 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوّاله الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على عبد الله ورسوله نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته كما always we begin with the praise of Allah by asking Allah to exalt the mention of grand peace to our messenger Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم to his family and his companions we've been speaking about the tarbiyah of our children and remember all of this is in the context of the rights of the child over the parent and the responsibilities and obligations of the parent towards the child and we came to the right the responsibility of a tarbiyah of nurturing preparing and educating our children and having spoken about some of the principles behind tarbiyah examples of tarbiyah we now came to talk about educating our children in terms of Islam and الحمد لله we finish whatever Allah made easy for us to finish in that regard and now we come on to the topic of the worldly education a lot of people might be tempted and even I sometimes find myself tempted to use the expression secular education but I actually don't think this is a very good expression to use because it indicates the word secular indicates that this education has nothing to do with the religion and isn't governed by the religion and that's not true the religion of Islam is one that calls you to the best of this world and the next and it calls for your children to have the best of this world and the next and therefore the religion of Islam governs the matters of our worldly lives it governs what we're allowed to do and not allowed to do and it also directs us in worldly benefits just as it directs us in our acts of worship and coming near to Allah سبحانه وتعالى so I don't really want to call it secular education I'm instead going to call it worldly matters and Allah سبحانه وتعالى He criticized and He rebuked the one whose knowledge is no more than the worldly matters worldly education الله عز وجل said in Surat Al-Rum يعلمون ظاهرا من الحياة الدنيا وهم عن الآخرة هم غافلون they know what is apparent from this worldly life but as for the hereafter they are unaware of it look at how Allah عز وجل rebukes the disbelievers and I believe this is an ayah that is very applicable to the disbelievers today so many people يعلمون ظاهرا من الحياة الدنيا they know what is apparent from this worldly life and that includes things like science science deals with observation primarily things that can be observed and tested and repeated and ultimately that is ظاهرا من الحياة الدنيا that is what is apparent from the worldly life but as for the matters of the hereafter they are unaware so whatever you teach your children from the matters of this worldly life it should never ever be at the exclusion or it should never be at the exclusion of the religion of Islam so that they become people who know so much about the حياة الدنيا but they don't know anything about the آخرة and that's so sad to see some Muslims falling into this and we know the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told us you're going to follow the ways of the people who came before you we see so many Muslims subhan Allah excelling in the sciences in mathematics in languages in their careers becoming subhan Allah at the forefront of their field but subhan Allah becoming more and more ignorant about Islam and more and more ignorant about the آخرة and that's not what we want to see if we want for some of our children to excel in different fields different sciences in the worldly life then we want them to do so as practicing Muslims and that's ultimately what we want for our kids in the sense that we talked about the kids becoming scholars and we said that not every child will be able to do that we want every child to have the minimum knowledge that every Muslim needs in terms of their Islamic knowledge not every child is going to be able to become a scholar not every child is going to choose to study the voluntary aspects of طلب العلم the voluntary seeking of knowledge no matter how virtuous it is so if our children do go into matters of the worldly life if they become business people if they become scientists if they become experts in whatever field they are in engineering, in medicine whatever field it might be they become experts in that field we want them to do so as practicing Muslims as Muslims who fear Allah and we have to understand as well that the worldly sciences should be a servant to the religion and it's not the case that the religion should be in a state of servitude to our worldly life what do I mean by that these worldly sciences why do we pursue them what is our intention what's our near behind it is it just this حيات الدنيا if that's the case then wallahi we have wasted our time there is nothing beneficial from that but if it's the case that we do these worldly sciences and we study them and learn them and there are benefits for that in our religious obligations and our religious life then this is where the benefit comes in so for example a person learns a particular science and uses that science to benefit Islam and the Muslims or even on a much simpler level a person learns a particular worldly science and then they achieve a job through that and through that by the permission of Allah