 The Narcissist has to keep you in the box. I did a video a few months ago on how the Narcissist puts you in a box. In this video I am going to expand on this topic and talk about how and why the Narcissist has to keep you in the box. Whether the Narcissist is your parent, relationship partner, friend or co-worker They will create their own rules or standards that they expect you to conform to. They expect you to comply and meet these specified standards. The rules or standards that they create are not to establish a functional healthy relationship. They are not about growth or development. They are not in your best interest. The Narcissist puts you in this box where they expect you to conform to their rules or standards for their own desires or interests to meet their own needs without any care or consideration for you. Most often their rules or standards may even be detrimental to your health and well-being. Their rules and standards will prevent your growth and development. They will make you feel uncomfortable, depressed, anxious, insecure because as a human being who is meant to have their own desires, wants and needs, their own beliefs, values and principles, you are not designed to be placed into the box. You are not designed to be restricted or limited. You are not designed to be forced to conform to rules or standards which have a harmful effect on your health and well-being. Rules or standards that prevent your growth and development. This is what made you feel so uncomfortable, depressed, anxious and insecure because as a human being with your own desires, wants and needs, your own dreams and goals, you are not designed to be placed into the box. You are not meant to constantly have to conform to someone else's requirements. You are not meant to sacrifice your own needs to meet theirs. But this is what the Narcissists will make you do. They are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They do not care about your desires, wants and needs. They do not care about your dreams and goals. All they care about is fulfilling their own needs and the purpose of them containing you in the box is to secure their source of supply. You are supplying them with what they need. You are regulating their emotions, feeding their ego, boosting their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. You are providing them with comfort, stability and security. But what are they doing for you in return? They are containing you in the box where you can supply them with what they need. They never give anything for you to sustain yourself. They take all of that from you to sustain them and the very things that you do need to sustain yourself or what they take from you, your time, energy and resources, your happiness and contentment, your self-worth and self-esteem. They take all of this from you to sustain themselves and they have to target your self-worth and self-esteem. They have to invalidate you. They have to make you feel as though you are not worth anything and you will never be good enough for anyone else. They have to do this if you still believed in yourself and your own value. If you didn't feel so trapped in the box that they have created for you, you would have the tools that you need to break out of the box. Of course the narcissist knows this and this is why the very things that you need to escape are the very things that they will withhold from you because they don't want you to leave the box. They have to keep you in the box. If they can keep you in the box, it provides them with a steady and consistent source of comfort, stability and security. You are there for them whenever they need you to regulate their emotions, feed their ego, boost their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. But they don't care about you. They don't care about supplying you with what you need and anything that you establish on your own to fulfill your needs will be sabotaged or taken from you. The narcissist will sabotage whatever you are trying to establish because it is a threat to their comfort, stability and security. It is a threat to their fragile ego, self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. If you are beginning to establish something of significance or value, suddenly they don't feel so comfortable. Suddenly they don't feel so secure. Suddenly they no longer hold that delusional, unshakable belief of their exaggerated sense of worth or importance. So anything that you try to establish, anything that displays power or strength, significance or value, they have to destroy it because when they're looking at what you've got or what you're doing, it triggers them to reflect on themselves and how they are capable of achieving that. Stealing your energy or resources may also help to sustain them. If it is something that they can use or something that they need, the narcissist has to keep you in the box by invalidating you and sabotaging your progress. They have to make you feel as though you are worthless and insignificant and anything that challenges this belief that they hold must be sabotaged and destroyed. The box is designed to contain you and prevent you from escaping. It is designed to provide the narcissist with what they need. You are basically their life source. You give them life but in their minds you are an object that is meant to serve them. You are an object that exists to fulfill their needs to make them feel as though they are something significant or valuable and they expect you to remain in the box and live in this delusional reality with them when you accept these false or exaggerated beliefs and when you constantly feed these beliefs back to them and remind them that they are something great they are something important they are something powerful or significant even if everything that sustains them comes from you even if they are stealing your shine and giving you nothing in return the narcissist has to keep you in the box where they can use you to make them feel as though they are worth something to make them feel as though they exist Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries can email me at natsforvecoaching.com Check out the Emotion Dice in the Narks River store where you can purchase your own Narks River t-shirt, tank top or mug The link is in the video description Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon