 Not working, let's see if I can get this brightness corrected. Lashon, okay, yeah, all right, I got it working. Perfect set, RN, how y'all doing? First moderator made it in, Glamrox, Terry, God bless you, let me see. Make sure I got all systems running. See, I be over here doing my live now, like my jet, getting ready to take off, got to get all my systems together. Okay, breathe out, bless you, glad you in here in the bless tribe. Now I told you, I got to kind of my schedule, I got to do what I could do when I could do it. So sometimes I'm talking to my wife earlier today. She say, you know, you give yourself this time, this set time and this set day, and that's what throw you off. You just got to do it when you could do it. You know, being a family man, being a husband and a father, that put them first, I literally, literally, okay, for those of y'all literally, but I say literally just walked in the door five minutes ago, but I say, you know what, I need to go and do my live because I say I was going to try to do more. And my wife, she take the next hour with my sons, getting them showered and brush their teeth and food out the way, so give me a little time. Now make sure in the chat, put your hashtag Q, your hashtag Q, so I can see when you have a question. I'm only going to do an hour, just doing an hour tonight. This is our free Q&A that I do with the blessed tribe. I do as many of them as I could possibly do. Oh, Nannette, so Nannette, follow me on Instagram, I guess. I mentioned that I'm going to do a movie of a woman's influence, so if you're a screenwriter, send a sample to Jobs at TonyGasin.com, Jobs J-O-B-S at TonyGasin.com because I'm going to do a little short film. Do a video about the men on the DL who secretly hate women. To be honest with you, I wouldn't really know much about that. So everything I say will be speculating. I have not really met or talked to one of those guys, in a real way to where I understand what they got going on in their mind. So I really wouldn't be the best person on that one. So if I got to ask you for a pic, should I send it on the first meeting? Let's totally up to you. I wouldn't send a picture. I'll just FaceTime if I was you. I'll FaceTime, new day, blessings to you, God bless you. I would just FaceTime. You don't know what these men be doing out here with your picture today. Hey Tony, what if the guy is addicted to nasty movies? Been dating for two months. He's been seeking help. Everything is going great. Track shoes or not. Well, it's two months. And if he into the nasty movies, it's kind of like what kind of help has he been seeking? And is he really going? Like, is he riding up the street to his mama house and sitting over there for an hour? Or do you actually know he's going to work with a specialist in that area? So I would say, if he has everything in the world that you're looking for, and he's just amazing, then it could be worth giving him a little bit of time to see if he's really getting help and he's going to come through that. And at the end of the day, you may need to kind of be active in that. Say, hey, maybe you should talk to this person. And you point out a life coach on MyMentor.Life. He could talk to just about manhood, maturity. Because at the end of the day, they say the same part of the brain that's activated when somebody sniffs them a line, snort them a line is the same part of the brain that's activated from the big old, the release. But me personally as a man, I would not see that nasty movies as a serious, you know, it is serious for a lot of people, but it's not like a real drug. Like, that's what a man has to understand. If you go without that, you're not going to start foaming out the mouth. And you see what I mean? If you go without looking at your little pern, yes, you might feel a little jittery. Yes, you might feel a little off. But it ain't like you finna, you know, run into a poll because you didn't watch that. So a lot of time, men just got a want to change. It's about wanting to change versus, you know, just saying, just labeling that a lot. See, a lot of times as men will take, because there's so many labels being thrown out, we'll just be nasty. We'll just be nasty. We'll just be immature. We'll just be a grown boy. And then we'll holler, oh, I'm a sex addict. Oh, I'm a sex addict because we know that's a word. We know that somebody then gave us that. Try to put only questions in the chat right now. I'm going to try to get off as many questions as I can in an hour. I'm going to be on here because he ain't ate dinner yet. And I got Mr. Curly chicken and some Curly goat and some fried dumpling in there. So I'm trying to get off here at an hour. You hear me? Got to go. How to not keep baby father away from nine month old daughter who he ignores and not speak to when he's upset with me because she looks just like me when we move in in a week. I'm planning on ignoring. Um, okay. Sis, you might want to think about that when you, it sounds like you say when we, when we move in in a week. It's, I don't know if you mean moving in with him, but somebody, a man who y'all got a nine month old baby and he ignored a baby when he upset with you because the baby looked like you. He crazy. I wouldn't, I wouldn't. Okay. When y'all moving, moving out of his apartment. Okay. Thank you. Y'all catch them typos and either one type or throw the whole question off. Um, yeah, keep them away. You know, if, if he want to be there, he need to be mature. He needs to be responsible. And if he can't do that, then don't let him run in and out your life. Let you, you got to understand when you have a child that, that man needs to bring stability. He needs to bring balance. If he brings stress and angst and worry and all that, then keep his butt away until the court make you do otherwise. Don't, don't, the end of the day, that nine month old, don't even need him. Don't know nothing about him. Don't even know what a daddy is. That nine month looking for this right here on you. You said, I mean, just right here on you and you right. So at the end of the day, you've got to protect yours. And if the other parent ain't going to be positive and responsible, then you letting your child be with that person, you doing the wrong thing. And I just saw in the news, somebody did. Somebody boyfriend had date and took the life. You mean, listen to me now. How do I keep my guard up? All right, you question. Keep my guard up without coming off as too aggressive. Well, with your guard up, essentially just break this down. Guard up really mean legs closed. That's it. That's it. Like conversation ain't going to hurt you. You laughing. You literally could laugh and double