 Hey everybody jr. Fisher here want to say good morning to you. We're gonna have a great session today I've got some really cool stuff lined up for you And I appreciate you being on this live broadcast. I want you to make use of this chat I have a iPad right here, and I can talk back to you. I may just verbally talk back to you But if you're live on here, why not introduce yourself say who you are today is a really cool session I'm gonna provide you guys with a quiz that you can take And it's all about the imposter syndrome and we're gonna talk about that today And I'm also going to talk to you about An illness that I got that that one that hit the whole world. I Want to talk to you about that But I want you to feel confident that you can ask any questions you want you can put any you know Suggestions, you know just be part of it. Tell me where you're at where you're coming from I know we're live on YouTube but Facebook, I don't know if it's working on there I got an error message on my screen. So who knows if that's working, but that's okay. Hey, I'm loving being back live with you guys I'm gonna do more and more of it. I promised I would start a cooking channel and I'm gonna start that very soon I know I keep saying that I've got no excuses right now Okay, because I'm healthy now, but I do want to talk to you about that I got that that virus that was going around the world And I want to share that with you real quick and what happened I got sick. I guess at the end of September. I was in Cleveland, Ohio My son was in the hospital. I went there to see him because he was in bad shape they had They had botched an operation a simple operation and it made it a whole lot worse He ended up having two more operations while I was there and now that I think back on it You know, that's it's just really horrendous what he went through and all the pain He had to go through because a doctor didn't do her job properly But that's neither here nor there. I wasn't feeling well And I left there on the 28th of September And when I left there, I will flew back to Austin, Texas I live in Georgetown, which is just north of Austin, Texas And I wasn't feeling well. I mean, I didn't have an appetite I just I felt kind of hot and kind of cold and just didn't feel right And I got back on the 28th and the 29th. I got worse and by the 30th I felt horrible and I thought I had the flu. I thought I had the flu something like that and So my wife took me to the emergency room and I was shivering Well, we first we first went to a clinic and they took my temperature And they said you need to go to the ER to get checked for COVID And I probably shouldn't have said that word because I'll get demonetized or something But I did want to share with you what I had and I went to the hospital and I was in the ER and When I was in the ER, they gave me the test for the flu, but they also tested me for COVID and They came back after about two hours of sitting there. I was very uncomfortable and they said, you know, you have a fever of about 102 and Yeah, you don't have the flu. You do have COVID So, you know, I didn't have any breathing difficulties, but I felt really awful and they sent me home and My fever started to spike. My fever went up to a hundred and four and a half Which was miserable. I gotta tell you it really was miserable. I had zero appetite. I couldn't I couldn't eat any food whatsoever But I took some time at all after about two weeks of this I started to feel better. I started to feel better again. I started to feel like myself again And I and I got through it and I was very grateful. I was very grateful that I got through it And about a week later A friend of mine from gosh 30 some odd years ago Sent me a message and he said I have a family member that's ill How long did it take you to get over, you know, what you had And I said, well, you know, it was a couple weeks or something like that And he says he and he finally said, you know, my son's in the hospital With the same thing and his son is 40 years old And this was probably yeah like a week after so I'm thinking the first week of october and His son was in the hospital and he was getting progressively worse What is this now? This is november and this was the first week of october. He got progressively worse and worse and worse They ended up saying his o2 was low So they put him on a ventilator about a month ago I would say something like that And then they said at this one hospital that he was at that they couldn't help him anymore They need to send him to another hospital. So they flew into another hospital They were going to put him on a ECMO machine, which you can look that up But basically it cleanses your blood and oxygenates it again And they said he wasn't a good candidate and his kidney started to fail And as of two days ago, he's passed away Um, and it's a very sad story and and I want to share it with you guys because You don't really have control Over what's going to happen in your life. The only thing you can really control Is how you react to things both physically and mentally. That's it. That's all you can really do Uh, and I'm going to talk to you today about imposter syndrome Uh, and it's a syndrome that actually 70 of the population have so if you're in a room of 10 people There's seven people in that room going through this And I'm also going to provide you with a test that you can take. It's totally anonymous because all you do is You go to a page and you download it and you take it in the privacy of your own home So it's not online or