 Hi, my name is Tim and I'm 118 days alcohol-free. Amazing, Tim, 118 days alcohol-free. How do you feel? Clear, triumphant. I mean, it's the longest I've ever gone alcohol-free and clarity, all the good stuff you pitched at the beginning was true times 10. Yeah. So tell us a little bit about you. Where, how old are you? Where are you based? What do you do? And what were you drinking habits before you joined us now and got our help in helping you stay alcohol-free? Yeah, so again, my name is Tim. I am 35 years old and I live in Oregon, both Central Oregon and Portland, Oregon. I run my own business. I specialize in helping commercial real estate investors with loans to acquire and come producing property. And with that comes a lot of cocktail hours, a lot of rubbing of elbows with all referral sources. And yeah, I probably drank a lot more during work, which is usually five, six days a week, partaking in those happy hours and it was just getting a little much. I did take steps before learning about you, James with my now wife. We took alcohol out of the house and that was a good step, but it wasn't the end all be all. I just caught myself having more meetings. So I knew I needed to reach out and get some help that this isn't something I can go at it along. And yeah, I probably drank, I would say on average three nights a week. And not just a few, it was decently heavy. And what were you drinking? Not a big beer guy, although I love beer. I was mainly drinking Manhattan cocktails. And what effects did you notice that your drinking habits were having on your life in general? Oh, just it's putting everything I had to deal with on hold. The hangovers got worse as we get, we all say as we get older, as an entrepreneur we actually take on more than when I had the eight to five. And so I don't know if it's an older thing as much as it is that the brain needs to be sharp all the time, clear. And I was dealing with anxiety and stress drinking and it just, it was no good. It just drugged me down. I mean, I love your videos before I joined, especially the 30 day no alcohol challenge. And I think you were the actor in your own video when you were getting up groggy. That was, that would look better than how I felt every morning. And how was it affecting your business? You said you're in commercial real estate. Yes, I was irritable the next day. I probably had missed opportunities with clients or excuse me, prospects trying to turn them clients because of irritability, you're short fused. And then as I'm missing those opportunities people that were choosing to work with me. You know, this is my own reflection now after 90 days of course, I've never heard anything to the contrary, but I do know that fostering the relationship we're usually together for 90 days until we close our transaction in just so many roadblocks. It's everything I worried about to, you know, concern about how they're feeling and do they like this transaction? Do they like on treating them? And, you know, hangovers don't allow a lot of time to think. And so without that clarity, I just, I missed out on probably a good chunk of revenue that I otherwise would have gotten just by my phone ringing. Can you put an estimate on that revenue? Like what do you think, like on an annual basis, your drinking may have been costing you and lost revenue opportunities? I would say probably 20,000 a month, so 240,000 a year, at a minimum, yeah. So just to be clear, that's what you were, you weren't losing that, you just weren't making that because of your drinking. That's correct, yes. And that was the biggest challenge of joining this group for me and thinking, man, I don't need this group, I'm already making great money. I mean, we can only have so much, I'm really happy and in that sense, monetarily, but I also, yeah, not having the clarity and being super anxious and every time I drank, you didn't build anything, it just became times 10. So I'm putting a $20,000 a month on there, I'm probably shooting well, to be honest. Yeah, so it's safe to say then that your drinking was costing you quarter of a million dollars a year. Absolutely, easy, yeah. Yeah, that's kind of insane when you think about it like that, isn't it? It is, and James, I'll tell you, and this is for anybody listening, by March 30th of this year, I've already done the revenue I did all of 2019, and I started in your group the beginning of October. Incredible. Very much. Yeah, so with clarity and productivity and efficiency and happiness and motivation and energy, you generate at least a quarter of a million dollars more in business, is that right? Can you articulate that? Yeah, from being okay with saying, no, it's big in my business. I'm not tied to any one route for a client, and so with a good reputation, that can give very, I'm a yes person. So when alcohol was in my life and I didn't over it and feel good, everything was just yes, we'll figure it out later. And I may have said yes to five people that were gonna be an absolute time suck and a lot of hand holding, which I'm okay with doing, but I wasn't paying attention to the quality of leads I was taking. And I think the reason why I can monetarily say the amount that I may have missed out on versus what's different now is I'm able to slow down, make sure it's the right fit for both parties. It's always the right fit for someone in need, but was it the right fit for both parties? And then I started focusing on larger, more economic projects to where I can slow down and put my time into a few projects that paid more than worried about taking every single point call and being a yes man. So the clarity is beyond any cliche that I can even say at least tied to my business and my personal life, which we can have a whole hour on that alone, taking alcohol out, but business-wise it's been exactly how I found you. Everything I saw was just so accurate. So tell me how your personal life then has changed from being 118 days alcohol-free now? So I was drinking on my wedding, mainly because center of attention has not always been easy for me. I know I run a business, so that sounds a little ironic. A lot of what I do is over the phone. When I was drinking on my wedding, I wasn't doing anything irresponsible, but it meant for being more exhausted and we didn't enjoy each other. After the wife's over, we just went to bed and that's kind of when I started discovering your program. I say that because I just imagine if I had what you offered before my wedding, I might have