normal age gap if you've been around here for a while Fiona You may have seen some of our videos about age gaps with women and men and know that there are women in our community that have 30-year age gaps Married women women who are married with 30-year age gaps sometimes 30-year age gaps where the guys younger, right? And Here's the thing when you date a guy that's older you're in a good situation You want to make sure you're doing all the right things, right? You want to make sure that you're asking him the right questions, you know using the system that I talked about in the forever woman program and You want to make sure you're getting yourself into a good situation And at the same time one of the things that you have to realize is that typically when you date older men They tend to value Like when he there's that much of an age gap they tend to value you a lot more right because they're like oh, man I found this I'm dating this this girl who's eight years younger than me. It's so awesome, right? And so he's probably thinking he doesn't want to screw it up with you because he's really he's probably really attracted to you, right? and So just think of it that way right think of it in a way of he's probably gonna value you more Because of the age gap if it's not something that he often Dates right if he doesn't often date women with that age gap He probably thinks of it as special and different unique and so it can be a really good situation for you if you are making sure that you're putting yourself in a good situation and not getting with somebody who's not interested in talking about relationships or getting into a commitment or you know Just looking to hook up or any of that kind of stuff good question Madeline Catalina says we are all emotionally invested in Matthew. I Hope so I hope you guys are emotionally invested in this material because this material will change your life especially some of the new stuff that I'm coming out with it is I really hope that I'm making sure that it's gonna be really really valuable and that it will connect with you in a way that will Just change your entire life and make you live a better life and feel stronger feel more capable Feel love from you as a source, right? I did a a live stream not too long ago. That was it was called a self-love meditation which Surprisingly not that many women were interested in because it's it's actually the kind of stuff that most women need Right and that that's one of the reasons why if you ever get into business They say don't sell what people need sell what they want, right? Because when you sell them things that they need they typically don't buy into it, right? They don't get it They don't use it. They don't watch it And so I have to sell things that you guys want and make sure that I add things that you need in there and Make sure that it's emotionally engaging and that it will improve your entire life Because just giving you dating advice just telling you what to say and stuff like that can help some women But for the majority of women out there, they really need something deeper But they don't realize that they need something deeper many times They don't think they want something deeper many times. They don't even want something deeper, right? sometimes they're avoiding it and so It's it's important that you do get something deeper and I I hope that what I've been doing has been really valuable for you and connecting with you and Helping you create a better more fulfilling life not only for your relationships, but just for your life in general Mary Ann says please address dating for seniors, you know and and it's interesting because I hear this a lot Mary Ann and I always get women that are like now I was actually just talking to a woman not too long ago who was like oh all your stuff is Dating for younger women, right? I'm not a younger women. So my stuff doesn't apply and I was like well What what challenges are you having? You know and she's like well? I'm having challenges, you know, and she was talking she's like she's like guys will flake on me and men will You know see my value and you know, I'm having a hard time connecting with a guy in this way And I'm like so how is that anything different than what you know? How is what I'm telling you because that's that's like what most of the women are having challenges with They're having challenges with guys pulling away and disappearing and not you know creating strong enough connections and not knowing what to say and all those things right And it's the same stuff. It's the exact same stuff I mean, obviously it's different for you as a senior because you have a little bit different things, right? There's there's different hormones going through your body and the man's body when you're a senior However, there a lot of these principles are still the same a lot of the stuff is psychology Right some of it's biology, but a lot of it's psychology right the investment principle. That's psychology Right that will work no matter if you're five years old or a hundred and five years old We all it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman doesn't matter if you have testosterone or Estrogen or whatever flowing through you it's it works right it works with everybody It works in the men's industry Some men's dating coaches are actually teaching the same principles that I teach because they know the same things that I do They know the psychology of what works and what doesn't work in dating And so you have to realize like we all want to feel like our situation is different, right? I'm different because I'm Married or I'm I've got kids or you know, I'm a single mom or I'm a senior or I'm younger or I'm older You know, whatever right and the reality is is that there are some differences and Most of what I teach Is universal right men want you to be playful with them Men want to connect with you emotionally men want You know when they invest in you they feel like they don't want to let you go And they feel like they want to be attached and connected and a part of your life and so If I were you I I would stop trying to Look at this as it being something different and if you have some specific questions about your situation, marianne Please ask those specific questions. That way I can address whatever's going on with you And the differences that you perceive but it's funny because I keep having these women that are like Well, this is for younger women, but none of them seem to be able to Actually communicate How it's different for them than it is for younger women And so if you can communicate that I can help you with whatever Challenge specifically that you're going through marianne, but if you don't tell me that then I you know Just saying please address dating for seniors doesn't Doesn't give me much to go on there. So Let's see