 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd so today We're gonna be talking about how to get a second date This is actually a pretty big problem for a lot of my students You know, especially if they're good-looking successful or maybe they're really charming and have a lot of game Okay, not all of this stuff is going to guarantee you a second date with a woman So a lot of guys don't understand like the reasons why women go out with men or why they want to spend time with them Okay, so what I'm gonna talk about in this video are the three most common reasons about why a lot of these guys can't get a second date And this could be quite frustrating for a lot of people Okay, you know you go out on a date with a girl everything seems to click everything seems to like it's just going perfectly I'm really into this girl. She's really into me. There's obviously a ton of attraction going on Why won't this girl go out in a second date with me? Well by the end of this video You're gonna know why I mean you're also gonna know the right way to conduct yourself on a date Okay, cool So before I get into this if you guys are wondering about how to get coached by me one-on-one To prevent this kind of stuff from happening to you Fill out the form down below and if you seem like a good fit for working with me one-on-one We'll reach back out to you. Okay, cool The first reason why a lot of guys don't get a second date Especially if there's a lot of attraction there is because they're too intimidating to the girl So what do I mean by this? I mean that the girls literally sees you as like way up here and she's kind of like, you know in some other area Okay, you guys are on two different planes So typically this happens when the guys talking a lot about like, oh, you know my business is really successful You know, I own a yachts I do all this stuff like she's gonna think that's cool That's awesome. You're a really successful person, but maybe you guys don't click Maybe you're not the right kinds of people for each other, okay? Attraction is not the only reason why women go out with men In fact, it's probably not even the most important the most important I think especially in this context is comfort if she feels good and comfortable around you She's gonna want to go out with you again But if you're talking about all of these crazy things that you're doing all of the success that you're having She's gonna think like wow this guy's like good-looking like rich doing all this crazy stuff He's just in a completely different realm than me like I think we're I think we're not compatible It's probably what she's gonna think she's not gonna feel good when she's on this day with you Because she's gonna see like you're doing all this stuff and you know Maybe on her Saturday rather than going to a yacht party. She was just watching oranges the new black So she's not gonna feel very comfortable on this date even if you seem like this Super high-level successful person not every woman wants that okay sure bragging about things will attract some women That's why men do it, but they wouldn't do it if it didn't work But these are not the women that you're gonna want to date Okay second reason a lot of guys who are very successful or maybe guys that are like high-performance individuals I find this is a big problem for them They tend to pressure and control the girl too much meaning when they're on the date They want things to go exactly the way they want them. They want the girl to text them after they want the girl to Do certain like act a certain way and you know not every girl's gonna act the way that you want to in fact The vast majority of women probably aren't going to act exactly the way you envision them or want them to now Some of this comes from them being paranoid that they're gonna be seen as needy Or that the girl's gonna lose attraction for them So they for them it has to go in a certain sequence Otherwise things are gonna go bad and this girl's gonna ghost me again It's gonna be another girl that I've lost so you have to relax dude You have to be cool with who she is as a person you have to be Fine if she wants to you know not text you at a certain time or conduct yourself in a certain way If you try and control people if you try and pressure them to do something Then they're gonna want to run away, especially if she has half a brain and is smart and knows herself Okay, women don't like that or people who don't like that especially at the beginning So if you find yourself doing that sort of stuff, I would take a step back again here less is more Okay, the third and final reason that I've seen a lot of guys and you know There are more reasons but these are like the biggest ones Is neediness this is the biggest fear that a lot of guys have and it's the one that I put last And the reason why a lot of guys fall into this trap is because again, they need the girl to like them They need the girl to do this So this is why I recommend actually if you're dating or just like going on first dates with people I actually recommend that you're talking to a few different women. Okay, maybe talk to like five or something like that What's gonna happen is you're not going to put all of your hopes your dreams your expectations on this person That you're going out on a date with because you have a lot of options and ironically that is a better way to meet people She's gonna feel a lot more comfortable with you because you're not trying to force her to do anything You don't need to see her. You're not like women do not want a guy who needs them They they have enough shit going on themselves for them to have to take care of you and satisfy your needs to like That's not what she wants. She wants the guy that's gonna compliment her and enhance her life Okay, so if you're that guy that really needs her to text you text you back That you need she needs to go out with you and you need to know that she likes you and all of that stuff Especially that's gonna drive her away faster than anything. Okay, so again be more relaxed Be confident who you are assume the attraction and a lot of this stuff will generally fall into place A lot of women that I talked to they're literally just looking for a normal guy You know like like a normal guy for them a lot of times is enough to get a second date You know and if you're that normal guy at the very minimum then that's probably gonna get you a second date So I can actually tell a story about this. Um, you know one of my clients I'm obviously I'm not gonna say his name, but again super good looking actually have a couple clients that are like this Super good-looking super successful and the girls that meet them. They're very very interested in them Like they have no problems getting a girl to have sex with them They have no problems at the beginning areas But when they start to go out with them when they start to date them A lot of these issues start coming up and the girl gets kind of scared away and they slowly stop hearing from them And so for these particular students that I have a lot of times it's because they are being too intimidating and again here Attraction is not the answer. So before they were thinking oh this girl's not attracted to me She lost attraction for me all of this sorts of stuff I don't think it's necessarily attraction But I do think for a lot of these guys what happens is that she doesn't really want to go out with him because they They're not compatible, okay with men They think that if they're at a certain level like there's there's levels to attractiveness And if you're just at a certain level, then you get the girl not really true people women have types women have you know Personalities that they go for that they gel with a lot better I can't tell you the number of girls that I've dated where Basically they went for a guy that I didn't think was at my level I thought that this guy was way below me But they felt more comfortable with him to her that sort of stuff wasn't important It was more important to found the guy that she could relax with that She could feel good around at the end of the day women are going to go for the guy that makes them feel good However that guy you know whatever status that guy is however he looks And however he acts if he makes her feel good. That's the guy she's gonna go for now also too What I would recommend and this is not really one of the three reasons that I talked about But sometimes guys can get a little boring. So just make sure that there's a certain level of excitement and it feels like it's going Somewhere so if you start out on a date and it starts out up here where you guys are super into each other and then kind of Goes down That's actually worse than a date that started way down here But then ends a little bit higher because at least it's progressing in the right direction Okay, so make sure that the dates are progressing in the right direction. Don't put too much pressure on the girl Don't try a controller. Don't be needy and don't intimidate her too much Okay, you are enough assume the attraction a lot of times this stuff is gonna fall into place Guys if you're wondering how to do this or wondering how to get coached by me in person again Check out my description down below. Check out my live training schedule I'm gonna be doing an American tour January and February. Thanks a lot and dude If you have any questions about this sort of stuff or maybe there's a certain situation that happened with you and a Woman, please put it in the comment section down below. I'll try and read them if I have time. Thanks a lot you guys Good luck out there