they're able to give صدقه to feed their family to take care of their responsibilities to avoid debt to avoid a haram income and so on so all of this is beneficial when your worldly life is something which is a it's job is to serve you in your religious obligations and your religious life and that's how it should be and if you keep that near you can even be rewarded for your studies that you do in the worldly life you can even be rewarded for those if your near is and your احتصاب your expectation of reward is that oh Allah I am doing this action for a more lofty purpose a more important reason than just for the sake of the needs of this life something more than that maybe it is so that I can fulfill obligations that you have commanded me to fulfill oh Allah so if a person keeps their intention sincerely for Allah that I'm learning these things and I'm in this worldly life doing these worldly sciences for something that will insha'Allah is an obligation that Allah has put upon me to relieve a burden or to support me in my religious obligations and to support the Muslims in general and this can be something which can be of benefit insha'Allah and we have an evidence for that from the evidences for that is the hadith of أبي هوريرة رضي الله عن the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said المؤمن قوي خير وأحب إلى الله من المؤمن ضعيف وفي كل خير احرس على ما ينفعك واستعين بالله ولا تعجز وإن أصابك شيء فلا تقول لو أنني فعلت كان كذا وكذا ولكن قل قدر الله وما شاء فعل فإن لو تفتحوا عمر الشيطان أبي هوريرة رضي الله عن المؤمن صلى الله عليه وسلم that he said the strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer and both of them have good in them and now we come to the part the Shahid that we want from this statement احرس على ما ينفعك بكين for what will benefit you بكين for what will benefit you always be looking for what will benefit you this here and نفع here is not restricted to the matters of the religion rather it encompasses the matters of the religion and the matters of the dunya but when those matters of the dunya are نفع they're beneficial and that's what we want to bring as a delil here for the fact that the worldly matters when they are of benefit in your religion or towards your religious obligations they can be praise worthy to a certain extent if you have that نیا and احتصاب here is the evidence احرس على ما ينفعك the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he didn't specify the benefit بكين have حرس بحرس for what will benefit you بكين for what will benefit you the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he didn't limit this benefit to the matters of the deen he didn't say for example احرس على ما ينفعك بكين for what will benefit you in the religion rather he kept it open anything that will benefit you and from this is an evidence of the permissibility of teaching our children worldly matters if those matters are من ما ينفع ولا يضر from the matters that benefit and they don't harm they're beneficial so from the beneficial matters it is permissible based on this hadith it is permissible for us to teach our children beneficial worldly matters احرس على ما ينفعك be keen for what will benefit you واستعم بالله and seek the help of Allah and subhan Allah look how the religion is integrated into everything the religion is integrated into everything that we do even if you are seeking a benefit for the worldly life in the worldly life you still seek the help of Allah واستعم بالله seek the help of Allah because Allah is the one that controls the matters of the dunya and the akhirah everything is in the hands of Allah and you can't achieve anything without Allah's help we talked about that in the hadith of ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما and the tarbiyah the prophet ﷺ gave to him وَلَا تَعْجِسَ don't ever feel that you can't achieve it don't ever feel you've been defeated don't ever give up and stop working and say that I'm ISIS I can't do it I can't do it can't be done have big lofty goals but make sure that you're not getting deluded also in the dunya make sure that sometimes we have such lofty goals in the dunya and such high aspirations but we don't have those aspirations in the deen and we trick and lie to ourselves we tell ourselves lies we tell ourselves that I'm doing this to benefit the Muslims I'm working 14 hour days to benefit the Muslims and in reality it's taking you away from more important things like knowledge and so on وَلَا تَعْجِسَ don't ever feel that you can't do it وَإِنَ أَصَلَبَكَشَيْعُونَ and if something happens to you don't say if only I did this it would be like this and this don't say if this happened it would have been like that if only like this it could have been like that but say it was the decree of Allah and he does whatever he wills قدر الله ومن شاء فعل because saying if only opens the door to the actions of the shaitan so I believe this hadith is a fundamental principle as it relates to the issue of teaching your children everything that benefits them including matters of the worldly life as long as those matters of the worldly life are beneficial and those matters of the worldly life are matters that إن شاء الله don't harm them and don't bring them away from Islam but they are matters that are from the things that everybody has to deal with and we know in the hadith of حنضلة الأسدي رضي الله عن he mentioned he said that when we are with the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم يذكرنا بالناري والجنة he reminds us of the fire and he reminds us of paradise as though the two of those things are in front of our eyes and when we leave from the messenger of Allah he said to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم فإذا خرجنا من عندك when we leave from where you are عافسنا الأزواجة والأولاد والضيعت فنسينا كثيرا he said that we become busy with our wives and our children and our worldly life business and so on and we forget much of what the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said and the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said to him لو تدومون على ما تكونون عندي وفي الذكر لصافحتكم الملائكة he said that if you were to remain in that state that you are like when you are with me the angels would shake your hands on the roads and in your beds he said ولكن يا حنظلة ساعة وساعة but oh Hanzala there is a time for this and there is a time for that and he said it three times صلى الله عليه وسلم ساعة وساعة ساعة وساعة ساعة وساعة there's a time for this and a time for that a time for this and a time for this and a time for that a time for this and a time for that so that's from the evidence that there is an allowance well I tend to not see it becoming a dunya don't forget your portion of the dunya there is an allowance for the worldly life and educating your children as it relates the worldly life is not a bad thing as long as that is at the right place and the right time and in the right way so it's at the right place the right time and the right amount it's not excluding the religion so they become like those people that Allah said about them يعلمون ظاهرهم من الحياة الدنيا وهم عن الأخيرة وهم غافرون they know the apparent nature of this world but they're unaware when it comes to the hereafter and it's at the right amount and the right time and it's from those things which benefit them إحرس على ما ينفعك look and be keen for what will benefit you and we have another evidence in the statement of أمر ابن الخطاب رضي الله عن he said علموا أولادكم السباحة والرمي والفروسية he said teach your children swimming and a rami which is archery or shooting and الفروسية horse riding and all three of these things are from the worldly life they're matters of worldly knowledge but they're matters of knowledge that have the potential to benefit in terms of Islam all of those have the potential to benefit the Muslim either to benefit them in their personal life like swimming which could be an essential skill like an essential life skill so from this we could take the importance of teaching our children worldly skills that will benefit them in their life life skills could be things like leadership or things that might help them in terms of keep them safe like swimming for example or it could be anything that is you know beneficial that is a beneficial skill that a child can learn from the matters of the worldly life so to teach them سباحة teach them swimming and as for our rami and الفروسية these are both related to war because the Muslims in that time that's what they used to fight upon they used to fight upon horses they used to fight with archery firing bows and arrows so ultimately and our rami is a general word for anything that is anything that's shot whether it's an arrow or anything else so ultimately these are things that are in the worldly life but they're things which relate to the religion so you're teaching your children something which will benefit them in their life or will benefit Islam and the Muslims one way or the other these are the kind of worldly beneficial things that we should be looking to teach our children and so I would say from the most important of the worldly knowledge that you can teach your children is one of two things number one the things that will benefit them personally in their life could be a life lesson could be a life skill like leadership or working as part of a team or it could be a skill of presenting your ideas or something like that something like swimming and likewise anything which will benefit Islam and the Muslims from it because if you look at the statement of Omar here it's either something which will benefit them personally in their life provided and prove to be a great benefit to them in their life or something which will benefit the Muslims like the examples that Omar gave here of Ar-Rami and Al-Fursiyah and also even the issue of things like exercise and keeping fit and healthy are still things which are beneficial for you and your Dean because if you can keep your children healthy and they are fit and they exercise well then إن شاء الله و تعالى this is more likely that they will be able to worship Allah for longer they will be إن شاء الله و تعالى more healthy and able to do their عبادات in a better way with the permission of Allah سبحانه و تعالى so these are the kind of worldly things that we should be giving the most concerned to things that will benefit them in of themselves and things that will benefit Islam and the Muslims so now I want to come in the last part of this episode to talk about our children and school and in the next episode إن شاء الله و تعالى I'm going to talk specifically