it shot me down to the bottom Of the comment section We all emotionally invested in man Michelle says I've been dating this guy who has 1500 people on his facebook all of them. Good looking Heard he was a real player. How do I know? Well, you you just give him some time, right? Everybody will show you their true colors over time. And so what you want to do is look for patterns, right? What kind of patterns does he have? Right give him some time give him some space Right create some boundaries make sure that you're not getting into a situation where you're getting attached and then watch what he does I think I actually have a video on here about how to recognize players Um But yeah, you just really what you want to do is start looking for patterns And what is he doing? What what kind of conversations does he want to have? What kind of conversations does he want to avoid one of the big conversations with players? Is actually the conversation about relationships because there's really two different kinds of players The first kind of player is the player who is just absolutely dead honest about Being a player, right? He's like I'm a player. I don't care who knows it, you know, and you ask him what he's looking for in dating and he'll be like i'm looking to hook up and make you a part of my harem and You can be one of the you know 1500 other women that i'm dating right now, right? And then there's the player that is is a liar, right? So there's the player that's honest about it. And then there's the player. That's the liar And for the player, that's the liar What you want to do is wait And just give him enough rope to hang himself with And so just wait for him to start showing and revealing his patterns to you and ask him questions And just look for things and just see what he does and just give him space and don't get attached to him Don't get overly invested in him. That's what you want to do Gabriella says he's broken up with me this week. What can I do? Here's what you want to do Gabriella is first you want to give him some space And start working on yourself go into no contact and Whether you want to get back together with him or whether you want to move on with your life What you should do is pick up a copy of this program commitment connection.com forward slash break up and Learn about how to make sure that you regain your power take your power back start focusing on building yourself up Start focusing on solidifying your identity as a human being start focusing on Creating your own happiness in yourself start focusing on weaning yourself off of him and start creating connection with other people so that you're not dependent on him for your connection and Then once you're in a space I call it the wholeness breakpoint once you've gotten to a place where you feel really whole and strong and powerful again That's when you can reconnect with him From a space a place of power coming from a place of power a lot of women freak out when I start talking about power All power means is your ability to get what it is that you want and so You want to regain your power when you break up what it feels like is it feels like you've lost a part of yourself Psychologists have found that when you break up from somebody it's like when you're with somebody in a relationship It's like your guys's Identities mold together and then when you break up it's like you lose a piece of your identity You lose a piece of who you are and so you want to re solidify Your identity and build yourself back up take your power back start becoming strong and whole Empowerful again and then from that place then you can decide whether you want to reconnect with him Or whether you want to move on with your life and that's the best place to do either one of those things from So my suggestion is that you check out my break up program. It's called the break up remedy Check it out at commitment connection.com forward slash break up It's great great program Lots of people love it. So I suggest you check that out Doreen looney says this is my first time listening to you. Well, thank you for being here doreen And please subscribe hit the bell notification so you get more updates on on these videos Also, if you like this video if you're watching this right now and you enjoy this video, please share it Right the majority of women who come to me actually come from From other women sharing my videos. So that's the majority of women who come to me They find me because somebody shared my video because they were like, wow, this was really valuable to me in my life And I know this friend of mine who really could use this and so they share the video with their Friend and they're like, hey, just check this video out You know, it really helped me and I thought maybe it would help you as well if you know, if not then just disregard it don't worry about it and What I found is that the majority of women that that come and watch this stuff actually are referred Here and so if you can do that that would be the absolute best and so um We actually our our community is filled with some of the most amazing women In the world some of the most beautiful amazing awesome Just absolutely gorgeous women in the entire world And so I would just be honored if you were a part of it And so if if anybody is interested in text messages if they want a guy to start chasing them Via text message you you're having problems with a guy. That's not really that interested Your your text messages are kind of boring or you're afraid. They're kind of boring You're not really sure what to say in your text messages a guy's ignoring you via text message If you're having any of those problems go check out my texting program. It's brand new. It's really really awesome a lot of the stuff That I I have in that program has helped a lot of women Previous to me putting this program together and so you should go check it out If if you want it it has helped it'll get guys to start pursuing you You can actually trigger a man's not only his emotions, but his his hormones through your text messages And this is a really powerful way to do it. Check out commitment connection dot com forward slash text And thank you everybody for being here with me today Make sure that you share this video if you know anybody who could use this video I really appreciate you being here and it's an honor for me to Help you on your journey to attracting the man that you want Creating the relationship that you've always wanted to have so thank you so much for being here with me today I value all of you and so I think you're absolutely wonderful Thanks for being here and I'm gonna get going. I gotta I gotta go there's I I have to go meet up with some friends in downtown Zagreb And I will speak with you again soon and always remember you are worth it That's kind of my my ending catchphrase