over. Just fall over, stomach hurting. That's not going to hurt you. Keep your legs closed. Keep your mouth closed other than when you talking. And don't let no touching go on. And that's your, that's all the guard got to be up. Other than that, you listen to everything he's saying. You hearing him try to see if you could hear if he telling lie. Coco, God bless you. Now a little mad at myself for missing the sale you had going on for the entrepreneur. I left my overthink. I let my overthink and get the best of me and it slipped my mind. Oh, God bless you now. It'll be, I'll do another sale on probably Black Friday for on Tony Gaston Academy. So now any of y'all that have not got a course on Tony Gaston Academy because finances ain't been where you want them to be. Just put Black Friday in your calendar. And so you'll be, you'll be ready. You can start putting your little pinch away a day. These are God bless you now. Hey Tony, I have eight children by my boyfriend or should I say X of 11 years. He disappeared while I was pregnant with our last child this year. What should I do when he returns? So I continue to heal. You're going to need a whole coaching session for that one. So it's the eight kids, you know, but you'll need more than what I could give you here. But what I could tell you is in a situation like that, it has to be a business transaction. You can't just let him come in and out your life. It got to be down to the courthouse on Child's Port. That Child's Port bill finna be so lovely with eight children. He finna be, he might quit his job so he ain't got to pay. But let him do what he got to do and then visitation and all that. It need, you need to have a court order. It need to be set up when you got that many from a man who take and leave. When you got to last in the oven, getting ready to come. That's a no good sorry lazy man. So with him, you got to take the gloves off. It got to be bad enough. You can't play no games with that kind of man right there. He got, you got to give him the business all the way. Gigi God bless you. Now dad hasn't talked to me after divorce. Infidelity talks isn't rehab with mistress. He blames me for helping mom with lawyer fees being protected. Gigi, you're gonna need a coaching session. So you're gonna need a coaching session. You was on here last night spending that five dollars for a five million dollar question. Right there, too much going on in there. And you got too many key words in there. You got too many buzz words in there. When you got words that you're not even loud. I'm not even allowed to say a lot of these words on this hilltube. Since you need a coaching session. You hear me? If you can't afford a coaching session, just watch all my videos. Watch all my videos. You'll get the answer. You'll get the answer in there when I'm talking for a whole hour. But I can't say as much as I need to say to you tonight on this hilltube. God bless you. Now, watch Emma blessing. Tony, this is just a blessing to say thank you so much. Continue doing the work God has called you to do. You are so appreciate. I appreciate your Amber. I don't know if you could click the name, but Amber got a YouTube channel. And she's one of our coaches on my mentor.life. Hey Tony, what's the best way to be in position to be approached by a man right now? Dating is weird during it's not safe to be out and about right now. So that's your answer right there. That means that if it ain't safe to be out and about, and it ain't safe really to be approached, it's not safe to be dating right now. So this is a season of singleness. This is a season of you. You know, this, this too shall pass. You're going to be able to eventually one day go out without your mask on. That's when you can meet your man. Other than that, just be present online if you online and allow him and he'll DM you. And you can see him, see his videos. You can FaceTime him because see if you FaceTime him and he called on that FaceTime, you can't catch nothing. Are you on FaceTime? He called, I'm throwing my mask on. But with that, you safe. So don't worry even we're about meeting nobody in person right now. You really want to meet people through the DM who they saw your picture on Instagram and they sent you a DM and now y'all could talk on the phone. Then y'all could FaceTime. That way y'all could call how y'all need to call and you don't have to worry about nothing. So I dated my brother's friend and we didn't work out. No kids and no ties. They are still friends and he blocked me because I didn't want to be the other one. And how do I act if I'm at my brothers and I see him? Well, just don't go to your brother's house if he gonna be there. And let your brother know you can't be over there if he gonna be there. The brother know if he coming over there. So case solved. Now if you got to be there and y'all there, then just be cordial. Just talk to your other family members. You're going about your business. You know, don't sit in the corner twiddling your thumb. You know, like a kid in time out. Not married but when I was I didn't like but blame myself. So I faked. He never act like he knew. What do you think of doing that? Well, Barb, I'm not a woman and you're not married now. So I wouldn't even worry about it. You got to fake it till you make it. And y'all didn't make it. So you made it out okay. I wouldn't even worry about it. I wouldn't beat yourself up over. And next time just choose better. Choose a man that make love to your mind. See, when you get a man that can make love to your mind, then the rest it'll be easy. But when you don't have a man that can stimulate your mind, you love quality time with that person in conversation. Then when you get in that bed, it ain't gonna be nothing. So it got to be real love, real, real love first. Make sure y'all put a hashtag Q in front of your question. So I could tell us a question. Try to keep your comments and stuff out of the chat for right now so I could see the questions. Hey, Tony, using my business page, I'm a Christian. I am a Christian. The guy I was dating, he is a Hebrew-Israelite. I told him it wasn't going to work because we are unequally yoked. Did I do the right thing? Yes, you did the right thing. When you feel that you're not unequally yoked, you can't force that because your faith and your belief system, that's your foundation. That's what you build upon. That's what you're gonna raise your kids in. That's what you're gonna base your life upon. So if y'all don't have the same belief system, which is your foundation, then you can't be together. So you shouldn't be together. So by you recognizing that and getting on out of there, then you did the right thing. My