about homeschooling and we had some questions on that from some of the students who are following the course they were asking about homeschooling and what is your advice about homeschooling إن شاء الله و تعالى I'm going to give a نصيحة إن شاء الله in the next episode as comprehensively as I can as to how to start homeschooling your children and some of the benefits of homeschooling إن شاء الله but right now I want to address in this episode the majority of our children go to school and I want to start with an ayah in terms of my advice to the parents whose children go to school I want to start with an ayah الله عز وجل سرياء يهل الذين آمنوا قو أنفسكم و أهليكم نارا or you who believe save yourselves and your family from a fire وقودوا الناس و الحجار whose fuel is men and stones الآية سبحان الله الله عز وجل commanded us to protect our families to the maximum extent possible and Allah عز وجل told us فتقوا الله مستطعتهم have taqwa of Allah as much as you can and I believe these are two essential elements of how a parent can nurture their child in the worldly sciences when their child is in school the first one is saving your family from the fire the second one is having as much taqwa as you can so when it comes to saving your family from the fire protecting your children from the things which could cause them to be from the people of the fire and ultimately there are two things which cause a person to be from the people of the fire if we categorize all of the sins into two categories and they are شهوات and شبوات they are the desires that come from the nefs and the shaitan stokes them up in the nefs and when the soul is constantly inclined towards evil the desires for things that are wrong and things that are evil and things that are blame worthy and then there are شوبوات and the شوبوات are confusion misconceptions things that are they have شبهن بالحق they resemble the truth but they're not true sort of you can call them false notions misconceptions misguidance and these really are the two that are alluded to in the statement of الله عز وجل إن عربنا الأمانة على السماوات والأرض والجبال فأبين أن يحملناها وأشفقنا منها وحملها الإنسان إنه كان ظالوما جهولة at the end of صورة الحزاب that we offered the responsibility to the heavens and the earth and the mountains they declined it they were fearful of it and mankind took it on indeed he was incredibly oppressive and incredibly ignorant the oppressiveness is when you know something that you know it's wrong you understand that it's wrong but your desires you crave it and as for the ignorance is when you become confused by doubts and misconceptions and misguidance and this is also alluded to in صورة الفاتحة غير المغضوب عليهم ولا الضالين not the path of those whom your anger has that your anger has come upon ولا الله and those who Allah's anger has come upon of those who know the truth and they continue in the falsehood and the ضالين they are those people who don't know the difference between what is true and what is false so ultimately there are two things that misguide mankind in general the first is شهوات desires and craving for things that are wrong and the second are شهوات which are misconceptions misguidance and we need to do our very very best to protect our children from that and there is something that I sometimes hear people say and it is from the worst and from the the greatest examples of ignorance and the worst examples of foolishness that we hear people say is they say expose your children to some of the haram so that like they won't they won't go out of control and they won't go into the haram after that give them a little bit of haram so give them something don't restrict them from the haram completely and there's enough to refute the statement of Allah عز وجل يا يهلذين آمنوا قو أنفسكم وآليكم نارا or you who believe save your family save yourselves and your family from a fire whose fuel is men and stones how does this how do you reconcile between this and between allowing your children just to do you know allow them 20% of the haram to save them from the 80% which of the صحابة did this which of the تابعين of the سلف الصالح they told you that this is the manhage of تربية ولا أحد منهم none of them not even one and this is just nothing but the the confusion and the deception of the shaitan rather your job is as Allah عز وجل فتقوا الله مستطعتهم have as much تقوى as you can you don't know the sin that is going to put you or your children into the fire it could be something very small the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم لا تحكيرون من المعروف شيء don't belittle any good deed حافظ ابن حجر he commented on this رحمه الله و تعالى and he said a person doesn't know the good deed that could be the one that brings them to a sin that could be the one even the small sin that could be the one that puts them in the fire so it's not for a person to belittle the good deeds or to belittle the sins or to see the sins as being too small and the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he told us إياكم و محقرات الذنوب he said keep away from the sins that people consider to be very very small very insignificant so ultimately we have to do everything we can to protect our children in every way that we can from the شهوات and from the شروحات but ultimately when we're talking about