 13 SIGNS OF A HIGH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENT PERSON Oxford English Dictionary defines emotional intelligence as the capacity to be aware of, control and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. Daniel Goleman, an author and science journalist, said, What matters for success, character, happiness and long-life achievement is a definite set of emotional skills. Your EQ Not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests. Emotionally intelligent people have control over their emotions. Hence, they do not react to things or situations without properly thinking about how their reaction will affect the situation. Jay Friedman said and I quote, Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding and choosing how we think, feel and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn. It allows us to set priorities. It determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the success in our lives. In this video, we'll be sharing with you 13 signs of a high emotional intelligent person. If you're new here, consider subscribing so you won't miss other interesting videos like this. 1. They control their emotions Kevin J. Donaldson, an author and the business coach, said, Remember, no one has the right to control your emotions, thoughts and actions unless you let them. Also, Carlos Wallace, an author and motivational speaker, said that you own your feelings, you own your thoughts, you control both. No one has the right to any of it, to any of you, without your permission. Emotionally intelligent people have control over their emotions. They do not allow situations or people to determine their responses to certain situations. They don't react spontaneously because they are aware of the damages it might cause, especially when they are angry or upset. They also take time to reflect and recognize the impact of their emotions on both themselves and others. 2. They are aware of their strengths and weaknesses Emotionally intelligent people are self-aware. They know their strengths and weaknesses. Hence, they focus on using their strengths more often while not losing sight of their weaknesses so that they can take control of it whenever the slightest opportunity for it to be displayed is introduced. 3. They show empathy Alfred Alder, an Austrian-born medical doctor and psychotherapist, defines empathy as seeing the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another. Emotionally intelligent people are empathetic, putting themselves in other people's positions without being judgmental. Brainy Brown, a research professor, said an I quote, Empathy is simply listening, holding space without judgment, emotionally connecting and communicating that incredibly healing message of you are not alone. Empathy does not necessarily mean agreeing and accepting a person's point of view. It simply means striving to understand, allowing you to build deeper, more connected relationships. 4. They are eloquent speakers Emotionally intelligent people know how to express their mind eloquently. They try to appeal to other people's emotions, so even if you don't like them for speaking their mind confidently, it doesn't matter. They believe you will come around. The most important thing is that they won't pretend that everything is perfectly okay when they are feeling otherwise. 5. They practice honesty. They say what they mean. They don't speak a half-truth or try to camouflage things. They are honest in their approach to life and their dealings with people. 6. They apologize Not everyone likes to apologize, even though we all like the sound of an apology. Emotionally intelligent people, on the other hand, apologize easily whenever necessary. A quality that draws that attracts others to them. Also this quality of emotionally intelligent people show that apologizing doesn't always mean that you're wrong, but that you value the relationship much more than your ego. 7. They keep their commitments For some reason, all the other, some people break their promises or agreements with others. I mean, it could be something as little as bailing out on a friend on movie night. However, big or small, learning to keep your commitments to people, even your kids as well, is a sign of trustworthiness and reliability, an attribute peculiar to emotionally intelligent people. 8. They help others Because they are empathetic, emotionally intelligent people understand what it is to need help in a position. Hence, they are always willing to stretch out their help in hands to people who may need it. 9. They give helpful feedback Have you ever asked for feedback from a person and ended up wishing you didn't do that in the first place? Meanwhile, with some other person, you were happy you asked. Here's the thing. Negative feedback has great potential for hurting people. People with high emotional intelligence understand this. Hence, they reframe criticism to be constructive feedback in order not to harm the receiving party. 10. They protect themselves from emotional sabotage People with high emotional intelligence realize there is a downside of emotional intelligence, like when people try to manipulate or deceive others to achieve their selfish goals or ambitions. Hence, they continually sharpen their EQ to protect themselves from such manipulators. 11. They affirm in their desire to achieve They are sure of what they want and because of that, they give themselves tirelessly to that cause. Even when setbacks and obstacles arise, they know that it is only temporal. Hence, they don't get clouded by their emotions nor react based on their emotions. They stick to their decision and goals regardless. 12. They can read people well Peter Drucker, an Austrian-born American management consultant and author, said the most important thing is communication is hearing what is unsaid. Highly emotionally intelligent people know that communication goes beyond spoken language, so they ensure that they read a person's gestures, expressions and body language when communicating with them. 13. They are willing to say no when they have to Emotionally intelligent people set priorities for themselves They have limits and boundaries So, no matter how tempting an offer might be, if they have to say no to it, they will not hesitate to do that. Again, they can't be easily manipulated or deceived Thank you very much for watching our videos. We'll like to give you another interesting video for you to enjoy next, but before then, our team will be very happy if you can like this video and share it with your friends on social media. 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