 See, now y'all have to forgive me because I forgot my microphone. So, as a soccer practice, you'll see that before you see it. So it's kind of in the moment for you to record, but today I was recording. So I wanted to pop on here for a little while, hopefully at least an hour. And it's a sore muscle, unpracticed, so I can see. See what he has going on. Yeah, the volume will be low on here because y'all hear me now. I wonder if it's louder now. Oh, you know what? I know what it is. Okay, I see what it was. I see what it was. Can y'all hear me better now? Can you hear me now? Okay, see what it was was the Bluetooth. I mean, that whole raggedy thing like, come on, y'all got to have more sense than that Bluetooth. You see I'm on live. Why are you going to plug up through the car? It was the Bluetooth. That's why it was sounding like that. It was going through the Bluetooth. Had to cut the Bluetooth off. Mercedes Benz Benz knows the headquarters. Listen to people conversation. Y'all got to forgive me. Y'all got to forgive me. That's probably been a country boy sometimes technology to throw y'alls now. I'm glad y'all said something because I would not have realized that. I looked up and I seen my name, my phone number on the screen like I'm making a phone call. Boy, I tell you. Boy, I tell you. Them folks will be all in your business. I had to turn the whole thing on because sometimes when I'm talking, it'll, it'll go. It'll ask me what do I need. So we want somebody, some people are going to start the video over. They not up live. She's talking about sound low, but she listened until a few minutes ago. Now trying to do lives when I can and every time I say that, then I end up not doing it for a while. But I like to try to come on here sometime and do a, you know, a live so I can answer some of your questions. Roxanne, say you so country. Roxanne, I'm actually self-conscious about that. So when you say that, you mess me up more and look at Caramel kissing them. The lead Caramel kiss. Yeah. You have to sniper that fast. Now, what a moderator be sniping a nine and you ain't got no question. They be sniping your nine moderated y'all could y'all could, you know, they'll take one more stealth. See it makes a they armed and dangerous. Hey, the moderator be so appreciate them. They helped me out. They helped me. She ain't mean them by Roxanne. She just we clear the chat out so I could see the question like this one right here. The first one popped up. Why won't a guy apologize or admit to being trifling when he's caught text texting another woman ran into him. And he still don't apologize. Needless to say he is in block. He won't apologize because he doesn't feel that you were apologizing to him. He also won't apologize because he doesn't feel that you are his wife. And he's not apologizing because he also feels that alpha males don't apologize. So that's why he's not apologizing. Some of the people still watching the beginning of the video and not the live y'all put it in the chat. Click live so you can catch up when somebody comes to it. Sometimes they hit play and they watching us behind instead of being live. The moderators could tell the people if you see this in the chat, click live to catch up. So my guy friend ghosted me. Me at conversation haven't heard from him in weeks. I blocked him did the right thing. Now one of the things I sometimes I used to talk about blocking a lot. And when I was talking about blocking, I used to be talking about like when somebody tried you like a baser. And they disrespecting you or it's really toxic. Like you block them because their message will trigger you. Like it'll take you back to an old you, but you don't have to block if it's not that serious. Like if it's not going to make you trick or fall, if it's not going to set you up for failure, if it's not going to cost you too deeply, like you can see their text and it not mess you up like you could see it. And then you can deal with it. You can process it and you can not respond. Then that's when you take and do that. And so you got to understand you don't always have to block. And anytime you get ghosted and sometimes to you have to check and see why you got ghosted because sometimes you could get ghosted because of some happened like with the hospital, you know, something like that. It's not always about another woman or him being nasty. Now, if you see them posting online and stuff like that, then yeah, that's something totally different. Now, let me make sure my thing ain't because see, I'm on this hill. Car Wi-Fi. So sometimes it'll, it'll lag. How can we as women help with men and their mental health? It's overlooked a lot. So want to know if there is more we can do as women? Well, don't worry about men in the sense of when you say men, I want you to make sure you just talking about the men you love. Not, not just, you're not catching a save on the rescue of all men because remember the man on American Sniper got lost his life trying to help a man who had PTSD. So not every man don't feel like, and this to everybody, I know you probably know what you meant by that, but don't feel like it's your job to rescue or save a man. Now, your son, your husband, your daddy, men that you know and love, then that's a little different. And I'm going to tell you what it is. A lot of times men need to hear affirmations and what, what the thing about it is is a lot. We don't hear enough affirmation. And for some reason, certain people love the way their parents love and that's all that they will do. And we have to grow beyond our parents. We should be able to stand on our parents shoulder wherever our parents will. We should be able to love beyond that. So your parent wasn't articulate. Then you need to learn how to articulate yourself. If your parent didn't express love, you need to learn how to express love. If your parent didn't show or give affirmations, you need to learn how to give affirmations. And so what happens is a lot of times it's kind of like how when you see women, a lot of times you see women celebrate things like they'll celebrate a lot of different milestones. And then men, a lot of times don't take time to celebrate. What I want as a man, and I've come to realize as a man who has mental health issues, who have had several concussions in my life, who my mind is a little different, I want to be celebrated. So I want to be paid attention to in the sense of if I earn a million dollars or $100,000, $50,000 and that was my goal. I want me to look hard that say, hey, congrats on hitting that goal or look cake. Hey, congrats on hitting that goal. As a man, we want to hear, hey, you know, your outfit look nice today. Your haircut look nice or your hair look nice or you look handsome or, you know, something like that, that is really meant. And men don't often get that. And as humans, we have a misconception that if we celebrate somebody or we praise somebody, it's going to put them on a pedestal and they're going to look down on us and they're going to go and with the big head and go out and receive praise and benefit from that from other people. When most often the truth is when somebody loves you, they really only want to hear your praise. So it's kind of like my son, he had practice. If other men come up to him and say, hey, good game, good game, hey, you're a great player. That'll mean nothing to him if his father never said that he'll be playing just for the affirmation of his father. And so that's what we have to realize, too, with men and mental health. A lot of times the world just beating up on a man, but as men, we don't get to cry with our friends like women get to do. Women call their homegirl and cry, call their mom and cry. Men, we can't do that. Women will cry at the red light. I'll be saying women crying at the red light. I'll be saying women crying, walking down the street. I'll be saying women cry everywhere as men. We don't get to do that. And I'm trying to change that amongst men. So that's how you can help by speaking life, speak affirmations, give compliments, celebrate the men you know and love. It isn't so important to a man. Why do they go to the ends of the earth to be with a woman if Angela satisfies? Well, men don't go to the end of the earth to be with a woman. So, you know, understand what the end of the earth is. Men don't go to the end of the earth to be with a woman. And men will be with a woman. It's not just about sleeping with her. It's about the chase. It's about the thrill to a man going and getting a woman is like going and hunting, going and fishing, going and skydiving, going and boxing, going and competing, going and gambling. It's all just about what's released from the brain into the bloodstream that gives a high. They chasing the high. And that's all that is. I just told my friend that he has nice skin and he smiled. Be careful now. I'm talking to your little male friend. We'll put that thing on you now. We out here complimenting too much. Now, compliment your boyfriend, your husband, your daddy and your brother. I ain't say, I ain't say all that now. Since being on my healing journey, I stopped smoking. Okay, some more. There's a woman right here blowing tree. Oh, forgive me. And rededicated my life back to God. But how to deal with being isolated? Old friends and I naturally became distant since I've been on my journey. Well, when you isolated like that, you got to learn and you got to tell yourself that the isolation is don't see it as isolation. See it as separation. And I know it sounds like it could be one in the same, but you could be separated from people, but yet with God, the isolation. That's like solitary confinement. So, so differentiate the two between your mind and then understand that separation comes before elevation and y'all maybe have heard that or seen that go viral. That was yours truly who introduced that concept to social media. I posted it and went viral and then the pastor start preaching on it. But it was nothing new under the sun. It just I've made it rhyme separation before elevation. And I'm sure somebody had said it somewhere longer ago. I hadn't read it. But what I was thinking about is in the Bible, when people would be called into the wilderness and they would go into the wilderness and they would fast and they would pray. And then on the other side of that, they would be elevated into their purpose or their mission, their calling. And so that's why I say separation before elevation and it happened to go viral. So you can't look at it as isolation, although it could be like that. You got to see it because the isolation is more so what a dog does when it's getting ready to die. Separation is what you do when you're getting ready to go to the next level of your life. So by you letting go that green leaf, you now finna develop discipline and self control and you're about to be able to break this addiction and you're going to unlock another part of your brain. And when you unlock that other part of your brain, you then going to have the clarity to envision six figure, seven figure, eight figure business ideas, whether it's a t-shirt line, whether it is a cooking thing where you doing a cooking channel, whether it's painting, drawing, dancing, serving, assisting, whatever it is. You're going to have a clarity to come up with these ideas and then you're going to have the time and the focus to implement to take action on your idea. And so the people that you are separated from, they finna see you climb and then when they see you climb, then they're going to come back around and say, you know, when I was separated to be better, you cut me off. But now you see that I got a bag to my name that I got a better job. I'm making more money. I don't start a business. Now you coming back around to bring me back down to get me back to smoking. No, stay away. Yeah. So just remember that right before that. I would only use me and for hookups and dates to weddings. Then I'd ghost them. I become a student of abstinence, but my last hookup still reaching out. Is it for get back? I don't know what it's for because he could actually like you. But if you don't like him, then just keep it moving. And a lot of times it is for it's not about get back. A lot of times a man reaching out because when you're the one who got away, then the man sees it as failure. And the only thing that men, the main thing that men hate the most is rejection. And so the one area that a man can reverse rejection in his life is with a woman. Because in any area that a man pursues something that has rejected him, he going to get a restraining order put on him. No trespassing put on him. But with a woman, women typically will entertain a man that she has rejected. She'll typically allow the phone calls, allow him to pop up at her house, allow him to pop up at the job. And a man will keep doing that, doing that, doing that until you get the woman