 If you do this, the narcissist will lose their minds. I don't know what you're probably thinking when you read the title and you click on to this video. Whenever I do anything, the narcissist loses their minds. It's like you can't do anything for yourself. You can't think about yourself even for one moment. They're always peeping over your shoulder. They're always poking their noses into whatever you've got going on. They've always got to be apart, everything. You can't have anything of your own. And if you do, of course, they get very angry. You can't stand it. Because as I've said recently in another video, narcissist, they are very weak and they are very stupid. They have to be in control of everything, whatever you're doing. They have to have a part in it. Boston Davis, what is this? This is my live video. Welcome. I hope you enjoy. And yes, we're just talking about how narcissists, they always poke their noses in where they do not belong in things that they are not meant to participate in. And yet, they've always got to be a part of it. And even when they do, it just makes them even worse, makes them even more mad. They can't stand it. Any little thing you do, they are hypersensitive to it. Anything that makes you happy, anything that makes you feel better about yourself, just anything that doesn't concern them, anything outside of their control, they hate it. It really winds them up because they are very insecure and they are very envious and jealous, which causes them to become hyper competitive. They're trying to compete with you in every situation. And that is the result of their weakness and insecurity and their sense of inferiority. Because that is the way that they're constantly trying to compete with you and establish some form of authority over you. It's because they feel like garbage in comparison to you, which may be very difficult for some of you to believe because they've already beaten you down, they've crushed your confidence, which is another reason why I have to get on this every day to motivate and inspire you and to show you that you are right a lot of the times you are right. And yet they force their stupid reality onto you trying to make you believe in all of this bullshit, which they don't even believe in themselves and actually very insecure about it. That's why they constantly push it on to you and you have to listen to it every day. It's because they're extremely insecure and they have to pull other people into their reality so that you can validate the illusion because they can't even validate it themselves if they could. Maybe they would actually keep quiet about it for a moment, but no, they can't do that. They have to force it onto you, they have to get you to believe in it and all the time they expect you to agree with them, whatever they're saying, whatever they're doing, you have to agree with that now. You have to take it on as though it's a part of your life, it's a part of your reality. Even when you don't want to hear it, you have to agree with it, you have to say yes all the time. You can't have anything of your own, they always have to be a part of it, they always have to poke their noses into it, things that shouldn't even consume them, they have no boundaries, they're always there, you can't get rid of them and just by knowing all of these things which you should already be aware of, you have been with one of these narcissists, you should already know one of the things they really can't stand and if you do this they will lose their minds. If you say no, if you say no to a narcissist, they will lose their minds because you are their source of supply. You supply them with attention, admiration and validation or when they're abusing and devaluing you you will provide them with a sense of power, control and authority. It makes them feel important but they can't feel important if you're not there, if they're not a part of your life, if they're not pulling you into their reality, they can't feel important then, that's why they have to constantly pull you into it, make you a part of it, even though you want nothing to do with it, but a lot of them are so arrogant and delusional, they're never going to accept that, they will constantly delude themselves into thinking about, oh, maybe he does want to be a part of it, maybe he does like me and you're all thinking in your head, no, actually I don't give a shit and I don't want to keep hearing this bullshit every day but you're forcing it on to me and I have to listen to it and yeah that's what they will do, they constantly poke their noses in, they force this narrative onto you, this illusion and they just expect you to be pretty much, you know what you have to be when you're a rounding narcissist, they expect you to be like a little baby, to be innocent and naive and you're like a sponge, you just got your eyes wide open, your ears open, you're constantly absorbing information from them everything you see has to be taken in, everything you hear and you're just sitting there like a duck, like a little baby, like a sponge and it is fucked up, it really is but that is how these narcissists operate you have to be like a baby to even exist around them if you have any strength or courage of yourself they can't stand it and they will act like they can't stand weakness but the reality is they can't stand strength yes they do admire strength, they do target strong people of course they do, we know that already but then as soon as they get you what do they want to do they want to beat you down, control you because what a lot of you don't realise is that is what they like they want to take a strong and confident person who doesn't realise their strength who doesn't realise how great they are and then they want to beat that person down to the ground and make them feel small make them feel like they're nothing because that is what sustains them that's what regulates their emotions and makes them feel alive makes them feel like they conquered you they've got one over on you when they see you, yes you're on this pedestal you're shining, you're like an angel you're beautiful and then they take you down, they crush you put you beneath them they step on you make you feel like you're nothing they just can't stand it and really the reason why is because at the start they are so emotional they can't regulate their own emotions they don't think with logic or reason they don't consider that maybe it would be better