 Ladies and gentlemen, y'all help me hold on right quick. Let me get my Little system set up here post of the small business Saturday video today and I Put my little YouTube setup in the um in the comments put my hat on cuz cuz Any way I need to be on my hair cut right now look a Lock in this house, you know, I'm looking a little scruffy. So y'all forgive me Let me get this hell now set up Want to go live, you know, just because Felt bad last night. I miss a lot of questions and Being that we in this situation. It just feel like it's more time people home all week or don't be home all next week so I'll try to do my lives at 7 p.m. Just because you know, me and my wife try to have us a Date night at 9 9 30. So I Rather do this at 7 so I have my night to myself a little bit Sometimes she end up falling asleep on me. But if I miss you last night Put your question in here cuz I'm only gonna be on here hour Lord willing be on here our And shout out to TT Thanks to two Bella Let me know that TT made a very very gracious Blessing last night and when I went to my dashboard on YouTube, I also saw Stephanie Made one after I guess as I was closing it those gifts came in so TT and Stephanie God bless y'all God bless you. Yeah TT show that I don't know Lord just really touch our heart now if you have a question put your hashtag Q in front of it He's Sean or Tony do men like to see women fight over them Grown boys do grown boys really enjoy that it boosts his ego it give him some it give him the confidence he never had Make him feel special Make him feel wanted When is the next couple's retreat? Not too sure Got to get through all of this I got a self-love retreat now Which couples can still come to because you got to still love yourself and heal from all your mess So we do address that at the self-love retreat healing. So the self-love retreat is August Unless things get changed, you know because of the situation but as right now is August 14 through the 16 My husband falls asleep on me majority of the time I think my mind works at night mine mine too little needle. God bless you little needle Bless her Lord. Let me um Now put the hashtag Q in front of your question so I could see it I'm gonna try to be concise on my answers now unless it's just a real deep question that calls me to Go five six minutes, but I'm gonna try to keep my answers to two minutes or less Just to give you something to think about without going too deep And y'all try to y'all try to keep this here chat For the questions to the best of your ability I know y'all got the happy fingers and want to type But that that when the more you type in random stuff it just send the questions like they get lost Because you too need to fix this situation where they had a questions on one side that you could click in a regular chat on the other side Tony when does a woman Actually fall in love now you ask me about women. I really don't understand women I really don't understand women. I answer questions about men because I understand us now women I'd be sending my petition to the Lord trying to understand them too Now, but I can't tell you this if a woman like you one thing I found is that women fall in love before men That's one thing I know now But when does a woman fall in love maybe one of these, you know, ladies can chime in and the only thing about women is It's two types of men But it's a thousand type of women So I could say when the women fall in love and and these women might have 50 different answers for a man It take a man about two years as you know One to two years to fall in love not before he has some love not before he has You know some feelings but to be in love to where he could be a hundred percent faithful Nurturing Karen all of those things Cheryl why how do you identify all your gifts? That's a good question for small business Saturday being in this Saturday You identify your gifts by looking at the things that you do well that you do naturally that not everyone else can do so You see how I come on here and I could you know do a video for an hour just talking to the camera It's a lot of people say to me tone on how you talk to a camera for our So that lets me know that's a gift if everybody can't get on the camera and just be completely themselves on the camera and I can do that that let me know it's a gift So that's how you got to look at what you can do that not everybody else can do Equally as good and that's when you identify your gifts Amanda God bless you Amanda. Amanda you was in here last night God bless you wanting to show appreciation. You've blessed us. Let us bless you take care and God bless Have a blessed night with your beautiful wife. Thank you Amanda. I really appreciate that. I really appreciate that more than you know TJ Alexis. Hey, thank you. God bless you. Hi, Tony. When is a good time in a new relationship to go on vacation with each other Uh-oh now y'all hold on one second. Let me see some here. Oh, you know what? I'm home That they're so I should be alright When's a good time to go on vacation now when you say vacation y'all hold your question for one second? That made me think about Now vacation y'all got to use the same toilet. Think about that now. You got to use the same toilet Another thing is you don't know if you got somebody gonna push you out the boat So you got to think about that. How well do you know this person? Slip something in your drink. You got to think about that. How well do you know this person? Y'all got to sleep together. So if you snore if you slobber All of those things go into it vacation together could be like living together So you have to ask yourself do I know this person that well because you go on vacation too soon and You fall asleep and be passing gas it can it could ruin the relationship the relationship could be over before it got started So you need I wouldn't go on vacation with somebody until We have love Till we both have said I love you. That's when I go on a vacation E would bear God bless you. What age does the average man mature? Used to be 25 Today is it's more like 35 used to be 25 because there was no social media and all of those things today It's looking like around 35 Average man now you still got something 40 and 50 ain't mature After eight you you got something in the 70s now Think about who you watch on tv Going live every day during this his situation. You got something they 70s ain't mature. So think about it now Ramika After eight years six years married two years divorce Of cheating financial instability my ex-husband is saved and now wanting his family back Is it possible to trust again with God anything is possible if he really knows God he really working with God With God anything is possible But if you go back what you're gonna have to do is You got to have you got to put some stipulations in place So if he say he living right he say he living right and doing right now what what you're gonna hit him with Hey, I need you to work with this here relationship coach name Tony gaskins Because I feel like it'll help both of us you tell them both of y'all doing it You do your sessions. He does his sessions or another coach go on my mentor. Like the links up be in the description Pick your coach. You could pick your coach. He could pick his coach y'all work together And then you see if he willing to do that if he willing