 hey survivors and frivers in this video i'm going to answer a question that many of you may have when is the narcissist game finally over please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my paypal link is in the video description if you're interested in one-on-one coaching you can email me at nagsvivercoaching at gmail.com check out the nagsviver merchandise page in the video description where you can get your own nagsviver t-shirts and mugs when is the narcissist game over how do you know when it's finally over how do you know when you have finally defeated them these are all questions i'm sure that you will have the power to decide when the narcissist game is over it's in your hands once you no longer believe in them or believe in what they are saying or displaying to you once you no longer see them as a credible source and you no longer entertain their opinions of you or how they feel about you you no longer believe in their lies their illusions now the narcissist game is over now they know that they no longer have the same control over you as they once did they are no longer able to pull your strings in the same way as they once did they can no longer get you to believe in them or whatever it is that they want you to believe once you take your belief away your acceptance that something exists always true your confidence in them your dependence or reliance on them once you take all of this away it makes it very difficult for them to manipulate or control you because you're not believing in anything they say or display to you anymore you don't trust them anymore you have taken away your firm belief in their reliability truth or ability you don't see them as possessing any significant value to you you don't see them as being anything of importance worth or usefulness to you this is what the narcissist manipulation and control of you depends on it depends on your acceptance of what they are saying or displaying to you followed by your belief dependence and reliance on them you have to trust in them as being something of reliability truth or ability you have to believe that they possess some form of importance worth or usefulness to you if you no longer believe in what they are saying or displaying to you if you take a step back from their lies or illusions and really see them for what they are you will realize that they do not hold any importance worth or usefulness to you there isn't any value there the manipulation was designed to make you believe that there was value there that's what it was all about making you believe that something of value existed where it did not by making you believe that they held something of value or significance to you they were then able to control you they were able to get you to stay or meet their demands when they never held their end of the bargain this relationship you had with them was an unwritten contract an agreement made between two people about what each will do for the other they were getting plenty of value and significance from you your attention validation approval and admiration of them your positive energy love acceptance trust loyalty honesty maybe money material items sex you gave them plenty of value and significance that's why this game lasted for so long but they failed to meet or satisfy their part of the agreement the only work they ever put into this was to make you believe that they had something of value or significance to offer you this is all dependent on your belief everything they do revolves around making you believe that they have some level of importance worth or usefulness to you when the reality is very different they do not hold any importance to you they never did if anything they hold a negative value and rather than being anything of any use to you they are liabilities their presence or behavior will inevitably put you at a disadvantage they create circumstances that make your progress or success difficult once you begin to realize this it will affect them at this point their game is over they can no longer alter your perception they can no longer change how you understand or interpret them once the game is over they have no choice but to move on and leave you alone it's too much effort for them to try and get you to believe in them all over again to regain your trust and the level of honor or respect that they once had in your eyes they had to alter your perceptions and make you believe that they should hold a level of honor or respect to you but once you no longer believe what they are saying or displaying to you they will stop trying to make you see them as anything honorable or respectable because they know they hold nothing of significance or value to you they knew that all along the game was to try and get you to believe that they had some level of importance worth or usefulness to you this is what created the cognitive dissonance the two conflicting beliefs they never really gave you anything of significance or value but they managed to get you to believe that they did have something to offer you really need to take a step back and look at it for what it is from a third person perspective you have been abused and manipulated devalued and degraded publicly humiliated and exploited where is the significance or value in any of this you want to believe in them you want to believe that they had something great to offer you but they didn't that was all a lie an illusion if they had anything great to offer you you would have seen it by now look at everything that you have experienced with them remember everything they told you or displayed to you everything they tried to get you to believe the future fake in then make an assessment of your current situation and where you are now you have every reason not to believe in them every reason not to value anything they say or display to you identify that you are not dealing with a credible person you are not dealing with someone that you can rely or depend on someone that you can trust this person does not hold any of those qualities if they did there would be some positive results by now even with an artist it shouldn't take them that long to develop some level of progress or success but if your current situation with them hasn't improved in any way you need to stop believing in them they are not worthy or deserving of your belief and they know it that's why they have all of these manipulation tactics to disguise that fact they know they're not good enough for you the game is designed to make you believe that you're not good enough for them then you will constantly try to meet their demands while they do not give any importance worth or usefulness to you and that's exactly how they wanted to be because they know that if there was an opportunity where they were forced to display some level of importance worth or usefulness to you they would fail miserably you would quickly realize that this person does not possess the qualities talents or positive traits that they once claimed to have and that is the purpose of this game they are well aware that they do not possess any of the qualities talents or positive traits that you are looking for the game is to make you believe that they do meanwhile devaluing and degrading you to make you feel as though you are not good enough for them it keeps you looking at yourself rather than at them and how they really have no importance worth or usefulness to offer you the narcissist game revolves around your belief it is dependent on your belief your belief holds a great amount of value in this game it is very valuable to them if you believe in them they are able to manipulate and control you once you take your belief away it will remove your emotional attachment to them it will take away your reliance your dependency on them you will begin to realize that the only person you need to rely or depend on is yourself all of the manipulation tactics all of the denial projection gas lighting and the double bind was designed to make you believe as though you cannot rely or depend on yourself this left you returning to the narcissist for validation the narcissist got in the middle of the relationship you once had with yourself they made you believe that you could no longer love or trust yourself they made you feel as though you were not a complete person as though you needed them to be complete but here is the secret they do not want you to know the secret which will end the narcissist game forever the secret is that you are already complete you can rely on yourself you can depend on yourself everything they did to you was designed to make you believe that you can no longer love or trust yourself that is what gave them the power to manipulate and control you take back your power and realize that you are already complete stop believing in them you can rely on yourself you can depend on yourself and you have more significant valuable things to do than play games with a person who is too afraid to face reality thank you for watching i hope this video resonated with you and helped you to identify when the narcissist game is over please like comment share and subscribe donations please follow the paypal link in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at narks5coaching at gmail.com if you are interested in the narks5 merchandise and having your own narks5 t-shirt or mug the link to our teespring page is in the video description that's all for this video i will talk to you soon