if you actually co-operated and worked together towards a common purpose or goal but then even when they do consider that they know that that wouldn't work out because automatically if they let you have your power and strength for yourself instead of constantly trying to break you down you would automatically have to establish the authority of role in that situation and that wouldn't be any good for them because they are weak and they have nothing to offer you anyway so you would just constantly be telling them what to do and they wouldn't even have the energy to perform or do anything that you say so yeah, you would quickly realize that they have no use to you anyway you would quickly realize that and that is why the illusion is so important because it's designed to deceive you and make you believe that yes, they do have this higher purpose they do have this authority of role over you where they tell you what to do but if you take that away they've got nothing once you take the false self and the illusion away they have nothing it's just a false narrative which they constantly force on your throat and make you listen to it every day and I know what it's like especially not just in narcissistic relationships but the narcissistic parents from a young age they brainwash you they make you believe in this bullshit and honestly I don't think they even believe in it I don't even think they believe in it themselves but what they do is if they can get you to believe in it it makes it more believable for them so that's what they do from a very young age they brainwash you, they feed the illusion to you because then you're completely under their control you accept them as the authority and you accept that if anything goes wrong then it's your fault and sadly it just trains you from the very beginning to obviously end up with a narcissist in the end that's typically how it goes and it's sad but it's a lot of you if there is anyone to blame for why you ended up with a narcissist it does tend to be the parent or caretaker but yeah they train you from a very young age to always say yes whenever someone wants you to do something you have to agree with it can't have any boundaries, accept it and yeah these narcissists target you based on that because they can sense remember these are predators we're talking about now they can sense that you are very innocent and naive you don't know what's going on you just think oh this person they're just here to help me that's what they want you to think they're just targeting you because they know you always say yes to everything that's why they're coming after you that's why they're hunting you down because they already know you are trained to do that from a very young age to not refuse anything and the problem is when you do finally start to find your confidence that maybe after you've watched one of my videos of course that can make you feel more courageous like you want to go out there and show something to the world and when you do that when you finally stand up and you say no I'm not doing that when you do that it will cause a narcissistic injury and they will get very mad they're not just going to think oh sorry you are a separate individual person you're a separate human being with your own once feelings, needs and desires and I have to respect that I have to give you your space, your boundaries so that you can do your own thing no no narcissists do not think like that you have to remember that they are self-absorbed and they do lack empathy that should be completely obvious by now so it's all about them it's all about their narrative, their illusion their false self and how you can make them happy that's what it's all about you have to constantly feel into the illusion you cannot deny it that is pretty much one of the rules it may be an unwritten rule but everyone deep down they accept this as the truth, as the reality everyone knows this deep down that's at any point you cannot deny the illusion you have to accept everything that they are telling you and you have all of these instructions and requirements that you have to carry out every day and if you don't do it then automatically you're bad, you're evil, you're going to hell that's how these people think that's how they think so at any point you can never stand up and say no you can never do that you can never have any freedom you can never have any independence of your own you can never have anything you can never have anything there's never anything that you can put your arms around and say this is mine even if there is a moment where you have that you can be sure they're going to take that away from you at some point and they might just give it to someone else just to wind you up, just to make you jealous because they are actually jealous of you so they might just do that you're never going to have anything of your own for a consistent amount of time at some point they're going to take it away from you or they're going to destroy it it doesn't matter if you say no because these types of people they will raise in a very toxic dysfunctional environment where if someone says no I don't know maybe their siblings their brother or sister maybe there was a toy they went to play with they said no snatch it right out of your hands that was mine, I got it I stole it and that's okay because I've learned from childhood that that is okay to do that I've learned not to have any respect for anyone not to have any boundaries that's what these people think inside their heads that it's all just about them it's all just about the illusion about me and what I want to do forget everyone else there's no boundaries for anyone there's no space for anyone to develop or grow and yet we wonder why these people act this way we wonder why they're always so miserable whenever you see them they're always mad they're always complaining about something there's always something wrong there's never a time when everything is okay there's never a time where everything is like that there isn't unless it's something it doesn't involve you and then they're putting on a show and they're just happy they're laughing oh they're having a great time and you're left out you're missing out on that now because they're just going off in a row and they left you behind that's what these people do that's what they do and they're going to keep doing that they're going to keep doing that to you and they've done it to me too I've experienced that