 and I think one of the biggest mistakes we make as communicators as public speakers is we try to keep everybody happy, we wear multiple masks depending who we're with, who's in the room and you're not being you because you're afraid that being you will make you unpopular and it will with some people and that's okay and enough people will love you that give you plenty of people to speak to that give you a large enough audience and followership or customers or clients whatever you're into and don't try to water it down to fit in with someone else I've made that mistake a lot in my life