 Hey Tony Gaskins here, let me get this here situated Earlier today, I um posted on my I posted in the community. So if you go and you look at um Hey Cara or Cara Thank you so much. Thank you very much. I God bless you. I don't know if that's in USD or that's another currency. Thank you I posted earlier today in the community section where If you had any questions for tonight and I went through and I tried to grab some questions ACJ share I Really appreciate y'all every Sunday night. I'm gonna try to at 9 p.m. Eastern Do these lives if I can't make it I'll try to post in there at least like three hours in advance that you know I'm tired up if I have to go to one of my you know NBA or NFL clients games sometimes they play on Sundays or if I'm with the family and we out somewhere But if we home typically we're home during the school year because they in bed, you know eight o'clock getting ready for Monday But I went through and I grabbed some questions And I'm gonna answer the ones that I was able to get to I tried to just go through the first ten But what you also got to understand is that if you ask me a question and I don't answer it It's because that's not a question for me like if you them posted the same question every day and You see I didn't saw it and I'm not answering it. It's just not a question for me I'm not just somebody that just speaks on everything trying to be a guru or expert That's not me. I speak where the Lord has called me to where I feel like he's gonna be speaking through me Giving me wisdom knowledge and understanding on that topic. I don't just try to talk on everything under the Sun So understand that something's for a therapist Something might just be for another coach that focuses in a different area. Not everything is is gonna be for me and Kara y'all get Kara round of applause Sister that got her a blessed and highly-favorite job Really God bless you. I got a question from Jackie and Jackie Thank you for being a member Jackie said could you address the problem with men Who have not prepared themselves or their lives to receive a woman or a wife? And they expect us to settle for the poor choices. They have made These are men who have nothing of value like owning a home never invested in anything have no business Acumen have no vision or goals. The sad part is that normally they are good decent men I sent you an email weeks ago about this issue. Hey, thank you so much for sending that email. Please know that I Don't get to see all the emails just because of the volume Billie Jean, thank you so much to become a member of the blessed tribe in the description of this video You'll see a link where it says to become a member or if you just click on my profile Then you should see where it says join by subscribe Now Jackie addressing this to be honest with you it depends on where you are what demographic you're dating in and What you have to understand is that that is Becoming more and more common with men just because of the way men are being raised You know a lot of men are not being raised. They're just growing They're just growing up into adulthood, but they're not being raised and I'm gonna do a video on this about Mothers marrying your sons. So what's happening is a lot of single mothers are being stuck with the child and Without having a father who's gonna be there to add some balance Because a man knows a man. So when the father's in the home a man knows how to balance the love with the The tough love and so me raising two boys I know when to be easy with them and I know when to be tough with them But a lot of times when a woman is left to herself to raise them She's dealing with her own pain her own issue. So the last thing she wants to do is be the bad guy Is be somebody who her son? Doesn't like or her son wants to leave her and go stay with his daddy and so a lot of women are marrying their sons and Babying them and calling them and and giving them everything they need and Belling them out of trouble all the time making excuses for them my 12 year old today My wife just had him doing homework for six hours because he have a test on Thursday It's Monday. It's Sunday. His test is on Thursday. He just studied for six hours But not everybody's gonna do that not everybody gonna teach their son how to be Responsible and how to invest in themselves and how to be a man. And so that's why you're dealing with that issue today CJ a brother one of the few brothers who in the blessed tribe who a member a CJ that really really blessed me God bless you For you know supporting like that It's not a lot of men who support my message because it is very challenging Because I'm a man giving the message and so when I'm talking I'm talking to myself I'm talking to men and a lot of men just don't want to hear that So I really appreciate you CJ CJ as hey, bro I wanted to know how to date a woman with kids and be able to understand if she's a good mother or not Since I've been back in the dating world just about all the women I meet have kids So trying to understand how to date and understand them right away. I don't have any kids But since so many that do I'm trying to understand what to look for when dating them good and bad What you ought to realize CJ is One thing that It's tough because what you asking for No CJ one the hundred fifty guy last week that what you list is a bit you way Yeah, where you list is that but um what you have to realize CJ is that? When you ask that and you say I want to know if she's a good mother or not It's going to kind of work against you because a good mother She's going to put her children first And she's not going to neglect her children for a date So if her child has a game every Saturday Then she's going to that game Christina Jackson. God bless you She's going to that game if her daughter has a recital on Friday nights She going to that recital so you're gonna be sitting there You'll be like man, we can't ever go on a date We can't ever go on a date and she's like listen my daughter got this on Friday nights You know if I get a sit or if my mom can come over then we can go out to the movies or dinner afterward But if my mom can't then you know, it's nothing I can do that's going to be the sign to where this woman She's focused on providing for her kids and then she's focused on Speaking into the life of her kids, you know, she's building her kids Rosanna Garcia. God bless you. I'm gonna I'm gonna get to you question here in a second and she's focusing on that and so you're gonna come second to those children because you're not her husband and She's not going to So so if you talking to her After school, it's in a weekday kids and got out of school and it's 4 p.m. 5 p.m. And she on the phone with you for hour 2 hours and the kids in the background running around acting crazy They said hush. I'm on the phone hush. I'm on the phone That's when you know you got a woman that is not a good mother and she too desperate For a man now if she say hey, I gotta do some homework for our soul with my kid I got to get dinner ready and then once after they eat and I get them in the bed, you know I'll give you a call back Now, you know, you got a woman who was about her business and she has her priorities in order So that's what you have to look for is she neglecting her real Responsibilities for you or she asking you to understand my situation and what you coming into and that this time being Until we won until we all the way locked in then I gotta have these things placed, you know in order Rosanna a god bless you. Thank you so much for your support. Y'all helping me save up for this new iPhone 11 I don't know if I'm gonna do that pro cuz my hand ain't all that I ain't got your killer Neil hands So I might just get the rare iPhone 11. I'm still on this 10. That's why I'd be a little fuzzy sometimes, but Y'all blessing my mouth and go get this iPhone 11 We did a session with you husband leaves Repetitively each time I cannot prove he's with someone else but feel he is of course he denies it I really cannot understand why the back and forth It's hard to decipher his lies. I'll tell you what He lying he lying your husband lying If a man keeps leaving over and over and over And you can't prove he was somebody else to be honest with you can't prove it just because it's easy You know, it's easy to cheat. It's easy for a man to get away with something like that But what you have to realize is You cannot keep standing still so if a man keeps running in and out your life That means you're standing still and if you're standing still Every time he comes back he lose respect for you So you got to love yourself you got to respect yourself and you got to be willing when he walk out the door to say Okay, cool. I tried it. We did coaching with Tony Gaskin we did coaching with Joe Smith with you know, we read this book that book and He still is not trying to work and get this thing together. I'm moving on. Hey, Shannon Barnes. God bless you. I don't know God bless you Shannon, I really appreciate you so understand that do not let him keep running in out your life I can understand you have a break one time you trying to get it together Three four years later, you have another little two three-day situation where y'all kind of separated it You gather but when you say repeatedly he over and over keep leaving he playing too much Hey, y'all don't post no question in here, right? Yeah, okay, y'all come into each other. That's cool I got to get through these questions that that somebody the people posted on the my post in the community section earlier today