 In the world of relationships, we know that the answer to the age-old question, if a tree falls in the woods and there's no one around, does it make a sound? The answer is no, not if the tree is like us. People need to feel seen and heard and to feel we exist and to feel we're loved. Most of us are starving for attention from someone who we really care about and who cares about us. If we're starving for that while we're in a relationship, then we know there's something really wrong. So that's what's going on when we're having these fights, that starving, that hunger for attention. We don't know how to get it. And like a little kid doesn't know how, you know, they get attention that at least someone is paying attention that way.