back. Y'all make sure y'all put the hashtag Q in front of your question so I can see it. What's the first thing you notice about a woman? So I guess her face, you know, if she's walking to you, her face and me ain't supposed to be noticing nothing, but different men have different things that they like. Where I'm from, it's all about the booty. So that's a lot of times a woman might not have, you know, all her face together, but if she got a booty, then she'll get us some men. So it's a lot of times it's really that shape that men be looking at. And it ain't a lot of personalities that are running a man off if a man attracted to a woman, whatever it is he like, it might not be the same. It could be her face, it could be anything. I heard men say they like hands and feet. I mean hands and toes. I stopped dating the guy after two months because he said he didn't want a relationship and I do. He said he don't want to lose me, but he lost me. We don't speak. Did I do the right thing? Yes, you did the right thing because as you hear with all of these podcasts and with all of these guys online that's talking, they're saying that they're telling women upfront that they don't want a relationship. And the woman continues to talk with them and continues to deal with them. And so that is not their fault if the woman chooses to keep talking to them after they have said they don't want a relationship. So if a man tells you who he is, what he wants, what he doesn't want and it doesn't line up with who you are and what you want, then move on with your life. And that's what has to be understood. A child's father come in and out of son's life. Five year old tries to pick him up every few weeks while out living. Inconsistent need time to breathe, cut him off completely, unfair to son. To growth is on the old part of the video. Now, that's a little too deep for this. That's kind of like a whole coaching session because when you're dealing with a man and his child, because see, this is the thing you got to realize. You never know where a man is at and you never know what he's going through. And so it's one thing, it's bad enough me giving advice and a woman may break up with a man because he's labeled a grown boy. That grown boy could come after me. If I tell a woman, cut a man off completely to where he can't see his child and he identified that that came from me, he could come do harm to me. And so that's what you got to understand. When it comes to certain things, that's the choice you have to make on your own for liability reasons because I don't want to have to put nobody, send nobody to meet the Lord because they mad with me and get froggy because I'm not the lily pad. So I have to always be prepared to lay somebody down so that they can meet the Lord because of the work that I do. Men are territorial and lose it. Absolutely lose it over certain things. So, you know, we have to be careful about that, but you need to go to onmymentor.life. If one of the moderators could type mymentor.life, it's not .com, it's .life. When you go on there, you could select a coach and you could click the filter and you could find a parenting coach or a co-parenting coach and do your session. It'll be coaches on there for $25. Do your session and, you know, we'll see. Do your session, Lam. That's not something I can advise on. Come to somebody's child unless it was a very serious situation, but that's not serious enough. I see a guy on IG that I find interesting. He isn't really active and lives in another state. I live in New York. He is a believer, but I don't want to reach out tips. Dating in and wide is horrible. I have a video, I think, unless it got took down. Sometimes your video do too many numbers. It'll get flagged too many times, get took down. And I think it's called how to get a man's attention on Instagram. And what I'm talking about on there is when you own, when you own social media and as a woman, you should never shoot your shot blatantly. You should never shoot a woman. You should never shoot her shot blatantly. I know it's a lot of Betty Boops that's teaching that. It's a lot of Bobba Top that's teaching that, but that is the worst advice. And there is women who say they have got their husband and they shot, they shot. God bless you. God bless you. Congratulations. Keep it to yourself. That was a terrible idea. That was a terrible move. It could have cost you everything. You made it out. That's like driving into a tree going 90 miles per hour and living do not advise that to anybody else. Keep that to yourself. So listen to me. A woman should never blatantly shoot her shot. And the reason being is because men are pursuers. Men are go getters. Men are hunters. A man want to go after what he wants. A real man does not want any handouts. A real man don't want anything to fall in his lap. A real man don't want nothing to come to him. He want to go to it. And so we have to understand. And once we get that, then what you have to do is be seen. So what I mean by that is not earth trapping. If you simply like a man's picture. It's a high possibility. He's going to see that you liked his picture. If you simply view his story. It's a good possibility. He's not that active. So you might not post stories, but if you like a picture and you like one more picture, the only way you like three pictures at the same in the same sitting is if God then nearby spoke to you audibly and said that's your husband and I don't know if God do that. But that's about the only way you like three pictures in a row now. Now the other thing is if you comment and with the comment do not don't put the little eyes like you looking at him put a man on one of his motivational positive quotes. Don't put the licking tongue out on a selfie. Don't put the eyes on a selfie. If you're going to write something about one of his self is if he the type of man that takes self as it could be nice picture. Just something like that. And a man gonna see that I have talked to men. Who have got a girlfriend fiance, baby mama wife from Instagram. And I said, well, how you how did you meet her? Oh, she was viewing my stories. But she never said anything. I said, so you ain't asked cuz they want to embarrass nobody. But and I've done this a few times. I can count on maybe one or two hands. How many times I click my story to see who view it now because I have a following on Instagram is time consuming. And so I just don't have the time to do that. I