 A lot of people think that the word discipline for a lot of people has a bad connotation when I'm talking about Self-discipline self-discipline is actually an act of self-love Today I'm gonna be teaching you the five steps to be more self-disciplined and to get shit done today So we're gonna talk about how to build the discipline muscle the discipline habit the way that I see discipline is I don't think anybody is born with discipline. I think that it's something that is Programmed into us whether it's our parents that program it into us or whether we program it into ourselves And I think that I see it as a muscle I see it as a habit and I see it as something that anybody can bring into themselves no matter how lazy or Unproductive they are at this moment and I really got into this because I was talking to my fiancee about it last night when I was driving my truck And we were talking about someone that that she knows that's really discipline and she goes It's really it makes sense though because both of his parents are really disciplined Her mom his mom's real success real successful. His dad is real successful They're both very driven people and it makes sense why he's so driven and I said well What about his brothers and sisters and she said yeah, that's interesting because all of them the entire family is Driven and so it's something that you can learn whether it's learning it from your parents or something that you can instill in yourself As well And so I see it like a muscle the more that you work your discipline muscle the more it's going to grow the more You work a discipline plus and more it's weren't going to grow at this point in time If you don't have a whole lot of discipline it might just be because you got weak discipline muscles It's like you haven't been to the gym Maybe your entire life But if you just decide to start going to the gym and decide to start lifting weights and show up and show up and show Up and show up consistently eventually your muscles will grow your muscles are just going to grow That's the way that your body works. It's the exact same way for discipline for me I was a very undisciplined person for a long time in my life for the first 19 20 years I was completely undisciplined. I didn't like doing any work any of that stuff and Now it's hard to not be disciplined. It's hard to not be driven to get something done And so I know from myself and from other people that I've worked with discipline is something that can be built into you It's not something that you're born with But it's something that can be developed. You don't need discipline for easy things. That's the funny thing about it You need discipline for the hard things. You don't need discipline for you know Sleeping in you don't need discipline for not going to the gym. You don't need discipline to eat a pizza You need discipline to actually do the things that you need to do to move the needle in your life And before we dive into the five tips, I want to tell you something about discipline I think is super important a lot of people think that the word discipline is for a lot of people has a bad connotation if Your child does something or your does something wrong you discipline them if they don't get good grades or they don't act the way they're supposed to if your dog poops on the floor you're going to discipline your dog But when I'm talking about self-discipline self-discipline is actually an act of self-love. It's not a an act of doing something bad It's an act of self-love because you always need self-discipline to do the things that are good for you You don't need self-discipline like I said to sleep in you don't need self-discipline to not work out You don't need self-discipline to eat a pizza you need self-discipline to wake up early to work on yourself You need self-discipline to eat the healthy food You need the self-discipline to get yourself to the gym and so self-discipline is an act of self-love It's not an act of you know something negative, which is a way we usually think of the word of discipline So I want to tell you that before we we dive into it, but it's also not about being perfect You will never be perfect and so you don't need to worry about that It's not about being just like this badass productivity machine all day every single day It's about making sure that you're the majority of the actions that you take are The actions that need to be taken to get you to where you want to be and to move the needle So it's not about being perfect all the time because one of the things I see with people as I start to work on themselves And they start to try to get better is They will be really good for a couple days and then they'll fall off and then they start to judge Themself and they start to feel guilty and then the judgment and the guilt and the shame and the negative self talk Knocks them off path, and they don't do anything to be done. And so I want you to realize you don't have to be perfect It's about winning more than you're losing That's the way that you really get get to move the needle in your house and you're in your life Okay So number one is to challenge yourself to finish every single thing that you start challenge yourself to finish every single thing As you start no matter what it is Challenge yourself to make sure that you get done if you make yourself a salad you have to finish the salad And then if you made the salad you have to put everything away before you can go on to the next thing One of the things that's really interesting that I have a new coach I guess you could say I'm learning how to fly a plane and so I have a certified flight instructor It's funny because he's not teaching me life skills But I see life skills coming through as he's teaching me so he's kind of I like to call in my coach One of the things that you have to do and is when you're about to pre-flight your plane And you're going through the plane you're looking at everything is you have to check the fuel on the plane And you have to go through and in the plane that we have There's five different places where you have to literally take the fuel out So two different places where you have to take the fuel out of the further out on the ends of the wing further and closer to the cockpit and The fuselage and then actually one actually coming directly at the engine where you actually have to literally get the the gas out of There and actually check to make