ex-boyfriend is undocumented and I broke things off back in July because he cheated on me. I'm not sure if I can put him on child support because he gets paid under the table with cash and he is... Yup, all right. Well, now you know, now you know. Now you know, sister. Hey, God bless you, nine. So just appreciate the freedom because what a man pay for, he own. So if he contributing money through child support, he gonna feel like he got some say-so. Nine, you get to raise your child on your own and everybody out here, that's the lesson right there. Make sure your man got his paperwork together. Make sure you got his paperwork together. If he ain't got no papers the way he can work legally, then land down with you is illegal because nine, you can't put the man on no paperwork and then y'all done broke up and now he gone by this business. He getting paid in cash and they love paying them in cash that they can pay them less. They can pay them less, they ain't got to pay employee taxes. So all you can do right there is a lesson and just teach somebody else. Each one teach one, teach your best friend. Hey, listen, make sure that man got his paperwork together. Just in case y'all don't work out, you can put them on some papers. Hey, listen, be careful with that right there. Now, sometimes a man who don't have a paperwork together, he just wanna get with you to see if y'all can get married so he can get some paperwork in place. You know, start helping other women from what you learn. He'll from a touch relationship ready to date but the guy I want to talk to isn't ready for a relationship. We're mad and attracted to each other. I'm trying to be strong and not trying to repeat. Okay, all right, all right. Let me, I had to read that one more time. So S. Tolbert, move on with your life. Y'all not mad, sexually attracted to each other. What that is is you're attracted to him because he don't want you and he don't want you because that and because he don't want you, that's why he telling you he's not ready for a relationship. And if you keep dealing with a man that has told you he's not ready for a relationship, you're gonna end up in another toxic situation like you just healed from. So don't play yourself. See what you have to realize is a man always gonna look better to you when he don't want you because we all want somebody who don't want us in the sense of we want something that don't want us. So you got to understand that. Yes, you're only allowed to ask one question. So y'all ask one question, make it your best question because everybody on here got a question. Now y'all see I'm just one person and then y'all can see how many people on here. So you already know if this many people on here, I ain't gonna be able to answer two, three, four, five questions from one person when there's this many people sending questions in. And when I see a question, I'm just going right to the bottom. I'm going right to the bottom to the question that popped in right then. So if you already in there, now you could keep posting your question if I ain't seen it yet and try to time it when I'm about to hush gonna pop it in there. Hey Tony, do you think coworkers should date? Only if you willing to lead your job if y'all break up because if y'all date and then you break up, you never gonna be able to, especially if y'all got active in that bedroom or in that back seat, you never going to be able to get meaning, I mean to break that soul tie if y'all, if that should break up. So understand that now. So only date somebody that you really, really feel all the way sure in your spirit that the Lord saying this your husband and if you, your job got somewhere you could transfer to or it's another job you got in mind. Left the grown boy early, told him my requirements for me to consider him. Heard he is working for me to consider him. I'm not sure if that will change my mind. Tell him to don't improve for me or no contact. You know, you already left them. All right, you left them. And the thing is, when it come down to a change from a man that just take a day. If he got a man could quit smoking in the day a man could quit drinking in the day the man could leave the streets in a day. So a man shouldn't have to work to become the man. He just got to make a decision. As soon as I knew what my wife would and would not tolerate I made a decision that I'm gonna change and she didn't have to deal with that no more. So when you got to kind of be, you know putting the man in time out and he could work on himself think about it and all that you wasting time in your life. And as long as you have him as an option you considering him you blocking your blessings from the other men that's trying to get into your life. So if it's the right person it'll be the right time. And he'll be growing actively and on time. Christian A-Rab here. I write in our genie I do not know what that is. You know so forgive me. That's right there is a first time I've ever heard that. Now I would imagine that's what Jesus was at but I'm not a hundred percent familiar with a Christian A-Rab, okay. Mom from Nazareth, Israel. Nazareth, like what a what a Lord was born at. Wasn't the Lord of Nazareth? Oh y'all ought to be holy now. I'm first generation American still feel the need for parents approval in relationship. They only judge by appearances how to handle this. Well you got to understand you know if they judge by appearances only then that invalidates your parents' opinion. So you can't let somebody just because they're an adult or just because they're your parents you know and you are an adult you can't let somebody dictate your life when you know that their ways could be ignorant. If they only judging by appearance then that lets you know that that's not advice that you should be taking that they're not in a position and if they only judging by appearance that mean they really don't care about your love life and if you happy they just care about how you make them look and how it makes them feel. So that that is null and void their opinion null and void. You've grown so what you got to do is maybe reading is just parents but they could look at a person they may be able to look person and tell this is sleaze ball. You see what I mean? I could read people by looking at them and so they may be doing that and you saying they just judging based off appearance and or if it's a situation where you want to a black man if you of another race or you want to a white man if you of another different race and they like listen that right there is not going to fly and this here American society you're going to have a lot of trouble telling you an adult and you got to live with any decision