so many times the only time they act like oh everything's okay now everything's comfortable yet when you're not a part of it because as long as you're around there's always a problem there's always a problem but of course even that isn't real as I said that is the illusion itself that is the false self you're seeing all they're doing is they're giving the false character to other people and then they're reflecting it back to you and yeah they can't really stand other people's happiness as well they hate that too anyone you know as long as it's not them they don't like it so what they do then they just kind of bought it up inside of them and then when they come home to you they're ready to unload on you they're ready to beat you down and you wonder where does all of that anger and frustration come from all of that motivation that's where it comes from because throughout the day maybe they're at work, whoever they're around they're seeing people living their lives having a good time they only know they're miserable they know they can't make anything work with you of course that frustrates them so then when they come home from work or wherever they've been of course they want to beat you right down they want to make you feel small as I've said before how a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves so if they try to make you feel small and they've got their own little group and they keep you out of it as though it doesn't concern you because that's what they do they have no boundaries with you they have to have their nose in your business but then when it comes to them they've got their own group they've got their own thing inside of you and they act like they keep that private they keep that separate from you but then they've always got to see what you're doing and they've always got to force their illusion onto you and you have to believe in that it is almost impossible to grow when you're around them it really is, you can't even be yourself they destroy your identity they do because they force their beliefs onto you and a lot of you, you don't even see it every day you are being indoctrinated you're being brainwashed you might not realise it you might just think, you know, the narcissist is there okay, here's another message here's another explanation another argument, whatever that's supposed to be and you think that it's not affecting you but it is it's affecting you at a subconscious level you are being brainwashed every day and you don't even realise it that is the whole point of it that's what it's intended to do that's why they repeat the same things every day because it gets into your mind and it influences your behaviour and actions it changes your beliefs your values and then before you know it now you start thinking differently about everyone as well you start thinking everyone else is bad everyone else is evil that's how they isolate you because you think everything's wrong with everyone else as well now that's what they do that's why they indoctrinate you every day they want to change your beliefs about yourself other people and the world around you and yeah there is an order to it actually what they'll do normally the first thing they'll try is to target your self-esteem they'll try to make you doubt yourself they'll try to make you think that your beliefs about yourself are wrong and of course they'll do that to control you to isolate you so that they are your only source of influence but if that doesn't work and despite that you still have things going on outside of them you still have your own life you still have your own social circle maybe your own business whatever it may be you've got something going on outside of them and if you continue to do that at that point they've got no choice if they can't control you they will control other people and some of you may have noticed that already they will control family members your friends, whoever it may be if you have a relationship that this could be a narcissist parents so you might have a relationship outside of them in that situation so yeah they'll try and control all of that they'll try and control people's opinions of you and see you in the exact same way that they do because they already know they can see that clearly you are confident enough in yourself to remain active and outgoing so the only way they can control you now is to start a smear campaign and maybe triangle it you with other people because they can't get to you directly that's why you're too strong, you're too confident because normally what works is just to beat down your self-esteem for most victims that is good enough that's enough to make them not want to go out of course I've seen this in my clients a lot of them don't even want to leave the house they just want to stay at home all day just accept it and just be around the narcissist they don't have any hobbies or interests of their own they don't have any friends because they've constantly had it drilled into their heads I'm not good enough for anyone or anything and they really believe that in their minds it's sad but this is what narcissists do that's what they have to do they have to crush your self-esteem that's the first thing they have to do a lot of victims it's sad, they walk around with their heads down they can't even maintain eye contact because they've just lost all confidence all faith in themselves that's what they do, they make you have faith in the narcissist but not in yourself as though you shouldn't even trust yourself you shouldn't even trust your own memory or perception you shouldn't even trust your own beliefs and opinions and instead you should have full confidence in the narcissist and whatever they're trying to get you to believe but yeah, even for those of you as crazy and as sad as it is those of you who have been completely beaten down to the ground emotionally and you've lost all faith all confidence in yourself even though you may find my videos and you may start to realize that it's not you after all and that you are with the narcissist you are with someone who is trying to crush your confidence to make you feel small to isolate you even after you realize that and you go within yourself you remind yourself of your abilities your qualities of everything that makes you who you are you remember that you are actually very special and that is the reason why they targeted you even when you make it that far and you step over all of the hurdles all