 2018 comes to an end. One excellent goal that you can have going into 2019 is becoming a better person. So in this video, I'm going to give you five tips to be a little bit of a better person going into 2019. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel's all about mental health. And what I like to do is try to help you improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So this is gonna be a short and sweet video. I'm gonna give you five tips, just five very simple things that you can do in 2019 to be a better person. Alright? I'm gonna make a separate video about like mental health, New Year's resolutions, and those are gonna be more science-based, therapy-based, things like that. But these are just like tips, tips to be a better person. And the first tip is a little bit of tough love. Alright? Tip number one is the golden rule. Don't be a dick. You know exactly what I'm talking about. Alright? Stop it. Stop it right now. And what I mean by that is keep your mouth shut when it doesn't need to be open. Like all your little sasses on Twitter or down in the comments section or everything like that. Like sit back and ask yourself for one second. Like one great question. One simple question. Just ask yourself. It's like, when I'm saying this, am I being a dick? If the answer is yes, don't do it. Alright? Like I know it's some like trial and law fairyland type thing that we all wish like, oh, wouldn't it be nice if the world was a little bit better place? I always try to teach you. It's a lot easier for you to fix you than it is to fix the rest of the world. Alright? Quit instigating nonsense. Alright? We have one life to live and we always to way too much time being a dick to people in our lives or random people on the internet. Tip number two, be nicer. And right now you're thinking, Chris, isn't that the same as tip number one? No, it's not because don't be a dick is something I'm telling you not to do. Be nicer is something I'm telling you to do. So there's some action steps. Now quit asking so many questions and pay attention. Alright? Be a little bit nicer. Alright? Part of being nicer is to quit being so selfish and self centered. Alright? Something I love that Gary Vaynerchuk says is the 51% 49% rule. Alright? If you live each day trying to give just a little bit more than you take from this world, I guarantee your life will be better. Okay? So when we're talking about being nicer, ask people how they're doing when you're sitting alone and you're like wrapped up in your thoughts, how about you pick up the phone and call somebody and ask them how they're doing. Alright? When you're at the grocery store, ask somebody if you can help them out. If you see somebody drop something on the ground, pick it up for him. Alright? Pick up after yourself. Don't be a litter bug. Make the world a little bit better of a place. Alright? Be nicer. Give people compliments. Give people random compliments. In fact, that does go great with number one. Alright? So when you're busy not being a dick, how about you say something nice to somebody else instead? There's actually something I do quite often. Alright? A lot of you don't even realize I'm doing it. But whenever somebody is mean to me, I purposely do something nice for somebody else. I don't know if it's like me trying to balance the karma of the world or what it is. But like instead of being a jerk to people, try being a little bit nicer. Do something. Okay? Tip number three, this is a tip that you should carry on for the rest of your life. Quit caring so much about what other people think. Do you know? Do you know how many messages I get on a daily basis from all of you? And I love each and every one of you so, so much. You have no idea how much I love you. But most of you message me and it's like, Hey, I know about the Facebook group. Hey, I know about the Discord server, but I'd rather talk to you alone. And you know why that is? Because you care way too much about what people think. Like let me let me break this down for you. If you join a mental health support group or if you join our Discord server, okay, you are surrounded by a bunch of people who have acknowledged that their brains are a little bit screwy. Like I used to tell this to my clients all the time and it sounds a little bit rough. But it's the truth. Okay, but why do you care so much about what a bunch of other people with mental illnesses are thinking of you? All right, like that sounds rough. But like think about that for a second. Okay, we value so many other people's opinions more than our own. And aside from that, aside from it holding us back and like talking or reaching out and getting help, like one thing that it does is it holds us back in life, right? You might be worried about pursuing a career, because you're so worried about what other people are going to think what are your parents going to think what are your friends going to think? What are all these other people going to think you need to do you boo? All right, quick caring so much about what people think the number one way that you can do this is to always have the right intentions. Okay, so if you follow tip number one and two by not being a dick and trying to be nicer, you don't have to worry so much about what other people think. How do you think I survive as a mentally healthy YouTuber because I do not care what Joe Schmo 85 says to me in the comments. Okay, I do not care what that person thinks. All right, so work on this just a little bit going into 2019 tip number four is really important. All right, cut yourself some slack when you screw up. I hate to break it to you. I hate to break it to you. But in 2019, you're going to screw up, you're going to screw up so much. But guess what? So am I. And so is every other person who is watching this video. All right, practice a little bit of kindness toward yourself and cut yourself some slack. One great way to think about this is like, what would you tell like a good friend of yours, right? A good friend of yours. If they they screwed up something silly. Okay, I'm not saying like they they accidentally like robbed a bank or something. Right. But like, you're going to mess up. We are all going to mess up. I see so many people who are struggling with their mental health because they're striving for perfection. Guess what? It's never going to happen, baby. You ain't never going to be perfect. All right. Now I'm not giving you permission to go screw up on purpose. But when you screw up, learn from it. But cut yourself a break. You're human. I'm human. I'm going to screw up. Everybody else is going to screw up. So cut yourself a little bit of a slack next year. And my final tip is something that I do each and every day. If you're wondering how I've gotten to where I am today is with this final tip. All right. Be a little bit better of a person each day than you were the day before. That's it. Okay. So many people, so many people, we have this like issue with patience, right? We want to become an amazing person today. We want to be rich today. We want to have a relationship today. We want to have all the stuff today. Don't worry about that stuff. Be a little bit better of a person each day. So tips number one through four, you're going to screw those up too. All right. So just wake up in the morning and say, okay, how do I improve a little bit more than where I was yesterday? So if you were a dick yesterday to somebody, how about you apologize today? You see what I mean? Be a little bit better of a person than you were yesterday. All right. Not a ton. Just a little bit. Just a little. Just that much. That much. And every day that's different. It's different for me. It's different for you every single day. Someday I'm trying, some days I'm trying to be a better YouTuber. Sometimes I'm trying to be a better boyfriend. Sometimes I'm trying to be a better father. Sometimes I'm trying to be a better friend. Sometimes I'm trying to be a better son. A better neighbor. Whatever it is. Okay. So each day just try to improve just a little bit. Like think about it. Have you ever seen like those silly things? They're not silly. Like if you want to save money. But they tell you like to like save like a dollar every day for you know a year. Then you have $365 by the end of the year. Whatever it is. Like think about if you do that with your mental health and and who you're trying to be as a person. Okay. Think about the the the amount of goodness you'll accumulate by the end of next year if you just try to improve a little bit each and every day. By the end of next year you are going to be a badass. I guarantee it. Okay. So start working on improving just a little bit every single day. By not being a dick. Being nicer to people. All right. What did I say for number three? Oh. Quit caring so much what other people think. And cut yourself some slack. All right. Anyways. I hope you enjoyed this video. These are things that I try to practice all the time. And with the new year coming up. I know everybody's got resolutions. And who couldn't benefit from becoming just a little bit better of a person. In fact, do me a favor. Share this video with other people. Share with other people. And maybe maybe they'll become a little bit better of a person going to 2019 too. All right. That's all I got for you this video. If you like this video please give it a thumbs up. If you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. And a huge huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You are all amazing. 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