that you make listen or not listen and you got to live with that. So I got a blessing and right out of her hand left her while intoxicated in a room how should I help my wife get through this? What I would say is if I was very sorry to hear that right there what I would say is and really what I would do is I would sponsor her for counseling you know get a therapist get a counselor and I would sponsor her for that and I would take in pay for it you know if she need 12 sessions sign up with 12 sessions somebody say speaker echoing can y'all hear me now? I see when I do it like this without my mic on now sometimes it'll be real loud can you hear me? but I would sponsor find somebody you know my mentor that life is just life coaches we have some therapists on there who are therapists and life coaches but it's other sites out there that have like psychology today has therapists and it'll be in your area that she can go to and talk to and if you can afford it I would sponsor 12 sessions and y'all thank you for letting me know and on the lagging it ain't telling me nothing about no lagging so it could be just the system itself because typically if it's lagging on my end it'll let me know but um you know Hayley's gonna hate now you too gonna do it you gotta do Pretty Tars God bless you ex said we weren't compatible ex said we weren't compatible so I blocked him on everything but now he's reaching out with fake pages his friends watch my page and new numbers keep calling why all this if he didn't want me because he wants you on his roster so what you got to understand is you might not with a grown boy you might not be the star player you might not be LeBron James but he may want you to be you know Alex Caruso and some of y'all if you unless you really watch basketball you wouldn't even know who Alex Caruso is I don't even know if I'm saying the man name right you see what I mean so sometimes a man he say y'all not compatible it's saying you're not my wife but you do have something between your legs that I want and I want to keep you there and use you for that and just keep dumping in you until I meet my wife then when I meet my wife I'm gonna get with her because we compatible and marry her and if you want to be the other woman you want to be the side chick let me be your splacker valley L-P-L-A-C-A-N-N and then I'll do that so that's what you have to realize and just like I did the video today listen back to it and so men sometimes just want you in a role what are your thoughts about two people getting back together after being divorced wife file would you suggest counseling or could it work out me personally divorce is a big thing divorce is a big thing divorce typically comes when you've done everything you can think of to do so if you go through all of that and you get a divorce then it's no need in going back and no need in going backwards because everybody remorseful when they lose you when I'm pretty sure it was planning opportunity for the man to get right before getting a divorce but if he push you all the way to divorce that means he don't care nothing about you that means he don't care about you and that means that he was gonna go to the end of the cliff to try to make you jump off because he's saying you're not worth me changing for and I don't believe that you bought that life I don't believe you're gonna go through it no divorce so I'm finna test you and I'm finna push you all the way to the end so if you go all the way through with a divorce if that man get you back he get you back just to win he get you back just to show you that you're worthless he gonna get you back he gonna make you fall in love and then he gonna divorce you he gonna dog you out and if he don't divorce you then he gonna be cheating on you he might be cheating on you and may never let you know so whenever if you got to go through divorce or even if you weren't married and you got to leave somebody and you didn't get a chance after chance after chance for them to get right before leaving when you leave go on about your business go on about your business when you leave do you think black women exude too much masculine energy independence and argumentative you know a lot of guys say that and you know a lot of I saw a little interview with the young black boys and they was like hey black one white one and they were like white white white and then some of them was for sexual stuff you know they were saying this because of sexual stuff but on the flip side of that y'all hold on right quick all right quick let me see something yeah um back what I had to do what I did is took this see if that y'all can see me is it not lagging right now so what I would say is when you look at I don't think black women exude too much of anything when a man really understand what a black woman has to go through in this world and so most black women are at the lowest of the low in the world based on society and how society treat black women so black women are tough and no holds bar in most cases but black women are also the most faithful race of women the most loyal race of women and so what a real man understand is a lot of that you know is a lot of that uh toughness and all that huffing and puffing is a defense mechanism and a real man knows that and that's why a real man is not afraid of that is not intimidated by that because he knows that she had to develop that thick skin and that toughness and put those guards up because of what the world has done to her and what the world and try to you know what place the world and try to put her in so you know black women got to just keep being black women and operating your excellence you know and and who you are and just know that the man for you don't go in trying to right yeah oh yeah so you like that oh yeah okay and yeah oh really oh this is oh you're so hilarious oh you see what I mean don't don't switch it up and try to be something that you're not just because somebody told you oh y'all black women too masculine only a grown boy gonna say something like that now if you are masculating the man because of your past pain that's something totally different than you just being direct and forward and real you know that's something totally different how do you know if you found your purpose leticia god bless you now when you when you would do it for free when you would do it for free you know and when you know that you couldn't really live without doing it that's when you found your purpose like what I'm doing I see the effects of it I see the I see the results I see that people are changing their lives they're saving some lives and so with me seeing that it keeps me going and then there's something that I'll