 and when you operate from a place of I'm better than you from a place of contempt, that will certainly destroy a relationship. Okay, number three, defensiveness. Okay, remember earlier I was talking about when we get triggered, it's natural to get defensive. I am guilty of this. I've noticed this behavior when I feel like I'm up against a wall, when I feel like I'm attacked, my natural reaction is to put up my walls. This is true for most human beings. This is not an uncommon thing.