just don't do it. But if a person has, you know, less people on there, it's probably easier to see easier to do. And me and click on a story to see who view it. And women do that too. Y'all know women. Y'all already know that but I want y'all to let y'all know men do that too. And men go to the notification. See who like and see who comment. And I just didn't know that was a male behavior because that's not something that I frequent that I do. I've been trying to do it now just for networking purposes and just to pay attention to who's in the, you know, network. But I didn't know men do that until I started talking to men and saying, well, how did you meet her? And they tell me they met her because she liked the picture or she watched their story. And I'm like, wow. I was, I was just shocked to hear that, but this is 2022 by 2023. So this is the thing now. Um, Arianne game. Now this look like a brother here now. Like a brother God bless you. Brothers on the bless tribe. I hope this is genuine. Join Arianne and not not cause your ex that you want to get back is on here now. And you want to make sure she see your name up in the chat. Oh, let me see. And because of Arianne just came to join and be a part of the tribe not to get no woman back. That'll be amazing. That'll be amazing. But I'm going to tell y'all the only time I see men join they be like, yeah, I'm a girl. Polly. I thought to a guy today. He's a young girl Polly and I'm trying to get a bite. Yeah, I don't know of lamb caught up by lamb. You keep posting the same thing. I can't speak on child support area. I said, no, I'm not on that. Okay. Good. Good. God bless you. We got a hand full of men in the bless tribe. We don't have many. I don't know. Guys and not gossip. Well, why do you think you don't have male followers? I said, well, a lot of times men don't want to hear the truth. I don't take sides. I just tell it like it is. I call it down the middle sometime the woman wrong sometime the man wrong and we just call it down the middle. Our brother Tony. Why does it seem like men don't approach anymore? Just stare. Well, if it seemed like that, then it is like that because you are one and but it's a million reasons. So it's largely today because of social media and that's the that's the drawback of social media is when something is social media, it makes you less social in real life. When it's social network, it makes you less social in the real world and because it's kind of like this right here. When you can order food to be brought to you, it becomes real hard to get up, get dressed and go out and get the food. So now I'm going to tell you because of the convenience and because of, you know, now our dry cleaning, which we used to have to take to the dry cleaner and drop it off. So you taking time, however far away that is, you got to get dressed, you got to use a gas, you got to use time. Now our dry cleaning come to the house and it's the bag that you put at the front door and they get the bag and they drop off the last load that you sent. The groceries are now delivered for the house. And my wife said you paid $99 for the year and you ordered the groceries and it come within a couple hours. So now the groceries is delivered and so that's what's happening. A man get on Instagram and he has an endless supply of women that he could DM. So it's like why take the risk of walking up to this woman? If you just think she cute, but you're not convinced she your wife like she don't look that good to you. Not if you look that good to a man, he gonna approach you. So what it is is you're not walking past your husband. You walking past me and who admire your beauty, but you're not walking past your husband. So that's what you got to understand. When you walk past your husband, he's going to approach you even though he could meet a wife on social media. He's going to approach you. So that's what you have to realize and then to be honest with you. They talking about it's a lot of single men, but men don't always be a hundred percent single. They have like a little friend love some day dealing with and so you know that happens too. Um, it's super. No, I I this the thing is long time. You know, I get that question. I did a video on where to meet good man. I mean, I just did it because y'all ask that question all the time, but I'm gonna tell y'all I'm gonna tell the lady something because we got men on here watching too. I'm gonna tell the lady something. It's not that cut and dry. Like it's not like go to the lounge on first Friday in downtown and you're going to meet a good man. Go to church on first Sunday and sit on the third row and make sure you clap and click your heels and you're going to be the good man. Listen, the men are everywhere. The men everywhere. The men everywhere. You just have to get out the house. If you get out your house and you spend as much time out your house as you in your house, you're going to meet your husband. And so you got to get active. You got to get on event bright dot com event right. Similar chat. You got to get on event bright dot com and it's going to pull up your location. It's going to show you all the events in your area this weekend. Find you one of them events. Some of them are free. Find you one of them events. Go to that event. Get on meet up dot com and they have groups of your interest. Join a group of your interest. Go to their monthly meeting. It might be $10. Make sure you have a place of worship. Go to church every Sunday. Make sure you have a gym. Go to the gym three to seven times a week. Go to gym three to seven times a week. Go before work. Get up early enough to go to the gym before work. And have a gym that you could shower and get dressed in the locker room. Go to gym before work. Do that for two or three weeks or a whole month. Then go to the gym after work for a whole month. And this what you do. You do frequent different things on every Friday night. Get out the house. See if you can get one friend and you get out the house and you go to a live music restaurant, lounge, something like that. And if you just get out the house and that's the thing what is so many women are saying they want a husband but they're going to work and they're going home. And then when they go out, they're walking with their head down the speed walking and they own their phone. And it just it just won't work. Happy 91 talk about guys that move too fast. Chee Chee. Hey, God bless you now. Now