 So do people that aren't married not deserve sex? That question is literally quite literally why people are desperate to get married and rush into marriages and get into bad marriages because they feel that sex is only sanctified through marriage or whatever okayed and they are married to whoever and they have whatever kind of sex. Sex is not bad, but it needs to take place on God's terms. God designed sex to not only be a physically bonding experience, but emotionally and spiritually bonding experience. Not emotional and spiritual bond can be nurtured in the context of marriage, but when you take it outside of that you're asking for trouble. Beyond that we strive for sexual purity because that is what God has asked of us and we love him because he has been so gracious to save us. If you had sex outside of marriage you're not a less than Christian. In Christ we are made new. You don't need to bear that shame anymore. Follow for more.