the setting of schools and education institutions it's often not possible to get things the way that we would like them to be perfectly and that's why my advice genuinely is to all parents نصيح my sincere advice is that if you're able to homeschool your children do it because I don't know anything which corrupts children more than the current state of schooling and education in the world today in every country it is from the biggest of the supporters of the shaitan and the biggest of the things that take our children astray and I think anyone who opens even one eye to this will see it anyone who is even remotely honest will see that the education system in the world today is destroying our children but at the end of the day فتقوا الله مستطعتم fear Allah as much as you can not everybody can homeschool their kids we understand that and that's why we don't say that it is obligatory because the simple situation is that we know that most people or many people would not be able to do that but if you're putting your kids in school فتقوا الله مستطعتم do as much تقوى as you can so first of all you choose the best school that you have an option or an availability to take You know سبحان الله some parents they look at the school for what it does in the dunya to be honest I wouldn't even even give any concern for what the school does in the dunya only look is this school going to be a reason to put my child into jehanam or is the school going to be a reason تتفضلوا وشكرا لهم. nie تتفضلوا لهم أنه يارضال. أو أنت تتناول في مدلوي ، بسبب أنها تؤية جيدية، أو بسبب أنها تفضل مكس ، أو أسخح وخطوية من أسطارة والسجن، لا تفضلوا بكل تعلق. دla you only concern. أجرد your best school that you can. ثم نعرف بأن مباشرة المدينة التي تجدتها ستكون مباشرة جيدة لكي you have chosen the best school that is available in your country وانت تجدتها المساعدة لإسلام ومساعدة الإسلام لكن هناك الكثير من مباشرة ومدينة التي حدثتها لأن حتى إذا كانت المدينة في مباشرة مباشرة في إسلام وانت تجدت هناك أدائاه الأبواب التي ستكون لن يكون أدائها لإستمارة مباشرة حتى تجدتها لذا تبقى الأبواب الذي مساعدة مباشرة من الكثير من the school that might even have an Islamic ethos أو يتعلم أبواب الإسلام أو يكون لأنه في وضع الإسلام لكن الأبواب الذين يموتون مباشرة مباشرة ل...? لن يكون لديهم نفس المساعدة التي تريدونها لكي تصميمك لذلك when I say this, Allah this is the advice of someone who has seen this and the advice of someone who wants good for you and for your kids that I've been in this situation, I've seen this situation I've worked a long long time with young kids from different schools I've seen kids from Islamic schools from non-Islamic schools and ultimately all of them have been exposed to severe trials and tribulations fit and tests and trials from the education that they received in those institutions even the best of them because if it's not the education then the danger is the people around them we know the message of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم المرء على دين خليله فلينظر أحدكم من يخالل A person is upon the religion of their close friend لذلك لكل من ينظروا من يخالل كم يخالل المرء على الناس يتبعون سبحان الله يتبعون sometimes the educational system might take your children away for 7 hours in a day or more or less than that سبحان الله كل ذلك يتبعون مع الناس يتبعون أشخاص منهم كما يتبعون شهوات وكما يتبعون شهوات وكما يتبعون مع المرء والمرء والمرء where the boys and the girls mix this is no doubt opening the shahawat for the kids opening the desires and might say well my children are young but ultimately it's setting a standard and a habit that will carry on for them when they are older and that's why when we have the kids even when they're young we prevent them from what is hara so that is one thing from the shahawat and then the second thing that we worry about as it relates to all of the schools whether they have an Islamic ethos or not are the shubahat and the shubahat are those misconceptions and confusion doubt that creeps into our children and wallah anyone who is involved working with kids has seen the increase in atheism in agnosticism in rejection of Islam among young boys and girls in schools today and this is a calamity wallah it is a moussiba it is a great calamity that we are suffering today in schools with young boys and girls leaving Islam committing apostasy expressing doubts about Islam and understand that this situation is an extreme example of shahawat and shubahat that's what it is it's an example of shahawat and shubahat and this is happening even in Islamic countries it's an example of desires and doubts and I used to believe in the beginning that the issue of doubt was stronger the journey of shubahat was stronger than the journey of the shahawat the desires but actually when I came to speak to these kids and to understand why they felt like they had to leave Islam I came to realise that the journey of the shahawat can be stronger for many of them that their desires they so much want to to see their friends doing and to be able to do it that they even reach the level where they are fearful or they feel that Islam doesn't have what they need for that and then when they feel that when the shaitan gets them from those shahawat how does the shaitan cement it within them how does the shaitan make them stick to it through what through shubahat so the