 Alright folks here we go here we go settle down settle down now next speaker again It's day three next speaker here is the reigning number one to pick up artist in the world And yeah, he's also he also shows up as number three on some other lists, but I'll let him I'll let him talk to you about that Yeah, it's it's too bad. You got married man. You could really could have cashed it on that though number one thing No, yeah, I'm number one But yeah once voted least likely to get a girlfriend now him and his lovely wife Amanda travel all around the world getting chicks hot chicks helping you guys out so So very good enjoy him. He's a very loyal guy great friend here to the 21 convention It's his third time speaking. So hey, it's a charm ladies and gentlemen Adam Lyons Hey guys Thanks ever so much. I thank you guys for everyone that got up this morning I know there's like a whole bunch of people that are just like now fucked out. I'll just wait till the video comes out I'm gonna watch it then and so I appreciate appreciate all you guys coming out It's always a fun one the 21 convention is one of my favorite Mostly because I really get on with with the organizers here These guys in the P away summit kind of like my two favorite places to go because I really get on with the guys Organize it and you guys get you know a shitload of value If you think about the kind of speakers that you come and get to listen to and you're paying a fraction of a bootcamp It's kind of awesome. So just quick round of applause for these guys man because they they deserve this. They do this every year Okay so yesterday I was sitting around and I was chatting with DJ Fuji and Chris Orleans and It was so funny. We're hanging around. I love these guys If you don't know Chris's by the way, you guys really need to check him out Chris Orleans He's awesome guy Talking to him yesterday Take the time take the time to get some time and DJ Fuji both both really good guys. I was sitting around and they said to me Adam What's your business angle? Why do you why do you come to these these conferences and talk to people? You know, what's in it for you? And I was like I enjoy it and they're like Yeah, but with the money thing, you know, what are you? I was like no I do it because I enjoy it and I think they didn't really get it I was like look I stay in a really nice hotel downtown me and my wife make a weekend of it We normally go to Disneyland. I was like and this is what we do We come out and we do it because we enjoy it because we like helping you guys And now I want to I want to do a quick show of hands here for everybody that's in here Do me a favor raise your hand if you've been doing this for five years or longer It's not many not many of you there's a few and you guys I Was there everyone else you guys you guys don't remember what it was like And I was looking back over when I first started and I was thinking about how far things have come I mean for a start none of you guys are wearing top hats not a single one of you anymore Like this is new for me. I remember my first ever first ever convention I turn up everyone's wearing none of you guys eyes great I like you are now all pretty socially adjusted people I'm like people come up to me and being like hi nice to meet you You know, hey, you know, we met here or what you're talking to me when I first did this everyone was sort of like Looking down at the floor not really talking and if they did speak to it was like backwards over the shoulder It's weird shit everyone did and you'd be kind of like well that was awkward You know, but that was that was how they spoke and I remember my first ever convention I walked in and the first I noticed was there was not a single girl around. I've seen like four girls this weekend That's like four hundred percent more than I've ever seen before So like there's a lot There's a lot that's changed in the last five years and I want to take those of you that don't know I want to take you back and I want to show you first of all where I came from I want to give you an idea of what it was like to be me back when I first started now There's there's a book that I wrote out that some people have read and some people haven't kind of gives you an idea of where my Mind was because I was like you I was like, I don't believe this shit works Come on that much dude's gonna go up to a girl and he ain't good looking and you don't have any money And he's gonna talk to her and then by asking random questions. He's gonna end up in that's ridiculous never gonna happen And so I signed up to my first boot camp. I remember this and I paid money to go and do it and I'll take you guys back to the kind of advice we used to get to show you how much it's changed You guys get really good advice now like really good advice my first ever boot camp I want you to imagine that you've just forked over how much money your boot camp is currently that the prices have changed a bit But whatever it is, they're big sums of money, right? And if you get it's a lot of money you pay for this crap, right? So you pay a shitload of money and I'm sitting there in this room and this dude comes up on stage It's a little stage and he's like so Today, I'm gonna teach you the guaranteed line that's gonna help you get every single girl And I was like I can't wait like this is gonna be great and he goes now I know some of you where these big clown hats thinking that's gonna help you pick up chicks Well, let me tell you there's something better And I was like and I've got my pen and paper out like I'm I'm ready I am my first piece of advice. I'm ready. He pulls out fireman's hat, and he's like this And I'm like and I was trying to work out. Do I write down fireman's out or do I draw a picture? I wasn't I didn't know where this was gonna go Was he gonna do something with the house? You know, he I wasn't sure so I just wrote get fireman's hat You know and obviously I was planning on wearing it my next convention because that's what you do And so they do stat he puts the fireman's out on he goes what you do is you run up to a group of girls But standing around in England we have Leicester Square You guys don't have Leicester Square Leicester Square is like a very good practice place It is a big square filled with about 2,000 tourists that just come in and out so within 10 minutes they will change it to new 2,000 tourists So in terms of practicing game, it's great You just stand there and just fail repeatedly, you know for like a day and then go back the next day and fail again until until you go Oh shit, you know that didn't work So we so we stand in there, and then he goes puts out and he goes this is the line he goes Is there a fire in there? He goes guaranteed guaranteed up every time that is the line man That is gonna get you your results And we wrote this down Brilliant stuff. No, I didn't never thought of that never never ever ever thought of that and that's my point, right? This has changed we were that was back in the days when it was like RSD versus mystery method Then it moved on to routines versus non-routines then it became natural game versus routine game And then it became what isn't a direct versus indirect that thing is like the current thing And there'll be another one and you know give it a year next year will be I don't know Maybe something like that, you know being gay versus not being gay. I don't know like there'll be something else Some else I don't know about that and everyone will be like this is how to do it But the point is it's you know now people are normal people are you know socially calibrated There's trends you got different groups of people, you know gone are the days of the the shirt with the no The t-shirt with the blazer. That was my day t-shirt blazer Do you know is that the affliction days are here? There's a few of you not gonna hate but there's a few of you guys You know the graphic t-shirts are in so we've got the skinny tie thing I do the skinny tie thing, but you know times have changed times we've done we've got better at this and It made me think back To to those old days and what was so wrong about what we were doing and I realized it's something that is still being done today And in fact, I mean I'm gonna get to my point. It's what I'm talking about today We were uncalibrated We you don't do that You don't wear a fireman's hat and walk out in the middle of a public place and scream at somebody in their face They're a fire in here. You don't do that like that isn't calibrated that's not normal And I realized this word calibrated is one that gets thrown around all the time And I love it when you can always tell the difference between pick apart is that really know what they're doing and pick apart It's that you know just want to make a load of money for picking up chicks there's a difference between the two of them and the difference is normally they can explain what they're talking about and I love the ones and I've definitely heard them with like be calibrated You need to be calibrated get more calibration. See what you're doing That's not calibrated. You need to be calibrated if you be more car. Oh, you'll be great Everything you're doing is great. Just you know be more calibrated I don't even know what that what like like I touch different points on the screen and it calculates where my mouse should be Is that gonna help me like I don't know what calibration is that the first time I ever used calibration was with a Nintendo white game and I was calibrated doesn't mean anything to me to picking up chicks, man There's no connection to me. It doesn't help me and so I realized that calibration is a massive issue Still in the community and there's something that today I'm hoping we can address a bit and give you guys a bit perspective about what calibration is and why it's important and how to use it so I've got to this point Pete was nice enough to say I got voted number one in the world on on a whole bunch of lists on a whole bunch of other List they wouldn't vote me number one in the world because I'm married, which I think is great You know you finally reached the apex you're like wow all I've wanted to do is