not been so tired during my wedding. And so that's translated into our personal life. We have our new happy hours as we like to call them. I like the phrase happy hour. That doesn't happen in alcohol. So every morning we get together and we have coffee for a solid hour and we talk about the week and the day and that's not stuff I was doing home over. And for my wife and I, it's huge because in a marriage, especially young, we're gonna have the honeymoon phase where I hope not. But if it does, communication is huge and it's just allowed us to just prosper and be on the same page a lot sooner in this first year of marriage than I think had I had alcohol in my life. So do you look back on your wedding day now and what do you think or feel like you could have done differently on your wedding day? Like do you regret drinking or you don't regret it? It's fine, but like how do you look back on that day now? Which was kind of like the earlier version of Tim's deal. I don't regret it at all. Like I said, I was, nobody could tell. For me, I just got tired. I didn't feel like I was celebrating 100% the way people were celebrating us. And I likely would have been kind of like the irritability while I didn't have the irritable. It was okay if I didn't say hi to someone. I was okay with being a prop photographer here and come over here and say hi to this person. I didn't feel as present than I probably would have been alcohol free. And what has your wife noticed about the shift in you? My anxiety has dropped substantially. She sees that I think more clearly self-awareness is something I don't dread or worry about when it's outside of what I do well. Again, not to sound like a fortune cook here cliche, but it really is self-love. And it translates into so much, but she has seen my anxiety drop. I mean, I was only 30 days in your program and she just looked at me and she didn't know I'm on day 30. And she said, I gotta tell you, I haven't experienced you like this the whole time I've been dating you. And I asked her, what do you mean? She said, you're just so calm. And I'm thinking, I'm always calm. Who are you talking about? And that's a bit of the oblivion when you have alcohol in your life. Amazing. And so wonderful to hear that for you that you're getting that feedback from your wife. Yeah, she's really good. She's been alcohol free for three years. And so I've only seen her drink once when we were recording. And it was just her choice. And she never pressured me to do it, but she's always heard my heart in wanting to do it. And I did it alone twice. Guys, I quit for five months in 2018. I quit for five months in 2019. I'll start it with your classic dry January. And I was sharing in the group in this 90 days that I tell that story confidently. Yet I found a journal I was keeping on my first five months and I probably had 28 drinks that I wrote down in my journal that I carry in my wallet in that first five months. And you don't, all that to say, it just didn't seem like I wasn't drinking. I was alcohol free for all I knew. And so I just couldn't do it alone. And she's been such a support, whether it was your program or some public programs out there that we all know. And this is far different than what you can get. It's more intimate and it's tough to find people that are like-minded. And that's what's so great about your group is you find people that are all kind of, higher functioning and entrepreneurs and all the good stuff that comes with, oh, we're all struggling with the same thing. And it's very safe. So my wife made it safe to be exploratory and then your program was just a slam dunk and it made so much sense. Thank you. Thank you for your feedback on that. And so what is your plan around your drinking or non-drinking now that you've completed the 90 days of my program? So what's your intention now? Well, I don't want it to stop. I can tell you that the stuff I'm already seeing has happened so fast, it's almost too good to be true and it's because of becoming alcohol-free. So I don't want this momentum to stop as the coach that you paired me with Kevin said, upgrades, what are gonna be your upgrades? And for me, it's continue working on my anxiety that I deal with, but continue being alcohol-free. I just, I wanna stay quit. You know, that was my goal when we first talked. Now, obviously I have my cravings and I have habits that come up that tell me to drink and it's getting that sparkling water and just staying true to myself and being okay with getting through anything without alcohol. So staying quits the goal. I just don't want this to stop, this momentum, this thing going. I mean, again, March 30th this year, I'll be all of 2019 revenue. That did not happen because alcohol was in my life. Got it, got it, incredible. Well, I wanna acknowledge you because you've done so tremendously well and you were always a source of support for other members in the group. So I always say within our program, the best way to learn anything is to coach it and to teach it and you are actually coaching and teaching by sharing your story as you went along because if you're on day 72 and then someone just joins the program and they're on day seven in their first week, they're looking to people like you to see how you are on day 72 and that inspires them and encourages them to move along and I definitely noticed and recognized and was so appreciative of the way that you supported other members in that and that you were open to coaching and that you weren't in victimhood and that you were honorable and shared and so I personally wanna thank you for that. You're very welcome, your whole group makes it easy and anybody out there listening in the first few weeks, you're gonna go through with what you do and it just becomes so easy because everybody again wants to work together and that's what makes it great. It's not like a few people in your group came up to say, well, I'll take some lead, I'll throw out a piece of what's working for me. It just, everybody ends up becoming that way. It's really what you've built and so thank you as well, yeah. Yeah, wonderful. All right, well, Tim Steele, congratulations again, 118 days and beyond. We'll keep rocking and rolling and it seems like your business and your wife's gonna be happy and she's gonna keep being happy and it sounds like your business is gonna keep generating a ton more revenue than what it was when you were drinking by the sounds of things. 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