 In part six of the Shane Dawson series, The Mind of Jake Paul, this one's called The Secrets of Jake Paul, they talk a lot about the Team 10 house and there's so much we can learn about friends, roommates, and living with family, so make sure that you stay tuned. You like that Zach? You like me rubbing my nose? You better. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about helping you with your mental and emotional well-being and as you can suspect like there's a lot to do with mental and emotional well-being with like who you live with so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. I've been recapping all of the Shane Dawson series and while I'm here in beautiful Los Angeles California on the last day my buddy Zach of Zach Sider Productions has been just killing it, killing it with the editing, killing it with the thumbnails like I actually like his thumbnails more than mine. I don't know what he does I'm gonna have to have him teach me when I get back but do me a favor if you've been watching the last few days of my channel and you enjoy Zach's editing do me a favor let him know leave him some love down in the comments and if you're into like nerd culture and stuff you like just started doing like a daily show during the week about like nerd culture type stuff so make sure you go check out his channel and subscribe love this dude. Anyways let's get started so in part six secrets of Jake Paul this is my third video and in this one like I just I love how we can pull different situations from this because a lot of you might be struggling with it and this one they talked a lot about Jake's living situation and Erika kind of opened up about it to Shane as well as Katie so basically what they were talking about is that Jake has this gigantic mansion doesn't like being alone so he has all these people move in you know his friends or the team 10 members he has Erika there too all right and some very good topics came up. Erika also discussed how Jake's father moved in with them like a few months prior and he's living like on the third floor all right so we're going to talk about friends being alone living with family being in a relationship living with family all that stuff all right so the first the first one is is I don't know it's it's difficult like living with other people so there's so many things I can make an entire playlist about living with friends and having roommates and I think it depends on the people but I've lived with friends most my life and probably the last few years is the first time that I've just had my own place by myself like I just like having my own place but I've lived with my best friends in the world who I've known since I was a kid and like I know a lot of us struggle with this like this can be your best friend but for some reason when you move in with them you just want to strangle them like maybe they like I don't know drink out of the milk carton or they don't put stuff away that's like every little thing just makes you want to and maybe that's just some of us maybe that's just some of us but there is a time where it's like you know we got to look at being alone first you know wanting to strangle our best friends so let's talk about the subject of not wanting to be alone real quick Erica mentioned that so or literally living in this big mansion in Jake's case yeah like I like it's difficult because he has he has a girlfriend so you know maybe they'll go get their own place or kick everybody out I don't know but like Shane said they do not need a gigantic mansion like I'm just letting you all know if if for some crazy reason I ever become like super rich and famous like I am just not having a huge mansion one I don't need it two I would get really scared like walking through it in the middle of the night like having to go to like the bathroom or the fridge or something uh-uh no thank you I don't play that anyways but talking about him being alone so like being alone or having this feeling of loneliness like this is there's a huge issue for a lot of reasons one of them is you'll live with people that you don't like living with or they're holding you back or they're keeping you back and they're not allowing you to progress in your life and become the adult or the person that you want to be but the other thing is like let's talk about relationships real quick like I know a lot of you out there you struggle with being alone and what happens is you jump into a lot of toxic bad relationships because when our fear of loneliness or fear of dying alone it gets so big we start to lower our bar right for the other person he doesn't he doesn't do well with being alone so I feel like that's why all his friends you know let's hear he no matter what like even if they're not doing what they're supposed to be he keeps them around because he appreciates people who he can trust to be around him all the time so what happens is is our fear out ways like our standards you know and that's something that we really got to check in with and like this is gonna sound dumb to some of you to some of you this is gonna sound amazing but here's something that I learned you know what I got time let me tell you the story about how I got my beautiful cat like I got my cat Maya she made a guest appearance in the other video that I did with Dr. Alex I actually got my cat Maya when I was already dating my girlfriend and like I just I just realized like I was getting lonely a lot like and and I made a video a long time ago about feeling lonely versus being alone so those of us who struggle with depression we can feel lonely even though we're not alone what do I mean by that like my brain tells me I'm alone right but I have my beautiful girlfriend my son friends family members I have so many people in my life but when you're in that situation by yourself and I was just living in my apartment by myself my brain would tell me that I was alone and you know what the solution is get a cat get a cat or