meet my ideal girl Settle down with her meet this girl. I could never have gotten a relationship with you finally do it and they go congratulations You can't be number one So yeah, yeah, you've reached the best you could ever be but now you can lose some points for that So it's you know success. We don't we don't really agree with that. I'm joking I'm joking as obviously a whole bunch of people did and it was awesome to get there and to be at that position And I'm now a point where I get a lot of instructors like a lot of people that teach you guys and got there Ex-students of mine and and I see them quite a lot and I kind of like mingle with them and even those aren't ex-students I get a lot of other instructors phone me up and they're like hey Adam I got a question can you help me out with this and I think it's because I'm married now because I've you know I've kind of reached that point. They've they've heard of the success stories that I've had They've seen what I've done and they want to know about that next phase. What do you do next? You know and that that's the beautiful thing about the industry is we help each other and I've got these two different stories that I wanted to share with you guys that other instructors have shown me recently and the first one is It's from a guy I know incredibly well He's ridiculously good friend of mine and he shows me this text interaction. He's having with this chick And he basically starts out going a bit direct and a bit sexual. I'm gonna paraphrase here But I'll give you an idea his message was something along the lines of it was a it was an online dating profile and it went something like Tall dark sexy man looking for Girl who's up for no strings attached sex to reach her highest deepest sexual fantasies something like that It was like it was out there, right? And then and the message was like only bother replying if you're a sexual creature Only bother replying if you're somebody who wants to explore or your deepest darkest sexual fantasies I went went on all about this and the reply he got this reply from this girl The only one that he really liked which was I'm definitely a sexual creature But I've been hurt so many times in the past that I'm not up for a one-off encounter I'm looking for somebody who can bring me to those heights show me all those things, but who Who is up for something a bit more long-term So he starts replying and anyway after a while they get into this conversation And he's he's gaming a pretty well the conversations going well And then he shows me this message where she's like I've been hurt really bad in the past and I'm worried that Maybe you're only it up for sex and I need somebody who's got more to them than that I need somebody who's got some kind of emotional content and he shows me this reply that he's thinking about sending and the reply is Tell me what the most sexual thing is you like doing Because I would like to rub cream all over your body and then lick it off while tasting strawberries off your nipples And it is like this and it I mean it goes on I'm gonna I'm gonna leave out the bit about the cucumber whatever but And I was like dude, I think you've you've missed something here, and he's like what I was like she Isn't she's already said she likes sex that's gonna happen. She's worried you only think about sex and your message Pretty much describes The bad plot to a Swedish porn movie. I was like, there's a you got a problem dudes like this You're not calibrated here man like it's so much wrong and the other story I want to tell you is one I got told the other day about About why the structure is who's looking at following somebody's style of game and was trying to work out the angle And it was a conversation is text conversation where this girls like I Really want to fuck you. I want to take you to bed I want to show you what it means to be a man and to completely dominate me in every way sexually and the guy replied Well, I can't wait to set some candles up to set up the mood And I'm gonna play a little bit of Barry white and then I'm gonna slowly massage you and then I'm actually like just fuck me hard And he's like wait, baby because first of all and it was like dude come on like God needs to get fucked like she's saying it like she ain't even hinting. She's like fuck me now And he's like wait. I want to show you how sensual I can be I'm a I'm a lover Not a fucker. I don't know right and and I was like man ain't calibrated and I love listening to all this go direct Go indirect. No, don't be calibrated. I but there I was I was saying the same thing that all these guys are saying to you We're not telling you you be calibrated. What is be calibrated man? And I'm like, no be calibrated and it was Amanda. I just said it to me the other day We're just walking down the road. You got imagine what it's like in my life, right? I'm I'm a married man Got house got two little kittens and like we go out and we're doing our shopping and we're walking through You know our local food shopping market whole foods, whatever and walking through and my wife suddenly says You know calibrated is responding to the actual moment and the interactions within that moment rather than carrying on a predisposed course That you've already got in your head that doesn't necessarily translate or relate to that current situation And I was like so I was think wait what and she's like yeah That's what calibration is and I was like, well, that's genius that is what calibration is I was like, but why why are we discussing that over whole foods and shows I'm just popped in my head That's what that's what my life is like. That's kind of like how our life translates And then I thought well, that's that's great. That's all well and good Okay So basically what we're looking at is try and respond to things that are active things that are happening right now in the Conversation between you and her rather than following any kind of prescripted notion of what should happen For example, if you're like, I'm definitely gonna go sexually direct with this girl Nothing is gonna stop me from going sexually direct with this girl This is what's gonna happen And then you go over and meet her and you get talking to her and she's like yeah I'm so my boyfriend just dumped me by cheating on me with somebody else and then he tried to force rape me Like you don't want to go sexual at that moment like that that and not that ain't gonna help you Yeah, it's it's not calibrated But there are people that do that they ignore this and they're just like I'm gonna keep doing what I want to do But that doesn't mean there isn't a point or a time when you should be sexual You know, it's just about being a bit clever about it And so from this I wanted to start analyzing this a bit farther I started looking at some of the psychological studies into What makes people? Reliable or how to act in different situations what makes them realize how they should behave in different situations and the study that that most stuck out in my head was One-by-guy by the name of Chris Bale and the University of Lancashire and they were studying into pickup lines How awesome is that real psychologists looking at pickup lines? I you know I'm sure they didn't stand out in the middle of the street for five years in the freezing cold getting rained on like some people and Put it to practice But still the studies themselves are fascinating and I think what's the most fascinating for me isn't really the result of his study The result of his study was good But I like all the additional information they created while they were trying to get these results For example, some of the side effects of this study They realized that women are actually attracted to four different categories of guy Now before we go into this I want you guys to do me a favor We're going to be very honest with me, and I want you to raise your hand if before studying this You actually managed to make out with a chick Before studying this raise your hand Wow, look at that this guy's like Maybe well, I don't know possibly I feel you I feel you I'm assuming it's a possibly about Whether it was before or after not whether she was a girl or not. That's my assumption I'm not yeah, he's that well did it count. I'm not sure. It's Thailand. It's crazy time I don't know anyway, whatever. I'm joking. Okay, so the point is I Love this people like yeah, I need to learn how to pick up chicks. You picked up chicks before Why do you need to other people can do it? You did it. You didn't need this. What's the difference? Why how? How did you do this? This is an interesting point and to talk about this before I go into that study I'm gonna explain about one of my favorite students recently I met this guy and he worked for NASA Okay, now that gives you an instant stereotype, which I really like being in your head because That your stereotype of what you imagine a guy who works like NASA if you multiply that by 10 You'll get an idea of what this guy was like. He was pretty much exactly what you would he was that that's what he was he was that kind of guy and we had him on this course and He was brought there by ex-students of ours and they're like this guy has already been to a whole bunch of boot camps And no one can make him good Help him and we get a lot of these I'd say the majority of my students are actually Students that have done something else elsewhere are like I'm not getting the results I want I want to get good at this and then they come to me because they're like Okay, now I'm gonna go with number one in the world and see what he does and I like that We get to we get to help these guys out and this was a really good case in point. This guy turned up He's overweight awkward Not really an extrovert actually there's a massive introvert and he's not really the kind of person That takes well to training didn't really want to do anything, you know but you know he wanted to get good he wanted to make it happen and It was actually a man there that that took him out and She was trying to make him comfortable We're in this venue and in this venue is a pool table Paul that's what you guys call it right? It's