 There are two kinds of disabled people, the good kind and the bad kind. Ugh, I learned pretty quickly when I became an amputee that society had two stories for me. I could either be inspirational, overcome all the odds, make people feel great about themselves by doing things despite my disability, or I could be the weird, uncomfortable disabled person in society who had a hard time with their disability sometimes, recognize they had limitations, maybe felt sad about that, and was defined by their disability. It was so weird because these paths are so black and white. You can be all of it or none of it. Or in my case, a little bit of both, but we don't really have a narrative for someone who really struggles with their limitations or their disability without condemning them. And if we see disabled person as inspiring, we don't really allow them any room to struggle. In reality, there isn't a right and a wrong way to be disabled. You can experience the full range of human emotions, do whatever you wanna do with your life. Societal narratives be damned.