to do that If he willing to read a book together, he willing to do those things y'all got something If he ain't willing to do the work that you feel need to be done keep it moving My friend Shabee god bless you my friend gives me mixed signals always flirts but says that we are just friends But accused me of friend zoning everyone but he has a girlfriend. What's that about? Y'all just friends So it's a kind of it's a thing to where he has love for you He'll swing on somebody for you if you die he'll cry If you need a lone he'll spot you he has love for you He will touch you but you're not who he's want You're not who he wants. So it's something in his preferences in his list of preferences That you don't have and he leaning on his preferences. So the girlfriend has his preferences Or maybe some of the things he need And he doesn't feel you have that but if he could take his love for you And put it with her He'll have his ideal woman and he just too immature to realize no woman will be Completely perfect. Christine Henry god bless you Christine god bless you maryland bless you Pull out in your life When do you know you are ready to date after a past relationship? When you can love as if you've never been hurt before when you could love as if you've never been hurt before what I mean by that is You can't give your next two strikes Because of your ex. So if your ex did something that made you Feel a certain way like let's say your ex lied to you or let's say your ex cheated on you And let's say your ex was cheating when he wasn't answering his phone And then you get in a relationship If this man don't answer the phone Because he at work and he tied up if you automatically gonna assume he cheating and accuse him of cheating You haven't healed yet and you shouldn't be dating So when you could go in with a clean slate and not bring your ex into your next, that's when you're ready Chanel bless you bless you Hey, Tony When and how is a good time to talk about sexual history std's etc? STD is different than sexual history. It's a little different sexual history could be How many people you've slept with that may not be a necessary conversation in this day and age just because there's an assumption that people are dating around sleeping around and What said? Anything you say can and will be used against you in the court of love So you have to realize that when you go to telling all your sexual history It can be thrown in your face in six months a year five years 10 years So be very selective about that Be very selective about that Now when it comes to std's that's a different situation And to be honest with you Every situation could be a little bit different. So you may need coaching on that because It's difficult with a std because what you have to realize is a person Does not want to risk Catching anything from you If they don't love you So when in that situation you kind of You stop You really stop because if you tell that in the first month and the person don't love you I'm out of here. Hey got to go You wait six months When the person has love for you, then you tell them then they can say you lied to me. You misled me I wouldn't I wouldn't have been here this long had you told me that that's something you should have told me In the first 30 days So in that it really comes down to it's a personal choice And you got to be willing to accept what comes with it and you can't really control that But it could be the case to where you tell something About std and the person you're talking to Could have it as well and say oh Well, actually I was meaning to tell you the same thing And if that's what you're looking for a plan for then, you know, put it in your prayers Maryland god bless your answer Maryland question. Hey y'all putting any questions in here too fast. So they just going up going up going up So I can't see them all so y'all got to Forgive me. I'm gonna try to scroll a little bit and see if I could Get some of the early ones, but When a man texts every other week, how do I respond? You don't respond You don't talk to the man who one foot in one foot out You better yet block them. Don't don't respond at all After three months a god became inconsistent in calling From every day to someday should I step back? Absolutely. It's over He didn't moved on a man know within three months if you if you as wife If he don't know within three months and he he aren't sure You shouldn't proceed Do men try to do right after Off and on girlfriend dog him out on facebook and post seduct the wild pics I don't know what you mean like if if if do right by the girlfriend or do right by Do right by the new woman or do right by the on and off woman But no man ain't trying to do right by that woman right there off and on He'll be trying to get back whatever hurt him, but not not to do right He met my grandma told her We were in the gray area My grandma made this man a whole meal. He got mad because I told him It was disrespect Grandma is mad. I won't talk to him He told your grandma y'all in the gray area Grandma cook for Your grandma your grandma saw flash flash of her past She grandma want to get her groove back grandma. You don't want them. I'll take them Off your hands. That's what grandma feeling now. What he feeling Is he told your grandma what he wanted to tell you but didn't know how to tell you So felt like if he tell you in front of somebody that's a witness That's a person of accountability and now he also gets credit for telling you that y'all in the gray area It's a manipulation tactic. It's a grown boy tactic You not wrong for telling him it's disrespectful and pulling back You're not wrong at all He got to sit with that because that that was a chump move He should have sat with you as a man and talk to you Like he a man and tell you what's what still waiting to get in front of your grandma And try to tell that so he's still a grown boy. He immature You got to check him on that and then decide if you want to proceed or not Lydia god bless you Husband left me for a 19 year old Have a two-year-old Major heart and lung issues I watch you every day and taking jiu-jitsu classes, but I still don't know how to get over the hurting pain well You're gonna have to process it it's gonna come down to how you're looking at it And you're gonna have to start Processing a little different And what you got to realize is that it just takes time You got to keep doing what you're doing And understand that if you actively doing the work You won't feel the same on day 70 as you felt on day seven If you actively doing the work so keep watching the video keep giving the knowledge And what you also got to realize is you got to be thankful you got to be grateful You got to say look i'm i'm thankful that he's out of my life now Because if a man will leave his woman When they have a a child who needs some help And go to this one who young enough, you know For whatever That man got bad character and I'd rather Let go of him now and start to get over him then to be You know in my glory years With that uncertainty So you got to shift the way you're looking at it and realize you didn't lose a man You lost a grown boy. You didn't lose an asset. You lost a liability So you have to have gratitude For being freed up to go into your next season without trash Carrying somebody that don't deserve to enter into