of the obstacles everything they put in your way about this part it could have taken you years to get to that some of you maybe 5-10 years to strengthen yourself and to become independent from this individual even when you get to that point they just switch their game up and that is when they start the smear campaign they enforce their flying monkeys to control you and sadly yes I have had a lot of clients who have gone through it and may still be going through that now because it is a very difficult thing to get out of but actually it does weed a lot of people out because anyone who is true or real they are not going to join the narcissist some of them might some of them may just be enablers and they don't really believe in the illusion but they might just be afraid of the narcissist and they don't want it to happen to them what has happened to you they don't want it to affect their lives you know a lot of people they just want to live a stable and comfortable life you know that's what a lot of people prefer so they might not want to get too involved with that even though they may be good people I'm not saying that all of them are bad although a lot of them are a lot of them will be narcissistic or they will have some type of cluster B disorder because of course a normal healthy person is not going to be involved in it anyone who is normal or healthy is going to draw a line in the sand and they're going to say you know this is you this is what you do yes but this is me this is what I stand up for this is what I believe in and we are different and I'm not going to do what you want me to do yeah they're going to do that if they're healthy if they're normal because they're going to use their common sense they're going to use their logic their reason instead of getting to draw it into their emotions like narcissists do that's why they're always so mad everything you do it just winds them up they can't stand it they can't stand anything about you and of course that's why by the end of it you're constantly saying yes to everything just to agree with them on everything they say everything they do you have to be okay with it and you're walking around after you've been with them long enough you've got your head down you're afraid to even smile you can't even make eye contact with anyone but I'm here to tell you that is not normal that is not normal and I know that because I've been there myself I know what it's like every day to have this narrative drilled inside your head but you're nothing you'll never be anything you'll never be good enough for anyone of course I know what that's like I've been there I understand and unfortunately it doesn't get better and that is the message of this video you know when you do say no to the narcissist when you do find that confidence in yourself you stand up for yourself you hold your head high and you can look them directly in the eyes and you can tell them exactly how you feel that's not going to make anything better it's not it's going to make things a lot worse because they're already greatly intimidated by you and your very special qualities and abilities they're already extremely imitated by that which is why many of you in these relationships you lose your voice you lose your confidence you lose your faith in yourself as you walk around with your head down you don't believe in anything other than the narcissist it's like the narcissist has become your god that's pretty much what it is and by the end of it it's like even if they are religious they just filter in God through themselves and you're submitting to them and you need to wake up and realize that you need to wake up and realize that but it's not going to get any better if you try to expose them if you confront them but if you find your confidence that's not going to make much difference it's not unless you're dealing with a lower level narcissist of course if you find your confidence around them any lower level narcissist lower level sociopath all you've got to do is lock them in the eyes and they will want to run away they won't be able to deal with that if you face them head on but the more malignant narcissist even psychopaths it's not going to make much difference it's not because their desire that sadistic side of them to decide to harm you it overrides any of that and they are so convinced and immemorial they think they've got you wrapped around their finger because they've had you now for such a long time maybe for years they look at it like even if one day you do find your confidence and you stand up for yourself you might just see that narcissistic smile that little smirk because inside they're thinking you're not really confident you don't really believe in yourself it's just an act it's how they see it and they believe that they can push you back down they can put you right back to where you used to be and if they can't do it straight away it's only going to be a matter of time they're going to get you that's how they look at it because they are very arrogant they are very confident and bear manipulation because they've got it to a lot of people before you just look around it's not always just you look at the other people in the narcissist life maybe family members, friends coworkers you're not the only person they've driven insane or at least to that point you're not the only person they've broken down you're not the only person they've done that to and sometimes you might look around and you might see people and it's like whoa what happened to you how did you get to that point and you got to take a step back and realize that could be you next all of the things they're going through could be their exes it could be their family members maybe some of them started taking drugs maybe they became alcoholics maybe they attempted suicide maybe they successfully committed suicide because of the narcissist and that could be you next because it's hardly ever going to be them as long as they've got their enablers their flying monkeys all of these people who support the illusion they're not going anywhere because they've got so much supply they've got enough to last my lifetime that's how it's so easy for them to misuse people because if one person doesn't agree with it oh well there's always someone else that's how they look at it because as I've said a lot of people these days they aren't narcissistic that's the sad truth a lot of people they would desire to play a game rather than to