Fab cat. Thank you so much for being a member Do you guys do guys see it as a red flag when a woman hasn't dated in a long time or is very Inexperienced in dating now when you say red flag, it could be yes red flag in the sense of Okay, got me one. Got her. She's not gonna know what's going on But in the sense of red flag like a negative thing No, a man would prefer a woman who's not all that experience who's not, you know Been around the block three four five six seventy nine times and know all every trick in the trade That she gonna be gaming him, you know, he would prefer a woman Who hasn't dated you're a whole lot because what that does is it allows him to have some first Experiences with you it allows him to kind of show you what he knows to learn the natural things that you know And so it's not a bad thing now a dog a grown boy sometimes those men when we are in that space we will a Man won't like it because he'll feel you won't know enough tricks in the bed You won't know your way around the bedroom and that's when he'll feel some type of way But a real man who was mature and growing and he's looking for a real bond real connection with a woman Then no that doesn't matter at all And even if you have been around the block ten times you don't have to tell him that that you don't roll the bicycle backwards and That you know everything there is to know you still can just you know ease your way into it without Telling all your business So really a really appreciate y'all somebody I don't know if Tiffany Johnson, I don't know if the green mean that You just joined as a member tonight. If that's the case God bless you. I really support Support all that love that y'all Shawn Ebony flowers Say hey Tony. Thanks for doing this. My question is should single with no kids Consider dating men with kids if so, what are the rules and what should we look out for? I am 31 I'm doing pretty well for myself and it seems like everyone has kids I would prefer someone without children, but I am not sure if that's a preference or a standard Now ebony now you and CJ probably ought to connect CJ is dating women with kids, but he doesn't have kids and you dating Men with kids and you don't have kids both of y'all members of the blessed tribe Sowing $1.99 a month. So y'all sewing on good ground That means y'all come together You might reap a harvest because you got good fruit your head on the same So I don't know CJ and Ebony y'all might be a connection. Now. This is the thing It is a lot of people who once you know start to get up there in age You over 18 over 25 over 30 people start to have kids so That is gonna be pretty common unless you and CJ connect But what you have to realize that the cause to that situation is if he has Baby mama drama if he is not a good man and he's not taking care of his kids And he's not you know doing right by his kids then That's gonna call some issues when if his child's mother wants to you know Get crank and she she want to start some stuff and she in and out and he's dealing with that situation Now if he has you know split up With respect and he's handling that situation. He's helped her understand. He's given her closure He deals with her with respect and he knows how to be a real man about his children Then that's a different situation And now his kids may not really affect the relationship in a negative way So you got to understand that as well And but here's the thing When you don't have children and you want somebody Who doesn't have children that is a standard That's not a preference a preference is if you want a man who is six foot tall The reason why I say that's a standard is because If you have save your womb Because you are not married or because Yeah, because you haven't been married Then and you want somebody who is the same they have not gone out and had children out of wedlock And they have not been married Then that is a standard because those are life choices Now it's not to say that a man who was married and he has kids is a bad man Because if he had if he was married and had kids in marriage, he did it the right way But you don't have to accept everything that comes with that if That's not your lot in life yet. So I would say honestly don't compromise that because If you go in and you just compromise now You know, you're gonna be And you compromise you're gonna be unhappy because he may be Having to deal with those kids a whole lot and you don't have children And so now you like man, we we're not on the same page. We can't do a spontaneous date night We can't just up and go to the movies because y'all Two different pages same thing with cj and his situation Hey for everybody that you know Hit that super chat and where you do a gift donation. God bless you. I really really appreciate you Kara I don't know if i'm hot if i'm saying your name right or wrong, but god bless you uh glam rocks makeup Posted a question. What are some topics I can discuss on a first date? Been single and abstaining five years. I know not to bring that up But i'm rusty need advice on what not to say or what should I say? Hey, that's a real good That's a really good question, but To be honest with you, uh, you probably gonna need a one-on-one session Um, just because it you know, it's a long conversation right there in itself But here's the thing here's the key when you when y'all dating Octavia Say you listen overdraw that count last week Oh, what a thing hit me But hey you listen I was gonna check with you too make sure you listen to try to do a charge back Trying to you know stunt for the ladies and then go do a charge back But I don't know if he did or not. I don't know how to check that But glen rocks here's the thing the problem with a lot of women what a lot of women do wrong on the first date Is a lot of women go and they read their whole resume to a man They read they whole resume They wear their degrees and their accomplishments and their single woman and they're single and independent They wear all that on their sleeve Hey deep bench god bless you. I don't know if i'm saying your name right or wrong god bless you deep bench You help me get the iphone 11. Thank you And they they just you know, they'll sit there on the date and you know, so how do you deal with? You know me and these women who they need you to pay for their date You know, because i'm an independent woman and you know, I got a degree. I got a master degree And i'm an opera honestly. I'm gonna be honest with you. I can't hear tonight But I don't need a man for nothing. I'm gonna be honest with you And so they go into all of this right here and they have all these accolades and the man sitting there And she thinking that it means something but really she's speaking out of insecurity She's speaking out of insecurity because deep down she really upset that she has all these accolades and still single And so she expressing this and it's really coming from her insecurity and the man like wow Whereas if she just sitting there and she talking and she having a conversation and she's like so So what have you, you know, what have you been up to? You know, what do you do for fun? You know, what do you get into are you any uh in any of those adult leagues or like fantasy leagues or like the Leagues where you play basketball on sunday and then he go to talking by himself Like do you like it? Is it competitive and then she asking more questions And he telling all the story when he's spraying his ankle in the game Wow, so it really gets serious you spraying your ankle and he's like, yeah, you know And I had to get some crushes. What you was on crushes That league is serious. I would love to catch one of those games Just the type of woman that now she get a man open a april god bless you god bless you april She get a man opening he go to talking and now he going to talk talk talk So now the more a man expresses himself the more he falls in love because what you gotta realize a lot of Men been told just shut up. Just shut up be a man. You don't get to express yourself You don't get to say anything so when you allow a man to to open up and express himself instead of You doing all the talking and trying to read your whole resume read your whole autobiography Your whole film script and just showing him what role he need to play in your movie Then that's when you lose so don't wear all your you don't gotta go through a list of your standards He will see that you're not getting drunk. He will see that you don't need to go take a cigarette break He will see that you're not cursing like a sailor He will see where you stand, you know, he will see that you're going to church on sunday That's gonna come up. So he'll get to see your standards and where you stand In this conversation without you having to say I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't curse I'm not sleeping with a man until marriage. I'm going to church to the night Bible study win the night Bible study Sunday night and you going through the whole list and you breaking it all down and he like Okay. Oh, really? Okay Okay, you want a cookie bring her dessert Because you're doing good in life, you know, and he's sitting there like that because you you read nothing That's what I see most women do is they start Winning on the sleeve, you know across their forehead and it just it break everything down Let me see roseanna now. Hey god bless you roseanna god bless you You're gonna be the pay for a session When addressing him leaving us me and the kids not contacting picking up the kids. He says I left you Not them Why does he say that if