 All right, I Like this I don't know why I have not Done it more often than I was supposed to because I was so bent on you know setting up light and all these things to record I think this is the most the minimal setup. I've done in My YouTube in life, whereby I'm using the window in the house as my key light and it's quite soft So let me know if you like it. I actually do like it and I'm using my You know famous practical lights my lamp over there as well as the lights coming from the dining area as my practicals and I like how it looks. So, yes, what you're seeing on your screen. Wait, hold up. Hold up. Let me actually turn off my AC AC off Yeah, what you're seeing on your screen is not click baits. This is not my usual Should I say conversation or topic I will discuss on the page? I mean, usually I'm posting videos on Self-development mostly and then a bit of lifestyle here and there travel So if you're new to my channel, my name is Kwame and when I'm not, you know, doing YouTube I'm doing documentary films. I'm doing voiceovers and when I'm doing YouTube. I post self-development and Travel and lifestyle here in Ghana But today I want to talk about something which I think is also part of my self-development But you know, what do you say much more private but then again, if you think about it I share bits and pieces of myself every time I come here to talk to you or make a video So I don't see why not and I'm doing this one because the question comes up a lot, you know And I felt that well, maybe I can talk a little bit about this side of my life And I'm not sitting here to talk as an expert or anything. I'm just sharing my experience So it's not to rub anything in for anyone or say that what I'm doing in terms of You know, choosing the person that I want to be with as a partner is the right way or this I'm not even going to share any of that Maybe not But yeah, I do get asked the question quite often Or questions about, you know, how the relationship came about and how we're making it work And down to the point of the very intrusive one Like why her, you know, and those ones come from The fact that my partner or my wife is a European and Caucasian So why did you choose? Why did you choose to go for Adam Bruni? And it's not like, you know Relationships or choosing a life partner is something that you walk into a store and you know As an African man, you should go and choose another African person to be with and you decided to go and choose a Caucasian or European It's not like that. So I don't get that question. You know, I don't know how I answered that question anytime it came up, but today I just want to, you know, share a little bit on the concept of love and choosing the right person or choosing the person you want to love for the rest of your life And these are my personal experiences or Yeah, my personal experiences of the conversation. So I don't think you can hold me to generalization Or anything like I say that this is what love is or whatever it is But there are some true facts at least pertaining to me whereby You don't decide who to love And you can't really tell at what point you fall for the person You can't say or pinpoint that at this time of the day on this day I fell in love I mean granted there are a few cases, which is still arguably, you know Arguable that people say there's love at first sight. You saw this person and Boom, you knew this was a person, but it has to be reciprocal in the first place. The person has to like you back Which is what I think builds up to a point where you can see that, you know, at some point in your life You know that this is the person that you want to fight for you want to be with you want to have as a life partner because of the things They do for you and it's selfish. I think it's selfish because You like somebody or you choose the people because of how they make you feel And the things they can do for you to support they love everything and it's, you know, supposed to be reciprocated So there's that as well. So I don't think there's an exact point. So my story started in 2015, you know This lady came to in turn at where I was working at the time and we hadn't even spoken For for the time she was there. She was supposed to be there for three months. We hadn't spoken until about the last week When I mean we by some chance we started talking and It grew from there very fast as well. I realized that oh, this is reasons an interesting person to talk to And we spent hours and hours. Hold on Yeah, we spent hours and hours together And started talking over text because she had to go back to her country And then she came back and fast forward, you know We became a thing and then we decided to choose to be with each other But at this particular point in time that I said I was in love with her or felt in love with her I don't know because that's How it builds over time However, after that has been built You choose every single day Especially when you're with this person and your relationship isn't one which is, you know Trying to be an overstretched honeymoon face whereby at some point you realize that no, this is the person you're with and you're comfortable being yourself You're comfortable when you're not comfortable to be angry But you can be angry and express it your emotions are not held by because you want to be the perfect person for the person So you're yourself. You're angry. You're sad. You're happy and all that so at some point After seeing all those things happen, you still choose to be with that person Then that's when, you know, that honeymoon phase is over and then the choice becomes deliberate So choosing who you love becomes deliberate Why do you choose this person to, you know, be with for the rest of your life When, you know, there's anger issues when there is, you know, sadness when there's, you know Miscommunication and all of that Hold on Another phone apologies for that apologies So when there's come here Get it. Okay. So when there's anger issues and there's the sadness and all that How do you choose to be with this person still that is that is the real Deal that is where the work is And that choice is where you have to decide often people have this, you know Weird expectation of what love should be that it should, you know, be nice always And you know, they don't want to get or lose grip of the honeymoon phase because it's so nice. There's all the activities of, you know fun and coziness and All that and they think that it should be it forever. No, it doesn't it doesn't work that way And that is why The tough decision of choosing to be with somebody for the rest of your life is is much more work than the enjoyment that comes with it And so As to why you decide to be with somebody It's it's subjective. No one can tell you why you choose to be with somebody for me And the kind of person I am I love those who love me And this person that showed me time and time again that she chooses me every single day It makes sense that I'll choose there every single day And she supports me every single day So it makes sense that I Reciprocate so there there are a lot of things to talk about when it comes to why we choose the person we love I fell in love with a person I wasn't looking out skin color. I wasn't looking at where the person was from. It's just how the person made me feel and I choose to fight for and with this person For as long as I can and that's basically why we choose the people that we want to be with one of the things that I would say has um Helped which I lack or lacked a lot of which I thought I had more because of my previous relationships was communication and communication has been the glue because a lot of the things that we tend to fight about or tend to have misunderstandings about are things that Bottom line or when you when when it boils down or when it boils over is that is that the right way to say when it boils over you realize that Oh, it wasn't that bad It was just a misunderstanding which was incommunicated properly and that can be fixed and I I often resort to the silent treatment which I've said before in my video on my birthday And it didn't work, but this person this person that I'm with has showed me that Communication is everything and she has opened me up to Talking about the things that we need to talk about what we need to talk about them and how we need to go about them and it has grown Over the few years that we've been together. So Why do I choose this person? I don't know There's too much to talk about and I just know that She is the person I want by my side as a life partner and I would choose her any day so Yeah, I don't know if I Answered anything you wanted to hear if you have any Questions you want to ask you can do that in the comment section below and let me know If you want me to do a follow-up video based on those questions also, let me know so that I would Maybe prepare much better to talk because this was very freestyle. I didn't script it I'm not going to script the next one either, but it'll be based on the questions and Let's just have a conversation about this because this is the one thing that I know that people find quite difficult and It's it's not like it's there's a particular hack for anyone There's no formula. So if I share my experiences and you can pick something from it Yeah, good. It makes sense that you pick something from it, but I can't Say that what I do or how I do Works and that is it and you should take it. So, yeah That's um about it. I hope you enjoyed it and Me swaying from my usual videos to this point And uh, yeah, I'll catch you again in the next video here on it's okay My name is Kwame and peace for now