your next season with you Stephanie be god bless you Broke up with my boyfriend Two months ago due to a serious Realize that he is the younger version of my father feel like broken forever Like I'll never heal and love again Stephanie you're gonna have to do coaching That's a little too you came I can't say those words on youtube You're gonna have to get coaching and not coaching you're gonna need therapy You're gonna need therapy. So it's something it's a necessary thing You can go to psychology today.com and put in your zip code all the therapists will come up Um, if you don't want to go that route you can go to my mentor dot life And we got life coaches on there who are also therapists. It'll say it in their bio But um, you're gonna need therapy because you're dealing with you know trauma and things like that That's a little deeper than what I do as a coach because with coaches you can't label and diagnose. So Not everything fits inside of coaching Now somebody had a five dollar blessing up there and they didn't disappear from the top. Okay. I think I see it here Maybe they said Brianna Do you have any recommendation for books? About emotional intelligence. I need to put it in the description but um It's a good one here now. This this is what I read emotional intelligence 2.0 It ain't that long but um, it's some real stuff in there now. It's good emotional intelligence 2.0. I keep this here You know only read a few books outside of the holy bible, but that's one of them I bumped into it and It's been a blessing T. Johnson God bless you. God bless you. Happy anniversary. How do you suggest? Building the foundation of a happy Building the foundation of a happy 14 year marriage um Now I don't know if you're asking that to me for my marriage or your marriage Because me and my wife celebrating 13 years. I don't know. So I don't know if you're talking to me, but um For me the foundation is is communication. It's honesty It's being honest, you know brutal truths I'm very real with my wife. I let her know, you know I sit and I talk to her if I'm going through if I'm struggling if I'm feeling some I'm I sit down and we have a town hall meeting And with that communication and then honesty, you know, loyalty Trust you put that together and you're going to have an amazing relationship Relationships fail because of a lack of honesty and loyalty That's really the the biggest reasons just a lack of honesty and loyalty people try to say is Finances it ain't got nothing to do with no money Like whether you broke or whether you rich it money don't matter if you have real love It come down to honesty somebody lying somebody cheating You know loyalty somebody cheating and somebody got wandering eyes somebody being sneaky Somebody trying to do a little stuff on the side even if it's just Siphoning off a little money into a separate account or Giving money to friends and family without getting approval of their spouse Even talking to their ex, you know talking to whoever Friends and family in a negative way. It's honesty and loyalty that is lacking that breaks down a relationship And and so if you have that You got everything done white. God bless you. Thank you for your blessing Now let me scroll up and get some questions now. I saw Somebody said I hope you see my question. I saw I saw what he said. I hope you see my question You should have put your question right there Yes, see wavy Black queen, let me see if I can find your question up here now Okay question I'll find your question my ex got a 10k settlement Took the money Abandoned me move back to st. Louis and now it's back with his baby mama And I don't know how to let go because of everything I invested Well, you invested in a lesson Okay, a lot of people spent 30 40 thousand 50 thousand 80 thousand 150 thousand dollars on education that they ain't even using Got a degree and they ain't got a job in that degree field. So Education is expensive. So you have to realize like wow So what you're going to have to do is sit down and look back At the red flags that you miss If you don't know then you're going to have to work with somebody who can help you identify the red flags that you miss Then you have to make a vow to yourself that you're not going to miss those again That you're going to look at those and everyone that resemble them and you're not going to make that mistake again But you just got to chalk it up as an expensive Expensive lesson And that's really what it comes down to Need goddess on how I should proceed with an ex back into my life after post rededication to god live in different states Convo flows easily. How do I know if he's serious? Known for 10 years Um, not our 10 time you wasting your time Not our 10 time you wasting your time Just just when you say known for 10 years It don't it don't take a man 10 years to get his life together for for you for for the woman for a woman He been knowing 10 years If he known you he doesn't sniff you he doesn't bend around you. He didn't talk to you. This your ex He needs somebody to talk to he what he what is doing what men will do is they'll talk to their ex because it tickles Your soul time So it's kind of like when somebody a god bless you for that cash out somebody sent me a cash out And I this is right here on wi-fi So nobody can't call my phone But message like the little wi-fi email stuff popping in which I normally have this on do not disturb Somebody bless me with a cash out God bless you and some of y'all blessing with a cash out before this I had I saw two people Um, so hey bless you bless you. I really appreciate you um So understand that I wouldn't waste time like we so comfortable looking backwards. You got to look forward La la god bless you Is it a bad thing to reach out to your ex or ex from a situation ship? First if they were the one to end things or even get back together after repairing and starting over with a friendship Uh, yes, it's bad to reach out. It is bad to reach out especially because you a woman And he left you never chase a man And never get back with a man who left you Men don't leave a woman that they sure about For man leave a woman's because he's not sure about her So for man leave you keep it moving Keep it moving. Don't don't don't go back to a man who left you now you leave a man Women oftentimes will leave a man to teach him a lesson to send a message Men don't do the men or give you a silent treatment But he ain't gonna up and leave you because men too territorial So if a man leave you You got to keep it moving dawn white god bless you god bless you tony Thank you for speaking the truth. I am on the waiting list For your life coach seminar april 11th. I'm wanting To turn my pain into purpose when will the next life coach certification take place? Hopefully in may and this one from april might get pushed to may But I don't I won't know until april 7th um, if the venue you know it Because technically technically like what they really enforcing is no gatherings over 50 And I keep it under that and you know, some people are already opting to do the online version So you can also do the online version at the same price if you need to just send an email in And so that way you could get started right away instead of waiting because if you waiting on the live one Is really no guarantee because it's up to the situation we end with this 