he doesn't check for his kids? I make it easy for him To get them but he doesn't always excuses Now see one thing here is you trying to make sense of a grown boy and trying to understand a grown boy is going to be like You know learning rocket science trying to figure out the rotations of the moon And how you get to the moon and back in an hour When you trying to figure out a grown boy a grown boy is never going to make sense to you because a grown boy doesn't even Make sense to himself He doesn't even know what he's doing and why he's doing it. So You cannot make sense of insanity. You cannot make sense of Immaturity irresponsibility. It just is what it is. He was not raised. He just grew He does not know how to be a man. He is not ready to be a man. He's not ready to be a husband He's not ready to be a father and that's why he's playing all the games And you just won't be able to understand that like you will be Literally banging your head up against the wall, you know Up all night trying to understand something that has no rhyme or reason any of that and So I want you to understand that you you can't really Sit in and rack your brain. You got to understand that he is Lost he's hurting A man like that a lot of times dealing with abuse from their childhood sexual abuse physical abuse verbal abuse abandonment Being bullied all different types of things a coach rod. I really appreciate your coach. Thank you so much Bless you for that And and so that's what's going on with a man in that space and he said I didn't leave them. I left you That's that's just It's an excuse it don't even make any sense if you leave your woman And you're not coming to get your kids that mean you left your kids too If he leaves you but he called them every day he on FaceTime with them He come and pick them up take them out on a little kid date on the weekend Then he didn't leave them But technically he's still loving but if he's active then but if he's not answering the phone He's not picking them up then He lying somebody say He lying to himself. He that's that's exactly what it is. He lying to everybody In the description of this video you'll see I just added a new course. It's called. 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That's a great question I'm glad you have not introduced her to a man And I want you to see um I want you to understand that 10 year old daughter and you're dealing with men And not fully understanding men and the bestiality of some men That you will meet not all men, but some men you meet will have a dark side and They could be just really Going through a lot personally and your 10 year old daughter Has to be protected from these men now. This may sound kind of crazy to you But honestly, I don't recommend introducing a man to your daughter inside of 12 months And the reason being Is that 12 months should be the time around the time that he's getting ready to propose To you So when he comes and he tells you he wants to marry you Then that's when you can introduce your daughter to him When it's been 12 months or more And y'all are talking marriage and understand get beyond all the fairy tales It don't have to be Renting a plane putting a sign on the back of it flying through the air saying will you marry me This day and age you could sit down and have a grown folks conversation and say like, where do we go from here? You know, what do you think about marriage? It don't have to be all these elaborate proposals and all of that just sit down and talk And and at that point when you know that it's serious That's when you can say well I want you to meet my daughter because I really you know Love you. I'm feeling you and your daughter what you got to understand. She Is a kid so she don't understand love anyways So all she cares about is that her mom is happy And so if he's truly a good dude Then and you love him she's gonna love him Because she loves you and she wants to see you happy. She don't want to see you lonely Stress and I you know Going through when she see a lot of her other friends mama with with them a man and so Kids gonna be okay. You know, it ain't like you got to go ask for permission because because your child Might be bad and just and selfish and tell you know just for the sake of it and you know what I mean And don't even really mean it don't even know what they're saying So it ain't about asking your child for permission and all of that it's about protecting your child You doing the vetting you getting to know this man. You can even sign up for a coaching session With a man like myself and then do an individual session and get some feedback from an honest man About this man and his energy So that a man is reading him too if your father is not in your life or or your brother And any man in your life you just need to be a sound minded man with some wisdom and knowledge and understanding You can't just go to any man who may be a grown boy Getting high and getting drunk and then asking him for advice by the man because People speak from where they are T. R. A. God bless you. God bless you power in the name You are rich and with that with that gift you blessed me with I see that last name means something I ran into my ex's friend now hold on Did you ask this Because I thought I saw this question in the thing. I saw this question somewhere else. Maybe what you asked me this question at? I thought I had this on here I ran into now don't try to do no charge back because I already saw this question somewhere else I thought I thought I might have had it on here, but thank you for your question I ran into my ex's friend because of you. I was able to be cordial and we had a small conversation Do you think he told my ex? Yeah, yeah, he told your ex he absolutely told your ex And he wanted to talk to you and he wanted to talk to you because one thing about men is men are Most men nasty and when I say nasty, I just mean horny so Most men have a crush on a friend girlfriend Just because the way the Mind works men are like that with a friend mama with a friend sister with a friend female cousins so your your ex Boyfriend his friend will touch you and want to and probably want to touch you and that's why he hopped over in your line to start this conversation, but yes, he also going to tell your ex that he saw you and The fact that you asked that question just is i'm gonna elaborate on that not to make you feel bad or anything But that's the kind of questions I want y'all to get beyond y'all ladies because y'all ask those kind of questions which You shouldn't be asking those kind of questions You gotta I want y'all to get to the place to where your ex is your ex And you ain't worrying about what he doing where he at who he talking to What he seen what he hearing I talked to his friend cool. Who did we chat it up? I'm moving on about my life you know, but because When you entertain it, you give your ex power and so now You I wouldn't want to accept your $15. Now it ain't gonna hit no refund on it But i'm saying Did your ex just cost you $15, you know, you gave a donation $15. God bless your heart But that ain't the way I want to Receive it, you know, I I want to receive because you saying hey tone. I love the work you're doing Hit this to help you get that iPhone 11 stop being cheap And that's probably where you said it from but i'm just asking to everybody How much sleep is your ex costing you? How much time? How much energy? How many thoughts is your ex costing you and you gotta try to make sure that you get beyond thinking about and entertaining Your ex we all do it and so I ain't judging you're coming down on you I'm just saying that's a a point that I want you to be working on So that the next time it happened you say look i ain't giving this no brain matter I'm gonna keep it moving is what it is Uh, mackayla a god bless you Now y'all y'all y'all I've seen some interesting spellings of y'all names So I'm just trying to infer what I think how it's pronounced Yeah, and I'm a little country so y'all forgive me if I say it wrong But god bless you that 555 that's so Oh blessing he left me for another woman three months ago. Now he is coming back And he's fit Now I see if you did a typo Because they say he's 50 i'm 26 Now if you're not a member It probably would you will probably have to give another donation. I don't want you to do that don't do that But I'm hoping that's a typo, but it say he's 50 One of the other men I've been dating is spending holidays with my family Now let me see you okay now you've got all kind of men Uh, mackayla you out here juggling men a lot of honey women Struggling trying to find one man you um before I get to your question. I want to say thank you to Zaman yaman Moe Zaman, I don't know if that's your name and I don't want to say your name wrong But god bless you yaman zaman examine I really appreciate you. I really do But i'm gonna tell you this right here and I spoke on this before when a man leave you Now If a man leaves you If he left you It's all the way old. It's all the way old And I tried to use this analogy one time and I had to argue with a woman I didn't argue with it in the comments, but I saw it I argued with in my mind and she was because I said a man does not walk away from his dream job A man does not walk away from his dream car. I'm not going to give away a Rolls Royce Unless I'm getting another car that just is nice or better But I ain't gonna give it away And a lady tried to say well Tony, I don't see me and give away they they nice cars because it fell on hard times I said lord, this is where we take stuff too