 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survivor live video. Today I'm at this resort in Laguna, the Philippines, and we're going to be talking about why the narcissist had to leave you, because it's like in the beginning they were very into you. They liked everything that you were doing, everything that you were about. They were all on you. They were all over you. It's like they couldn't get enough of you. And then all of a sudden things seemed to die down. It began to fizzle out. It began to fade away. And it's like you just can't understand the reason why. But what they will do when they ghost or discard you is that they will typically blame you. They will hold you accountable for anything that went wrong. They will say that it's all your fault. When in reality that's just so they can evade accountability for their actions, and just use it as a way to justify the abuse. So their whole narrative is that the reason why they're doing what they're doing is because of something that you are meant to have done. That's kind of where they're going with it. That's what they use to make their exit plan. And then to move on with someone else. But it leaves you very confused. It creates this cognitive dissonance. Because at some level you understand that there's no way that that could possibly be the truth. It just doesn't add up. It doesn't make any sense. And your suspicions are correct. Because the reason why they had to leave you is because they were actually running from a reflection of themselves that they didn't like. It's not so much about anything to do with you. You were fine. You were their source of supply. So they were quite happy with you. It's only when you started to shine the light on them, you started to point out their shortcomings. That's when it became a problem. That's when they blamed you for everything. Because that's the thing with these narcissists. They have a farce character. They have to sustain the illusion at all costs. That if you threaten the illusion, they will abandon you. They will target you with a smear campaign. And they will do whatever it takes to destroy you. To maintain that illusion. To uphold the false character. Because that's really the only thing that matters to them. They don't care about anything else. And I know many of you, you blame yourself. You assume that there was something to do with you. You weren't good enough. When in actuality, it's because they knew they weren't good enough for you. That's why they had to leave you. Because you were putting out all of these good things for them. You were there for them whenever they needed you. But they couldn't be there for you in the same way. They couldn't reciprocate what you were given out. So they stuck around only to leech off you for as long as they could. And then things started to catch up to them. And they stirred them out of time. And it was beginning to threaten the narrative. A reason for why they did. And of course, that's when they begin to blame you. They spread rumors and gossip about you. They talk about you to other people behind your back. And what are they doing all of this for? Of course, the reason why is to maintain the illusion. But they already know that they're no good for you. And that's why they had to leave you. Because the longer that you were around them, it's just like a constant threat. Even though you're not meaning to, you're not intending to expose anything, but just your presence. It exposes everything. It makes them look bad. It makes them feel bad about themselves. It resurfaces their insecurities that they were trying to suppress. And that's why they have to go. Because they don't want to look bad. They don't want to feel bad. But they do whenever they're around you. They don't feel comfortable around you. And I'm sure many of you could see it in their behaviors and how they treated you. They were always punishing and abusing you. They were very envious and jealous of you. They were always acting silly, crazy and foolish whenever you were around. Because you were bringing reality right to them. And they didn't want to deal with it. They didn't want to look at themselves and accept who they are. It's like whenever you were there, it was like this mirror reflection in front of them. Reflecting back to them their own insecurities that they just didn't want to deal with. So their only option was to get rid of you, to discard you, to ghost you. And then they run off and they find another victim. Someone who they deem to be a bigger fool. Someone who is unaware. Because then at least that person will not reflect anything bad about as to why for them anyway. As to why for them anyway. Which is why they will typically wait around for the right moment when things start to get better for you. And then that's typically when they will hoover you. That's when they will come back. This is my little cabin at this resort for tonight. It's kind of like a tent. I've never stayed in one of these before. So this should be interesting. But yeah, I mean this is just the thing with these narcissists. They come around you as long as you're still susceptible to the manipulation and they're able to deceive you. Then there's no problem. But as soon as you start to catch on then they're ready to get rid of you. Because then you're becoming a threat to them and it leaves them unable to sustain the illusion. So they look at it like what do I have to do to keep this illusion going. To maintain my false character. And of course the only option is to get rid of you once you become too strong. Once you're not letting up, you're not giving in. You keep pushing and pressuring them. Of course then they've just got to take you out because it's either that or the illusion falls apart. And then they have to accept themselves as they actually are. Which is no of course that's something they don't want to do. They don't want to reflect on themselves. They don't want anything to do with themselves. That's why they disown these parts of themselves that they don't like going to sign them to you. And then they blame you for everything. Even though they're just projecting everything that they're doing to you on to you. It's like they're blaming you for your own abuse. So don't feel like it's you or that you ain't good enough. You've got to look back and remember everything you did for them. You did a lot. You tried everything you could to please them to make them happy. But nothing you did was ever good enough. And you've got to look back and think who else would have possibly have done as much as you did for them? Who else would have put up with everything that you did? Who would have tolerated all of that and still stayed and still brought all of this value to them to their lives? And that's how you should know that they're never going to find anyone as good as you. That's really as good as it gets for them. But for us we can move on. And we can find people who really respect. And you're never going to be anything as significant to them. You're never going to matter that much. Their image, their illusion, their false character, that comes before that it's not you. It wasn't you. It was them. You were confronting them. You weren't tolerating the things that they were doing anymore. You had enough of them. And at some point of course they realized that wasn't going to be you. And that is why they had to leave you. Anyway, that's it for this video. I'd just like to thank you all for joining me. And if you found it helpful, you can give it a thumbs up down below. 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