anything like that. You don't have to worry about that But it'll let you know, you know, what's going on in your brain a little bit And I want to talk to you about the syndrome What it is uh, why it affects us all that good stuff So we can kind of you know, zero in on it, you know and and see, you know, do I have this thing? Is it is it causing me trouble in my life? um Do you ever kind of feel like you're a sheep and wolf clothing and what I mean by that is Um, a sheep and wolf clothing is like you appear to be strong willed. You appear to be powerful You appear to be very independent But on the inside you kind of feel weak on the inside you feel unsure on the inside you feel scared But nobody around you really knows that they don't see that You kind of have this feeling of am I good enough? You have a lot of self-doubt a nagging feeling that you know, maybe you're a fraud You know, maybe all the things you've done really don't matter And that is really descriptive of what um imposter syndrome is Um, and it's something that can really hinder you if you don't get a grasp on it According to a study as a matter of fact an international journal of behavioral science Um, you know 70 of the population has this The term itself was actually first coined in the 70s by psychologist Dr Suzanne Imes and and those are the ones that did the test i'm going to give you uh, and dr Pauline rose plants And it refers to really It it affects more high achieving people than it does anybody else people have achieved a whole lot People who exhibit imposter syndrome remain convinced that their own success and achievement are attributed to luck and timing Because they were able to fool others into thinking that they're smarter and more competent Than they actually are. I've been through it myself You know, I've I've been on stage and I've been talking to groups of people A couple hundred people at a time sometimes and i'm thinking why would they want to listen to me? I mean, why me? I don't know anything You you kind of get that feeling And I think we are all affected by this a little bit But I also want to go over some of the top people very famous people that struggle with the same thing To kind of share with you, you know, if you're feeling this way if you're feeling insecure That there's other people feel the same way and I also want to You know, I want to let you know that feeling this way will prevent you from doing a lot of the things that you could accomplish Thinking that you're not good enough or that, you know, you don't do Well enough It's really going to stop you from getting a lot of places you want life And one thing I forgot to ask you to do Please do me a favor and subscribe to this channel. I don't forget to turn on Wait a second. Hang on. Hang on. Hang on. Hang on. Is the bell in the picture now? Yes Turn on all bell notifications. So you notified each and every time I go live Okay, I got got to get my commercial out of the way, but that's that's pretty important stuff Um I guess the bell needs to be here to show up. Well, I just saw it on my screen and read Okay, so there's other factors that lead to feeling the sense of being a fraud And How you feel different from everybody else and how you feel different from your peers, you know It could be your appearance. It could be your gender. It could be your sexual orientation. It could be your race It could be any defining characteristics. Um, as a matter of fact, they say millennials Actually be a crippling type thing now this this syndrome is not listed in any Or That um, but it exists why they don't I don't know but it's it's just it's a thing. Okay Um, it could be how you were brought up. It could be, you know, maybe you had a parent who you know Would tell you how lousy you are in the next moment. They would tell you how great you are and it was confusing to you I know I had a parent like that Um, while some people may see adaptability as a good trait to possess It can also make others feel like they aren't equipped to Deal with life and deal with stuff One attribute that commonly occurs in high achieving people And often accompanies imposter syndrome or is perfectionism. We think we're perfectionist. Okay And if you if you're a perfectionist, you are probably suffering from imposter syndrome And in perfection really is unachievable. We all know this. I mean deep down inside We know that you know, we can't be a perfectionist, you know, we can't do things perfectly We're going to make mistakes. We're humans. Okay And I mean life doesn't always happen fairly. I just told you the story about, um, you know, my illness and my friend's son Um, and he was considerably younger than me. Uh, he had two daughters And a wife and he passed away and and and that seems terribly unfair Um, but the reason I share that story with you is that you're still here Okay, you're still here. So since you're still here You want to be able to do all the things you want to do. Okay This perfectionism thing is a crippling thing and it it'll manifest itself a couple different ways You will way over prepare for everything and waste tons of time Um, or you will procrastinate not do anything because you're afraid you're going to do it wrong So perfectionism is not an admirable trait. It really is a lot of people say, well, I'm a perfectionist and and I say it with this Such pride and I'm thinking to myself. No, you're you're a procrastinator or you're just wasting time Okay, that's that's what perfectionism really means You know criticism failure, uh and mistakes seem