sure that it's good gas and one of the times I left the cup that you put the gas in on one of the wings And he goes this is an important part that you need to learn to learn about aviation is you don't do something else Until the thing that you're doing is done And so even if you're on you know where I've put my gas away The little cup is on the left backside of the plane The where I always am at though is the right wing of the plane So the complete opposite side of the plane And so what he says is even if it's on the other side of the plane You don't do anything else until it's completed So you have to walk all the way to the other side of the plane And you have to put it away and the reason why I love this is because he says in aviation You have to make sure that the thing that you're working on gets done before you move to something else because if you happen to Forget something because you go on to something else because you're distracted that can be catastrophic And so you've got to start to think about yourself in your life in the exact same way And this is what I love about coaches in all different aspects of life Is that no matter how big the thing is no matter how small the thing is Challenge yourself not to do anything else until that thing is done You hear me say it all the time when you wake up in the morning make your bed when you You know have your coffee just clean the coffee mug Whatever is it you're doing if you if you brush your teeth and you happen to you know Brush your teeth and get a little bit that's on the mirror wipe it off when you go when you're deciding What you want to wear for the night and you're changing through all of these different outfits Don't leave all of those outfits on your bed and then go out What you do is you literally figure out what outfit you're going to wear put it on and then hang up again and put away every single article of clothing You've heard me say it over and over and over again, and I just said in another podcast The way you do one thing is the way you do everything And so if you can force yourself to be self-disciplined for the little teeny tiny things like making your bed putting your clothes away Making sure that you wash the dish every single thing that you do You're going to translate that into all of the big things in your life as well And so make sure that you're disciplined in getting every single teeny tiny thing done and finishing what you start Don't allow yourself to stop early because stopping early is also a habit And so if you're trying to develop a habit, what is the habit you're trying to develop? Finishing what it is that you started. So that's the first one step number two is to plan ahead If you want to just be more self-disciplined and get more stuff done start being better at planning ahead It it really boggles my mind How few people plan out their week And then they don't plan out their day in the morning if you take five minutes with yourself Every single morning and ask yourself. Okay, look at my schedule What I have going on today and you take five minutes and you close your eyes and you say hey What do I want my day to look like today? How do I want to feel? I'm going to go through Driving to work being at work the presentation I have to give Lunch the conversation I want to have and you just visualize what the perfect day would look like to you and you plan ahead You'll be so much more productive and it'll it'll be so much easier to be disciplined Whenever you've gone through that another idea of planning ahead if you're trying to lose weight You're trying to get in a better shape. Why don't you just start meal planning? Like plan ahead every sunday create all of your meals And then you don't even have to think about what it is that you got to eat every single day You've already got it made That's what planning ahead looks like to be more self-disciplined if you've got to work out four times a week And that's part of your self-discipline. Why don't you plan out your on sunday? What workouts you're going to be doing day one day two day three day four and plan out the workouts so that when you show up to the gym You don't even have to think you just have to take action And so sometimes one of the biggest resist pieces of resistance that we have towards doing things Is the mental energy that it takes to get ready and prepared for those things But if you can make it easier by preparing ahead of time and already having those things done It'll make it much more easier much easier on yourself to execute what it is that needs to be done And so make sure that what you're doing is you're planning ahead for all of the important things that are coming up in your life as well That will help you be so much more self-disciplined That's number two. Number three is to design your environment. What do you want your environment to look like? How can you create an environment that makes it easier for you to take action or makes it easier for you to Accomplish your goals. So let's say that you want to lose weight Okay, well in your environment of your house in your car where you work all of those things How can you design your environment to help you in accomplishing that goal of being more disciplined for me? I love sugar I think it's amazing and if I have sugar inside of the house It's being eaten by me and I'll probably eat all of it in one sitting And so what I do is I don't allow any candy any of that stuff to be inside the house because I know I I'm weak when sugar's around. It's like the animalistic part of my brain takes over and it's like Go find the sugar and just do it. So to make it easier on myself and to have more discipline I just don't have sugar inside the house makes it easier on me. So if sugar is a thing for you How can you remove the sugar if alcohol is a thing for you? How can we have alcohol? I had a friend that I just spoke to and we were on a zoom call a couple hours ago And I haven't talked to him about three years and I hopped on a zoom call with him and I barely recognized him And I was like, man, what what happened to you like how much weight did you lose? He's like I've lost about 40 pounds. I haven't seen him in three years It's like I've lost like 40 pounds. Like you look amazing. What did you do? He goes, do you want another crazy thing man? I just stopped drinking alcohol He goes, I love drinking alcohol not an alcoholic sense, but I just love drinking