example of this is the child wants to party wants to drink wants to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend wants to do some kind of haram and their nefs craves it and the shaitan tells them and their friends tell them and it builds them up like that the first time, second time third time but eventually it reaches a level where they are craving they wish they could live that life like the non-muslims are living and then along come shubahat misconceptions they tell them actually you know you think that Islam is true and you think you are so sure about it but did you know dot dot dot and then they justify their shahawat through the shubahat they use the shubahat to justify their desires so they say so you meet them and they say I don't want to be a Muslim anymore so why they say I don't want to be a Muslim anymore because I don't agree with the way that Islam treats women for example they say really that's your reason and when you go into it and you delve into it that's the justification that allows their desires to run free that's what the shaitan has told them to allow their desires to run free so how do we protect our children from the shubahat if the protection from the shahawat is the whatever we can give them we do our best for تقول الله مصطعت among the best schools we try to keep them among the best of friends any negative influences that happen we try to counter them with positive influences at home and through the masjid the Islamic centers and so on we do our very best to help them and to give them permissible alternatives for their desires and the desires don't have to always be matters of the heart matters of the opposite gender or whatever they can be desires can be matters of just desiring to do anything that's حرام we look for alternatives we try to keep them busy we try to give them permissible things that will benefit them in the worldly life but ultimately what comes and of course we teach them تسغير to نفس we teach them to purify themselves in اتوبة and استغفار and turning back to Allah but what happens how do we deal with the شبوحة how do we deal with misconceptions confusion misguidance especially when it can be so powerful in these days the way it can be presented the tools to present misguidance have in some ways never been more powerful in that sense I mean even if the the plot of the shaitan is weak in the qaida shaitani كنة ضعيفة the plot of the shaitan is ever weak but the availability the tools that reach into our homes videos and so on that are able to spread misguidance I will give a few points that I would recommend to the parents from the point of view of نصيحة as to how they can filter this and control it first of all I would advise you to take a responsibility as parents seriously the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said ألا كلكم راعن وكلكم مسؤولون عن رعيته all of your shepherds and all of you will be asked about your flock so make sure that you are observant of what is happening you're aware of the information that your children are taking in and you take it as your responsibility to try to keep them away from the things that will harm them as much as possible and when you see that our harm has touched them you try to remedy it and you try to correct it through the means that Islam has given you I think from the major things that a parent needs to do in terms of protecting their children from the شبهات is to talk to your children to talk to them and to know them and their personality and there are amazing examples of this to be honest that you find when you speak to people of parents who know their children and also when the child starts doing something wrong their parents straight away sees there's a change in my child I can observe something isn't right and then they address it and this leads me to my third piece of advice deal with issues quickly and decisively don't delay don't be from the people who delay the issue and say I will deal with it tomorrow and tomorrow because these are issues that get bigger and bigger and bigger the black dots become on the heart until the heart is sealed or the desires become so much that it leads the person to شبهات and confusion deal with the issues as they come and number four as we mentioned about being preemptive and ahead of the curve so try to anticipate the matters that are happening be aware of what's happening to kids other kids who are a little bit older and some of the issues they're going through be aware of it insha'Allah help out your friends who have kids who are a little bit older and be aware of what's going on so you can anticipate the kind of things that might happen to your children and be observant because ultimately if you're responsible that means you have the responsibility of observing what is happening of observing what the children are watching and one of the things I would advise sincerely is to control your children's access to the internet and to gadgets iPhones and iPads and tablets and whatever else people have keep it under control now ultimately we're not going to say that you should prevent your children from this completely because ultimately there is a place for everything and the world is moving in that direction and Alhamdulillah but a person a parent you've got to be you're responsible