do for free it's like when I do these free Q and A's you know there's something that it could be in a group that it's 50 dollars a month and people who ain't paid can't see it it's people the blessed tribe is coming but it's people who not in the blessed tribe that watch this and get fed from it and so I'm doing this because this is my purpose and that's what you'll realize when you live in your purpose Cam, God bless you now Uncle Tony met a man two months ago and everything is great he has casually mentioned marriage how long does it take for a serious man to know about that time now you know around the third month is when a man will say hey will you be my girlfriend can we be exclusive will you be mine around that third month now what you have to realize now is what you have to realize is when a man go to talk about marriage real early like that sometimes it could be to get you on your back it could be to get you to drop your guards or it could be because he need somewhere to stay he needs somebody to go half on some bills he needs citizenship in your country so when a man talking about marriage is super duper early you kind of got to pump your brakes and you got to you got to look look closer and say okay what does he have to lose he need to have something to lose now meaning he need to have something he bring to the table a good job he bring into the table he already got a place that he stay at that's in his name he got a car in his name or transportation with his name on it his metro car in his name he got you know a bicycle that in his name that's his and he need to have something to bring to the table because that's something he got to sacrifice if he got to break his lease so y'all can live together or or or you get to go live with him and y'all get married okay that's different let him have something let him be a good man right there when will we hear from Miss Gaston about parenting tips any videos or books coming out anytime soon um not books got some courses coming out on um Tony Gaston Academy so make sure you go on Tony Gaston Academy and we got a free course on there called 10 steps to self love you know if you don't do anything else sign up for that course and that'll just kind of keep you in the loop of any upcoming announcements and meanwhile we want to do a parents helping parents course here soon but I just got to get with her schedule you'll be surprised moms as for those who y'all y'all who are mothers that's one of the busiest things in the world lola god bless you do you think a grown boy can become a grown man once he birthed a daughter um yes he can yes he can just to keep it simple yes yes he can but he has you know he has to want to because a lot of men don't a lot of men out that don't do anything loving the branding course almost finished will you be releasing the course on how to create a course when will you be releasing um thank you for telling me that I hope hopefully I could do that um this month or next month the course on how to create an online course so wait on it so you don't do it the wrong way but um before this year I'll lower willing I'll get to do that and and thank you for that feedback on the branding course you're the first person that have told me about you know giving some feedback on it I'm glad that you're able to take some notes and and get something in there hey Tony can you read my photo just wanting to get your perception on how I'm showing up in the world to better myself iron sharpen iron Jasmine unfortunately I can't read your photo on here can't read photos on here reason being is because some things ain't for everybody to hear and then to your picture is so small on here I can't really see you so I don't want to you know jump out there in that so if I only do that with my clients now when we talking about perception on a coaching call so we really go there because some things too have to be explained you know in detail about perception and how a man views you and and what your pictures or your image is saying all of us are saying something but a lot of times we don't get honest feedback from somebody who doesn't have you know a reason to lie to us a lot of times family gonna lie to us because they don't want to hurt our feelings or somebody that want to sleep with us gonna lie to us because they want to sleep with us so I want to do that on coaching sessions now is it okay to ask a guy why he's single or about his past relationships you can ask them but most likely you're gonna get a lie or you're gonna get one side of the story so it's kind of a useless question it's more so you know google them see what you can find sometimes you'll find a mug shot you know and you'll see the charge is dv and so that tells you what you need to know about them right there and then you get to see him in person to see if he's grown if he's changed you get to talk to him like that but typically a man is not going to you know he's not gonna he's not gonna be able to tell you the truth on that do you think it's against God's will to have your own kids and not wait for a husband before wouldn't it help more for a person to not sell now when you say have your own I'm not sure because you know you'll need some urn and you're gonna need some urn and so unless you mean adopting but now if you just getting some some urn injected in them I don't see why that'll be against God's will if you serve God and you love God you still advancing the kingdom you raising them kids the little fork for God you know marriage she ain't wait on Joseph because she had a baby put in her so you know I don't see that that sin now if you out there on the pole not on a man to get that what you need to have not act right there is against God's will but now if you get getting inserted in there you know we we really ain't have that scripture sister they really ain't put that scripture in the Bible on that one now boyfriend and I have been exclusive four months and dated four months prior seems to be equally yoked and have a great relationship recently gave me the house code to new built home in place of a key what does this mean now that mean a lot that mean a lot there that mean a lot there and their brother got some money their brother got a newly built house and their and and their brother got a cold on the door all right that brother hey he's doing this thing that mean you got that cold that mean you can pop up any sign you want to pop up so that mean a lot now that mean that mean a lot that mean you see you like a long-term girlfriend or a wife and so you just got the you know pump your brakes don't get too desperate don't get too thirsty don't don't go to dropping like it's hot too too