19 But then also just my schedule. And so it's no guarantee that there will be another live one after the april 11th And so if y'all want to take the life coach certification, write this down tonigasinsacademy.com And write down the coupon code now before you hit buy now It's a button that say buy now or purchase now before you click that button Right above it. It's a little code that say have a coupon Do not click buy now. I people again. I'm getting so tired Or people clicking buy now And then email and email email email email Oh, that was a mistake. That was a mistake. That was a mistake I ain't mean to do that. I ain't mean to do that. I ain't mean to do that I mean they emailing more uncle more auntie They emailing through my mentor, which is a whole separate company. I ain't mean to do that. I ain't Why are you clicking buy now if you ain't got the money? Why are you clicking buy now? What you want to sit there and pray over it? Why you click buy now that thing been bothering me? But I do customer service still in my company So I got to go through all these email And let me tell you I had to refund three or four people who went and clicked buy now And then talk about oh, I clicked buy now on accident I say lord Oh my goodness. Now, there's one thing if you buy and you Forgot to put the coupon code and you want to ask for to refund the coupon amount But when you just go and you click buy now and you didn't have the money So we'd be like do you want to refund the difference? No, I ain't got the money at all I'm broke my account in the negative I just were clicking buy now just to see what it'll do I'm like my wife she helping with customer service too. She'd be like tony who following you Why lord I said lord come on I said why am I switch industries? But so listen the coupon code is my mentor my m-e-n-t-o-r my mentor so before you click buy now Right above it. It's a blue code that say have a coupon click that Type in my mentor no spaces then click apply When you click apply you will see the price decrease then you hit buy now Okay, now I got that out the way. Let me go. I'ma go over five minutes since I had to go on that rant Karen Johnson. God bless you. God bless you for male friend mentions his ex in conversation Does that mean he wants her or thinks of her often? Yes, it means he thinks of her often. It means he has a soul tied with her And it means a blessing for the cash out Bless you it popped in on my sit on the screen. I need to do this on wi-fi so I could see that so I could thank y'all I really appreciate that it means that he has a soul tied with her And the soul tie is so tight That he got to talk about her And he's a male friend So a lot of time men Won't hire a life coach Men won't hire a therapist. So they want to talk to their friends To get some insight and wisdom. So understand that you exactly right Let me see Diane god bless you watch your video on 14 days rule. He forced me to leave Posted pictures of me traveling and kept my life active on facebook. Why did he block me? We're not even friends Like it's my fault now. God bless He he he's upset and he he got you to leave And he's upset and it bothers him to see you living your life fresh and just doing your thing and And he want to send you a message. He want to sting you. He want the last lick Men always want the last lick. So he want the last lick. So if he block you, he'd know how women think And so just and the reason perfect prime example is You you sent him a blessing to get in the vip line to ask a question So he's costing you money. That's what he wanted to do He wanted to cause you some stress some worry So you got to sit there and give time away from your day Wondering why he blocked you. That's why he did it Yes, it's a it's a easy clear shot way to get back on the woman mind if she's trying to be tough Shannon Barnes, God bless you. Thank you for all the advice that you share. You are truly a blessing. Hey, bless you. You blessing me Thank you, mr. Gaskin. I posted a question earlier. I would love your take on at nine Camille Now, you know, let me let me help y'all. It's nine. You could have put your question right there In his box. Okay. So when you say this now, I got to go Scroll through all these messages to find it. But this is the box that you put the question in right here. Okay? So if y'all see Camille, um message Let me find cutting y'all hold on now. Let Camille, this gonna be a struggle trying to find your message Yeah, any word love Yeah, Camille Camille costing us a little time here now. Hey, don't post nothing right now. Let me see if I can find Camille A message. I don't think I'll find Camille a message. Camille, you could have put that message right there I'll be working a brother. Wow. Yeah, you're wow Camille Post your message again If you in the bless tribe if you in the bless tribe post your message again Y'all y'all see Camille message. Let Camille Message post your message again Camille because I can't find it Miss Kay Johnson. God bless you. Tony. Love your con your content. Why do men think it's okay for them to have one main girl? friend But still present themselves as single and when you bring it to them, they try to spin you and play victim Well, he knows that it's not okay but men only Do that to women who he feel Is gullible enough to play with it to let them do it So what happened is is a man will test you with a lot of little stuff He'll test you with a lot of little stuff. Okay And then if you fail all those little tests and the little test may mean Not calling you today to see how you're going to respond tomorrow. See if you're going to check him on it Not coming in when the time he say he's going to come in not calling you the time he said he's going to call you Maybe talking down to you being condescending may yell at you He'll do little stuff to see if you're going to check it when you don't check it That's when he know You're going to do that's when he know That you'll put up with the big stuff like him like you being in a relationship with a single man So he knows wrong, but you've taught him That you are tolerated Nk. Thank you for giving so much free game. Hey god bless you god bless you. I appreciate those who appreciate Julie love Bless you that now that right there a special kind of dollar there, Julie with a euro That's a euro and that euro might be more than The dollar nine. Oh now and this is another special kind of dollar in here I don't know if that's a pound and this a euro whatever y'all giving me god bless you I don't know how it's gonna convert, but I'll leave that on google, but I show thank you and bless you um Renate Hi, mr. Tony the lord told me to get rid of my dreadlocks of 11 years growing I obeyed took me three weeks still seven locks Too untangled Still seven locks too untangled tonight What did you say to the lady with locks at your seminar? Okay, you another country. So you weren't at the seminar Um, it was a lot of ladies that with locks at my seminar And what I was asking them is what was your choice to get the locks? And a few of them they did it out of rebellion to their x So I told them if you did that To get back at your x then your x still have power over you And so that's the wrong reason. So a lot of women hair choices sometimes come from their x And hair means a lot to a woman So you have to identify