 when the narcissist isolates you, when they cause you to be alone, when they try to keep you away from other people. This is something you will see in most narcissistic relationships. Narcissists are very controlling. They want to determine your behaviour. They want to maintain influence and authority over you. They want to direct your behaviour at the course of events. And it is much easier for them to do that if you're alone. Even though you may not want to be alone, they will force you into this state of seclusion by using force or threats. They will deliberately and systematically isolate you. From the moment you first meet the narcissist, they are already planning how they are going to take you away from other people. They might claim to have this connection to you. They might say that they love you. They might say that they want to spend every day with you. They might text you all day. They might always want to know who you're with or where you are. They will always want to spend more time with you until you have no time for yourself or anyone else. If you tried to spend time with a friend or family member, they will say negative things about them. They will devalue and degrade them to you. And if that doesn't work, they will say things about you to your friend or family member. They will do whatever it takes to tear you apart from anyone who might spend time with. So that they can have you all to themselves. They will say that they don't like or trust your friend or family member. And that they don't want to be around them. And that they don't think that you should be spending time with them. They will constantly criticise anyone who you like to spend time with. They will complain anytime that you try to have people over your home. Because they just wanted to be you and them. You may not realise it at first. But at some point you begin to look around and realise that you have been isolated. Your location is constantly being monitored. Your movements are being restricted. You're not allowed to have any time to yourself. You're not allowed to go anywhere on your own. And it gets to the point where you no longer want to see anyone. You no longer want anyone to know about how you've been treated. Because you feel shame for letting it get this far. You blame yourself for being involved with someone who doesn't respect you. The isolation can drive you to exhaustion. You spend all of your time working trying to make enough money. Trying to keep the house clean. And if you're not doing that then you're constantly around the narcissist. Constantly catering to their needs. Never having any time for yourself to recover. It's like dealing with a badly behaved child that you're not allowed to discipline. You become isolated because you don't have time to do anything on your own. Because you're constantly running around after the narcissist. You're constantly anticipating their needs. Isolation is an essential and characteristic part of narcissistic abuse. And it is very bad for your mental health. Even when you're around people you still feel isolated. Because you're not allowed to be yourself. You're not allowed to speak your truth. And that is why I created this channel. Because I know what it's like to feel alone. I know what it's like to feel isolated. I wanted to create this community as a place where people can be themselves. Where people can speak their truth without the fear of being criticised or judged. If you are being isolated you need someone to witness your pain. You need someone who understands what you are going through. And while this channel can be very beneficial to you I would recommend that you seek support from domestic abuse resources that are available in your area. And I am also available for one-on-one coaching sessions. You can email me at narxfathercoaching at gmail.com It is very important for you to speak to other people. To have another person's opinion rather than just letting the narcissist isolate you and tell you what's right and what's wrong. Thank you for watching. I hope this video runs out with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon for seed notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries you can do with me at narxfathercoaching at gmail.com Thank you for watching and I will talk to you soon.