like Paul. Okay, poor table. I wasn't sure billiards Paul snooker It's so me whatever it was you got sticks little balls on the table. You whack the sticks in the corner It's one of those games for those of you that don't know I'm talking about Paul and she goes, you know I want you to try and imagine you're in a comfortable place. Where are you most comfortable? And he was oh in a pool hall. That's where I'm the most comfortable and a man who goes well great There's a pool table at the back of the room. Let's go and hang around there and so we hang around there or the Amanda and the student hang around there and and He's like she's like why do you feel comfortable around a pool table? And as I used to be a junior pool champion And a man is like really let's play a game. So they start playing pool Sure enough. He changes He's not quiet anymore He's in his environment He's loud and he's extrovert and he's talking about Paul and he's explaining what to do. Well, this big group of girls They're overhearing they start listening in and they're like, oh, what's going on? And he starts challenging people and then you got these big dudes are like, I'll beat you up and he's just like In like and all the balls are dropping in the thing and he just looks great and all these women like oh my god You're so awesome. That's the guy and they're flinging themselves all over him and like he's got like eight chicks around him and the other instructors on our course walk in and they're like How'd you do that and the students that brought him were like who is this guy? What have you done to him and all we did was we put him in the one place where he's already attractive It's like you guys you don't know this yet We're gonna analyze it but in the times when you picked up chicks you were already attractive You already had that you didn't need any of this shit You didn't need to become uncaliberated and learn all this other stuff You already had a position a point where you were attractive. It's great in America in England We don't really have family things like English people. We have like TV dinners or we go out separately We know you have Thanksgiving. It's like the time where you all come We don't have that we don't all hang around and kill a turkey this you guys think but it's good right because it builds this this family foundation I want you to think back every time you go to Thanksgiving. I bet you're not quiet I bet you're not awkward. I bet you're not running out of conversation. I bet you're actually probably I bet your mom's probably like Oh, he's the life and soul of the party I bet that's exactly what it is because you know how to act at home. It's your comfortable environment if you met a chick in your house Be easy it won't even be a problem because it's your environment You know what you're talking about You know the in jokes you shine him around your house. You're the one in charge. Well for this dude the pool table that was for him He literally to give you an idea of just how good this guy got he got so good But I tried to schedule a phone chat with him that I could record to send out to my mailing list because he literally I mean like lost his virginity soon after I mean it was it was crazy The guy just went for the room He didn't have time to schedule me into his diary and I was like fuck you dude like come on man Like I hooked you up give me the review like and he's like man. I want it. I'm just so busy I was so many chicks here blah blah blah blah. I hate you like I was like horrible But you know he got really good That's the point and that that's what he's there to do and the students that brought him They now bring me all these reject students that can't get any it's great like they help me out but So the point is he was already attractive and we're gonna deal with that in a second because now we're gonna come back to this study All they did is they asked women to identify the kind of person that is the most Attractive who is? You miss his girl your ideal man categorizing and they came up with four categories of men So what we're gonna do now is I'm gonna ask you guys out We're gonna make this a bit more interactive and I want somebody to raise that how do thinks they know one of the categories Something women said was a good style of of person. Okay, this guy here. I get to make Peter run I didn't know that would have that effect now. I'm gonna do this more often. Okay, probably the bad boy dangerous type Okay, there we go one. That's one of them one of the four is the bad boy dangerous type. Okay, this guy here What have you got different the swath James Bond type? No, not at all didn't even come up so sad I know wasn't there not one of the types go for it. Good try. I would have guessed it the nerdy dorky guys No, no, no, but close. Okay. We're gonna give you clothes. We're gonna give you clothes All right, wait, wait, wait ready the nice guy Okay, the nice guy was one of them somebody who looks after the girl who's kind and caring the nice guy I'll count that as needy dorky nice guy Okay, so we've got the bad boy the nice guy two more come on somebody This guy he's a ninja. You can't see him, but he can speak The social guy social guy. No, it didn't come up. Um, well Well, the leader came up. Okay, so the leader came out that'll count social guy the leader It's not just somebody who's social Specifically a leader somebody who told people what to do. Okay, the leader was one. So yeah, that counts that counts I'll leave you off without last guy. Come on guys last guy This is funny. This is gonna get really funny if you don't know this one The creep the creep. Yes. No, that's good. Yes. No, okay. No problem. Okay, the fourth fourth and final guy was the provider Okay Now it's not surprising that pickup artists don't get this one Okay, because we are trained not to think providers are attractive. Okay, that is like like provider He an attractive. He's a douche. He just spends money and gets girls. It's not game Yeah, but unfortunately he is attractive. Okay, like it does work So there your four categories has been a bit stingy with you guys You got it was the bad boy the nice guy the leader and the provider in this study of all these girls They were the four characters that all men pretty much fit into yeah And you can see how they kind of fit like the the dorky guy He kind of fits into the nice guy category the social guy He fits into the leader category the creep doesn't really fit in anywhere, but you know, it was a good Hey, it was a good guess. I'm not gonna I'm not gonna hate on you for it apart from now That's it. Um, so they're the four categories of guy Now what's fascinating is let's have a look in the room. Let's work out which ones you guys would see yourselves as some We'd have a deep think for a second. Oh, we'd think are you a leader? Are you a nice guy? Are you a bad guy or your provider? You know have a good think about which one of these you are I'm gonna do a we do shove hands Or we can make pizza run around to every now we just show hands. I'm gonna do it I'm gonna do okay. So first of all, I want to see everyone who thinks they're a bad boy Raise your hand. Are you somebody who's a little bit? Yeah, there we guys a few of you guys a few not many of a few bit Sexually deviant the bad boys described as somebody takes risks. Okay. He's a crazy kind of guy. He does things He's like fuck it. I'm just gonna do it. He's kind of like fuck it I'm gonna throw the table over he just does it. Yeah, you didn't care. I can't wait no one stinks You know repercussions are for other people to deal with that's the bad boy He's just gonna you know, I'm gonna fuck her today and then she gets pregnant somebody else's problem Like that's the bad. I'm sorry. So that's the it's the bad boy attitude. Yeah, it's like that that's how they think It's like we'll deal with the repercussions later. Basically what he does is he makes crazy decisions He makes decisions that aren't necessarily based on pre-planning or thought. He's just like fuck it. I'm gonna do it He's a dangerous guy. Okay. It's nice. Okay, next up. We're the nice guy raise your hand if you think you're a nice guy It's the majority of the room. I'm not surprised the nice guy is the guy who most pickup artists This is the reason that they come and do this right we were the nice guy We got screwed over. It's not that you couldn't get girls. You could get girls It's just you're tired of the nice guy finishing last right but the nice guy doesn't finish last actually because that's how up till now You've all got girls by being a nice guy. There's nothing nothing wrong with it We're gonna analyze that a bit further the nice guy. He's nice. He's just caring He looks after the girl puts on a pedestal looks after he's nice There are there are women that think that is the most attractive category of man And we're gonna we're gonna deal with that in a second next up the social guy or the leader as the The ninja pointed out. Okay, who thinks you're a leader social guy again small small amounts of you But still there's a few of you that think that yeah the leader. He's attractive. Why he's the guy calling the shots He's like this is what is going to happen because I say so I'm in charge. I'm the leader This is this is it and you know, he's making those decisions so people follow him and the provider raise your hand If you think you're a provider No one again, maybe maybe one guy possibly yeah again not surprised because no one really Identified themselves or said that that was an attractive quality. I'm not surprised because we're in a pickup community You know if you were a provider and you were paying money out to pick up chicks You probably wouldn't be here because you'd just be paying for chicks like that would go out drop load of money and have I'm not saying that works every time and we're gonna we're gonna analyze that we're gonna talk about that in a second But you know the provider is another one of these categories. So they're the four categories if you didn't raise your hand If you're watching this and you're thinking hmm That doesn't sound like me You probably don't get that good results