 Hey psyched goers and welcome back to our channel. Thank you all so much for the love that you've given us Your ongoing support has helped us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. So thank you now Let's continue isn't having a new boyfriend or girlfriend. So exciting There are butterflies and flirty texts brushes on the arm that make you light up and long conversations over the phone The beginning of a new relationship can feel so heady and come with a head rush of emotions and thoughts But how can you be sure that your new bae is ready for a romantic relationship? How do you find out if you're both on the same page? To help you gain more clarity in your situation here are five signs that someone isn't ready Number one they're going out with a lot of different people Have you ever been in a situation where you're getting to know someone and are starting to develop feelings only to find out that They're going on multiple dates with other people It can be jarring and is heartening to find out the person you like is seeing other people According to global news comm this is a common scenario due to the popularity of dating apps Apps like tinder bumble hinge and countless more have vastly widened the pool for potential partners Online dating expert Julie Spira while advocating for casting a wider net also explained the darker side Casting such a wide net she says that if someone continues to play the field and doesn't take a digital leap of faith with one person They may end up on a merry-go-round and end up in a series of one-and-done dates or dates that don't go past a few weeks If this is happening to you and you're not currently seeing anyone else elite daily notes that having a straightforward Conversation about where the two of you are could be helpful in establishing what the dynamic will be moving forward in a committed relationship Number two, they bring up their ex often. Have you ever wondered why your new partner keeps bringing up their ex? Have you been stuck thinking that it could mean something deeper? Maybe they mentioned their ex out of nowhere or reach out to their ex on their birthday or still keep in touch with their ex's family If you're entering into a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable because they have unresolved feelings for someone else This could lead to a big hurdle in trying to properly connect with them If they strictly engage in polite conversation with you and don't talk to you about anything deeper or more meaningful And it feels like they push you away when you get too close to an emotional boundary Then this is a sure sign that they aren't ready for a real relationship with you Number three, they don't know what they want. Have you ever expressed exactly what you need from someone only to be met with an I don't know from the other person It's hard for someone to be all in and ready for a relationship with you If he, she, or they is unsure of what they want It puts you in an unstable kind of situation with little support Wishy-washiness and a shaky sense of commitment is never a good sign when it comes to establishing a relationship Number four, they're flaky. Does your partner text you last minute and bail on plans or dates all the time? Or if they do happen to show up, are they chronically late to every gathering? This is a major problem when your partner has an inability to follow through on plans or arrive on time This type of behavior shows a lack of commitment and a skewed sense of priorities If they can't or refuse to make time for you, then you simply aren't important enough for them as They'll always have better places to be and friends to hang out with and number five There's a lack of progression in the relationship Does it feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Has there been too much distance between dates? Has it felt like there have been any steps taken forward in the relationship at all? When you're suffering a lack of progression in your relationship There might never be a mention of a future together or there's no immediate plans being made Or you're struggling to feel emotionally fulfilled According to lifestyle.com the progression of a relationship typically occurs in five stages Attraction and romance reality sets in Disappointment the stage in which conflicts get resolved and there is growth in a healthy partnership And finally stability and commitment If it feels like this dynamic is in limbo and isn't headed towards the next stage It could very well mean your partner simply isn't ready to take the plunge and be in a relationship Did you relate to any of the signs mentioned? If you're unsure of your relationship status and feel like you're holding on to a shaky sense of commitment from your partner Then it's time to give things a hard look And choose to fix the issues or move on You'll figure out what's best for you. 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