we're in a recession. We done been on here 35 minutes and this is the first super chat came through. If that ain't the sign wheel recession and the 499. Y'all remember when y'all were getting them unemployment checks, I couldn't get through the super chat. When y'all get an unemployment check, the new stimulus check, I was on here. I was on here so tired. I'm like, can y'all I know me? I used to have to say stop sending super chats. When when them are when Donald Trump was giving them stimulus checks. Don't don't say he's been running 2024. Listen, I don't like everything Donald say, but I'm like, don't get on like, you know, don't get on like, you know, I made the most money I ever made when Donald was in there. I just Joe man ain't no money with Joe like Joe. Can you give a similar check or something? I ain't seen a similar checks. It don't have been down. I don't try. I got a similar chat. I'm like, man, come on. Now, I ain't supporting dawn in that way, but I might be in that booth. I might be in a booth and go right outside. Yes, Democrats got it. We're gonna win it again. I don't write in that booth. Republican. Listen, I'm gonna tell y'all. Donna got in there. A lot of people went in there and voted for Donald there on that 2020 and then came out and told their friends and family they voted for the Democrats. No, but then Donna said so much crazy stuff that next time we had to give it to Joe. We was like, well, you put down in there again after all he said, I said, well, look at Johnson. Johnson came in here with our in money. Now, I mean, Jolene, Jolene said, all right, Tony. Hey, thank you, Jolene. Thank you. Jolene say recession. Well, recession. Who I'm bad. Now, let me see. Now, cuz you teach you have put up saying Jolene. God bless you now. I so appreciate you. I so appreciate you, but that's how I could tell we in the recession when we're 35 minutes and you get the first super chat 35 minutes. Do you think my baby daddy will marry me? He says we will and we will be together for almost two years in February. We have a wedding date to y'all think he gonna marry you. I think he'll marry you. It's only been almost two years. So that's fast. That's fast and you put the cart before the horse. So like like your sisters always tell you what your sister tell you. They say why buy the cow if the milk is free. If they gonna let you keep going up there and getting free milk, you never finna buy a cow. Now, all right. We got the non recession proof. I mean, we got the recession proof flexors now coming to jump the chat. God bless you. I was like, am I still a member? I can't comment Trump. Yes. Well, sure. They you not a member. What happened? So they that that car got declined. Unfortunately, you might have updated your car. If you updated your car, the way it expired. Hey, God bless y'all now because let me see what they say. Tiana Tony. I just want to thank you for your life changing content. God bless you and your family. Hey, God bless you. God bless you. Now see this the other thing to what happened. We used to be on here with the bless tribe. The super chats used to come through. The super chats used to come through. But I'm gonna tell you. I never show. I never showed my life. And it's an unfortunate thing and I've always had my life before I got serious on YouTube in 2019. I've been driving foreign cars since. 2007. But in the black race, people like to see you do good to you doing better than they think you should be. So when you poor mouth them, you get support and I'm a teacher about the levels of support. The levels of support when you at the bottom and it looked like somebody supporting you ain't gonna make a difference. You get support. When you get to where you could see the support. And people feel like their support is going to make or break you. That's when you stop getting a rich support. So the hardest is in the middle. When you get to the super top when you basically bought them so you get sold or you didn't sign a deal deal with a network and this is like the level of like a JZ Beyonce. You get a lot of support because people feel like not buying your album or your book or your course ain't gonna make a difference anyway. So why cheat myself out of this book or this album or this course because not buying it out of hate ain't gonna make a difference. It's still gonna be blessed. So that's the levels of support. So it's a guy of the day. I have the video from a sprinter and he said ladies see what y'all see what him telling y'all what y'all want to hear has bought him. Now what the idiot did not know is that I started 13 companies and got over 50 streams income. What the idiot did not know is I got to real estate investment companies. That's what the idiot didn't know but see they just assume that your life come from one thing. He didn't realize I wrote 17 books. He realized I got 30 courses. He didn't realize he literally thought the $200 that I make from reals every month is what provide a living for my family. Instagram paid me $200 a month from the reals that got millions of views. Instagram paid $200 a month and so that's why you're all the guys that be thinking. Oh yes and it's to get you just and it's some women too unfortunately the message be helping men and women but some people don't want no help. Tion God bless you. Ronisha God bless you. No question. Thanks for everything been watching for almost three years. God bless you. Look at our precious bless bless what it say. Thanks for being you God bless you now. I'm trying to scroll up across the top. Jam God bless you. Thank you for your life saving messages and we're going to celebrate the celebrators now. I issue the cool girl. Thank you. Hey God bless you now. Now y'all could put a question in those 9 you don't have to. Now this is a free chat so you don't have to send a thing but I so appreciate y'all now but when you send it if you got a question throw your question in them simply a mirror God bless you. It's too cold outside to look for a man. It snowed last week. I feel you know I got to wait till spring working on three bees for the whole winter. Hey that's a good sign what that mean is you don't want a man bad enough. That's what that mean. And so that's a good sign. You ain't you ain't desperate enough to be going out in that cold. You cheat you cheat you cheat you. Hey you got a beautiful name. Now I love the fact you got a name from the motherland because they done stripped us