much nine too soon but that that's a that says a lot because that mean if he got another woman in there you just put that code and oh hey how y'all doing okay this what this what we doing all right all right well okay I'll see y'all later and move on about your life so when a man give you that code oh yeah that said something now V god bless you I took opportunity to go through boyfriend's iPad and texted a number he told hey and good night to find out it was a girl from work she told me it was nothing but I'm upset he didn't tell me about it should I be upset oh yeah you should be a little upset if he said hey and good night that's all he said and you didn't see nothing else in there now that's you probably called it early and it's good that you called it early to let him know that you own your peas and cues and that he not gonna be getting away with little slick stuff so it is something to be upset about but not something to dwell on too much it's something to talk to him about see what it is you know check him on that there and once you check a man once or twice you should be able to have some smooth selling you don't want to get in the habit of playing blues clues and now you sure lock homes and matlock in your relationship because that's going to be very draining so you're going to have to okay you did a little cup of text now you're going to have to trust or not trust if he a trustworthy individual then give him his face to show you who he is if he can't be trusted then you need to leave him KVA god bless you and I'm Canada bless you I am 30 dating a 36 year old man for nine months we are both lawyers but he is making way more money than me he is talking marriage but he wants to sign a prenup I don't believe in prenups what should I do well listen listen this is what you do in a situation like that if you love him and this feel like your husband then you do that prenup but you do the prenup in your favor too so you do the prenup the world is protecting his stuff but listen your money going to go up so you got to let him know and you got to be confident that your money going to go up so when you put your clauses in there that you get to keep your money and that he only get X amount of percentage if you out earn him and he only get this and that so don't just let it be like oh he the breadwinner and he putting you on a prenup you putting him on a prenup too if that's your husband now you also got to look in and see if this is your husband because see if a man want to prenup that means he's not all the way sure he ain't all the way sure if he want to prenup Gigi God bless you also inviting tax plan I really don't you know discuss politics I really don't know about Biden tax plan I heard that the rapper half a dollar just stamp the other candidate because of Biden tax plan me personally me and Donna got the same CPA writing right off writing right off writing right off so he could tax what he want to tax write off write off phone right up watch up right off phone get right off microphone up right off water bottle up right off all right how much I owe y'all not quite see what you got to really what y'all got to realize that's why you got to start your LLC because when you start your LLC you work from home you write your mortgage off your rent off you write your light bill off your water bill you write because you work from home your business that's why they got certain people they got lower class people don't know nothing about business in a lot of cases because now you're paying all the taxes then you got billionaires paying $750 in taxes but when you look at your taxes you say wow I paid $10,000 in taxes I pay but how you pay $10,000 in taxes being I paid $750 that's why because of being I got businesses so he's writing everything off so when you start your LLC you write your whole life off I remember my first year in my LLC I got $1,500 a bite because I wrote everything I had my whole life was expense so a proprietor Lola God bless you now do you go to church and if not what is your views on church and pastors nowadays I pray at home well Lola you know don't be asking me my business you got to worry about what your business is and how you how you view on this now okay don't worry about what I do because I ain't got no heaven or no hell to put you in you see what I'm saying so you got to worry about what you need to be doing and what God's saying to you you pray at home if God give you peace with that then hey that between you and God because he got the heaven and hell to put you in not tonic either okay so listen to the Lord on what Lord tell you all right and so if Lord ain't convicting your spirit then he didn't gave you a new message right now you getting coughed on in the church anyways and that could send you to meet the Lord in person you get coughed on by the wrong person in church because people be in church and they be having that mask under their nose and it's like listen what you got a mask on if it's under your nose now you inhale breathing out all that there and we inhale and all that now we going to see the Lord and I can't here to meet the Lord through prayer now you sending me to meet the Lord at the front doorstep because I done got the 19 you see what I mean so listen to the Lord what the Lord with him he give you the Lord might know your lungs ain't ain't set up right now to be in the church so he'll have you in house gentle God bless you now I told him I didn't appreciate him not texting or calling me for a whole day he tells me is it weird I smile when you get like this is he crazy what that means is that yes he it's not that he crazy but it mean that he trying to train you it mean that he doing that on purpose to make you sweat to see if you're going to care now what you got to realize is you can't let him do that again so if he do that again now it's a game and now he playing with you if he do it again he need to be in the hospital with IV in the arm and that's why he couldn't write you because he was knocked out in that bed getting his dripping is on and he would not die and he just he was incoherent and he couldn't reach you but if a man is serious about you and he trying to actively date you then what he's going to do is he will write you every day he gonna write you every day what men do we what men love we do it every day what men interested in we do it every day and so understand that right now hey I got 12 minutes left moderators I appreciate y'all y'all keep on now you see somebody asking questions and I already answered that question you could you could remove that question so I could see the question that I have not answered he asked me out the lunch on his live he asked