literal. That's not what I was talking about But my point is is that if a man sees you as his wife He's never going to leave you Lossy God bless you I love if y'all put y'all the name on here And so he's not going to leave you when a man leaves you and if you say he is 50 Listen, you got to run. You got to take off running take off running. You hear me? And he ain't gonna be able to catch you either Because he 50 you 26 you got to keep it going. Oh, okay. So mckayla you became a member. Okay My current boyfriend is 51 and I'm 26 and we haven't slept together been dating for six months And he bought me a car I feel like he is trying to buy me. He is coming over for the holidays though Uh mckayla I'm trying to see your picture. I don't One of my gifts is being able to read people buy a picture, but I can't really see your picture and I don't want to come too close to the camera because I don't want people all in my flaws and and stuff but Is uh Did you meet that man on sugar daddy dot com because I've been hearing about this Because I just don't understand why or how This sound like a sugar daddy dot com mckayla and I'm not judging you But and I'm not literally saying Y'all met on the site, but that's what this here is Because for one boyfriend and 51 does not go together Because 51 years old should not be Even having a girlfriend unless She's in her 50s or late 40s But when a 51 Is getting with a 26 year old that is a end of life crisis Yeah, I can't call it a mid-life crisis because that would say he lived in 102 years But when you 51 and you single you have not lived you're not living a healthy lifestyle as a man, so That's coming to the end of the life crisis and with a 26 year old That's what he will see is pretty hot and tempting pretty pretty young thing And so what he's doing is he's getting His groove back how Stella got her groove back. He's getting his groove back and That's dangerous. That is dangerous and because 51 You got to look at it like this you 26 you still a baby so Your prime might be in your 40s So when you 40 that might be your prime where you want to see the whole world so that's 46 that's 20 years from now. He's 71 71 He's not trying to travel the world He at the most, you know, well some 71 want to travel the world, but 71 Women in their 40s is still getting it in still very vibrant got a lot going on 71. Yo, man is not Breaking nobody back He is not getting a whole lot of action at that point. He riding off into the sunset And so what you have to realize is that It's been six months and he's bought you a car and um Yeah, that's a sugar daddy And he is trying to buy you and you playing yourself So you got to ask yourself, you know, what's going on that a man buying you a car in six months Black hollywood natural god bless you. Tony you hilarious um You know what that just mean you got a good spirit Because I don't I don't be telling y'all jokes That mean you got a good spirit Because I don't be telling jokes that when you find something left The queen seven is online dating safe. I got a video on online dating and and no, it's not safe I know you're gonna hear some people say they met their husband on there and all of that But for everybody that met their husband It was a it was a thousand women got scammed So it's just it's just not safe I told her the other day keep that same energy you get online on the online date with and go outside with that same energy And she was like, well, I don't I don't have no energy. I just get on there and I just do me I don't chase them. That's the same energy. I'm talking about to go outside with that same confidence That same laid back chill vibe go outside with it and stay offline It do not do online dating. I'm telling y'all I was I had signed a deal with an online dating site And that deal was going to make me probably four million dollars a year And I backed out the deal just because my heart didn't sit well with it And if I was anybody else And just about that money I would have did it You know, Steve Harvey did a deal of black black people meet dot com And it seemed cool. It looked cool. But as I got into trenches in coaching, I don't believe in that online dating Only way I do online dating I promote online dating if I create the site myself And I have some things in there to vet people to where you got to do certain things go through certain steps to get you know Able to make matches. I ain't gonna share it all because people be created my app Ayanna, thank you so much. God bless you. He doesn't want a relationship but continues to pursue What that means is he wants Friends with benefits that mean he wants friends with benefits to shine. I see you up there. You popped in I almost miss you God bless you Put your words to the test about online dating Found that so many men online have many many emotional issues. It's almost scary. Why? God bless you right after I just got done talking about that I want y'all to understand a Nah, Angela, you should create one for the people that have taken all your courses Now if you want to help put up some money, Angela, we will do that Okay, but I don't believe in crowdfunding really so When I make me some money, I'm gonna do that I'm gonna do that But um the dating out but to Sean. Thank you so much for for Saying that And y'all just gonna keep trying to online date even though I'm telling y'all stop doing this online day Stop doing this online dating y'all gonna keep trying to online dating Till somebody come up missing and it just it's not worth it I'm telling y'all it's not worth it and I could get y'all the whole game But when I do that Women say oh, that's doing too much. That's doing too much. I ain't got all that time I am not finna be doing all of that And so I'll be trying to help but then y'all don't want to hear What it take and so it's like I'm kind of left Helpless and I can't really help you but what I'm trying to get y'all to understand Is if you take care of your brain Your brain and your body You focus on you you work on you if that takes six months if it takes 12 months You working on your energy you working on your mind and you just walk outside And everything is aligned With your energy a lot of women say they ready, but they're not actually ready They actually bitter on the inside. They actually upset on the inside. They're actually not really happy And that shows in the energy But when you truly feed in your mind In the description make sure you look at the links in the description I put courses in there a lot of women don't want You know To really do the work a lot of men too don't humans don't want to do the work We ask the question because it makes us feel good about it That it makes us feel like oh, I just did something because I asked a question But we don't really want to do the work of really learning and getting the knowledge And my online cyber security guard share share h she wrote to somebody today She wrote in the comments. She said look Tony to answer all these questions. Y'all ain't listening and share one line She won't lie, but we a lot of times really don't want to listen But i'm telling y'all if you do the work and you just step outside It might be Your mailman gonna be hollering at you get to the red like somebody gonna be hollering at you You go in starbucks get you a coffee. Somebody gonna be hollering at you You had a job your co-worker is gonna be hollering at you. You go to church The deacon gonna be hollering at you like when you truly do the work not just watching tv complaining, you know Skipping the hard stuff Buffeting your body your mind your soul your spirit Do the real work and you gonna see men gonna start jumping It's gonna be bad men too, but they're gonna be Jumping out the woodworks and to show to answer your question about why that's the case is because It's a special type of man that gets online to do online dating A man that is confident that is whole That is healthy that is pure He's not going to do online dating Other than an experiment just to go on there and see what's on there and get some knowledge about just just to say he looked into it That's the only reason he's gonna have he gonna get on there and have maybe one experience and then he off of there Because a man who is truly a real man He's going he wants to approach a woman in person And speak to her and ask her her name He don't want to sit behind a computer screen or on a phone Sending messages through a paid app Trying to get to know a woman he just a man who is ready. So that's why you have the men who are They introverts the sociopath And y'all favorite word right now narcissist Men who are all those things that they go online to do online dating Because they know when a woman gets on there, it's because she's not having any luck in the real world So that means subconsciously her guards are dropping. She's getting she's getting a little more desperate Because she's not having success in the real world. So she's coming online. So he knows he can get away with more He and that's why it's men who literally Going to prison now because they done got millions of dollars from women through online dating And finally got caught Uh, hold on. I think I I missed some of y'all. God bless you Yeah Kiana. Hey, Tony. Should women take men serious who are under 25 same for women? Should she focus on herself until 25? Should we friends on them? Lol, bless you. Now you asking that question because you don't see I didn't answer that question on um, what's called right? I'm thinking On uh on the instagram q&a But you absolutely correct. I don't even