actually connect with someone about maybe why social media they're so popular these days because a lot of people they do lack empathy so it's all about tricking and deceiving you stringing you along playing a game with you because that's how they get their kick that's how they get their high and they can't do it from anything else maybe you can but they can't instead they would rather seek power and control over their victims because that's what makes them feel alive and it's usually because they operate on such a low vibration you know a lot of them are just very weak and afraid some of them will even come out and tell you that they fear I mean I should tell you everything you need to know all along they fear rather than love how can you develop anything a relationship marriage whatever it is for someone who's constantly in fear and another thing you've got to think is why are they in fear what are they afraid of because they already know they're no good of course that's obviously the reason because if you are really I mean they act so arrogant and delusional but they're actually very insecure because if you are so confident why would you be afraid of anything why would you be afraid I can understand with you because I mean you've been manipulated you've been abused quite possibly for many years so of course you're going to be afraid you're going to be paranoid I mean in some cases people who leave an narcissist after many years some of them are so hypersensitive they're afraid of their own shadow quite literally they see their own shadow on the floor and they jump can't believe it the stunts, the shots because that is what these people will deal with will do to you by the end of it if you wear them long enough they will quite possibly drive you insane but as I've said before if you are a genuine empath and you do value, love, passion and connection you will always find your way back you will because that is what heals us and I do believe that that is quite possibly the reason why narcissists never heal or change or adapt or adjust it is because of that desire for love passion and connection that is the reason why they never heal and change because it's all about themselves it's never about anyone else it's never for the betterment of society or community for the good of mankind it's never about that it's always about themselves it's always about what they desire for themselves and you're never going to win doing that as I've said before love always wins it again but at some point you've got to say no for the love of yourself because that's pretty much what it comes down to in the end you say no because you love yourself more you value yourself and you couldn't give a shit if they can't see it because you already know they're delusional you already know they live in a forced reality and they value game playing tricking, deceiving manipulating future faking they value all of that more than love and connection and that's why I'm so glad that I built this community almost five years ago now I know I did the right thing because what I have now something very amazing something that they will never have which guess what 65,000 subscribers who do all value love, connection passion and intimacy although yes it may be something you never got and I understand that but you know what what makes you very valuable is that you want it that is where your value comes from believe it or not that is it it doesn't matter if you don't have it right now or you still want it that is where your value comes from because I don't know about you but if anyone in this world does not value love and connection intimacy and you should think like that too that's exactly how you should think because guess what that's what got you caught up with the narcissist in the first place it's because you you wanted to give them a chance maybe they didn't show much empathy they didn't really try to understand you but you still let them in and of course what happens when you give someone a chance someone who doesn't have any love in their hearts they are only going to end up destroying you that's all they are going to do that's all they are going to do but up until that point yes they will feed you the illusion of false self which you should know by now that isn't even real you should know that by now I mean they can show it to you but that doesn't mean they are actually about anything that doesn't mean that but your power comes from believing in it that's where your power comes from because you want it to be real you want it to be true I mean I'm not going to lie it sounds great on paper yes you know this fantasy you know these ideals yes it sounds great on paper but what they are actually doing is they are just manipulating and lying to you they are future faking they are telling you okay if you give me this now if you you commit to me no matter what I do to you I can abuse you I can manipulate you I can deceive you I can future fake but you just submit to me then at some point in the future you will get everything that you want if that's not future faking what is what is and I don't know about you but what I'm sure you know we have all been involved with these people for many years now so where are the fruits of our labour everything we did why is nothing being reciprocated back to us that's what you've got to ask yourself that's what you've got to think about because all of this time they feed you these lies it's like they dangle this carrot on a stick and you chase it after it you're like a hamster running on a on a wheel because you're thinking oh at the end of this I'm going to get something that's why you were doing it you thought oh there's something at the end maybe there's a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow maybe there's a leprechaun there as well so you're chasing after it you're doing everything they say and then what you get to the end of the rainbow you find out there's nothing there it was all a lie even then that doesn't mean that the illusion is just going to end the illusion never ends it ends when you die then you realise the truth but up until that point it's pretty much like what they do is they give you like a a puzzle for you to complete and you know you're meant to figure this thing out and during that time it's like they've gained access to your life you're doing all of these things for them and you're meant to complete this puzzle but they don't even have all of the pieces