me out the lunch on his live on Instagram and also offered to come and see me he lives in Houston I live in Dallas he watches all my stories on Instagram and it's very sweet meaning he might want one of the memes how it started how it's going he might want one want to be one of the memes so you know if a man see a woman that look like his wife that he done been visualizing that's a move he'll make what he did right there that's what a man will do if he see a woman that look like his wife but what you gotta do is just make sure you don't become no plain booty that you don't become no booty call and that now he's just trying to put that notch in his belt or knocking down a woman that he met on Instagram live and that so the key is and it's the key that's what y'all gotta realize whenever you have a question close your legs anytime you confuse about a man close your legs anytime you worry about a man intend to close your legs and now listen now listen some of y'all I gotta spell it out oh well Tony said close your legs he didn't say close your mouth oh listen it is worse for you to have your mouth open sang it on a microphone and I've been seeing some of y'all don't know what I'm talking about when I'm saying sang it on the microphone all right what do you do with your mouth okay in a relationship with the man microphone what is what do a man have between the lead that's shaped like a microphone okay sang it on the microphone karaoke all right do we get it so listen that is actually more degrading to be singing on a man microphone doing karaoke than to be on your back because men look down more on women who sang it on the microphone than they do a woman who on her back because men will let the two dollar woman on the corner sing on his microphone but he won't put her on her back and put himself in her but he will let her on that microphone so under so a lot of y'all women what I've come to find out I did not know this for for a while but a lot of women will patting themselves on the back because they lives was closed but they choking on backs and balls and I'm like wow are you serious so you mean to tell me that you thought it was better to put it in your come on come on who raised y'all I got to talk to y'all daddy I got to talk to y'all daddy I'm like come on now let your daughter know that now listen don't be singing on the microphones out here so whenever you have a question you confuse by the man close your legs close your legs and they're gonna they'll protect you they'll protect you enough right down let a grown boy who tried to put me on his roster left the grown boy who tried to put me on his roster why does he continue trying to act like he really cared for me could he really have cared for me he sent me mixed signals for 10 10 months but it sound like if you said roster you didn't heard me answer that question so that's all that mean you already got your answer he reaching out because he want you on the roster the Lakers can't win the championship with just LeBron James they needed Anthony Davis they needed Rajon Rondo they needed Caldwell Pope they needed Carusa so he want you on his roster so this one right here she know how to drive to the hole he want a woman that know how to shoot the three he want a woman that know how to play lock down defense you see what I mean so a grown boy he try to build a roster he don't want one woman that's playing a star role in his movie and see the love interest and see the star of the film he want the star he want a sidekick so understand that and see the thing is the recruiting process he gonna recruit the third woman and the second woman and the fourth woman just as hard as he recruited the first woman so he gonna make you feel special he gonna try to make you feel special hello married for 8 plus years married still on the rocks after husband cheated 2 years ago he says not getting or is a deal breaker for him have 2 kids together should I bother with counseling nah I'm gone I'm gone I'm gone when a man tell you he want you in the role of a prostitute that's what you do with a prostitute you know a king don't enforce on his wife that she sang on the microphone that's not that's not a requirement of being a wife that ain't no you just you see what I'm saying that ain't that's ridiculous when a man talking to you like that he talking to you like a piece of trash and he already cheated on you and see this is the thing when you catch a man cheating that means he didn't cheat at 10 other times that you don't know nothing about because cheating is so easy cheating is so easy cheating you literally a man literally could cheat in the bathroom at work he literally could cheat in his back seat after work on lunch break cheating is so easy for men to do because it's so many desperate and thirsty and naive and gullible women so when you catch a man cheating that means it's 10 or more times he's cheated that you know nothing about and so not only did your man cheat on you in marriage but now he telling you if you ain't singing on his microphone that's a deal all right deal broke then broke and deal you already broke the deal okay brother buy all right foul support okay alimony okay spouse support all right let's break that deal child support you see what I'm saying got to go got to go y'all gotta stop let these men you know punking y'all because the men who punk y'all they are punks this only move that punks make and then they call real men these punks they call real men simp they call real men simps and blue pill simps when data simps data punks that's why they're playing with God's daughter and because he a real man he gonna wake up and realize I'm not gonna play with God or the creation because he created her fearfully and wonderfully made that if I'm playing with her and I'm disrespecting her I got to answer to her maker a real man gonna wake up to that realization he gonna stop playing games with a woman because he gonna realize that what he get in his life the stuff he's getting and not getting his life is due to how he treating women that's what a real man gonna wake up and realize so you got to understand that though Latika London can you please read my picture all right now you see you got to you see you got the little purple thing I guess you got on here late you didn't hear what I told the other one but you got a purple you ain't got no picture Latika so I guess if you want just send me a blessing God bless you now any advice for a new coach on my mentor I'm a little reluctant to post on my social media accounts join our monthly calls on my mentor we do a monthly call where we do Q&A and we work through all that we talk through all those things and if you