think people should be dating before 25 You cannot take a man serious before 25 unless he's smell like jesus Unless you can sniff the spirit of the lord on him and I mean literally like You feel anointing oozing out that man Then out his pores and just his aura feel anointed Then you can't take a man serious under the age of 25 and and as y'all looking at y'all experiences What y'all gonna see is some of y'all noticing that you can't really take a man serious at 30 35 so 25 he has to be extremely exceptional His mind gonna be different So you got to understand that so and the same as a woman. Yes 100 focus on you a um lila Or layla god bless you. Thank you so much What are your thoughts on serial baby mamas? It on the good side. He could be a hopeless romantic On the bad side he irresponsible And so what you have to do to see which one he is is you got to look at who he is today If he's still toxic if he's still getting high if he's still getting drunk If he's still clubbing then he's he is Toxic and he is a irresponsible He's a irresponsible man. I can't even say lover He irresponsible, but if if he's a good dude and he's doing right then He's a hopeless romantic and he was looking for love, but didn't know what he was looking for didn't know how to identify Didn't know how to find it Jim freak, which I found you years ago Early 40 years old divorced for four years. No kids. I wasted time with my ex single and still year for a husband and children Well, if if you're a Jim freak that the men definitely be in there and two It's sad, but the number one thing for men first is physical attraction So if you taking care of you and and you start to glow And you have that glow and you have that energy you have that aura you have that confidence That's going to start to attract men in your life. So you got to make sure that everything else going in your mind Is aligning with What you say you want and you can't mix the positive you can't mix the sacred with the profane Meaning you can't mix the negative with the positive. You can't be working out and doing good But then speaking negativity over your life speaking doubt over your life Michaela god bless you now Michaela, this is this your money this that 60 old man money Your man and then drop the bag on you, huh? You you got all kind of donation money. Hey god bless you. God bless you um You might need to stay with that 60. Oh he gonna Be having you in this kind of place unless this this your ability now. God bless you really and you did the fact that you gave 11 11 That's that might be a sign of me. It's time for me to get this iPhone 11, but I ain't quite that yet. I'm hoping I get it for christmas Thanks, Tony. This other man I met in person. He's 53 We love going to museums dining. He is very busy at work, but makes time for me. It's been two months When will he ask me to be serious with him? Michaela, uh You living the old folks home you live one of those, uh 55 and up senior communities I I just really not understanding where you meeting these Elderly not not elderly don't I am I'm not saying elderly because well Well, that's why I'm saying it's about men. So y'all ladies in your fifties don't take offense but A 50 plus year old man is different than a 50 plus year old woman Because men we put a lot more miles on us when I was 22 years old. I had more miles on me than a 72 box Chevy and I need you to understand that That a 50 year old man is equivalent to like 150 year old woman And so that's why I say where are you meeting these elderly men? She say she in Seattle Because you um, you know, you 26 You 26 and if you like them older, I would say Shoot for you a 35 shoot for you a 35 And the reason why age is important is because you want to be able to experience life together You know, you're gonna want to ride a roller coaster and You can't ride a roller coaster with a man in his fifties and sixties because he will have a heart attack and You you want you gonna want to surfboard? Like Beyonce was talking about and I'm being real with you on the other areas and He's not gonna be able to Keep up with you. And so you really gotta think about this thing and and here's what I'm saying And it's probably better for a therapist But what I'm sensing is that you you there's some daddy wounds here There's some daddy wounds here. It's some it's some childhood situations here To where you more so seeking a father that you could sleep with instead of a husband You looking for security you want a security blanket you want a covering which can come from any man, but I might say maybe she a old soul. No, you know old soul Mm-hmm. You know Mm-hmm But them older men got a bag on them And so if you and see out of them older men probably driving a nice car got some good money And one thing I find financial security means a lot to a woman But I really would recommend dating a little closer to your age Just I mean just to be honest with you unless you want some other stuff But I don't think you will be here if you wanted those life insurance Chasers your way you trying to get married and you know, let them doubt and you Give to me not life insurance policy. I don't you don't strike me that type of person to be here You know, I'm blessing me If you don't want the real honest truth But if that just happened the way if that's the way the mop flops and the cookie crumbles for you And you just happen to keep meeting men 50 plus then You know, that's your lot in life. I get it. You have to make the best of it, but I just would make sure that you're not overlooking the men in their 30s. That's good men Um and just being accustomed to these older men because they represent some type of security financial security Um and and they get you addicted to you know, the expense of dates and the expense of trips Because all that stuff is it's stimulating lexie lexie little god bless you God bless you. It's not showing me everybody So if you if you send a blessing In on the main line tonight, and I missed you justice Gregory God bless you Boyfriend brought me a diamond ring bought me a diamond ring and a necklace for my bday I wonder if you had a uh, you probably had another post with that um But that's that's nice. So that's nice. So Diamond ring necklace for my bday That's real nice. So VJ will cox. Thank you so much. Bless you Um robin said online dating is dangerous had a stalker for six months. Hey, I'm trying to tell y'all Uh, mackayla now you you might need your session so we could talk about these uh seasoned men that you That you date but And and the thing about it is I know it's some women who they season and they upset with you Taking the little bit of season and they got left And they and they forties and fifties and they want them them older men And and you got a whole roster of them Diamond L what ways can I show I'm approachable in public from the little picture I could see you got on yellow That's a great start right there And it looks you know, that's vibrant. It's inviting. It says that I'm cool. I'm confident. I'm calm. I'm I'm here and The key is walking at a normal pace Not having your head down not being on your phone circling through your phone not being on the phone talking to nobody Talking to your girlfriend your mom or your sister And having your head up having your head on the swivel making eye contact You're not teasing ear to ear. So you're not walking around just like But you walking you walking around and you got a pleasant look a pleasant look to where You're just a little perky. Yeah Oh, thank you very much. Somebody hold the door. Thank you very much. You're in the elevator How you doing today? Just like that you just pleasant and your energy is good What happened is a lot of women beat themselves up so bad on the pillow at night Cursing God out mad with God Strolling instagram getting jealous of everybody else instagram love and instagram You know relationships and they so mad that it's turning the energy upside down And so when they go out in public, they might be dressed right They might be doing some of the stuff But the energy bad and so they're looking mean because they're angry because now they're getting desperate or not They're getting frustrated and they're telling themselves all these sorrows. No good, man. These men ain't worth nothing Sorry, man. You can't meet nothing these days I mean just men ain't worth too cent ain't worth the linen in his pocket and now here go your husband He coming he been a walk right past you and Now he walking right past you but because you just been you've been cursing men out every day when you look at them You look at them like And you don't even realize that you just looked at him And he looked at you and he was thinking like man, she looked good What the woman look good and then he'd get up on you and he's getting ready to shoot a shot But then he looked at you up close and you look at him And you don't even process it because it's what you're telling yourself. What's going on in your mind I told my wife. I said, look, I'm gonna be done in an hour now. I'm gonna be off here in an hour She looked at me like I just looked at the like I just looked at y'all. She's Now she she said no take your time take your time um Naseer Naseer i'ma go with naseer God bless you God bless you original name beautiful name. I'm a little country forgive me if i'm saying it wrong if husband Has the potential in his job to contribute more but he complains About he is doing his best for two years You've been giving 70 percent You've been giving 70 percent. How should you proceed? There is no more emotional