 The biggest problem would be getting out of your head when it comes to going out and loosening up and having a good time All right, so I've got some tips especially. I think it'll be good for this room and this is just in general Okay, it's not just going out to meet girls. This is just feeling comfortable in a space anyway So the thing is when I go out this took years and years of practice because I had a lot of negative self beliefs Because I didn't like the fact that I was an introvert and I kind of beat myself up about it So the number one thing is that when I went out, I would try to notice little details I would do everything I could to stop the thoughts focused on me and look outside So if you step into a bar, I don't know you're just looking around you say oh look at these lights Those are weird lights or you just keep it positive to try and find something nice It's not really a thing nice in here to look at you guys are nice Yeah, I like Luke's hat so stuff like that stay out of your head Whatever it's inside. You don't want to focus on that and then when you find something that is interesting I'll give you an example Last night. Okay. I was out taking my photos. I was also talking to girls There was one girl. This is my favorite target if you will she's sitting alone at a bar eating like she had a little Some kind of wrap and some fries. So I just went up stood next to her. I said hey Are those good? That's it. It's that simple You're not thinking about yourself. You're actually just starting a friendly conversation And what's funny with this type of girls eating alone at a bar nine times out of ten should be like yeah It's good. You want to try some they get free food, too? So it's a I ate like half her fries last night. We had a good conversation, but like that that's a very simple example Oh another example. I'm sure you guys want to hear about this on Friday night when we went out I ended up pulling that girl back to the hotel. How many people were at that little party? It seemed there was a there was a lot. Okay, so at that Buffet or whatever there was like 40 of us 40 guys for a men's convention I didn't see one other girl until maybe like an hour in I see the blonde standing at the bar Okay, the only girl surrounded by a bunch of sharks. Okay, so I'm like, all right I need to do something because I kind of wanted to put on a show. I tell you the truth I did but I just wanted to chat the girl up to So I went up to her and my approach was hi This is I was like are you alone and she's like, yeah, I'm alone and she looked kind of scared I was like this is really weird isn't it? You're surrounded by all these dudes. Are you part of this convention? She's like no, no, no, I don't know what I'm do. I don't know what's going on Then I told her but the fact that I went up to her and I didn't say anything self-conscious didn't ask to Buy her a drink, but I made that observation completely Nothing inside myself. I didn't say anything anxious, but it was just a pure observation of the situation girls love that Okay, so stay out of your head Notice things like that and then make that observation. Okay, and that's it start the friendly conversation Don't think about like you're gonna fuck her right then and there you have to just start the conversation first All right, so anything else on that? Also, like I said before keep it positive as possible because girls again They want to have fun the number one rule keep it positive because they want to have fun They don't want they don't want to talk philosophy. They don't want to talk politics They don't want anything negative keep it fun treat them like little kids. All right, and you do that by getting out of your head All right, so introversion like I said as an advantage. There's a lot of disadvantages Okay, the anxiety issues that might pop up might feel trapped in your head all the time But the very very Good things about it Number one is you have the ability to observe and focus. Okay, so that's one of my talents for sure is Observation if you ever read my writing or my books or my stories You'll see that I can paint a very good scene of what's going on because my whole life I've been observing things and kind of detached introverts have that advantage for sure Also, focus goes along with that So if you are an introvert you should be very happy that you have the natural ability to focus All right for extroverts as this is an extrovert world things are built for them Life is a lot easier for an extrovert that if you try and teach an extrovert to focus much much more difficult All right, so I work with a lot of artists in New York And the best ones I wouldn't say the performance artists those are the extroverts But the actual artists who are doing something meaningful They are all introverts and they all have this extreme ability to focus so please keep that in mind And if you have this negative image like I did for a long time about being an introvert keep these things in mind Number two is introspection. Okay, you can actually sit back. It goes along with focusing You could think about what you did wrong in a situation and then make the steps have those steps to make it better Okay, so introspection another positive for being an introvert and now the third one This is your inner universe So if you've heard that term before we've all got this inner world that is kind of where the God of this our inner world It's how we see the world, but inside us is what matters It's it's come from everywhere every book you've read every person you've talked to has start to build up your inner universe Introverts okay, their whole lives that thing has been building and building because they most of it stays inside because they have this hard It's not easy to express yourself and get that stuff out there So the inner universe of an introvert is going to be very deep and it's going to be very very complex so you should be proud of that if you are an introvert you should be very proud of these things and Work on that work on ways to get them out and that's what the presentation about is it's about self-expression and Expressing all these things because you do have it inside you all right speaking of the inner universe people always ask me what's like a couple of keys to To doing what I do and being able to express myself There's not really an answer I don't have many answers for people because I want everybody to go on their own path You have to do it yourself I can give you my guidance and what I've learned on on my path But you're gonna have to do it yourself the one key though That I will admit was a key that unlocked a lot of things for me