 The discard phase of a narcissistic relationship. This can be a very painful experience. Even a normal breakup can be a very difficult thing to go through. But to go through a discard with a narcissist, it's a hundred times worse. Because up until that point, you're devalued. You're given the silent treatment. You're made to feel insignificant. You're made to feel worthless as though you never meant anything to them. As though nothing you did was good enough. And you tried your best to please them. You did everything in your power to make them happy. But it's like no matter what you did, it was never good enough. They always wanted more. There was always something wrong with it. And many of you may have given up. You may have stopped trying. Some of you may have tried right until the very end, despite all of the invalidation. But regardless of that, it still ends in the same way. When they're ready to abandon the false character that they created to charm you with and to keep you under their spell, then you go with it. They abandon you too. They no longer have a use for you. And they're ready to take on a new character with someone else. Someone who's fresh and new. Someone who has a fresh supply of energy and resources to provide to them. Because that's what it's all about. It was never about you as a person. They never valued you. They never cared about your qualities and virtues. They never even took the time to get to know you as a person. And you may have been with them for years. But it's like you can't even remember one time where you sat down together and had a normal conversation. And that should tell you that something was very wrong. It's like every time you try and talk to them, you try and find common grounds. You try and have just a deep discussion about something. It always ends up in an argument. It always ends up in them having to be opposed to something you've said or done. You just can't have a normal conversation with them. And deep down they know that something is wrong with them because of that. Because of course they look around and they see other people's relationships, families. They see that they can meet each other half way. They can find common grounds. They can reach an agreement. Or at the very least they can agree to disagree. But how come they can never do that with you? And that's how deep down they know that something is wrong. But unfortunately many of us who get discarded by a narcissist, we tend to blame ourselves. Because they don't take accountability. They don't admit their flaws, their mistakes. They don't admit that so we're left to take the blame. We're left to blame ourselves. And of course when we do that they jump in the bandwagon. Or they act like something is wrong with us and then they disappear. They leave us to figure it out on our own. They leave us without any closure. And that's what makes it even worse. After everything we've been through, after everything that they did to us, we're left without an explanation. We're left without any answers. They can leave you very confused. At least until maybe you find my videos. Or maybe someone else's videos on YouTube or some other platform. Someone comes to you. Someone who has experienced this before. And they bring you the answers that you were looking for. They bring you the truth. Because they know what it's like to go through that. To be discarded. To be left without any support. Any understanding of what just happened to you. And that is why I do what I do. To bring you those answers. To give you an explanation. So yeah, I mean if you have recently been discarded by a narcissist, the one thing you need right now is support. You need someone that you can talk to. Someone that you can trust. And I am available for one-on-one coaching. Which you can book from my website. Just Narcseviver.co.uk. I'd like to be there for you. I'd like to support you. If you have recently been through a discard with a narcissist. And there's also better help. Which is a service that I trust. You can book a session with a licensed therapist there. Just go to betterhelp.com slash Narcseviver. And you can get a discount there as well. For financial aid if you need it. So yeah, there are services available to you. No one needs to suffer in silence anymore. Many of us have already gone through that. And I'd hope that we've gone through that so many other people don't have to. I mean if that's the one thing that comes out of all of the things that I had to go through with narcissists, then I'm glad that it was worth it for me to go through that. It means that I can help millions of people. That's fine with me. And if you'd like to give something back to this community, you can do that by just hitting the thumbs up button down below. 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