 Why relationships fail with narcissists? Why do relationships fail with narcissists? It's like every Relationship that a person has with a narcissist Always ends in disaster It always fails. It never amounts to anything good. I don't think I've ever heard a victim say that they have left a Relationship with a narcissist In a better position than what they came in with Relationships with narcissists fail because there's always just one person Making all of the effort Putting in all of the work as I'm sure all of you have experienced You put in all of your time Energy and money And you got nothing back in return You gave your life To this relationship. You gave everything you had And it's like no matter what you gave to it They always wanted more and more It was never enough They drained the life out of you despite that They never let you have that dissatisfaction Or feeling like you had done enough Or feeling that you were good enough They never let you have that Because if they did let you have that then You would be looking at them and Realizing that they're not bringing anything to the table So you would just look at it like Why am I even with you if you're not contributing anything If I'm the one doing all the work and you're not bringing anything to me if you treat someone like a king or a queen They will treat you like they're servants If you treat someone like a celebrity They will treat you like a fan and This is even more true for a narcissist than anyone else When you're giving the narcissist love and respect Praise and admiration What do they do with that? They just use it to Elevate their egos this grandiose view of themselves The sense of self-importance They don't see it as though It's about anything that they should give to you They think that their value is determined by who they are or what they have Rather than what they can give What they can provide I'm not saying that our value should be based on those things But just look at how the narcissist values you it's all about what you can give to them But they don't hold that same definition of value for themselves And that's what makes the situation so unfair, and that's why relationships fail with narcissists Because it's just one person doing all the work While the other person is just sitting back and consuming They're just indulging in all of it and naturally as time goes by You begin to lose your energy and enthusiasm You become a shell of the person that you used to be You lose your energy and resources You lose your money But the narcissist doesn't see it as though that's something that they've caused They're looking at it like what's wrong with you? Why can't you provide what I want? You're lazy Something is wrong with you You're not good enough That's how they see it and again That is why relationships fail with narcissists Because even when something goes wrong Even when they set it up for you to fail They don't take accountability and realize that it's something that they've caused Because if they did that Then there would be an opportunity for them to fix it to make things right And then maybe the relationship wouldn't fail. It fails because Of their neglect to do something To do something that would be appropriate to the circumstances That they have created So when you look at it, it all comes back to the narcissist They shoot themselves on the foot They cut off their nose to spite their face They do it to themselves They sabotage themselves But at the end of it they just wonder why they blame you but of course this isn't the only reason why relationships with narcissists fail Another reason is that you may have caught on You're no longer susceptible to them in ablation You no longer believe in or validate the illusions of their false self You see them as they actually are you figure them out and that Is like kryptonite to a narcissist They don't want to be around someone who knows who they really are They can't exist around someone like that because you're constantly Bringing up the shame in them because you see them as they are so in that situation You may just leave Once you realize what you're dealing with You've had enough You might just walk away And then that's why the relationship will fail Because you're just not willing to tolerate it anymore You know that you deserve better To serve love and respect Well the other scenario is that the narcissist will realize that you're catching on And then they will beat you to the punch They will discard you first So yeah, there's more than one possibility Of why a relationship with a narcissist might fail But when it comes down to it It's usually because of something that they did Or because of something that they fail to do it's usually down to some form of abuse or neglect Thank you all for joining me on This not-to-die-of-a-live video. 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