 Good morning everyone My name is Sam Baklin, and I'm a professor of psychology and the author of books about personality disorders Among them Malignan self-love Narcissism revisited. I've been invited to give a presentation at the Quantum House Summit in Brazil in November 2019 I've been told by the organizers that the number of places is limited and so first come first win My presentation will focus on narcissistic abuse It is a phrase that I coined in 1995 And I felt the need to coin this phrase because I realized that abuse Mitted out by narcissists and psychopaths is very different and has different outcomes To abuse mitted out by typical abusers abusers without personality disorders say this and other abusers Narcissistic abuse is a subspecies sui genevis And why is that? Because narcissistic abuse is all pervasive exactly like Narcissistic personality disorder it affects the victims cognitions emotions social functioning environmental integration and resiliency are proper our host The victim of narcissistic abuse develops cognitive deficits and cognitive biases Via processes such as gas lighting and ambient abuse She develops emotional dysregulation very similar to borderline personality disorder the whole complex is known as complex PTSD complex post traumatic stress disorder or stress response The victim is also socially isolated the abuser make sure of that She is less integrated in her environment. She sometimes loses her workplace so narcissistic abuse is a totally immersive Immersive experience. It's an experience that pervades and permeates Every aspect of the victim's personality Every behavior every trait it transforms the victim to such an extent that sometimes She herself cannot recognize herself let alone by nearest and dearest Recovering from narcissistic abuse is also Requires also special measures and special techniques unlike other forms of abuse Because narcissistic abuse creates the equivalent of post traumatic stress disorder We have to borrow techniques from trauma treatments We have to borrow techniques that used to be applied to Vietnam vets or victims of natural disasters or witnesses to horrific accidents It is not only the domestic violence not only the verbal and psychological abuse these are classic hallmarks of most abusive encounters narcissistic abuse It has something to do with brainwashing. It has to do with reprogramming the victim It induces changes in the victim That makes it very difficult for her to survive intact to defend her boundaries and her identity She is in a way invaded. It's like a body snatching Experience and what we do is we try to reverse this survivors of narcissistic abuse have a fire far better chance of emerging if not unscathed then intact If their level of resiliency is high if anyhow they are fighters If they are fighters in other fields of life If they have been exposed to hardships if they've overcome hurdles and obstacles if they have some kind of life experience with other difficult situations and Of course if they have the necessary conflicts of character traits and then the right kind of personality to survive such a torture So we will be discussing in I will be discussing in the presentation together with my wife Lydia Rangelowska who is also an expert on narcissistic abuse and more so on recovery We will be discussing exactly these features I will dwell more on the abuse itself and try to analyze it using novel techniques and novel ideas and novel concepts Things that have emerged from research only in the past ten years Lydia will focus more on recovery If you want to understand If you want to understand codependence patients who have Endured and emerged from a relationship with a narcissist or a psychopath this present presentation may be something like indispensable because we're going to put in one place all the recent advances and all the discoveries we've made by interacting with literally tens or hundreds of thousands of Victims and survivors online since 1995. It's a database the like of which no one has No university no academic institute no government has this kind of database online There are support groups and forums. I established the first one in 1999 There are support rooms and forums with millions of victims and survivors They contain a treasure trove of information, which I am mining on a regular basis I'm going to share this with you So if you want to be ok one if you want to enhance your skills In coping with this kind of abuse and its aftermath This is the right place for it's going to take place in the quantum house which is an unusual combination of Reservoir a repository of solutions for both survivors and entrepreneurs I don't think the conjunction is accidental nor is it ridiculous actually I think it's very wise and interesting. I Think survivors would do well if they were to acquire Entrepreneurial skills, and I'm not only referring to business related entrepreneurial skills Life as a whole is an endeavor and entrepreneurial skills can enrich life and make it worth living Also, they are very good as part of a recovery package in the attempt to recover and heal and cue yourself In the attempt to extricate yourself from an abusive relationship to exercise the demons to reverse the cognitive deficits and biases to restore your Emotions and sense of self-worth emotional regulation and sense of self-worth all this is aided and abetted By entrepreneurial skills, so I think the combination is both unique and extremely insightful I have also been The Subjected to the assessment test the quantum assessment test And I have witnessed my wife administering it to others. She's certified. She was certified by Dr. Ritten And I must say that it is one of the strongest most powerful Psychological tests I've ever come across. I've written a book about about psychological tests and most psychological tests Have problems severe problems with validity with specificity With self-reporting with lack of structure etc etc the quantum assessment test is amazing It's amazing because with very few questions. It looks deceptively simple even though it's a primitive But with very few questions it elicits a complete Complete utter Description of the subject of the test subject and it is highly specific and It is highly accurate at least in my case and the case of a few other individuals I have witnessed my wife administering the test to So that's also a fascinating topic My wife may wish to dwell on it or maybe and I'm sure Claudia will discuss it at length But it also a good reason To be in the summit because I think this test is the future It's easy to administer. It's available online. It's fully the evaluation the ranking and the The point a point giving is fully automated. So I think that's a future of tests and This test is so powerful So incisive and so insightful that I would not be surprised if it establishes itself as the new standard in psychological testing So you see there's a whole plate of tasty morsels from a variety of fields and subjects anything from abuse to psychological testing from recovery to new information gleaned from A database of survivors and victims a lot of things which you are not likely to be exposed to in any other setting environment And so you're welcome. Don't forget the way I opened my my small speech Number of places is limited and you would do well to secure yours now so see you all I'm looking forward to my trip to Brazil and I'm looking forward to meeting all of you and answering your questions and Dealing and tackling any issue you might wish to raise which is within my expertise, of course Thank you