to be the only thing that people with imposter syndrome Really dwell upon. Okay, they dwell on all the negative stuff This trait often translates into a deep running fear of a person's failure Being exposed can limit your chance to really explore And take a leap of faith and try a lot of things you want to try Let me get a sifter real quick All right, guys put whatever comments you want in that chat section there I love to hear from you and I know some of you may be you know watching this and it's not live It was recording but you know put put your comments below if that's the case and I'll come back and answer you Ah, that's some good tea. I don't drink coffee tears up my stomach, but that's some good tea so Another great reflective tool that many people use Includes, you know to really get you out of the syndrome it includes but making a list of your successes accomplishments All your positive experiences Where they stood out or where you felt like you truly deserve accolades that you achieved I know a lot of times, you know people will say well You know, I just happen to be in the right place at the right time I don't really deserve this, you know And I'm going to go through some of these famous people and what they were thinking because it's it's pretty darn interesting Um in the name of cutting in or cutting out the isolation that comes with uh the infamous imposter syndrome I'm going to go through a list of highly successful individuals and their respective fields Who at some point have or still experience these crippling insecurities? Let's start off by a guy named Albert Einstein Every even a male like Einstein's caliber or caliber In genius was not immune to feeling like a frog Perhaps one of the most influential scientists of the last 500 years Albert Einstein was known to have faced imposter syndrome later on in life He was once quoted as saying and i'm going to read this quote here. I don't want to get it wrong The exaggerated esteem in which my life work is held Makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler So he didn't even think highly of himself. It's really kind of weird. Uh, I want to take another example Maya Angelou Maya Angelou, uh, lusibachimas is one that could hardly be replicated by somebody else. She was a poet She did civil rights. She was a memoirist She was an actor. She was director producer. She even authored and published seven autobiographies three books of essays countless books on poetry And an extremely impressive literary career Where she actually Was credited with writing a long list of plays movies television screenplay she did all these things all the while Facing her own personal hardships now a woman of such substance and Ability yet Maya Angelou was once quoted as saying and I will read the quote here I have written 11 books, but each time I think uh, oh They're going to find out now. I've run a game on everybody and they're going to find me out That's how she felt about herself. It's craziness, right? Uh, another guy you've probably heard of John Steinbeck another brilliant actor Steinbeck was the winner of two of the most prestigious awards in the world The 1962 Nobel Prize in literature and the Pulitzer Prize for his famous work the grapes of rap not only Not only okay are his literary works inspiring generations You know after his death his books are also being adapted into movies Namely the one in 2016, which is in dubious battle Which starred James Franco and Selena Gomez and contrary to successful others Uh or contrary to how successful others thought he was Steinbeck wrote in his journal. This is what he wrote to himself I am not a writer. I've been fooling myself and other people. John Steinbeck. What? What? Okay, so it's not just you guys if you're struggling with this um Cheryl sandberg now you may on the surface may not know who Cheryl sandberg is but you will in just a second She was the first woman to serve on facebook's board of directors She actually Had been linked to other impressive organizations and the past she had also been the vice president of global online sales and operations at google And had an active role in launching google.org Which is the company's uh philanthropic vertical Her long list of achievements further includes serving on the united states secretary of treasure chief of staff and being named in the times 100 most influential people in the world list and She also established the lenient foundation and became an author She said to be worth over one billion dollars. Thanks to her stocks and facebook. Okay, that was a good investment Um and several other profitable companies even after achieving that even after achieving that She said there are still days when I wake up feeling like a fraud not sure where Excuse me. Not sure. I should be where I am Okay, even her if that if that stature, uh, and I want to pull out an actress here that we all probably know meryl streep She was probably hailed as one of the best actresses of her generation And she was really famous for her ability to adapt to different accents and her versatility in all these roles Streep is said to be one of the only six actors who had won three plus competitive oscars for acting and 20 nominations Okay, she had 30 golden globe nominations which she won eight. Okay, so that's pretty pretty big accomplishment Now she was awarded the national medal of arts in 2010 and the president's medal of freedom in 2014 by president obama And she's managed to secure accolades and fame internationally too Wherein the government of france