and that's actually we tested this in the last talk that I did That's actually correlated the people that didn't put up their hand at all. We're like, yeah, it sucks I don't get it. That's because they're the four categories of men that women are attracted to Now what's really fascinating? I'm gonna put in a pause here by drinking this water It's like suspense. You can put like an advert in here. Okay. What's really fascinating? Is the fact that they also identified different types of women By using iSENX pen model personality test This is a test that identifies what kind of person you are And it breaks people down into three categories. It analyzes three different components of a personality It analyzes whether they're extroverted and what we mean by extroverted is somebody who They go out there. They're social. They like interact with other people It's a Extrovert they go out there enjoy interacting with people. You guys know what that is They analyze whether they're neurotic And by neurotic, we're not talking about somebody that's like completely freaking out all the time is on pills We're just talking about somebody who's you know a little bit depressive, you know the cup It's always it's always half empty and there's crack in the glass You know, it's like it's not perfect. Nothing's great Like it's not like oh, it's half full or at least I have a glass. It's you know, everything's a bit. Nothing's great neurotic Nothing's perfect. Nothing's awesome bad stuff happens to me and then The P in the P and is psychotic Now I need to be really careful here by psychotic We're not describing the kind of girl that chases you around with an axe after you break up with her Okay, it's just somebody who makes emotional decisions rather than logical ones somebody who you know, they're gonna make a decision right now that seems like it's a good idea and Screw the repercussions. Yeah, it's like I'm gonna make a decision on a whim based on my emotions and how I feel right now Crazy decisions that don't really make sense and they analyze these these three They analyze women and put them into one of these three different categories Now here's the real kicker Every single person who scores highly in one of those particular categories has a specific Favorite and there is an incredibly high correlation between these two facts Do you guys understand just how important that is for us when you're turn when we're talking about learning calibration? I'm telling you that there is a psychological profile that you can make a female do that will tell you what type of girl She is and if she's a certain type of girl, it will also tell you the kind of guy that she wants This is massive. Okay in terms of calibration This is literally a roadmap to identify the personality type of a girl and then you can understand how you should be acting to pick her up and If you use the wrong one, you are not gonna be her ideal guy as we talk about this You guys are gonna start realizing that wow that happened to me before and the kind of girls that hook up with have been mostly like that So let's analyze these and let's let's see if we have a guess Let's get Peter running again because he likes running around the room and let's analyze what you guys think so let's start with The extrovert The extrovert girl. She's a bit of a party animal. She likes going out. She's got some good friends She likes hanging out with she's out there. She's not a shy person. Who's her ideal guy? Somebody raise their hands. Somebody who thinks they know this guy in the front this guy Okay Go for it. It's got to be the nice guy. It's not the nice guy. You sure it's I'm very sure it's not the nice guy somebody else somebody else This guy here because he's close to him so you know to run The leader the leader. Yes, it's the leader. Okay. Now. Let's look at that. Why does the The extrovert why she attracted the leader? She wants to go out. She wants to have a fun time She wants to socialize Someone's got to enable that to happen somebody's got to be like, hey, you know what? Let's not sit in tonight. Let's go out if he doesn't take charge and take her out She'll sit indoors and then she's gonna be unhappy. She's not going out and interacting with people She's not having fun She's gonna start getting unhappy in the relationship and the other people aren't necessarily gonna suggest that because that's not their Natural kind of thing to do the leader is the leaders gonna make decisions. He's gonna be like, let's go and do this Let's go and do that if they're gonna stay in the leaders like let's stay in and this is what we're gonna Do he's always in charge and the extrovert likes that because he enables her to go out fulfill what she wants to do Yeah, and like her like this guy said the ninja and the leaders probably social as well So that social aspect is warming very nicely to the extroversion. So okay, so next up. Let's look at the neurotic Little bit oppressive life kind of sucks. Nothing's great. Raise your hands if you think you know This guy over here He's got everyone right so far. I've been watching his head The nice guy the nice guy exactly he's good this guy nice the nice guy think about it My life sucks. Nothing's great. My job's horrible, but this guy is great. He's so perfect He treats me really well. That's what it is the nice guy. She wants a nice guy all you nice guys I bet if you look back over the girl, I bet she was yeah kind of nice But you know she kind of moaned a lot kind of nagged a lot She you had a neurotic most of you probably found that situation. She likes nice guys She wants someone's gonna look after her. That's the whole point the neurotic needs a nice guy to look after her And she wants that I'm gonna analyze that a bit further a bit later on okay psychotic What does she want? This guy's got the answer you know run down just go for it By experience by experience says the bad boy. She likes the bad boy. She likes the bad boy the psychotic girl likes the bad boy Exactly well done. Thank you very much guys random applause for yourselves first of all good Okay, she likes the bad boy. You know why she likes the bad boy because she's emotional She's like I just want to do something really crazy right now and the bad boys like let's do it Like that's how they work like he's just like fuck it. Let's just do this Let's see what happens. Okay, and that's it the bad boy and the psychotic go so well together. Who's missing? The provider ain't there. You know why? Because he comes second When you add it all up. He ain't nobody's number one. He's everyone's number two Everyone's like yes a provider is attractive But given a choice between a provider and a leader I will choose the leader given a choice between a provider and a nice guy. I would choose the nice guy He is everyone's second choice That's why there's no point trying to learn how to be a provider and pick up because you're only gonna be second best That's why all those rich dudes you see in the nightclub get annoyed when a pickup artist moves in and takes his chick He doesn't actually have that much control. He's their second choice Now if a neurotic can't find a nice guy She doesn't want a bad boy and she definitely doesn't want a leader telling her around and bossing on what to do But she'll take a provider. You know, he's not the ideal guy, but fuck it. He's got a really nice car. Yeah, that's that's how it works So now we've analyzed that we can learn about the kind of person That you want to be you might not need game You might be sitting at this whole conference might have been an awesome time because you get to hang out with some great people But ultimately largely a waste of time because if your ideal girl Isn't a psychotic and you're a bad boy You know where you're going wrong and anyone that's like just be sexual just keep telling them you're gonna fuck her up The bomb she'll love that. Well, yeah, that will get you a lot more psychotic That is what's gonna happen test it go to a strip club. See the kind of guys the girls like there are two types of strippers There's the depressive strippers that like I've got to submit to feed my baby and pay for my degree And you got the other strippers that are just like I just like being naked you got two types, right? neurotic psychotic Walk out which kind of girl you like if you like the neurotic be a nice guy You'll sleep with that kind of stripper tell the psychotic girl you want to fuck up the part You'll sleep with that type of stripper. That's how this works It's obvious when you think about it. So you're sitting here learning game I bet you didn't even think about the kind of girl you want to get I know you're all thinking I want a normal girl. Yeah, it can happen. I didn't know such thing. Trust me. I've been there. Yeah She's one of these types Primarily she'll have a preference towards one So stop thinking about the kind of girl you want to get don't just think oh, yeah I want to learn to pick up chicks in general that makes you weird like me. That was my problem I was like, well, I don't just want one girl. I want all of them and That's what made me a weird pickup guy I was like, I'm gonna stand out in the street and practice on every single type of girl until I worked it out And now what's funny is I had something like this in my head My model is a lot more complicated and doesn't really make sense when I teach it because it was in my head It was my personal calibration of how I interact with with girls and the different types and how I change my game Depending on who I'm talking to but this is a model that makes a lot of sense probably because it was made by real psychologists You know what they're talking about and it's translate which summit you guys can look at you can look at the style of game That you want based on the kind of girl you want if you're thinking, you know what as a fuck buddy I want a psychotic chick then you need to stop being a bad boy. It's a no-brainer You're gonna have to start tonight that if you're thinking I want to go to settle down with I wanted to be fun and social and get on my mom you probably want an extrovert You probably need to focus more