the root of why you did it and if it came from rebellion um against the man the system the government against relaxes perms If it came from, you know, self-hate You got to identify where it came from now if it came from self-love Then that's something totally different but you give people power when you make a change in your body um Because of somebody else Kanisha Robinson Hi, Tony. Why does a christian man who was interested in you three weeks ago? All of a sudden cuts you off even the friendship Um because a christian man Will not lead you on so if he Has a change of heart which a person Can have at any time He's not going to lead you on so he's letting you go and cutting the friendship so that you can heal So that he can heal so that you both can move on That's what that's about. See a no good man will drag you along Make you think that he want to be with you make you think everything going well And you fall in deeper and deeper in love and then boom now you Right there now see somebody say help my questions above her But see I'm seeing her question at the top of the screen not in the chat Because it show up at the top of the screen so Camille where you just posted my questions above her You could have posed your question When you post a question y'all Don't write about the question in the next post just keep copying and pasting it When you see me slowing down talking copy and paste your question again Because y'all saying it's above this it's above that I can't read the names because it's so small on the screen so just Post it again and keep posting it again without saying something else Let me see something A few months ago the guy At work followed me to say hello a few weeks ago He was behind me getting breakfast, but didn't say anything to me. What are your thoughts? You think about the wrong thing. You were about the wrong thing. It ain't you can't get caught up in all that You can't get caught up in all that He probably followed you say hello and then thought about that me too movement and said, you know what? Just want me to have me an HR And and so he could have just had a conviction in the spirit the next time you could have just said Hey to him because he right there. He didn't spoke to you. So he's not ready to initiate. So next time. Hey, how you doing? Just like that and still sitting there letting rack your brain thinking about it trying to read between it As long as you ain't chasing him down to say hey, you bumping to him. Hey, how you doing? Because now y'all know each other Why do some men leave a relationship shortly after girlfriend has their child To be honest with you. I Can't understand that type of man. I don't I do not It probably has to do with a whole lot of charming pain in his past But I don't understand that type of man. I That that right there That racks my brain. That's one type of man. I really don't I really don't understand But I know it has to do with his internal struggles and his pain and what he's gone through and to be honest with you Good riddance if a man will leave you in that state good riddance. He he's unstable He's unstable untrustworthy unfaithful If a man will walk out of the door on you Let him go Let him go you can't want nobody that don't want you Because that's dangerous That's dangerous Okay, I see Camila now Heard you say that men don't mature until 35 I'm 21. Should I be cautious in this microwave culture? And it's crazy Yes, Camila at 21. Honestly, you shouldn't even be thinking about love You shouldn't even be thinking about love. We're about your paper Get your purpose and your paper. That's what you got to get in line getting order first What is your gifts? What are your gifts? What is your purpose? Where are you? How you gonna turn it into profit? That's what you worry about and let a man sweep you off Your feet You shouldn't have to question it worry about it. He ought to sweep your feet now I see how I'm getting ready to end this hill answer and then uh remora Renara pop down right there I see it high tone is it True a man's heart is where his feet is at No, no, that ain't true It sounds cute and that's the thing with a lot of little slogans and quotes, but It ain't it ain't necessary true because His feet could be in your house and his heart Might not be there. He might not have a heart. He might not be open to love. He His heart is where his actions That show love is at and if that ain't in your house, then it ain't there And so wherever he's showing real love and commitment, that's where it's hard at But you got to understand that you got to understand that Leticia god bless your high tone. They appreciate your honesty. Do you feel it is important to meet your boyfriend's family? mom and child especially relationship four years still not Having met his family. What do you think? Um, leticia or leticia lethasha forgive me if i'm saying your name wrong now So i'm gonna say leticia and just assume the h silent now. Um Yeah, that ain't your man. That ain't your man because for one is you say four years You've been with a man four years that you're wasting your time you you you a year Overdu walking away Don't take a man four years to know you the one up number two You ain't met his mama You ain't met his mama Or i can or his daughter in four years you supposed to meet them people by the 12 month mark It's been four years. I hate to tell you because I hate to see people waste their life away and spend so much time wasting their life but I hate I hate to tell you but see the day is the day That's why you were sent to me to tell you don't waste another day You didn't gave four years don't don't don't let five come around It's time to go. He don't want you. He don't want you. You are a hold me down You will hold me down. What that mean is When he meet the woman he won't He's gonna drop you like a bad habit And he might and he might just keep you on the roster actually Y'all hold on. Let me get the vips into the club real quick. They to come over here in the line Let me get the vips in the club Before we finish letting all the free before 11 in hold on Wendy amazing confirmation to see that coupon code today now remember what it is not my mentor Okay My mentor and remember to hit Have a code You got to look closely because it's little and it's light blue I wrote the software people about that Been sitting on the thought for a few weeks No excuse now. I reached three years of coaching myself Would I be able to go straight into coaching? Absolutely. Absolutely coach coaching ain't rocket science now coaching ain't you ain't a medical doctor Coaching you sitting on the phone the same way you talk to your friends the same way you give advice to your friends That's what coaching is but even less because coaching you listening and you're asking great questions So that that's all coaching is it's it's not you're not diagnosing you're not prescribing You like a motivational friend and so everybody really could be a coach Because everybody needs somebody and different people have different, you know Preferences on who they want to work with Cheryl god bless you very manipulative prideful push me away Left him for good. He tried to reach out a couple of times. I never answered I might be asking out of ego, but will he ever come back reach out as They all do well. He already came back He already came back