made her the commander of orders of arts and letters in 2003 Even after Breaking all these records and winning the highest and most prestigious awards possible across the globe meryl street Still has been quoted as saying this is her quote. You think Why would anyone want to see me in a movie? And I don't know how to act anyhow. So why am I doing this? That's what meryl streep said You know guys, you know, if you're feeling a little uncomfortable In your own skin. Look at all these people. I'm going to share with you a few more and show you what you can do about it Tina Fey Tina Fey who I love. I think she's awesome A female comedian, I mean to make it in our Sexism society is pretty tough anyhow, but Tina Fey Has truly carved out a niche for herself while silencing anybody who was a critic. She is an actor She's a writer. She's a comedian. She's a producer She's won nine prime time Emmy awards two golden globe awards five screen actors guild awards Four writers guild of american awards and throughout her career so far. She's been able uh been awarded the associated press entertainer of the year in 2008 furthermore She surpassed any remaining glass ceilings that she was awarded the mark twain prize for american humor in 2010 Okay, so that was making her the youngest recipient of the word or excuse me of that award ever She talks candidly about her encounter with imposter syndrome and here's a quote from tina fe the beauty Of imposter syndrome Is you vacillate between extreme egomania in a complete feeling of i'm a fraud Oh god, they're on to me. I'm a fraud So you just try to ride the ego name egomania when it comes and enjoy it and then slide through the idea of fraud That's what tina fei had to say. Okay, so if you're feeling this way guys if you're feeling this way It's it's something that so many people feel sharyl strahan She was an incredible one She had a really tough past her mother died of lung cancer and she took to heroin to deal with it She took heroin, okay This eventually led to the end of her first marriage strahans and I know you don't know her yet I'm gonna tell you who she is strahans journey to self healing and self discovery Let her to hike solo along the 1100 long pacific coast trail without any proper knowledge or experience of hiking at the age of 26 she was able to Capture the parallel natives narratives of the experiences during the hike and her personal challenges in life in the book She wrote a book on this. She is a memorized. She's an sas. She's a podcast host and she's an author of five best-selling books Even though she was triumphant in the face of adversity and difficult situations that got her through by herself Nobody helped her. Okay. She was also dealing with imposter syndrome. Here's what she wrote Writing is always full of self doubt But the first book torch is really full of self doubt And it was much more of a struggle to keep faith by the time I wrote wild I was familiar with that feeling of doubt and self-loathing. So I just thought, okay This is how it feels to write a book Okay, so she was messed up. Okay I mean I could go through a list. I'll give you a couple more. Emma. Emma Watson She's an active model activist With a net worth of 70 million dollars At the age of 27 she had accomplished that her accomplishments include graduating from brown university with a bachelor's degree in english literature All the while handling a professor acting career as well Okay, the british academy of film and television arts honored watson with the british arts Excuse me the british artists of the year title in 2014 and in the same year She was appointed as a un woman goodwill ambassador with her role at the u.m Watson launched The he for she campaign that actively encourages men to take up the role of gender equality advocates Reaching such heights of success at such a young age sometimes made her feel like an imposter because here's what she had to say When I was younger. I just did it. I just acted It was just there. So now when I received recognition for my acting. I feel incredibly uncomfortable I tend to turn in or myself. I feel like an imposter. It was just something I did Okay, now there's a great story here and I want to find my notes here Uh, I I have a couple other people. What time is it? We get a little bit long on time. So, um, let me let me uh Look at here's here's how to know if you have imposter syndrome Okay, I want you to think of these things and then I'm going to give you the link for the quiz It's going to be in the description of this video. So if you look in the description, you're going to find the link But if you have a marginally higher level of stress than most people do If you get anxiety over the smallest things If you procrastination that leads to even more anxiety Uh, if you're constantly living in the fear of someone finding out about the lack of experience or skills Uh, if you feel like they you don't belong Uh, always either understanding or completely disclaiming your achievements and experiences Do you shy away from asking for a raise because they feel that somebody else may deserve it more than them? Uh, you know, are you in that boat? Uh, not applying for jobs extreme nervousness Overpreparing for task. Excuse me. I make these It's live. What are you going to do? Looking for perfectionism and everything you do These are all traits of this. These are all traits of this guys Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. Okay. That's what that really is now Let's take a moment here and I want I want to talk and