on the leadership social kind of thing And if you're thinking I want a really psychotic chick who's completely crazy you need to move to the bad boy thing, you know like And that's how it works when I first came out into the game I was like be a leader be social build interactions with loads of women But I realized all that did was teach you how to be like me to get the kind of girls I wanted which was an extrovert now what's absolutely fascinating as I met my wife through social interactions I met her when I was a leader of a shitload of women and a whole load of dudes that were all Interactive of girls so randomly to test this in a case study of one I got my wife to do the PEN personality test guess what she's an extrovert No surprises there. It conformed a hundred percent to everything that I theorized and I'd done from my own game It was obvious ultimately That's what it takes to do it So you're gonna work out what kind of girl do you want then you can work out what type of game you want Otherwise all this gonna happen is you're gonna end up following some pickup artist who's gonna be teaching you how to get the kind of girls He wants and I know a lot of pickup artists and I know the kind of girls They want you do not want to introduce them to your mom you don't not they're the wrong kind Yeah, but so think about it and analyze it and work out the type of girl you want Then you can start piecing together that personality type, but now wait. There's more to this We're only looking at one end of the spectrum here. We're looking at what they like How about we go the other way about they don't like because the girls got asked that too they got asked to categorize actually in a different study, but Same paper they got asked to categorize What about people they found unattractive? Two qualities the most unattractive qualities in a male now you'd think you should know this right in my experience from doing these talks No one knows It's a bad sign so let's let's I've preempted it Let's see if any of you know raise your hand if you're brave enough to guess This guy. Oh Everyone's brave enough. We'll stop with this guy here. I know what you've done one. We'll start with this guy here with you I'd say neediness neediness. No, and that's what everyone says didn't even come up What even a point on there two things that's because you're a pickup artist. That's why it's it's us It's in the community. We get a warped sense of things. That's why go for it This guy here. You've got the last one right lazy lazy. No not even a quality think about how many women You know with lazy guys. It's not a quality. They don't care about it, right? Come guys, you have to go for it this guy lack of confidence. No, not even in that told you This is bad. You'll find a one if you don't get this. I'm gonna destroy all go for it and Secure not insecure hiding Washing the older and shampooing get clean Guys come on The worst possible thing a dude that stinks. He's sweaty. He smells. That's the worst She's like no way and that's the thing about pickup artists. I go to these conventions. You guys are pretty okay people smell They do I've seen them and they come up to me and they've got their hairs mopped over the top of their bald head They've got greasy skin their clothes haven't been washed because they've been traveling to pick up convention to pick up convention They turn up and they go. Oh, yeah lack of neediness. That's the most unattractive thing like fuck you do it That's the worst trust me. I know Smell is bad. Yeah hygiene guys number one if you have a lack of hygiene if you do not look after yourself That is the number one Number two was none of the things you guys mentioned Number let's let's look at this. Let's analyze this analyze some of the best pickup artists in the world Some people I really respect okay, Neil Strauss a lot of respect for the guy think he's great Sin John think he's a great guy both of my rate both of those two is incredibly good pickup artists You know what else they also both do stand-up comedy a lot of people don't know this I once did a stint a stand-up comedy Whenever I spot a whole bunch of people that I think are really good at game It doesn't take long to realize that they're really funny because a lack of a sense of humor is a very unattractive thing I get so many people that are like a Like yeah, so I spoke to this girl and she she didn't she didn't respond very well to me when I spoke to her I don't know why I was like dude It's cuz you never smile ever like ever and he's just like yeah Well does that does it matter? I'm like yeah, it matters. You have to smile There's a whole bunch of people have this joke that dream doesn't smile right the guy that runs a 21 convention I can say this right now dream smiles Okay, right now you're smiling at the convention at the dinner last night We hung out who smile the dude does smile He's actually incredibly funny and incredibly witty when he smiles It's just when he's stressed organizing a big convention. He ain't smiling so much I don't blame him because he hasn't slept in two days. Okay Smiling powerful you smile it shows you got sense of humor if you don't smile Don't be surprised when girls don't smile back at you. That's all I'm saying yeah They're the two most unattractive qualities the most unattractive Everybody who's watching this video everyone knows any of them pick up. That is it. It's official. None of this neediness is the worst No, it's not neediness is like third worst maybe but it is not number one number one is hygiene wash Okay, brush your teeth do these things. So okay Now each of these guys that are the ideal person the ideal characters They have flaws that are typically associated with them and These flaws are not considered attractive. So we're gonna analyze these now. So let's start with the nice guy The nice guy's floor this guy knows it the nice guy's floor is he's needy Okay, he's a needy guy That's a typical floor. It doesn't mean he always has that floor. It just means most nice guys are also needy That's why they're nice guys. They're like shit. I can't get another girl I need to be really really nice to this one. So I don't lose her. So neediness is a negative quality It's just not the worst. Okay, so the nice guy. That's his not bad quality the leader He's too bossy The leader tells us what to do in bad situations, you know, she's like, I don't want to do that And he's like you have to do that. That's what we're doing. I'm a leader. I am in charge This is what we do the leader. He tells people what to do. Okay, so very important thing To know that that is a negative quality Next up the bad boy The bad boys negative quality He's yeah, he's he's a bad boy, right? He's he's not very nice. Okay, so you got the difference between Actually, well, I like he's in second. I'll go for you in a second fourth the last on the provider the providers bad quality He's trying to make up stuff by just spending. There's no real connection there He's just you know, all he's got is his money really and they're the typical negative situations that are associated with each of the types Now what you guys have to realize is most girls Don't know they're dealing with pickup artists. Okay, the average dude out there when they meet a bad boy It's not a bad boy. That's like I'm a calculated bad boy. No, it's not he's just a bad boy He takes crazy emotional decisions and he's an asshole. He has both the things attached But because he's her ideal girl a psychotic will put up with the negative issues Associated with it to get it for example a neurotic, right? Her life sucks. Nothing's great I'm not saying it's like the end of the world But you know, she's not got the perfect life and she makes this really nice guy He doesn't boss her around too much like the leader or force to go to social situations She doesn't want to go to he doesn't try and buy her love He genuinely likes her and he's not bad for her. So the nice guy is nice guy. He's a bit needy. She's a bit needy But whatever I like it, you know, that keeps him to me, you know, it means he's not gonna stray So I'm saying so she will put up with that negative quality in the same way a psychotic girl She's gonna look at a bad boy and she's gonna be like, yeah, you know, I like him. He's crazy He's dangerous. He's got a motorbike. I mean, yeah, you know, he treats me really bad But you know whatever I mean like he'll change. Yeah, and that's what I'm talking about She puts up with the negative part of it And the provider she's like, yeah, I mean, you know, there's no emotional content I'm not physically attracted to him and hope we never ever have to have sex But I mean, have you seen the car he drives? Yeah, I'm so Every single one of these has a negative characteristic that the girl will put up with if you don't believe me Just look at the news and look at the really rich, you know, Donald Trump. Look at him like Look at him Like look at him and I'm talking about like you can see this that they ignore a whole bunch of other stuff to get what they want Now the beautiful thing about being you gentlemen here in this room Is you don't have to have the negative with the positive? We're social artists. We can choose. We're here because we're all about self-help. We're about improving ourselves Why be the bad with the good? Why not just be the good with the good? Drop the bad Let's look at this. Let's start. Let's start with the nice guy. You can be a nice guy. I'm a nice guy I take those out. I'll buy him things. I'll buy the first round of drinks for a group of girls I'll be a really nice guy given compliments But I'm not gonna be needy If she starts giving me shit or if she starts wanting to go out of a friend She can go out of her friends. I'm gonna hang out with other girls She's gonna get jealous cuz so many women like me and she's gonna come back after me I don't need to be needy. I've got abundance being a nice guy with abundance He's powerful all the positives none of the negatives The leader he makes decisions and wants to do. Hey, you know what honey? We haven't been out for ages Let's go here and do this. Oh my god. That's a great