don't want to post on social media you don't have to that's the benefit of my mentor.life is people come to you and they're not on your social media they've never seen your social media they're booking you based on your bio and your services that you offer and if anything write blogs hey Tony how soon should a man say I love you the man mentions marriage before eight months in he also says I'm not getting any older he's 31 and I'm 27 maybe not getting any younger you know it's no timeline on when a man should say I love you because different men gonna feel it at different times and so typically by the end of 12 months if he hasn't said it that would be a red flag and it's time to run but other than that inside of that it's no real timeline because some men raise so cold that they struggle being warm so you have to understand that Ruby Godbush how do you join the life coaching calls once the course is completed um you got to join my mentor.life the life coaching calls is for the members of my mentor.life and so you'll get an email each month that we do a call some months we might miss a call depending on my schedule but you'll get an email so when you join my mentor.life you'll be invited to our monthly calls hey Tony okay um Black Woman Anthem I see you now I kept seeing you but then I was it's while I was answering the question but I see your question here so it's going to be my last question y'all no more questions don't post no more questions you're hitting me right now you're watching it live some people posting questions because you're watching the archive and it's showing up in the live chat but you five ten minutes behind me I see um Black Woman Anthem God bless her hey Tony I'm 26 years old dating a 36 year old man he has children so do I he pursued me first but now he's telling me I'm rushing him what should I do as a business owner trying to build the image um for one he is too old for you you 26 he 36 so that's big bra right there he too old for one two he got children you got children three now he's flipping the script saying you rushing him it sound like you might have got on your bike already if you already been on your bike then you didn't kind of gave up the game like hope Teresa God bless you Gerald Gerald God bless you now and so you'd not already gave up the game if you got on your bike and then two when a man tell you you rushing him you may be rushing him and he may not be ready and y'all might not be on the same page and now you dating a man you didn't say how long you dating him so if it's been longer then a year then that's not no rush he ought to be talking about engagement if it's been longer than two years you wasting all your time because he too old not to know what he want and at 26 you you know a young thing that's gonna get his groove back so if he ain't trying to make no move quickly with you that mean he's still playing the field and he looking out there because for one as 36 it shouldn't even be a 26 year old wanting him because you know 36 compared to 26 he old in Mathews look so you have to understand that right there hey God bless you oh a year and a half yeah you're wasting all your time thank you for adding that little detail see all of them details right there matter matter yeah yeah you waste your time he 36 he old is dirt and talking about you you uh you rushing him no you too old playboy if you were 25 she rushing you because you don't really know what you want when you 36 you too old too old to be having a woman dragging a woman long for a year and a half a man gonna know I married I was 23 years old when I got married and I married my wife in 10 months you hear what I'm telling you so a man know oh now he know when it's that long I got to go go about the business but then if you have to leave a man for him to marry you then that's never a good thing either because now he just gonna marry you just to trap you and then he gonna dog yop just for forcing his hand hey God bless y'all I really appreciate you to the moderators thank you so much for helping me on here I really appreciate that and you know all of y'all I think we got five of them I know not everybody can make it all the time I did see Glenn Rock's makeup in here tonight okay I see Mama Tish right there I thought I saw Cher in there okay yeah Cher in there God bless y'all and let me see now I took my moderators that's on here I ain't got no pen or nothing took my moderators that's on here y'all post y'all cash out on here real quick for my moderators Cher I got your cash out I got yours but I mean you could post it on there just in case we got a million now on the chat they want to send you a couple dollars but to the other moderators um Glenn Rocks and Mama Tish I don't have y'all cash out I'm looking for me a pen but I actually don't write in my work in my line of work I don't have to do no writing so I ain't got no pen now y'all got to forgive me now I didn't get no booty shot I did squats today they had me not doing squats I ain't got nothing to write with I ain't got nothing to write with Mama Tish and Glenn Rocks make up y'all DM it to me on Instagram and I look for it I always have over a hundred messages in there but if it's at the top I'll see it because I ain't got nothing to write with and if I had a different set of teeth if my teeth were set up like I could chew this chew this hill down and get my little lead in here see with my moderators oh find me a pen with my moderators they uh they help me out so I just send y'all you know a few dollars just to say thank you well I can't use iPhone notes because I'm on the iPhone I'm gonna write shares on down again 97 I just send y'all a little sum just to say thank you for your for your help and for your help on health y'all have really been consistent you know that they show real emotional intelligence because you know somebody talk as much as I talk eventually you're gonna offend somebody so I know they don't listen everything you know you can't agree with everything somebody say but they get past that and they say we know well Tony hard is that and what what he meant to say he maybe we're talking too fast right there and left something out but we know where it's hard is that and you know we support them and we're gonna keep this chat clear and they did all that on their own so y'all wrote it all down so Lord willing don't nobody else get y'all donation tonight but I'm gonna try to double check but just DM me when you get it DM me on Instagram when you get it God bless y'all thank y'all and we'll talk soon and I'm gonna take care of Caramel kisses too because she wasn't on here but I know she normally be on here holding it down hold it hold it down