over here. They call us Toby over here. Love that name now if a relationship was extremely toxic in the beginning but later no issues arise in the relationship should you still stay family says no. Yeah you should stay if it doesn't work yourself out. If it didn't work out and y'all doing good every relationship going to go through something now. Let me tell you the other way it go the other way is everything is perfect in the beginning and then it get toxic when you 10 years in. Then the family tell you to stay because you've been in 10 years but now when it was toxic and it won't work out you don't grow you don't mature both y'all don't grow mature now they saying leave for the past no no no no. Happy 91 I didn't see your statement. So you post that again. Y'all coming with some names now and to and to say her. God bless you and T's you and T's and T's. But one thing about some of our mom's work. I don't know what it is one thing about some of our mom they want to they want to get creative on a name. They want to get creative on a name. I think thank God bless you beautiful name now a man or me honestly you're the type of woman that a man married when he ready to retire and settle down. Is he saying I won't get married until I'm old. Yeah that's what he's saying. That is what he's saying. That is what he's saying. But it means that you hold some and you look reliable and trustworthy. It don't he based on saying you don't look like hot girl summer and that is a lot of men probably just looking for a woman who in her hot girl summer. Because you're going to be loose. I'm 26 single with no kid educated and beautiful should I be worried that I'm single. No because you're 26 that you're a baby. 26 years old you're a baby 946. That's when you got to be a little more intentional. 46 single no kids. That's when you you want to you want to sit down and really evaluate 36 now you could get the value waiting and getting a really kind of you know if you desire a relationship you don't desire relationship then know you good but if you desire a relationship then you want to figure out how to attract what you desire. What about 39 one kid now rock saying you're doing good because you didn't. You know pop you want out. You know pop you want out some women that still waiting on a man worthy of being down there. So you didn't found that man it didn't work out but you know you got you know Lisa somebody you could love until you your husband approaches. God just met asked me on a date yesterday and said he can't wait to hug me said I was his wife we haven't had enough phone time told him weekends are better for dates haven't heard from him wait for him to call or text. Yeah wait for him to call the tech you heard from him and also you don't know if he to move on. Sometimes men will say a little stuff and really don't really don't be by nothing and don't be planning nothing. You teach you how to handle disrespect in a relationship disrespect has to be addressed. So what that mean is if you've been disrespected you got to sit down in a time of peace and you got to have a conversation and you got to be cool, calm and collected and you got to let it be known that this right here I feel disrespected by this and this cannot be allowed going forward and you got to address that and can't allow any deflection any side stepping any avoidance it has to be heard it has to be received it has to be understood and then you can move forward. My childhood friend ghosted me because she's going through a lot if I see her face to face should I act like she's a stranger I feel that I should she converses with her other friends. Well it might be another reason so you might want to write her and say hey you know is there anything that we have is there an issue between us that you would like to speak about because if she's talking to other people then it ain't because she's going through a lot it's got something to do with you how she's feeling and it could be jealousy she could be tired of seeing you in the blessed tribe with a community that you happy to be around tired of seeing you blessed tired of seeing you happy and smiling sometimes it's that too sometimes people can't stand to see you doing better than them emotionally or spirited and they get away from you because looking at you make them feel worse about their life because of their mindset instead of feeling better about themselves. I'm 41 no kids never married but I'm in the entertainment industry touring concert producer hard to meet Christian guys in my line of work. Rodisha give me some of the ticket now. Yeah, throwing around titles of you or a little ticket now you need to be give away some tickets now. And I was that little bell build the vote already I know it I know it. That's the thing. Sometimes we have to sometimes we got to make a choice because all right now. Don't be playing. That's what I got the Lord heard you. I really don't go to concert but I will sell them tickets though. But I get out there because they come from you but listen sometimes we have to make a choice. Sometimes we have to pivot. Sometimes we have to when we want to be we want to step into a new season of life. We have to make changes. So what that could mean is you may have to look in your department look in your field and see if there's a job that you could be paid for to do from home to be home more. And see if there's a another industry that you could pivot to like I just was working and I met a young lady and she is a producer. But she used to be a publicist and she said just being a publicist it was too much travel it was too busy it was too hectic so she got into television production and she took that resume that looked at nice from PR and pivoted into something else. So when you done something like what you doing on a high level is other companies out there that got an office job that you could be a tour producer or do something with the tours on the logistical planning of it but be home more and be able to just go out go to church go to the local business meetups go to do the different things. And so think about that now. Jam God bless and I did read that. So I see those that the higher mouse step there for quite a while. My name is Sean shanti or shantae God bless and I don't know which one to go. Thank you for connecting me with an editor for my novel. She did a great job. That's the mate that is a mate. But those of you who took the birthday book program the