connection Well I would like to know what part of the world or the country you are in And To where you giving 70 percent Because that sounded a little odd And he has the potential to contribute more but saying he's doing his best He sound like he lied And you're not with a man. You're not with a man. And so what this is what that means Is that when a man the way this should look and i'm gonna help y'all understand this the way this should look When you in a relationship with a man with your husband not your boyfriend Y'all got to stop expecting so much from a boyfriend because a boyfriend don't owe you nothing Okay, it's a lot of women getting out of pocket thinking a boyfriend supposed to be paying their bills paying their car No, no all that. No, that's what a husband is does so um bless brown Beautiful any advice on youtube channels We'll have some business q and a's on other days maybe on saturday or something like that We'll do some business q and a's where I answer y'all entrepreneur questions, but I don't really want to mix both of them up but when your husband is not Providing when he's not putting up his money to pay all the bills What a man ought to be doing is paying every bill that his check will allow him to pay And then after he's exhausted his check Then It's your check that y'all, you know go to the movie zone and y'all You know live life and travel and stuff like that all the money should go into one pot And it shouldn't be you know, he make this I make this no We make this and then we pay the bills out of this and then we live Do the fun stuff out of this and we save out of this it shouldn't be Oh, uh 50 of this mind a hundred of this hills. No 150 you want And when you marry and that's your husband, but when a man is not contributing What he should what that says to me as a man is that he getting ready to leave He's saving his coins so that he got some coins to fall back on when he leave you brown sugar glamour Uh y'all gonna have my wife think i'm in in her cheating on her with these names now you got me calling y'all brown sugar and beautiful beauty I a god bless you for that Um, I really appreciate your support Hi, tony. I'm hammer Can you talk more about men at the gym? Is it just lust when a guy shows interest staring? Working out near you their friends smirking lol. Should it be taken seriously? Yes, you could take it seriously, but It's nothing for you to do. I mean it's nothing for you to do You keep doing you but you be Open, you know in the sense of In my gym, we got a cafe So that's where the conversations go down with the single men That's what they really trying to shoot they shot or walking to the cars in the parking lot They're shooting they shot there, you know um So you be open like you be present so you walking at a normal pace when you leaving And you really don't pay him any attention. You could look at him and just like, you know, look at him and Just like that. There ain't no teasing So don't don't go to flirting shooting eyes because that's when you start to looking loose And and a lot of times men have experienced that and then that woman end up sleeping with him on the first night so if you over there And y'all in the gym and why are you doing your squats, you know And you looking over there You doing all that then guess what he he gonna be like Yes, he read it. She read it And and he gonna come try it and if you didn't gave that away and made him feel that way and You really are ready in the sense of you okay with Sleeping with a man just because the chemistry is strong now you lose it all So instead be pleasant. Nice little pleasant look. How you doing? Are you using this weight? And and you taking the weight that 20 pound that he using and now you doing your dumbbell presses And then you put thank you. Excuse me. Just like that. Just cordial You know classy Comfortable and you can meet You can meet Your husband in the gym. You really can um, Cassie Gabriel, where do I find real men like Caleb curl and you Now, I'll tell you It's a lot of men out there Let me start lying It's not a lot But they are there the the problem is though is He's going to look like He may look like urkel And your influence Makes him step on He may look like Clark Kent And your influence makes him Superman And so what I'm saying is A man like my wife didn't find me like this Well, my wife found me I was wearing The dicky shorts Big ol' shirt I had six gold teeth I had four on the top two on the bottom. I had long gold teeth I was want to be gone But I had the same mind. I had the same wisdom, but I was packaged different I had the fate diamond necklaces. I had two cell phones I had an Apollo 20 tools and I was dabbling dabbling in the streets But I had the same wisdom But I was packaged different and so that's what I mean like you you not gonna meet a ready-made man He's going to he gonna have the character Like it's kind of like the late great nipsey hustle You know, this is And I use him example. God rest his soul But I use that to paint a picture of how You see men even like Tupac. God rest his soul. You see these men who When you look at them, you may say man, it's a thug. There's a goon or this uh, there's something this there's something there, you know, but You got to look at their character And so what my wife did with me is she saw me And she saw the golds in my mouth And she saw, you know, the gold teeth She saw all this and she said to me she got to know me and she said to me. She said that ain't you That ain't you. You ain't you ain't no thug. You ain't no goon You know, you you different you better than that you smarter than that. I was like, wow You pulled my card You told me I'm out here front And that's what helped me change my life. And so that's what you got to realize Based on your coaching uh morning Thank you so much for your blessing based on your coaching experience. What usually happens when someone dates a fellow church member I've never tried it, but I know I will be asked out It it I cannot remember a situation where it's worked out good dating in the church The devil be in the church working There are some success stories. I'm sure but A lot of them turn out bad And so you got to be very very careful very very diligent. You really got to take your time. Don't even call it dating Don't even call it dating You know If you meet this man and and you got to watch this man if he say something to you and he won't talk to you Just watch him at the singles meeting watch him on the ursia board You know, watch him around the church and just try to read everything you can about him before you dive in because What I'm dealing with the most in coaching is people having to leave their church because they don't broke up with this person And it did not work out and now the the boy He lying on her to other members. He going getting the pastor and the deacons on his side She got to leave the church because people looking at her crazy because he didn't got everybody on his side thinking She a Jezebel spirit and she lured him and baited him in So I just don't recommend it unless God truly truly speak to your your spirit about this man Gloria, thank you so much. God bless you. Thank you for your support um Now this thing what people is donating that's called a super chat And and I don't understand it fully. It just shows me and I really don't know when and how And where I'ma get that it don't come to me like it's not going right to me or nothing like that I'm guessing it come when youtube Pay you With your ads, but I just thank y'all God bless you because youtube put ads on some of your videos if they're able to if an advertiser want to put their stuff on your videos And you make like, you know some sense on the dollar and then it add up and it get more and more and more And um, so I really thank y'all and this I think is in addition to that So hopefully This time january, I had that iphone 11 because y'all really supported me. I really appreciate it. Gloria say i'm 43 no kids Some men shy away from dating me because I don't have kids Um It's not that you don't have kids So it's something else in there It's something with just the The the energy the perception That we don't have the gift to see ourselves through the eyes of others And that's why I come in as a as a life coach as a relationship coach and with all of my Women clients Female clients however word you y'all go by use that male female men women When i'm coaching a woman I will ask her If she's single and she's looking I would say look send me A picture of you so I could put a face with a name And i'm going to give you feedback from the male perspective of what your energy says to me It's going to say different a little different in person and I will look at a picture and I'll tell her What i'm feeling from her and she'll say wow that's crazy It sound like you grew up with me like how in the world you see all that in a picture That's just one of my gifts. I don't understand maybe because that I grew up almost like a mute I didn't really talk to people unless it was just my friend group I was really quiet and shy and I just observed people and I learned over time that Our personality is shaped based on how we show up in the world how we look essentially Because how we look determines how people treat us and then how people treat us determines How we feel about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves determines how we show up in the world What we give off when we step out and so when this happens this is how a man is reading you So based on what's going on