and reached out you didn't answer So he already came back now. Not that you didn't answer it. There ain't no guarantee from him. He might not Keeley god bless you. Look at Keeley showed up lord. Lord Listen lord, if you up there now, I know yes, send Keeley blessing Because Keeley show up on here when I be on his live somebody And she sent me a blessing every time Keeley I'm gonna have to turn my company public so you get some stock in me because you really be blessing me I really thank you for that that that that touched my heart now I ain't really no cryer, but if I was I'm crying on the inside now. I want you to know that once again enjoy Being blessed and learn something from each of these scenarios blessing to you Tony and the blessed tribe. Thank you Keeley god bless you out. I don't know Keeley you hit a lot old Hit a lot old You have one of these single men trying to find your dm Tracy William general question. How do you think this will affect present and future relationships? It's gonna end a lot of them This right here gonna end a lot of them because if they because nobody want to be alone So they probably in there together So this finna end a lot of situations and when you in there When you in there together, guess what the side chick and the side man They missing they boo So they finna text they finna send they text in and the side pieces they they finna they send to themself just the perfect Opportunity the blow the scene up. So I'm finna boom Hey boo Hey big head And and right after the side see them post on Instagram Oh netflix and chill finna text right now. Hey boo Boom to blow it up because they want to end That situation so a lot of relationships. That's in houses right now by the end a lot. I'm going in Because of what's going on bought bought my family a dog today. I'm watching the little dog That little dog about two pounds. It's a more key. Okay. That's a malty center Yorkie Now they had been talking to me in this for years for the last few years now because We didn't try to do this dog thing for ain't really Work out the way I like it. So we had to be a blessing to somebody who want to talk now I've got this little dog this thing running around Lord give me this ground Family kept on bothering by that Let me see. I see somebody else up here now. I'm gonna go five ten minutes over rena. God bless you rena God bless you Grace 27 He's 39 Provider traditional man But too intense You watch my video on a man who provides watch that whole video Watch it two or three times because what happened is y'all say y'all be laughing at the video Now, I don't know why y'all be laughing But I'll be seeing some of y'all putting crime faces in there It let me know you got a good spirit But if you go to laughing unless you hit the pause Then You're gonna miss the rest of what I say And the other thing why you need to watch some of the videos two or three times when you got a question concerning one Is because when your mind hears a sentence, it starts picturing stuff. So you miss my next two sentences Subconsciously, you don't even realize that you just missed and that next sentence might be a whole So I want you to listen to it again. I Use his money to sweep me in But not sexually attracted to him I'm a divorcee. So I'm very cautious of intense men Ended things but still pursuing If you ended it, you got to end it all the way It cannot be Ended but he's still pursuing when you end it. He got to know it's ended So that means you got to be radio silent. He can't get a text back. He can't get a phone call back He can't get a i'm doing good. He can't hear nothing You got to move on because if you play with it, he's gonna be knocking on your door And he's gonna be reminding you about all the money he doesn't spend And and and the longer you drag a man out The more serious it get Because right now with this situation when two There's an uptick of that. I read it on trending on twitter that this hill In the house That's on the rise right now Because of this hill situation and people trying to get along and can't get along. So understand that now Now hold on now y'all hold on now y'all hold on now y'all getting y'all getting a little happy with them with them cues now God says I thank too much. I believe I'm just attentive instead of getting mad I look for understanding in the behavior is it unhealthy to try to help someone with issues. They don't acknowledge Yes, unhealthy See hollywood got a rule that they don't accept unsolicited material So if you send them your movie script out at a university studio, they're not even gonna open it They're gonna put a stamp on it and put it in the mail. It's gonna come right back to your house So that's the same way people are a lot of people don't want unsolicited material So unless he come to you and say, hey, you know, I what do you think about this? And he don't want to hear what you got to think about he don't want to hear your thoughts He not interested in your thoughts. And so you got to ask yourself Do I want to be with somebody that has these issues but don't want to address their issues? Do I want to be with somebody who is not trying to heal not trying to learn not trying to grow? Because then it's on you, you know, you can't help somebody who who don't want help Or your sessions only 11 a.m. And 2 p.m. You in a different time zone. So it's 11 a.m. And 2 p.m. Your time So yes, that is I only I only do two sessions a day because I You know, I don't have time to be on the phone like that So what so 11 a.m. You that's you Right now if you should be home working from home. So 11 to be perfect for you Now if it's booked out in the April that mean you take your lunch at 11 Take your lunch at 11 a.m. Go sit in the car Run your car the island ain't gonna hurt you too bad. A lot of people don't feel like they're wasting gas You're gonna waste that much gas sit in the car run the car as long as you ain't sitting in the garage And how are you session there? So yeah 11 11 and 2 if you need other times, that's considered a vip session And the price is double. So that's typically What certain individuals who just they they need Some different you write in to support at tony gaskins.com and we'll accommodate you but that price Amanda god bless you. Amanda again About the spiritual gifts from yesterday Thanks for the wisdom. I'm writing a few small ebooks right now How would you suggest I turn it into profit amazon? While helping others Um in the beginning don't think about the profit Write an e-book that you can sew Write an e-book that you could put on like that you could put on amazon put on kendo And make it free To get your name out there. It might be 10 prayers 10 devotions. It might be 10 affirmations Let your first one be free. Just so don't think about profit profit gonna come Always lead with purpose That's that's how that's how I did so You just like me every day this right here video is free But it don't actually turn in it don't actually Turn in the free when somebody sent me a blessing when somebody sent me a blessing That's they blessing me Because their heart says I want to be a blessing They don't have to do it. I ain't got no charge on it. You could be on there for free. So when you give Of it's gonna come back to you. So don't worry about the money. Just get your name out there You know get your name out there