birthday book course on Tony gas Academy which all the courses right now Tony gas Academy are listed 50% off for the Black Friday for the holidays. So all other courses are listed at 50% off on Tony gas Academy after taking the course like the birthday book I connect y'all with an editor or a formatter and things like that to help you help bring your book to market. Hey okay son. I told him my ex came back into the pit but has genuinely changed. Slash effort I've expressed I desire marriage and he's agreed what should my next steps be it would be long distance until I move back. Well sister you go you keep going and see give it a little time when somebody come back and you accept them back. You typically need at least six months don't rush that marriage. I know you want marriage but you need to see that he's genuinely changed and you need about six months you need about six months and if it's love and they got a job. Where where you would be moving back to and it's consistent so like after three months or so if you're feeling good about it six months then you can move on back transfer go on transfer move on back. Hey I'm gonna be on here about another five minutes now because I need to eat my denim a white pack for me old lounge shank and go ahead and see my son because they're screaming that toward the end of practice. I'm trying to see practice because you've been telling me you're all started practice. So I'm waiting on your marriage series married six years one child together 13 we're happy but been through the trenches in the past but could still use your wisdom and advice. Thank you for reminding me about that I need to do that marriage series sometimes on being married I don't think to talk about. What I'm actually in because I'm trying to help people who tried to get to the marriage but we need help in our own marriage so I need to be coaching and preaching to myself to which helps somebody else. I've been dating a man for nine months but he hasn't told his family about me the teenage daughter knows of me. He treats me like an absolute queen should I be worried. He's African I'm African American. I don't really know in this day and age. If you should be worried. It's a new day. I honestly feel like he would care more about his daughter's opinion of you than his family's opinion of you because he's a grown man whereas his daughter that's his dependent you know that's his child that's his queen as well until he meet a wife that's his queen and so that's something that you want to be mindful of and then also you never know somebody's true relationship with their family sometimes people true relationship with their family is so toxic that they don't feel like they owe their family anything about the moves they make it in their life. So don't just you know he treat you good. That's all you need to worry about because the marriage going to be between you and him not you and the family anyways he's been divorced for two years and have five kids from previous from previous 10 year marriage. I have none. He's 35 and I'm 29 and this is the most solid connection I've ever had. Do you think will work? Once I see this see them a table based on how y'all be asking me question. Let me know some of y'all be talking to psychics and the tarot readers because y'all be asking me questions of predict the future questions. Just let me know some of y'all read horoscope and be called up in astrology. I'll say sanctified or go feel I'll say sanctified or go feel so I can't predict the future on the question now. So the way y'all be phrasing sometimes be asking me I be feeling like y'all ask me like I'm a psychic now. So I'm going to take it a different way. Okay. I'm going to take a different way. So I ain't got to see it like that. But let me tell you 29 years old you a baby. Okay. That's good son that you don't talk to people 29 years old you a baby. I'm going to tell you one thing my wife in her in her mid 30s and we got two kids. And it's hard. I'll be jokingly asking her for a third. She'd be ready to slap me in the mouth. So listen to me. Five kids. I bet it is the best connection you don't have. He knows how to connect. That brother know how to connect their brother know how to sink a shot now five kids and he 35 I'm 38 with two kids. All that brother do is shoot shots. Listen I'm going to listen with that right there. I have to hold out on the Lord because one thing I'm going to tell you before the Lord send you destiny the devil send you a distraction disguised as destiny. Me personally I feel like this is your distraction right before your breakthrough. This sound like the breakdown before your breakthrough. Shondo. That's often played 59 minutes. I got to go at 60 listen to me five kids. So you're gonna have a hand full 10 year marriage. You don't know how that one feel about them five kids. And so listen to me now. Listen to me now. What's the pause pump your break pump your break. Take your time. Give me take your time. Take your time because I'm gonna tell you if I was 35 with five kids. I would be looking for a woman fast because I need a nanny out that woman. I need a babysitter out that woman. I need a handmaid out that woman. I need a diaper change out that woman. I need a substitute. I need a tag team partner. I need somebody I can lead them five kids with when it's my weekend when I want to go out to the casino go out with the boys. I need somebody to dump them five kids on and I need I need them to be young. I need them to be young so that they could be a little dumb. I need them to not have children so that my five children can fill a void in their life and because they ain't got no kid. They're like, oh, I like it. Okay. Here go five of them. I'm gonna tell you five kids. Well, remember if I was a woman and a man and I'm especially 29 now. If you and your 40s with no kids, okay, five kids that might be a dream come true. If you always wanted kids, just hit a pocketbook. Y'all remember the pocketbook? If I sit down, if I'm a woman, I sit down with a man. He tell me he got five kids. Okay, right. And get his purse. Oh, okay. Well, it was like, you know, it was so. Oh, my goodness. I got a phone call. Oh, it was so good to meet you. Great to meet you. Oh, yeah. I take care of you. Thank you. Hey, it's so sorry. I hate to run. So sorry. I hate to run. But I don't got to call. So sorry. Okay. Listen, five kids. I got to go. Five kids. I got to go. That's a daycare sound. Man, come