 there is a lot of stuff out there on the internet that says validation is bad. I disagree. I feel like validation is something that should be reserved for people who are very close to you, and especially not strangers, not people that you don't know, that people that don't know you. If someone in my life was to say, oh, Tom, you're a horrible person, you look like, you look terrible, that's going to have a bit more of an impact on me emotionally, and going to make me feel a bit worse than if it was some randomer on YouTube who's watched like 60 seconds of my video and made a comment. So there's levels to it, and I think once you can stop trying to validate yourself through the attention or the positive affirmation from strangers, you're in a good place.