so you have to keep a degree of control over that keep an eye on things learn the technology so you can learn how to keep an eye and it's not about you being intrusive it's not about you being over the shoulder of your children because we spoke about teaching your children the مراقبة of Allah Azawajal of teaching them to fear Allah and teaching them that Allah is watching them but to be aware not to be not to be unaware of what's going on be aware keep an eye on things keep a look at things keep it friendly with your children to let your children know that's going to happen and to make them feel that it's part of your responsibility and say I wouldn't be a good parent if I didn't keep an eye on you and look after you so I'm not going to restrict you to the extent that you I'm restricting you from what's حلال or anything like that but what I'm going to try to do is keep an eye on what you're doing and give you advice and be like a companion to you be someone who is alongside you like Allah Azawajal mentioned وصحبه هم في الدنيا مع أوروبا accompany them your parents accompany them in this دنيا in a good way so there's a kind of a a صحبة there being around them and accompanying them especially as they get older and looking after them when everyone does we slipped up when we were younger and at the same time saw with your children but you teach your children the tools that they need and that's why in this series we mentioned the Islamic education before we mentioned the worldly education before we came to these matters if you've taught your children the مراقبة of Allah you've taught your children how to make tawba and istighfar how to turn back to Allah and how to repent and you've taught your children the danger of doing sins in private and you've taught your children the danger of bolstering of sins in public and so on then these are things that will help them as they approach these dangers and you kept to control you fear Allah as much as you can you try to keep them away from the haram as much as possible when teenagers watching this video and they might feel sad sometimes that their parents are restricting them or they might feel upset they might feel like I don't see why I'm not allowed to have such and such when my other friends have it wallah you don't know the good that your parents are doing for you you don't know wallah the good and subhan Allah perhaps يوم القيامة it would take you to realize subhan Allah on the day of judgment what your parents are doing for you protecting you from those things and ultimately if it means you have some restrictions but those restrictions are the reason for you to enter jannah then what they are excellent restrictions and Islam is full of restrictions Islam has full of hudud limits things you have to stay within so a Muslim shouldn't feel upset to have some restrictions placed upon them and even in this wallah I advise adults to restrict themselves not just children and don't feel when they are teenagers they might feel like you know it tell our parents to control our internet access and be careful about the gadgets but subhan Allah I would say the same for the adults and the last point I would make on this is be careful about using the gadgets in the TV as a way to get rid of your children just to get a break from your children like I can't just kids are just all around me all the time because subhan Allah you don't know what that's putting into the mind of your kids and if you see the cartoons the movies the songs that our kids are exposed to and I don't recommend you watch them or listen to them but if you just go to for example wikipedia and you just look at the plot or the lyrics for them you would see every kind of kabeer or from the kabeir from shirk polytheism zina evil words and speech the most evil every kind of immorality what is apparent and what is hidden you would see all of it in this music and these movies in their plots and their scripts in the words that they use and even in the cartoons for young children and magic and disbelief what only Allah knows how bad it is so my advice is don't feel that just to get away from your kids and get a break you put them in front of the tv or the ipad or the youtube unlimited without any control over what they're watching and what video comes next this is this is really a really big big issue so this is just some advice as it relates to the matter of children who are in school of course it does also apply to children who are not in school as well it's not only limited to that but I started this from the point of view of the child who is in school because they have a greater exposure to the shahawat and the shubahat to desires and to misguidance because they mix with a larger group of people in a very uncontrolled way in the next episode I'm going to talk about home schooling and many parents have asked advice about that how to begin some of the pitfalls and problems people fall into so from the point of view of the statement of the prophet this religion is about giving good advice I'm going to try to give whatever advice that Allah makes easy for me to give on the topic of home schooling and that's in the next episode and Allah عز وجل was best على نبينا محمد أجمعي السلام عليكم if you're 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