I find I want to find my story here Uh Where is my story or I got a bunch of notes here on my screen Okay So there was this guy He's a pretty famous podcaster and he got invited to a group of super Super Achieving people big big room of super achieving people and he sees a guy in the hallway and uh, he starts to talk to the guy in the hallway, uh, and He says to him why you stand out here. He says well because I don't belong in that room and he says well, you were invited He says I know but I just don't belong in the room because why do you feel that way? He says well, all those people in that room All those people in that room really accomplished something He says me I was just there And it turns out it was the first man to set foot on the moon That's all of it And and you think about that, you know in his mind He had forgotten about all the training all the work all the physical stuff all the book smarts You know all the tests he's passed and all that he just thought you know He would just happen to be there. He just happened to be there Um, so it's incredibly enlightening if you if you look at this guys And you see what's going on in your head and other people's heads Um, and if you if you feel like this put put up put something in the comments I will you know, I'll tell you I felt like this many many times Put your comments in there say hey, yeah, I felt the same way before It's nice to know that other people feel the same way And it truly is guys, um, you know that we go through so much of life And we're just always worried about things. We're always concerned about things And we're not really just enjoying ourselves, right? and I think back to um The friend of mine whose son passed away and for some reason, you know I was talking to my wife and I was saying for some reason I lived and he died We had the same thing. Okay. I got sick. I didn't feel good. Well, what was me? But he died he had two little girls He had a wife, you know, if you if you say well life, you know, it's got to be fair and you know That guy should live and you should have died because your kids are raised and all this But but the fact remains is for some reason I'm here. Okay. It may be to talk to you today It may be so that I can share this message with you today It may be and I know we're I normally talk about making money online But it's not just about making money online You got to get your head right first if you don't have your head right You're never going to make money online. You're never going to be successful You've got to understand that you're here for a reason You don't know what it is But you got to keep trying you got to keep trying all these things and don't let this Perfectionism or this imposter syndrome Prevent you from trying stuff that you know, you probably should try, you know At the end of your life, you're you're not going to look back and say man I wish I had more money in the bank right now You're okay. I'm going to care about that money in the bank. Okay, you're going to care about what you did The only thing you're going to only thing you're going to do at the end of life I think is look at all the regrets all the things you didn't do Okay, all the things you wanted to do that you couldn't do I think that's what's really going to happen at the end of life. I really do believe that So if you if you want to take the test Look in the description of this video There's a link there. Are you good? All you gotta do is click on the link It'll take you you download the test and you can take it and you can see where you stand on there This test was devised By these psychologists who actually coined the phrase imposter syndrome So it's it's a really good test. I think it's very informative. I took it myself I won't give you my score, but yeah, I got imposter syndrome So a lot of us do it if you have it, you know, you can work on it You can google things that you know, and I don't want to get into a whole lot of detail So I could talk for two hours on what you could do about it But the first thing I think we all got to realize and that's why I shared the story with you Is you're alive. You're here for a reason Don't not do things because you're scared You know that it won't work out or you think that you aren't deserving or whatever do whatever you want to do I mean do whatever you want to do if you don't do these things guys If you don't do these things you're going to regret it later on. I promise you you're going to regret it later on So make sure you do it. I really appreciate you guys being here today If you enjoyed this and you got something out of it, do me a favor put something in the comment section Love talking to you guys. I'm going to be going live a whole lot more I know I missed a little bit. I had some illnesses. I moved blah blah blah. They're all excuses. I'm not going to use them Bottom line is I need to go live more with you guys and spend more time with you and help you I'm here to help you in your business This channel is all about starting running and growing online businesses marketing online making money online That's all I'm about and that's all I want to help you. Thank you so much for being here guys I really do appreciate it. Um, like I said, give me a thumbs up if you don't mind. Don't forget to subscribe Don't forget Bring the bell turn on all bell notifications. See you're notified each and every time I go live Thank you so much for being here. Don't forget grab that quiz that test whatever you want to call it It's in the description. I'll talk to you later