between your ears It'll determine how you showing up in the world and a man is reading you like a novel because a man's gift is to read people in a Moment because men are also the warriors men are the hunters so men have an ability to read What's in front of them very quickly because men have a killer instinct a hunting instinct because God knew we will be going to Going to war and going to hunt to bring home food for the family. So when a man reads you it's totally different than when a woman reads you and that reading comes from what's going on in your mind and A a woman coach Can't even tell you this because she a woman would never be able to look at you The way a man looks at you to see you the way a man sees you because We we we made totally different. Hey, I'm on here talking too much. So I got to go in five minutes Because I don't like to do these things more than an hour and 20 I bought into a dude on live the other day And That man say he was on live five hours I said one day one day. I one day But look, you know, you know what I had a couple of If I could get through this I saw Angela Ray in here Ask a question. Um Nacocha Nacocha or nacocha Um Alisa your picture is too small. So I can't I can't see you right there, but You look like a handful that little picture right there. I could see you look like your cutter man Look like your cutter man Nacocha, I'm dating my boyfriend. He's talking about marriage after three months The first month he wanted to be exclusive. It's been almost seven months. Thanks to you I've been doing pretty much everything you've said I've learned so much from all your books and videos My problem is my past marriage fatherless and Bad relationship with mom I have some insecurities and don't want to run this man off Please guide me with answers on insecurity how to love him wholeheartedly You are so right about everything especially how a man knows when he first meets you if you're his wife Thank you so much. You've been my greatest inspiration for the past two years. Hey, thank you so much for sharing that now You may have to talk about this in a little deeper fashion because when I read this is a couple red flags to me And so the couple red flags is that although a man knows Quickly if you his wife, he doesn't necessarily move that quickly So he may know it but that doesn't mean that he's talking about marriage after three months It also does not mean that he wants to be exclusive after one month now that Is also can be true when he knows I want to be exclusive right away with my wife And but marriage. Hmm. I wasn't talking marriage You know after no three months and I knew she was my wife after our first six hour conversation And most men who get married can say that that they knew she was the one rather quickly But that doesn't mean he moves as quickly. So what you got to do is you got to kind of Pump the brakes. So don't focus on loving him wholeheartedly and all of that in a case like this Your insecurities actually serve you because it helps you to slow down. It helps you to kind of chill a little bit. So Don't worry about that. That's that's serving you right now Where insecurities hurt you is when you blame a man or you accuse a man for something that he has not done And you accuse him just because of your past So you may think something you may feel something. Just don't let it come out your mouth Don't let it come out your mouth and then it's not damaging you but that's actually Protecting you right now because he's moving very very fast and Um, that's just not that's just not normal. So here's the question that I would ask you is Does he need you does he need you for A place to stay does he need you financially? Do you earn more than him? Um, did he just come out of a relationship and you are a rebound so He he needs some emotional. He needs a band-aid. You're his band-aid Does he need citizenship? Wherever you live is he does he need to get married to speed up the process of his um, his citizenship So you got to ask questions. Does he need me for anything other than love? And if the answer is yes, then all this is a red flag if the answer is no then Okay, it could be the real deal, but you still just kind of pump your brakes don't sleep with them Don't go to serving them. Don't go to cooking his meals. Don't go to doing his laundry Don't move in together. You just date strictly date for 12 months strictly date Um Somebody say hi sign up for coaching you have to email now coaching is one on one So do not email in And then emailing back Oh I ain't know it costs People be writing in for coaching. I'm like you think I'm on the phone with people One on one for free In this and I got a fan whole family to feed and I got to be with my family. You think I'm just on the phone with a thousand people So understand now y'all understand coaching costs You also got to understand a beginning coach A coach just starting charge 50 dollars an hour to a hundred dollars an hour. I'm 12 years in And I'm a celebrity coach So that means that I'm on call. That means that my pay scale is a little different I I do keep things affordable If you got a credit card or savings or you make a A decent living so correct. So my coaching is 200 dollars an hour And in 2020 it has to it has to go up because I have to move it up with the demand because I only try to coach 10 people a week So if 40 people need coaching and all 40 can sign up that let me know that It's time for me to go to the next scale And so right now in 2019 Coaching is 200 dollars for a one-on-one session, which is Very inexpensive considering people who have My brand size Are at 500 dollars an hour a thousand dollars an hour. I saw a guy today who He probably his brand probably half the size and he has not done 20% of what I've done in my career And he charged a thousand dollars In our and so I I try not to get ridiculous But um at the same time You know, I don't I just don't want y'all to be misled So one-on-one coaching you have to email Support at tonygashkins.com Support at tonygashkins.com. That's an email I saw somebody pinched me. Now I see I'm trying to get off of him, but Y'all got me like a dance on the pole now when y'all when y'all throw that That donation on there. I go to see any iPhone 11 and I said I got to keep a Another song that came on. I got to stay up here. But no, I'm just playing. I'm just playing Lord forgive me. Lord forgive me If you if you dance, I lord forgive me. I'm not making light of that stress of your career. Please forgive me Pency dated a guy for three months took a vacation together when I voiced my concerns things change No contact for a week. He reached out, but still Hasn't explained why he went MIA. He's MIA again He said he loved me Hey, uh, God bless you. God bless you. Thank you so much for your support Um You probably weren't on here earlier when I said, um So I'ma say it again because I know you weren't on here When a guy goes MIA And you didn't cheat on him. You didn't beat on him. You didn't steal from him Like he just disappears because you question him Because you held him accountable Because you check him for something You express your concerns and he went MIA That means he's trying to train you So what he is doing is he's saying to you Listen here. Don't question me Be happy that i'm here in your life that i'm even dealing with you And don't question me. Don't ask me nothing about nothing. Just shut up and be happy that i'm here That's what he's saying when he Goes MIA after you didn't check him after you didn't say it something and when he and if a man does that over and over and over That's abuse and that's not your man That is not your man. You are a placeholder For another woman that know how to whip him in the shape Because you're not whipping whipping him in the shape because You're not his wife. You're not the one that's meant for him a man Will grow and change for the woman that he's intended for if a man is not growing and changing For the better of your relationship then you holding somebody else husband hostage So you got to release him so you can attract your your husband the man That's going to love you and respect you and be his best self for you Let's see Lou. Hey, thank you. You didn't came back. God bless. I say I See you say you got to get your question in because I feel like the last time you you sent me a blessing you just Sent me a blessing, but I appreciate you for posting the question And I don't nobody else donate. Please don't nobody else donate So when I get done with this here, I could go on get on off of here And because y'all working me tonight now So I really appreciate y'all. Thank y'all so much for the love and support Now the beauty about youtube is they don't cut you off Instagram raggedy, but they cut you off at our YouTube let me still talk See youtube youtube and and this right here these donations youtube get um A percentage I think 30 percent 30 or 40 percent. So youtube know what they're doing now that youtube now Hey, I'm here If a man offers to pay for my coffee, it's hard for me Want to get past that past emotional abuse issues paid for everything Um Let them pay for your coffee But see here's the thing is is you have to have a balance as a woman to where You get to the place where you get to the place where No, too bella. Let them keep on blessing me now Honestly, I'm doing what I love. I'll be here 10 hours for free. I've been telling forever I want to do a 24 hour marathon for charity or something But I really love helping people and it's just a blessing that youtube and created this for