idea. Cool. It's like my wife the other day Like I am a leader. That's like my natural tendency and I was thinking I haven't been on a date with my wife for a while We travel a lot with work, but we haven't been in a date so randomly I booked some tickets for this show didn't tell her about it. I'm like, hey Don't have any plans tonight. We're going out. She loved it. She got to go out We went to a really really bad comedy house in the middle of Austin But you know that was all there was to do but I did it and I led and we had a great night out We had a really good date night because that's what I do. I'm leader of the positive. I'm not bossy I'm not like you have to do it. You know if she didn't want to do it We wouldn't have done it if she went out and she didn't enjoy it with a left We'd have done something else. I'm not forcing us to do things because I want to do them I'm trying to come up leader. I'm trying to lead her into things that she wants to do The bad boy Every girl's image of the bad boy It's the motorbike the tattoos But the image is not of the guy getting on the bike and wheel spinning the mud in her face and laughing That is not it. Yeah, it's not the nasty side effect with it. It's not like quiet. It's not that it's It's the guy spins the bike and he's like hop on and she gets on the bike with him and they go But that gesture of helping her up on the bike That's a nice guy thing to do, right? He ain't just a bad boy. He's not a bad boy that treats girls nasty. He's a bad boy that treats the girl well He's a nice guy and a bad boy and here we get into the real crux of this now Some of you guys you might have an ideal type. You might want a psychotic and if so, you know how to act together Some of you might be like me. Some of you might think I want open options. I want to be able to get different types of girls and Let's not even ignore the fact that once a month your girl does a Jekyll and Hyde on you and become someone else So it's good to be able to like shift And you know potentially possess a number of different qualities that you might want to use Overtime people change when you first meet a girl and she's single she might be an extrovert when you get in a relationship with her You might now have found you're in a relationship with an erotic Are you suddenly not gonna have her or are you just gonna understand how to act when you deal with an erotic And shift and keep the girl or at least understand what's going on so you can make the decision fuck I'm gonna move an erotic for the rest of my life. I don't want that. I want to get back to my extrovert You know, I want to I want to make the shift Understanding this this knowledge. I'm giving you guys lets you understand how to act what to do you could be everything You don't have to choose one you can literally analyze this and think all right What is the correct way that I should be to be able to pick up all of them? And that's what we're gonna look at next so now let's look at these kind of characteristics What we're looking at now is building an attractive profile We're moving away from the passive kind of game stuff where it's like yeah, I'm a nice guy I accept I want neurotic so I'm gonna stay being that now you're talking about controlling it now You're like no, I'm gonna build a profile of an attractive person When I first started teaching this I was scared. I'm gonna tell you guys this I was very scared I've known about this in my head for years But I've never taught it because the way it was in my head wasn't in a way that I could teach and I was scared I Was scared of coming out in the community and saying to you yes, I'm gonna change you You know why because so many of you were saying to me Well, I don't want to change who I am and I listened to that and I was like fuck I don't want to make them think I'm changing them because you know, yeah They should be able to be themselves and then I realized I came number one in the world I know fuck you. I know better change. I did don't be you Be someone else be someone better than you unless you're happy with what you've got if you are happy with what you've got be you Because that's who you are and that's what you get. I Look at myself and my game. I know what I'm supposed to get I Was supposed to get a girl about that high probably Asian. She likes comic books She's a little bit of extra weight on her But you know we play video games together and we hang out that was I know that's what I was supposed to get Because that's all I ever got they were my girls back in the day when I first started this That was all I could pick up and I was like cool and she'd have been cute because she was exotic and people go Wow, man, she's pretty hot, but you know, she'd have always been pretty hot right now I'm dating a girl who's Just as tall as me in high heels and when she walks into room everyone's like wow what the fuck I'm not supposed to date a girl like that. That's new to me. That's because I changed. I became someone different I'm telling you if you are happy with what you have stay the same if you want the same results as another pickup artist Follow them if you're looking at a pickup artist that teaches this and he's single and he's running around and picking up strippers every so often That's what you're gonna get if you follow him go for that if you're thinking I want to meet a guy who sells down in relationships and follow a guy who does that But if you want to be able to get every single freaking woman on the planet And you want to understand how to change your game then you have to be like water You have to shift depending on who you're up against let that whole Bruce Lee jeet khandu thing You're gonna swap your game. I love it. So many people like Adam Adam hates direct game and there's so many other people like Adam had the first direct game video ever out on YouTube And then other people are like oh Adam all social circle stuff that I've ever been Adam does day game I don't does night game. I don't does the only dance floor game video that is actually shown in Everyone's got all this stuff Specialized any one thing I got the whole lot down I got a whole bunch of stuff I've never even released because it's dodgy stuff that works really well that people shouldn't know about like and that's the point Right, there's a whole but I became good at everything and I swap if I'm talking to one go I switched to another but like I said, that's hard for me to teach until now I Can I've now got a model as a proper personality model you guys can take and use You talk about that in a second about how you can specifically use that with the girls So what you need to do is start building up the profile you want a specific type of girl stay as you are Get that type of girl you want to another type of girl shift into that you want all of them Adopt every single quality. So let's analyze them now the leader. He makes decisions But his decisions are made to benefit others for the social group. He's being social He's not just a leader. He's being social. He's interacting with other people He's leading and making decisions that the group agree with and the group includes the women that he's trying to pick up If I make a decision Hey guys, we should all go out to games workshop and paint some miniatures I'm probably a strong enough leader to make girls follow me to that In fact, I know I am because I've done it before but the point is that isn't really a good leadership decision If I want to really gain bonus points, I would turn around to the girls and be like Hey, I think there's a really good sale on it Nordstrom rack. Let's go and pick up some cheap Christian Louboutins And then the women are gonna love me. Yeah, I'm making a leadership decision that benefits them It's an attractive quality, but I'm not being bossy. I'm not forcing them into it Next up I'm a nice guy. I care about the girl I want to make sure she's okay I want to make sure that she's having a good time that she's fun that she's she's looked after I want to make sure she doesn't get hurt. I definitely don't want to be the one to hurt her I have this awesome skill that I've developed in game It's the coolest thing ever that I can't translate to you guys and I wish I could I catch people I'm really good at it Somehow I know where it came from. I learned this ability to spot a girl who's about four and I can catch her Give an example on a recent boot camp that I was doing in Seattle I was walking down the road This girl just trips up in front of me Bang and I catch her and I caught my feel of a breast at the same time I didn't mean to do that but it happened as a side effect And her husband thanked me for catching her and I thought wow, that's really weird I copped to feel your wife's breasts and you thanked me, but that's irrelevant. The point is I caught the girl My wife tripped up this morning. I caught her. I'm really good at this, right? I just I catch people That's a nice guy thing to do you catch people you help people out And I've got this thing like we get on a plane and people are struggling to put their bags Up in the cargo up in the the rafters up there and I help them. I do that because I'm a nice guy I don't think wow that makes me look needy and now my wife's gonna leave me for a guy that tells her he's gonna Fuck her up the bomb. I don't I don't I don't worry about that. I'm not like, oh, that's gonna happen Fuck that doesn't make sense. No, I'm a nice guy. Help out, but I'm not needy I'm not like oh my god I need to follow my wife around everywhere she goes and do whatever she says Because otherwise she might leave me. I'm not like that. I'm not a needy nice guy I'm just a nice guy. I help people out. I help you out. You help me out You screw me over I screw you over back. It's simple I'm a bad boy But where does the bad boy thing come in a bad boy thing comes in because I make reckless crazy choices I do I'll be sitting around one day and I'll be like, uh, you know what? Fuck this. Let's all just go out and eat dessert And let's get four desserts each Now some of you might be like that's not really a bad boy thing to do But if you're hanging around dream, you