dog I don't know get a goldfish that's that's the thing but like I don't know like for me for me and maybe it might not work for you maybe it will like get a cat get an animal like it is great like I I don't know ever since I got this freaking cat like I just haven't had that feeling of loneliness like my girlfriend and I were moving together soon but like we only see each other on the weekends and like I would notice that I was just feeling really lonely during the week because I would always see my girlfriend on the weekends I would only have my son on the weekends so like I would feel lonely so like what I'm trying to say is there are other alternatives rather than going out and dating terrible men or going out and dating terrible women you know what I mean like if you're lonely get an animal companion make sure you can keep it alive and do that alright so the last subject I want to talk about is living with family members um I just want to say this real quick like Erica might have put herself in a really awkward position like that's interesting I don't know I don't know it's interesting because she she said all this about Greg and she did it in a very tactful way but I can see it stirring some stuff and I don't I don't know like I wonder what's going on behind the scenes like and for all of you out there I don't know if you've been in a situation where you've disliked your significant others parents or even if you didn't dislike them like maybe they let them move in with you like for example and I'll say this right now I'll say it on camera I don't even care um my girlfriend and I are getting a new apartment I'm trying to get my mom to move out to Las Vegas but my girlfriend and I were getting our own place and my mom's like can I live with you and I'm like no sorry you know what I mean like I just told her that I set up that boundary and I love my mom me and my mom have fun my girlfriend loves my mom but kind of like the same reasons that Erica was talking about like it just it changes things in a different way you know what I mean so um so like that's just the boundary that I set up and Jake might not be able to set that boundary like Jake's a millionaire he could have bought his his dad another mansion or another house or something you know what I mean but like Erica points out and this is something that Jake and his dad need to work on but like you see Jake's mood change and I mentioned this in uh other videos about the family of Jake Paul like that entire freaking family needs therapy you know um but but yeah like it can be uncomfortable living with family members especially like when you're an adult but like I get it because we feel indebted to them but like I don't know a good example depending on your opinions of him Jeffrey Starr recently reconnected with his mother and he just bought her a place like she was living on the streets he bought her a place and I think that was smart like Jeffrey's got a huge mansion but he moved her in somewhere you know and I know not everybody watching this is a millionaire and all of that like I I guess what I'll leave you with on that note is it's going to depend person to person situation to situation okay like you might not be in a financial position or your your parents might not be in a financial position for them to get their own place but I've mentioned this in other videos I forgot which one I did recently but like I set a boundary like when someone's moving in I set a time limit on it like okay you can come stay with me but it's only for X amount of months right I think I mentioned it my friend Nicky um who's a school teacher like when she came to live with me because she had some stuff go on I was like you can stay with me for three months then you're out of here right but as time went on like I realized okay it's cool it's kind of nice having her in the house and you know it's cool right like so she ended up staying with me for like almost a year before she ended up getting her own place but I had set the boundary previously so I would say this whether it's your parents whether it's your friends whether it's whoever because so much of relationships even you and your significant other or your uh your husband or wife it's about communication right and it's about compromising it's about meeting in the middle so if you are in in a situation where your mom or dad or family member has to stay with you just make sure that you like set up some kind of boundary like don't just let somebody like come in mooch off you um and enable them and all of that like enabling people is is just as bad as not helping them at all like and that's some real stuff you know I've talked a lot about that in this Shane Dawson series about enabling and how people enable others to you know not progress in their life or just have bad I don't know bad things going on you know what I mean so like make sure you're setting up boundaries and you're not enabling those other people but anyways that's all I got for you with this video if any of you have any experience with any of the topics like whether you struggle with loneliness you always need somebody around like can you relate to what I was saying about like your your fear of being alone makes you lower your bar with like who you date do you have any experience with family moving in and it causing turmoil with your significant other any of that stuff like I said I think there's a lot that everybody can learn from each other down in the comments below all right so thanks so so much for watching thank you Zach for editing this final video for me while I am out of town I love you so much go check out Zach's channel Zach Snyder presents put Zach Snyder Productions I'm tired I'm sorry it's in the description and all that all right but anyways that's all I got for you like the video give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe ring the notification bell and I will see you when I'm back in Vegas and make the next video bye.