and you show up and you give for free instead of just writing instead of just an e-book Write poetry, you know write up affirmation and post the affirmation every morning at 7 30 a.m That's how a lot of us blow it up online. We just post a quote or a poem every morning online Joy Tony, how many sessions do I need with you to help with my coaching session? Two You probably need two at the most to learn how to run a session is that's what you're saying Two at the most does a man get turned off by a woman if she contacts him all the time and does He see her as a wrestler. Um Yes If he liked you it's flattering You know, if you his His supermodel if you his fantasy is flattering If that's not the case it is unattractive. It's unattractive. It's too Aggressive, but then you also have to ask yourself. Why do I have to contact him so much because if a man like you He's gonna be contact. He's gonna beat you to it. He's gonna let you Contact him first. He's gonna beat you to it So if he ain't being you too, he'll want you he'll want you go on about your business How can I help my mom get a better job and find her passion? I give 300 every payday to help out and I want to take care of her, but I have my own goals and dreams I'm trying to see if that's a sister or a brother because sound like what a man will do for his mama, but If you're a woman god bless you um You ain't gonna be able to get off of that. That's just like welfare That's just like welfare. Just like fools down You go you go try to get somebody out of their welfare. They'll punch in your eye You'll be walking away with a swole eye. You saw him out getting off their welfare You could say I got a job for you Four hours a week paying you this amount of money and they just so hooked on that they like no I was watching the show and a man put homeless people in the house and he said look y'all go get a job and They said if we get a job They're gonna cut our check by 75 dollars They never processed that if you go get a job You're gonna be making hundreds of dollars so Once you give your family something It's a wrap the bible say honor thy mother and father Just see it as honor your mother. Just see it as honor your mother. You could speak into her life Right now. I'm starting my dad a business. You know he he's starting to um Like a consulting business doing credit repair Life coaching, you know, I'm starting him a business. So I just paid $3,000 for him to get trained in the credit repair by later One of my clients who has a credit repair business and then he about to take the test So that's what I'm doing my sister. I help her start a group home business I put the money up. I made the connection for her. She got a group home So that's what you could try to do is Try to Find her gifts. You got to look it up. Now see my mama I just I just got to give her money because she Once she got a Check and she see once a mama see they child could take care of them Just like a wife so many wives want to be taken care of that's just in a lot of women A lot of women not for those that's not like that. You might not understand that but y'all know It's it's some women who they want to kick them feet up. So a mama a lot of time they telling themselves I carried you nine months. I raised you. I put clothes on your back. I put food on your table. I deserve to be taken care and It just is what it is Hey, I'm gonna go 10 minutes over now because I had to talk I had to go a couple of rounds till god bless you Why within a couple of months of dating what a god feel the need to tell you about his past In date in detail without me presenting that energy I blocked and deleted very turned all you did right till you did right He's just nasty and just immature and want to see if you're gonna put up with it Um Pataw Or pedal forgive me if i'm saying it wrong. God bless you. Thank you for that blessing Number one fan. He's 46 Been in prison 6 16 Says he's a different person Communicating three years No current red flags possible to give this a chance now 20 say 30 say 40 30 Yeah, he's a different person all right he is a different person because I don't even know we had a cell phone when he went in there Definitely had no social media the question is is do we got a release date? If he ain't got a release date, absolutely not if he do have a release date, then you probably gonna be You have to deal with a lot because when he get out here and see all he hear Swanging from dr. Miami he finna be When he see what dr. Miami and dr. New Jersey been out here doing He finna be Right here with his tongue out of his mouth. So listen to me. I don't see any women. I know go through that I don't recommend it in 30 years in there Ain't no telling what he been in there doing system Because there ain't no telling what he been in the other one system Listen to what i'm telling you you might want to find you a man in the free world Because I feel like you don't waste three years of your life That's a pen pal. Now what you can do is start a foundation called Write a bar Which is where you write men behind bars and you get a bunch of women who want to write men behind bars And y'all could just help them stay Sane and loveheaded in there Because right now the 19 breaking out in there and so they write beside each other So the 19 just going from cell to cell and so You might have something there, but other than that I would not recommend that shaneath God bless you. God bless shaneath. Lord pour out in her life I love being a part of the blessed tribe really really helping me my healing process sending them blessing. Hey, thank you Thank you. Um For you sending for for the person that sent the cash out as well. God bless you Yeah That 30 years I y'all got to let that go If a guy says he's going to call you back within an hour or so and he does call And he doesn't call you until later Should I bring it up? Absolutely If a man don't keep his word I remember my college football coach you just say to to To be early Is to be on time To be on time is to be late To be late is to be forgotten So if a man say I'm gonna call you at nine, but then he calls you at 10. Don't even answer the phone Don't even answer the phone. Yes You you get in touch with him tomorrow. Hey, miss your call. I was in bed Um, you said you was gonna call at nine. What happened and you got to check him on it just like that Here here's excuse. Oh, I fell asleep Okay, um All right And then you see if that's strike one now you see if he now if you always fall in asleep if he always fall in the sleep Listen, brother Now you got epilepsy or narcolepsy or whatever it's called. So If you ain't got no medication for this this relationship, I'm gonna have to end because I'm not going to be In the passenger seat with a man who just randomly fall asleep So you got to check him on and make sure that story check out because It ain't on it ain't on it's not gonna work And that's how my wife checked me and I learned my lesson be on time be a man of my word Keisha god bless you I have been separated for five years But I don't feel that I will be able to really love again. Is this normal and will I ever Get my love back. Well, see this is the thing it is normal for people that not working on a with a coach or Read the books or going to seminars or Watching all the videos. It is normal. Hey, y'all got about seven