know, that's a really bad boy thing to do And I made him do that last night. I took him out. He had four desserts. I made I made him I forced him. I was like, you're gonna do this. That's a crazy bad boy thing to do. It's like Screw the diet. Let's just do this. That's a bad boy thing to do. It fits the criteria. Yeah, I'm not like Jumping on a motorbike and you know spraying mud in people's faces But like that's a bad boy thing to do man. That's a that's a crazy kind of thing like I do make reckless decisions Randomly yesterday, this is I can't believe I'm gonna admit this I got in a fight in a public restroom Randomly some dude started insulting me and I was like, no, fuck you dude And I'm I've got my penis out and I'm right. I'm arguing this guy. It was the weirdest thing ever We're going to fight in the restroom But like but I'm a bad boy. I'm not gonna back down. I don't have a problem in in being emotionally reckless But I don't treat people badly I don't Sort of like hurt people. I don't go on my way to make them feel bad I try and help everybody. That's the kind of guy I am. I'm a nice guy that makes crazy reckless decisions I've got I've got this amazing emotional. I'll phone some up and scream at you and then I'll be like, I'm sorry I didn't mean to but that's who I am I'm a bad boy as well. I've got all those qualities. But you know what else I do I clean my teeth Yeah I wash I've got good hygiene. I look after myself someone said to me once they said adam Do you have to be attractive like physically attractive to pick up chicks? I was like, no well You don't have to be good looking But you have to look good You got to do your hair You got to make sure your clothes ironed That you've got to do if you're someone that's just like I shouldn't have to get dressed up for a girl Then expect to get a girl that isn't dressed up for you. Yeah Most of the time the difference in a girl who looks like a Six out of ten And the difference in a girl who looks like an eight out of ten is hair and makeup It's does she spend an hour in front of the mirror making sure she looks good? She does that if you're in a relationship with her she does it for you If you're not in a relationship with her, but she's single she's doing it to meet someone like you But if you don't put that same effort in If you don't put the effort in in front of the mirror to do something use some lotion You know don't have dry flaky skin. I have some people I've got a dry flaky skin I think girls don't like me for it. Do you use moisturizer? Uh, no, I don't want to be gay like Okay, you can be not gay with flaky skin So no girl will touch you because she's worried that your flakes of skin might rub off on her face when she kisses you And I will have a lotion face and be with a woman You will be single alone masturbating with your flaky face I will have my lotion and a girl Okay, I'm gay like you see what I'm saying. Yeah, it doesn't it doesn't make sense. Yeah, it's just my point you guys Work on your hygiene like think about it make you take the time to look good Do the best with what you've got if if you're unfortunate and you know God only gave you one arm It doesn't matter You can get around that no one's going to penalize you some of the best guys I know are picking up chicks. I actually know this guy is disabled. He really only has one arm And he has no problem with girls whatsoever Yeah, it doesn't matter that that's somebody who physically has an issue of looking good You guys none of you have a problem none of you Work out go down the gym. I have to the amount of desserts I eat. I have to work out I'm I'm not getting a really big body or really good body I just have to Compensate for the desserts that I eat So I work out three or four times a week and you'll know if I haven't worked out for a week Because you'll see videos of me and I like this like so what happens So you guys but you have to put the effort in to make sure it's okay. You got to do your hair You got to do it. You got to eye on your shirts Girls notice that kind of stuff because they put the effort in humor I had a student he said to me. I don't know what to do about getting good with women I've tried everything And he came along on a boot camp and I got him a date with a girl I was very proud of this no one else who'd ever got this guy results I got him a date with a girl and I was very happy about it and I told him listen I was like, I don't think this boot camp's done you enough justice He's like I've got a girlfriend like I said you don't have a girlfriend. You got a date dude I say you're happy. I'm not because I don't think you can duplicate these results yet So it's like here is the deal I'm going to give you a free boot camp Because I want you to do the process again. Now you understand it's possible for you because he went through the boot camp not believing it worked And it was only at the end when it worked that he suddenly looked back and went fuck I didn't listen to anything because I was too busy arguing because I didn't believe it worked So I gave the guy a free boot camp and he's coming back and he's going to train with me on one condition And that condition was that he went and did comedy classes Because he's not funny. He's a really serious aggressive guy that disagrees with people I was like man, you need to do comedy classes and comedy classes are cheap guys You can find them for like 20 bucks a lesson and you can do a course of like eight lessons It is nothing compared to the kind of money that we spend on pickup Do a comedy class learn what's funny and what isn't Learn how to be humorous learn how to go out there and make people laugh That's going to counteract that other negative quality Through a mixture of lotion deodorant cleaning teeth And going to comedy classes if you're somebody that doesn't think you're very funny You can develop a lot of a very good skill set that stops you being unattractive The neediness thing and all the other stuff you guys really got that covered You've read enough pickup stuff to know about that But develop these qualities that make somebody attractive guys. This is the real shit This isn't stuff that I've just made up. I don't like stealing credit from from other people I'm giving it where it's due. These are real psychologists. They really did create this stuff and it really does work Told you I've tested it myself I've seen it and I've seen all you guys as I've been talking to you nodding and realizing how it relates To relationships that you have been through in your own life Now I'm not going to keep you guys much longer because I know um you got a lunch break and I don't want to eat into it So guys to sum up Calibration is all about understanding what is going on in the situation There is nothing wrong with using scripted lines, but just be prepared to change them Shift if the girl is wanting to do something different All to them if she doesn't look like she's responding to it change your game Don't just follow someone that's like yeah, do this. This definitely works. They are lying to you Every girl is different You have to make sure that your interaction relates to the girl. You now have a model to use I'm going to throw something out there Up until now the cube has been the thing to use Go online In fact, I'm going to try and put it up on my website But go online and get a hold of the pen model personality test Work out a rough version of it make it yourself just summarize it into 10 questions And then get the girl to answer the questions Tell her it's going to tell her a lot about her insight into who she is Sit down and calculate the personality type of the girl in front of her She'll think it's awesome. You're doing a psychological cold read thing It's anyone who's a pickup guru. You should love that crap, right? But for you It's going to tell you what kind of girl she is It's going to tell you the kind of game. She's going to respond to If you work out you don't have to do it verbally you can make it a fun routine or you can just keep it in your head That's how I do it. I just do it in my head. I analyze what kind of girl she is And if I work out that the girl is a complete crazy psychotic Then I'm going to be a bad boy And if I work out that the girl is Her life isn't so great. She's in a bit of a dead-end job She still works in retail at the age of 26 Then I'm going to make sure I'm a nice guy and I'm going to show us some cool stuff and take her out and around And if I find out she's an extrovert that wants to go out and have fun Then I'm going to make sure that everything going on in my life is awesome And that we're going out there and doing this guys I want to change you if you want the kind of results that I got if you want to be looking at yourself and thinking Wow, I am not with the kind of girl I should be with If you want that then you are going to have to change You're going to have to do something different Rehashed old material don't cut it You're going to have to change for the different types of girls Experience will help with calibration up till now. That's probably how you've been told. Oh, yeah, if you just uh Keep going out there over time calibration will happen You now know what calibration is React to the people you are talking to use it to alter the way you're interacting with them And make sure that you're putting yourself across in the best light You have to worry about game You have to worry about value improving that you're great because you already know the exact kind of guy She wants to be with and now You know how to be Thank you Okay to make peter run as much as we can and ask some questions. So any of you that have any questions Raise your hand. Um, so I start with this guy at the back and then this guy afterwards. So go I really liked your speech on the personality types. Thank you And actually that's one of the things you talked about has been killing me in my relationships I was recently engaged and I always go for the really social girl. Yeah Getting the relationship And the time after time she converts to this Stay at home Take care of everything not go out and I've tried everything I've had this problem