on now. I'm not feeling right. You're a daycare center. Man, come on now. Listen, it's hard for us. A lot of us to love our own kids. It's like, yeah, we love them. Yeah, we love them. But listen, we don't buy went to jail over our own kids. Somebody else kid. Man, listen, man, I got to go. Somebody else kid. I got to go. I got to go. Don't tell you nothing. Don't listen. A lot of y'all give finesse now. My wife pat me dinner. Y'all got to forgive her. Wife pat me dinner. She got the thing. I'm going to try to tell you. That's why I try to tell y'all men about getting married. You get married. You be blessed. Your blessing to be shaken and running together. Oh, lamb shake with some mashed potatoes engraved. Your blessing to be shaken together and running over You hit me. Y'all don't want to hit that. Y'all boys don't want to hit that. Listen, you get blessed and highly favored running over. Now you get married. Y'all boys get married. I'm trying to tell you. Your cup running over. You see how this gravy coming up under the bottom. That's what happens when you get married. Your cup running over. So listen, see what I do is the wife, she be taking care of me. See this back here in the back of her. In the back of the sprinter. Got your, got your microwave back here. And look, today I started a little refrigerator. Now, unfortunately, I got a toilet stool. But we don't use a toilet stool. Like they say, you can't where you eat at. So we don't use a toilet stool. We just back here. Right on out there. Somebody else's bathroom. I'm not going to be back here doing no bathroom. Well, I'm finna heat the food up after that. You know, our Caucasian brothers and sisters created these. And sometimes they got a, because they hunt and fish a lot. They stomach be a little better than us. Others of us. So y'all don't forgive them. Eat that good food up. Now, when I eat the food up, I got to go, but see what I like to do is I like to go out there and not eat. So the husbands that ain't got no food. Just to see the favor of the Lord. You ain't got no food. You ain't got no sprinter. Stop watching porn. Stop jacking off. Get with the Lord and your life going to go up. Your life going to go up. You're going to be blessed and highly favored. But you want to do things the devil way. Got to eat when you get home. Because you ain't got no sprinter with no, with no microwave in it. So listen, listen, the rappers who be blessed by the devil, they show they love devil blessings. But then when the, when the, when the Christians get blessed. Oh, don't nobody want to see that. Oh, dude, don't nobody want to see that. Oh, you're supposed to be wading in the water. Oh, you're supposed to be. Terri and for the Lord. What do you mean? You got luxury cars that Jesus walked. Well, you walked so I could ride. Hey, listen to me. God bless y'all. I got to go ahead and go. I'm going to go out here and eat in front of these other father's face. Y'all forgive me. Lord forgive me. That ain't any other Lord, but we all fall short of the glory of God. I'm going to go right on out here and tally food up. Wipe the rest of my practice. I'm going to go right on out here. Tally food up. Wipe the rest of my practice. My wife had hot sauce in here. Man, listen, it benefits the being married fellows. This is why I try to tell me you better a man who find a wife, find a good thing and receive favor from the Lord. But no. What do these men want to go from what they call it? Bed or post? Bed or the post or something like that. Man listen. They'll find you a one and receive up to a favor from the Lord. Hey, God bless y'all. Thank you to everybody who gave was for chat. That was the next level blessing. I really appreciate that. I really do. And to the people who when I post those videos. That's super that are super thanks or that applause button under the video. I've seen that some people hit that and it allow you to give a tip. I really appreciate that because you to take what they take. But it's still to me. It just say it's like somebody saying thank you. And although it'd be a blessing and you give a lot of time just to see that the thanks and to the members to the blessed tribe members in the blessed business tribe members in the patriarchal members. I just really appreciate you. Appreciate your support. And you to take 30% of those. They take 45% of the ads the ads they put on now. But a God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. And oh, thank you to the moderators. Thank you to the moderators. And caramel kids and she'd be putting cash up on that. She'd be looking out. But a God bless y'all. Left the moderators. Thank you. Let's try and the subscribers. Y'all notified me that we crossed 400k. But I don't like to celebrate in the middle. I'm trying to I got some other goals. So that's why I'm celebrating too much in the middle. So y'all posted it. I ain't posted. I've seen some of y'all saying it. But I appreciate you for noticing that. But it you know what it said me just being who I am. When I when I seen y'all posting congrats on 400k. I said, well, look at black folk. Black folk on count your pockets now. I'm like, well, y'all watching the numbers harder than I'm watching the numbers. Oh, how many subscribers he got? I'm like, what's her? Can I recognize it first? Well, black folk on count your pockets now, boy. I say, boy, at least let me recognize it. But thank y'all for the support. We'll talk soon. I need third most say I like my food to burn my mouth. And I don't talk to a little more. I need this thing to be hot smelling good. So when the other fathers look up. Yeah. Got little sister. How to say well, Lord Christian. What you? Oh, your God ain't blessed you. Everybody God ain't the same. But hey, I respect people God. Hey, everybody God ain't the same. God bless. I'm just I'm just joking because, you know, God. Move at different times and different times. I like one thing I'm going to tell you, get aligned with the Lord, get aligned with the Lord. Because if you ain't in your season, your season on the way, trust and believe. And I love the people who say, Lord, I see what you done for her. I see what you done him. I know it's going to happen for me. If you ain't got that attitude, it ain't coming. But if you got the attitude, it's coming. Hey, God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. I'm going for real this time. I'm doing like my daddy now say by 19 times and still be talking.