more minutes now. You got about seven more minutes So you got to do intense work So for some people that they may do a session a week for some it may be one or two a month For some it may just be reading books because it's cheaper. So It is normal to feel that way. But what happens is you need words or affirmation In a two-year long distance relationship, he is changing He is changing the fate coming to see me because of the Should I end it? He is changing the fate coming to see me because of the Changing the date. Maybe you meant maybe you meant Two years Maybe you meant changing the date to come see you because of what's going on right now Um Wait till he comes see you, you know, wait till he comes see you He you know, you don't gave it two years Wait till he comes see you. Maybe he didn't have the money. Maybe he was too tired up at work Now he's changing the date You know set a timeline and say, okay, I'm gonna give this three more months If the 19 keep going you might have to stretch it four to six months Now he might come over here with that so you got to be careful about that But you know gave two years technically. Yes, it should be over But it's like that's a personal choice if you got the time to give now If you got somebody knocking on your door who looking like husband material then Go on let him go about his business. My ex wants to get back together. He proposed To strictly only sit down And talk tomorrow morning Genuine nine for one y'all need to talk on FaceTime because of this hill what's going on because You know, he might have at 19 and want to come coughing your face. So for one, I would talk to him on FaceTime so And then two when you and FaceTime that mean you can hang up if you need to hang up and then then It's worth a conversation, but You got to realize It don't work out all the time. So you got to be willing to walk away going about your business Nikki God bless you. God bless you. Just wanted to bless you Not sure if you really know how much your work is a blessing I'm working through some stuff now and being able to listen to your viz and podcasts all day gives me strength Hey, God bless you. God bless you. I really don't know You know how much more work means but I know that I gotta do it So I appreciate y'all for appreciating Question, please. I met a guy in November. We went out one time and no more I asked him if he enjoyed the company. He said he hated every minute Then eight minutes later said, I'm just playing Is that true? Um, it's true that he hated every minute And it's not true that he just playing But the reason why he said that Is because you reached out on the limb to ask him if he enjoyed the time And so that means that you thirsty and you desperate to him So he told you he hated every minute of it because he want to put you in a weak position He want to step on your throat. And so what I mean by that is Since you coming by asking that he enjoyed the time He's saying oh if you want to be a do-girl if you want to be a put-down woman Then let me go ahead and You know take this chance And if you want to be in that role, I'll let you play that role But yeah, he he terrible you shouldn't even ask him that but so now you know don't ask him nothing else because of the 19 just started talking to someone and of course we cannot meet up Is it wrong to ask a man to video chat you or should you wait for him to offer to do it? Let him offer to do it Let him offer to do it because if you go to ask him that and you don't know him like that This ain't already your man. This ain't your ex Then You're doing the most your little thirst. Hey y'all got about two more minutes on here now So I got to get ready to go. So I don't know if I'd be able to get any more questions. Stephanie You blessed me last night. Stephanie. God bless you. I saw it today I shout a jot at the beginning of the video. I don't know if you was on yet But step and I really appreciate you Hello nephew Tony. Thank you for all the wisdom and truths. I am divorced with husband for 24 years. I'm 55 I don't know if you mean you married 24 years or you were divorced for 24 years I'm 55 men that I knew from college want to date me Not on my back till marriage again. Thank you well Man, you knew from college. They probably didn't grow up. They probably didn't learn some things They probably totally different man As long as you ain't you ain't on your back then It don't hurt. It don't hurt. No I know y'all don't hurt me told other people Don't worry about a man if he knew you in your past and didn't try to shoot his shot But if you was taken back then that's different But then this is different measures once you cross 50 Once you cross 50 you have a little bit more grace to do a little bit more just because you've been here longer and and time is Not all the way where you want it to be whereas when you 30 you don't have to take that kind of Chance because you still you may not have learned everything But at 55 you don't seem enough heard enough. You got a little more wisdom You can take a little chance like trying to date out in your 50s because just for the knowledge because you know how to read through it Hey, I got to get going now y'all. I got to get going Put me some on the grill. Why do men ask? Why are you single? I ask why they ask and they say because I look good It seems like they are trying to figure out what is wrong with me. What is the best answer to this question? The best answer is to tell a man because I haven't met a man worth my time That's the best answer because men always want to work up to something men want to know that It's because of your standards and your quality Versus you not being wanted. Also, you cannot Believe when a man tell you you look good because men just gonna say whatever so it may be true may not be true So you can't believe that But I would just tell them it's because of your standards Hey, God bless y'all. I really appreciate you. I got to go. I'm feeling gonna get on the hill good grill And I bought one of my air fries the other day now Made me some fried wings the other night. So I'm putting on me a little weight on this hill Sit down situation. So y'all pray for me because I'm going to add me a few pounds while we sitting still So if I start to look a little different Just pray keep me in your prayers. God bless you. It's it's healthy and it's love from the lord The lord Put healthy meat on you Uh, mahogany now you don't caught me when I'm leaving now Now don't put y'all don't send no more Donation don't send no more donation no more coach. Uh any of that mahogany god bless you My ex was a player Now he's mad My ex was a player now. He's mad That i'm stuck mahogany, thank you for that donation because I really don't understand what the question is So I feel you just were trying to bless me but uh God bless you. I Me and get mad a lady asked me earlier She said why does a man do something leave you and then get mad and to be honest Which is when a man lose his punching bag when a man lose his human teddy bear when a man lose the woman who can That he dump all his issues on he get mad at you for that And ain't got nothing to do with you Hey, god bless y'all and uh lord will and i'll put a video up tomorrow. I might be taking sundays off sometime, but You know Jesus worked on sunday, so I might work on sunday, but I see God bless you