Servants for helpers like myself. That's a blessing But um to answer your question Is You have to Learn how to accept your blessings But then call it out when you realize it's a snare So what I mean by this is every woman has to get to the place to where you have a balance to where Just like a man has to learn the balance between the lion and the lamb A woman has to learn her balance, you know between your lion and your lioness to where you get to the place to where You can be nice and you can accept him paying for dinner You can accept him buying you something and being nice to you and doing for you You can accept it But and when he come and he thinks that he gets something in return for that When he comes and he shows that he did not do that from the right place of his heart Then that's when you got to check him and let him know that's when you got to be Oh, hold on. Hold on now. Hold on brother. Um We I'm not sleeping with you. You you thought that Because you paid for dinner that we were going to be sleeping together No, no brother. Um That's not how that works And he may leave you he may ghost he may be gone by You got a free meal and don't feel guilty about that eat that meal good Whatever he buy you Whatever Now what the one thing a lot of men do is they say well, give me everything I bought you Give everything I bought you give me all the purse back. Guess what don't get attached to anything a man buys you That's not your husband. Even if it is your husband, don't get attached to anything He'll go every purse you ever bought every pair of shoes every everything a lot of women They get attached to it and want to run off on the plug. They want to keep the ring They want to keep the bag they want to keep no give it all back to him Let him know that you can't buy me let him know that material thing don't move me Let him know that i'm a boss and I can get to my own bag if that's what I got to do I'm not a woman on no street corner that you think you could throw a purse out of fancy dinner at and and all of a sudden I'm supposed to be in awe On my back spread ego. No, you got to let a man know that Only thing gonna move your meter is his heart and his energy his love not not his money So let a man buy your coffee just watch him So he don't slip nothing in the coffee But let him buy the coffee as long as you got your eyes on But let let him do it because as a real man that's what a real man gonna want to do anyways Real man is not going dutch Well, if his money ain't right he going dutch But if he got money, he gonna pay for the dinner And he gonna he gonna every day i'm looking for something I can get my wife Even if it's a 12 dollar Shirt from target from tarjay and it's tarjay if i'm feeling bougie But every day i'm looking for something just because that is a love language And so i'm doing that, but then i'm also massaging her back. I'm also planning a how i'm i'm Getting up 10 o'clock at night Not to go to starbucks and get her hot non-fat chai tea latte that she love So i'm every day when you become a real man you looking for ways to please Your woman so let a man do all that and when he and that's one one thing my wife taught me and how she got me Hey jasmine watching god bless you god bless you jasmine God bless you again jasmine I don't know which one you clicking but one of them that you click you could ask a question not jasmine if you got a question Or you just trying to bless your brother god bless you one thing my wife taught me is that she Tony's been an hour and 30 minute glan ross. Hey, you still here with me, huh? You still here rocking with me if you could be here with me For hour and 30 minute then who am I? Do not be here. You know because I don't y'all if you have to go to somebody job tomorrow Then y'all y'all could watch the playback Fortunately i work for you so i don't have to i'm not going to nobody job tomorrow But y'all could scroll to this point and watch the playback but um One thing my wife taught me Is that she was so nice. She was so nice. She was so fun Her conversation was so amazing. Her energy was so pure. She did not argue. She did not Debate like when we were getting to know each other. She didn't take no time to go back and forth because she was like this is i'm I'm getting noticed man. Like i'm not finna be stressing myself trying to argue about something i disagree with So she just let me talk and then she talked um little two Asked your question little two little two ones a lot ones a lot time um post your questions i keep an eye out for you if you post it earlier I'm not reading question while i'm talking so if you post it while i'm talking i would not see it So y'all got to wait till i finish talking then pop the question in there But my wife I she was so friendly and so nice. I was like Okay, so i'm probably a toucher. I'm probably a toucher. So let me see What we can make happen and so when she let me spend the night i'm thinking Okay Because she's been so nice and friendly And when i tried to make my move and it was too early She kicked me right on up out that bed. You hit me I mean, I saw a whole other side of i'm like, whoa, you've been so nice april. Good night. God bless you You've been so nice and kind. What in the world? What is coming from? But she showed me that she got a balance. She showed me that I'm peaceful and and i'm loving and i'm kind but i'm a real one i'm a real one D. W. God bless you somebody said, um Coach rock say if his money ain't right, he don't need to be dating a real man Love paying for a date with the right intention. It's insult that man go dutch with a woman. I feel you. I feel you coach rock I feel you 100 100 percent I used to be a grown boy. I was out that day and I take somebody and spend that 60 70 dollars on that state With wrong intention and it didn't be mad Hey, god bless y'all. I need to go. It's been it's been an hour and a half I got these lights on these lights starting to make me sweat. Oh man. I told that the lady who had a question. I told her Look for a question and answer a question And then i'm running off on the plug Now I see one thing people do to me Even on the q&a Now la too 10 31 La too you say can you please answer one question for me? And but I don't see your question. So don't be mad if I'm if I got to go now Okay, I'll find your question Why is it that a man says he all of a sudden? Isn't a texture when he used to do it before And why do guys like i g female pics and get mad at your likes and comments You know one one of the themes on my channel what I've been doing if y'all notice I'm kind of trying to do why do men why do men why do men A lot of my videos say why men do this why men do that and the reason why is because I get so many why do men do this and to be honest, which is the hardest thing in the world to answer because When some At certain points in our life as men we don't make sense to ourselves Like we don't understand why we're doing some of the stuff we're doing So me trying to articulate it is extremely hard and then the answer That you give it does not make sense to a lot of women and so the women you make an excuse for a man Now the reason why he telling you he's not a texture the question is is is he a talker? So if he's not texting is he replacing the text with a phone conversation if the answer is no then that means that He too busy texting other women and don't want to be texting you because you taking up text time And he can't spell that good to be typing between you and somebody else Or you texting while he on the phone with her So that's what that is now if he say don't text me but he calling you and y'all talking for an hour to hour Then he trying to mature the relationship and go to the next level if that's not what's happening Then he getting ready to To meet somebody else and move on And the part about guys like an IG female picks and get mad The reason why a man get mad at your likes and your comments is because he knows what those likes and those comments mean And the reason the same thing he accuses you of with your likes and comments That is exactly what he's doing with his likes and comments the only way we um The only way A man only like a woman picture on instagram To get her attention to say i'm I'm here i'm looking at you and I hope you know that i'm looking at you Unless it's like a friend or true friend family member something like that then You know, it's it's to get her attention To shan say go to bed toni and get that iPhone 11 Thank you for your wisdom and for helping so many of us become Wives of women a thank you to shan and you and you can bless me again God bless everybody that that blessed me all of you as members And all of you that that are not members, but you did the gift tonight Hey, thank you so much. I'm really praying that god pull out over your life And that he just opened up the winners of heaven and bless you so much that it's pressed down running together Shaking together and running over how they say in the good book And I really really mean that from the bottom of my heart because you know you being here with me And talking with me and sending these questions and allowing me to fulfill my purpose You don't have to do it. You don't have to do it and for you to support me You don't have to do it, you know, and I just thank you for that So hey, hey, thank you for receiving it. God bless y'all and we will talk soon We did an hour and a half one day. I'm gonna do like the guy seen the other day He did five hours, but my voice already about to be gone Hey, hey, I feel you God bless y'all we'll talk