it It's just the way it feels going out being with friends and stuff He goes, I just stopped drinking alcohol and he looked like a completely different person You know, he just decided to take his environment and not have any alcohol in the house because if the temptation isn't there It makes it easier to be more self-discipline which then makes it easier to hit his goals So another thing as far as your environment goes is think about the people that you're hanging out with You know, don't be around people who will challenge your discipline Don't be around, you know, if you want to stop drinking like my friend. I was just telling you about Then don't go around your friends at a bar because that's going to make it really hard to be less disciplined And so you've got to design your environment to be the environment that you you would want to help you in facilitating your Help you facilitate the accomplishment of the goals or the action that needs to be taken To get you to where you need to be. So number three is to design your environment Number four is to work and to focus on progress not perfection. This is huge for a lot of people Progress not perfection done is better than perfect. So focus on progress not perfection. So, you know, when you mess up, which you will Don't beat yourself up make adjustments That's all you have to do one of the things that really holds people back the most is that when they screw something up they literally drag themself on glass And and just like literally it's like dragging themself on glass of guilt and shame and negative self-talk and being terrible to themself And so many people If they would just stop guilting themselves It would make it so much more so much easier for them to be more disciplined But also get things done that they need to get done, right? So when you mess up, which you will let me say it again You will mess up over and over and over and over again That is part of being human realize that it is about progress And not perfection when you mess up make adjustments. Take a step back and ask yourself what happened and what could I have done better? So if you look at that and you go, okay, well my goal is to not have any sugar Okay. Well, what could I have? I just ate some sugar. What could I have done to have gotten away from that? Well, I probably could have shared my goals with my wife so that she would have known That I don't want to have any sugar and then she probably would have bought that ice cream And I wouldn't have you know pounded that quart of ice cream. Well, okay Now we know we take a step back and we look at it and say, okay Now what I need to do is I need to share my goals with her and say, hey If you want ice cream, you can get it But do me a favor, you know either finish it before you get to the house Or you know hide it from me so I can't see it Whatever it is that you need like literally this I'm not kidding when I tell you this my fiance If she has candy, she hides it from me because she knows that if if I find it, it's gone like it's done It's just it's cashed not happening. It's gone And so she literally will hide stuff from me because she knows that she wants to enjoy it later Like she's the type of person that can sit down and she can enjoy one piece of chocolate And then like tomorrow come back and enjoy one more piece of chocolate I'm the person where if I have one piece of chocolate and it registers my brain I'm pounding the whole freaking bag and so with her she hides it from me That's just our relationship and I'm completely cool with it. Why? Because it helps me when I don't know that it's there So my environment is is designed in that way But also if I do have a piece of chocolate or do have something Then I don't beat myself up over it because I would say the majority of the days I don't have any and so I'm not going to try to live a life that I don't enjoy And so it's about progress and not perfection or anything else. So that's number four and number five Is reward yourself like it's okay to reward yourself if you have a really good week And let's just let's just stay on this fitness thing that we're talking about And you have a really good week of working out and you have a really good week of eating healthy Have a cheat meal. I remember when I used to be really really big into I was about 20 pounds heavier than I am now And I was had way more muscle I'd still have it if an interval of these injuries that I've had over the past few years I'm sure but I would have one cheat meal a week and it was like the most glorious cheat meal ever I would look forward to that saturday. It was saturday evening I would have that cheat meal and it was like I would go get a pizza And I would eat the entire pizza and then I would have a massive bit of ice cream And then literally almost every single week I would pass out right after because my body was like shut down There's too much going on My body needed to digest all of it But it was so glorious to literally have like this one meal that I could look forward to and then I ate So much all of those things that I didn't I didn't feel the need to cheat the entire rest of the week because I was like Holy crap That was a lot I need to kind of chill out and so reward yourself If you are trying to stay away from sugar reward yourself a little bit of sugar once a week Whatever is you need to do design your environment to help you be more successful to help you get done Whatever is you need to get done if you need to make 100 phone calls every single day in your business Okay, well on the end of friday when you get those 500 phone calls done for the entire week How are you going to reward yourself so? Enjoy your life and what you're doing. Don't be so disciplined that it just becomes Uh monotonous and not fun You've got to have some sort of way to when you do succeed Have a cheat meal if you make 100 calls you get a bag of skittles Whatever it is that's going to help you to reward yourself so that therefore you want to go and be self-discipline again Because you can't be self-discipline all of the time But when you have a reward for being more self-discipline it makes it easier to go ahead and be more self-discipline the next round Hey, thanks so much for watching this video if you want to learn even more about master your mind Click right here and watch this video as well. It's so ridiculously simple how simple life is But we make it so hard