for years. It seems to kill my relationships a year or two down the road How do I Work on changing that or is that just something I'm shit out of luck Now there's a there's a number of ways to do it actually we can use um, we can use some of the stuff I was talking about last year in terms of framing to sort of make sure it goes one way First of all, you've got a girl you meet her and she's an extrovert just for For every you meet her she's an extrovert and then the minute you get a relationship She shifts into an erotic and she's sort of yeah And the reason that she sends into an erotic is because she's she thinks she's settled She thinks she doesn't have to go out and socialize anymore. You've got to keep that alive in her So one you can start by pre-framing everything and you can start by saying and predicting what's going to happen And explaining how you don't like that and you can say I've had a whole bunch of relationships And the minute you get there they turn into these quiet homebodies that don't do anything Now the next thing this is a bit controversial I'm going to suggest you're probably half helping that if you're allowing her to sit indoors and stay behind your party to the cause Okay, instead of instead of going out. Yeah, so in that case what you might want to do is do something really extreme So maybe go for like a go to like a holiday vacation Go somewhere completely new where you don't know anybody and you guys have to out and interact Or make it so that you're the other way of doing it is make it so your life is constantly out socially interacting And her only option to be with you is to come out and socially interact If you've been dating a girl for two years and the only way that she really gets to spend time with you is out and about Then she's going to learn very quickly that that's who you are state it This is who I am and say most girls can't keep up with you This is going to filter out a lot of women a lot of women are going to be like well Fuck you. We never spend any time together. You're going to lose all them But that's good because all those girls that you lose would have switched to neurotics The girl that can keep up with you and hack it That's the one So it sounds to me. You're like me. You were looking for a specific type of guy And that's what I did I thought that a lot of girls to be able to get the kind of one I wanted to be with So it sucks because you're not going to have the volume that you want But you know, I'm sure you have a whole bunch of random psychotics while it's going and then you know When it gets to that point, then you'll know she's the one. So yeah, it sucks. It does happen And that's the stuff i'm saying guys like I said you look pack of your relationships You'll see this fit so often. It's the roof shit. Okay Go for it I don't I don't really know what the the study was looking at But have you found any difference between what a girl's looking for and like a one night stand or something versus Versus the long-term relationship the study didn't go into that. So and I've got a really big thing I want to teach on something I specifically don't know this particular study didn't go into that From my own experience on these kind of things The kind of girls that are up for all depends. I'm against one night stands in general Okay, I'm against them and explain this for everybody one night stands The sex is never as good as if you've had a girl for multiple times The effort you put in for one night of sex Doesn't translate when you could be getting multiple sex with the same girl in an open relationship So whenever I get a girl, I actually look more for open relationships rather than one night stands So again, if you're looking for one night stands, there are experts and I would probably say sin Someone like that to go to for that kind of stuff If you're looking for getting a girl on the same night and having multiple long-term relationships That's much more I'm about and in that kind of situation It actually doesn't really matter what type of girl she is An erotic will accept that to not get any of the negative parts of a relationship A psychotic will accept it because she's insane And the the extrovert will accept it because it's fun and it's casual. So all of them will accept that So that's much more my preferred kind of thing Cool next up. Yeah Is there it was there in the study any kind of percentages on The distribution of women about which ones they kind of go to you right not in what I read that doesn't mean There wasn't just honestly like I found a whole paper and a whole bunch of stuff and this was in there and I pulled it out I haven't got hold of the actual physical study itself yet Um, I'm like I said, I was more interested in the other stuff And then I started analyzing all the other bits and sort of like going away with it like the the icing pen model I look more into that so I'm fortunate. I don't have that but I'm sure it's googleable. I'm sure you can find it Yeah Said that just going out and and doing a lot of sets or approaching a lot of girls isn't going to you know Change your personality I'm curious when you're talking about these different personalities because I started as a nice guy But my real personality is a leader. How do you develop? How did you develop these different personalities? Like at things that you question I suppose what I was saying earlier if you just go out and do the same thing It doesn't matter how many sets you do you're going to get the same result The thing that I did that was different is every time I did something I would then change it up and swap it And I suppose that's what I was really trying to say Going out there and doing the same thing over and over again You're going to get the same results and that's like the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again Expecting different results. Yeah The the real key to it is to make sure every time you go out you alter it a bit and that's actually like my game is very Like I said, it's very fluid. It's kind of like all the different mixtures of stuff And the way it developed was If I had a certain type of girl I would do one thing another type of girl another thing and that's because I was always like oh that didn't work I'll change it and I will often change mid game So I'll be talking to the girl rather than going oh that didn't work I'll be like this isn't working So I'm going to change it and so I developed this very fluid construct in my head And I tried to write it down for some of my friends recently to show the difference in the two models My model is unteachable. It's it is literally like memes in my head that just fire each other off Which is it just doesn't help anyone else, but this model is a very Simplified version that's a lot easier for people to grasp in my head. There's probably thousands of categories But you know in real life. There's three makes it easier Cool one more question the last one and then there's a tornado coming or something Okay, or or round it up. I know Yeah Okay When you said you want to be a leader And do things that other people want to do I I find that really very cool But on my uh situation is like I'm in college and a lot of my friends every single night I want to play beer pong and drink and get like really messed up And I don't like to drink that much and when I try to do things that aren't drinking related They usually don't follow so what would you and I usually don't have as much fun Like when we play beer pong and do all those things So what would you suggest a very good point get new friends sucks us I'm I'm so serious about that because the point is when you're leading You always want to make sure you're leading people to do things that that everybody's going to enjoy And if you're doing something that you're not enjoying and you're bringing them to things that they're not enjoying Ain't gonna work So find something you really do enjoy doing and get a whole big group I'm not saying don't be friends with them But I'm saying find a whole group that enjoy doing that and they can all be female We we have a whole point on our course about stuff that people can do So sort of like build up social circles that are specifically tailored to doing certain types of things And that's really what you want to be doing. I don't know anything about you So it's a rough thing. Let's just assume that for the sake of argument you really like Hip-hop dancing I mean throw out there. Maybe you do right and then you could join a gym Join a hip-hop dance class and you'll meet a whole bunch of people that love hip-hop dancing and they are new friends And then you can be like, hey, let's go to a hip-hop club and do hip-hop dancing And they're all going to go with you and it'll be so much fun and they'll really enjoy it Then you can talk to your friends about hey, I'm going out hip-hop dancing Do you guys want to come if they want to come they'll come if they don't they won't But either way, you know that you've got a group that really enjoy that uh one one final thing actually This is probably the most important thing for all of you guys As always, like I said, I said at the very beginning, I'm not here on a on a business thing I'm really not here to to sell you guys anything and I have nothing for sale Instead I convinced gambler the owner of pua training to put up a whole bunch of free content It's up at puatraining.com forward slash under 21. You guys can just go there and get that There'll be a whole bunch of stuff um related to all the different stuff we teach and I'm going to try and make Sure there's some stuff based on this for a bit further. That's completely up for you guys Like I said, it's this shouldn't be about spending money. You guys should be able to get stuff Completely for free put it into practice and get good and then if you want to spend money, obviously you can um Yeah, if anyone a pua training is the best if anybody wants any more information about me puatraining.com has a whole bunch of stuff YouTube I've got a whole bunch of free videos and things like that, but that's that's probably the best Guys, thank you ever so much. Awesome. Thank you