 Hi guys, welcome back to my channel. Today's video is going to be another adoption video where I answer the question Why did my real parents or biological parents abandon me? It sounds colder than it is if you look at it in a different way I mean some people might think that this is a blessing in disguise others might think it is so Terrible and sad. It's really the perspective that you look at it So I'm not gonna say someone's viewpoint is right or wrong because it is not my business But in this video, I'm just going to share my experience and what I feel like and it's totally okay If you don't agree if you are adopted as well or if you're a parent watching this video Before we get into it if you are not already subscribed It would mean the absolute world to me if you would subscribe to my channel and turn the little bell Notification on so you know every time I post a video Also question of the day if you could go anywhere in the world where would it be and why I would love to know So starting off the reason why I was abandoned. This is what I believe I have not talked to my birth parents or the people that birthed me or my real parents or whatever You want to call them? I have not talked to them on the phone been like hey Why did you leave me and let other people find me and take me to an orphanage? So I believe and this is what my parents also believe and this is how they explained it to me Is that there was a one child policy? So I was born in 1996 my mom came it to get me when I was one in 1997 it was a pretty long time ago So there were differences in the Chinese government at the time and there was an overpopulation Issue from what I understand there was a one-child policy meaning a Family could only have one child there could not be two children in the home three children And maybe if you were like royalty, maybe you could probably have more than one kid I have no idea but probably my birth parents came from a place where they weren't very well off So basically the one-child policy was a thing for quite a while And this is a reason why parents or mothers per se would go and Abandon their daughters now in Chinese culture. There's a heavy praise upon men I think they are believed to be the ones to take care of the parents when they get older and That is why boys are looked upon better than girls from what I know now It's funny because they are on a shortage of girls Which I find very interesting and I guess that's kind of one of those things where you made choices And then there's going to be consequences in the future Whether they're good or bad that leads me to believe that I have a sibling probably a brother or maybe another sister That is biologically related to me. That's really interesting and kind of cool to know I'm just guessing again, but personally if we're being honest, I love being an only child most people would look at this situation and say it's really sad and Don't you want to meet or know your siblings your biological siblings? And I mean honestly, I would say no, I don't really care and that's just my personal feeling I know that there's a lot of Adoptes in this community that really feel like they're missing something which is totally fine again Like I do not care. Everyone has their own Beliefs everyone has their own Experiences and their feelings and that is completely fine if I had the opportunity to what I say. Yes Yeah, I think that'd be pretty dope But other than that I'm I like my life the way it is and I don't really see that I or feel that I'm missing something from that some people might think it's super sad that I was abandoned but I See it as a blessing in disguise because I know that if I was in China I probably would not lead the luxurious lifestyle I do and I don't even live a luxurious like I know I have a lot of Blessings to be thankful for but it's not on any level. That's crazy crazy But I have a lot more that I would have if I were in China and I just I'm really grateful for that to be honest I mean just knowing me and my character and stuff I just think that this was where I needed to be in life moving on to where I was abandoned I was abandoned on a busy street in China somewhere. I think it was around Fujian province Shaman Probably that area. I have no idea really But it was a busy road and my mom got to see the place where I was abandoned I don't know. I think she says it's really emotional. Maybe I'll have to ask her and I'll leave her response in the comments But she got to see where I was left and I thought that was really interesting We were all left in different areas In parts of the city, I know some people were left at a city hall One was I think left at like a police station or a fire station I don't know somewhere where they could be found by someone of Importance like a firefighter or a police officer so they could take the child to where they needed to go Which I thought it was pretty responsible and what I've also heard Was that after Baby was left somewhere take me for example. I was left on a busy road They would set me out whoever it was like either of the birth parents or someone they probably hired Because they don't want to get in trouble with the Chinese government They would take leave the child and then they would go and hide out to make sure that someone found The baby so they wouldn't just be like totally like left there on their own That's just what I've heard. I don't know if that's exactly the truth But it kind of does make sense if you think about it if I wanted to make sure someone was taking care of I would wait until they were like picked up by someone. Yeah So that is where I was left and kind of the background behind that There's tons of reasons why Parents biological parents give up their children and I'm sure there was a multitude of facts that played into why my Biological parents gave me away gave me away. That sounds so sad But they gave me a better opportunity That's a better way to look at it because again, I wouldn't live the life I have if it wasn't for that Decision but there was probably a lot of reasons Why they chose the route that they chose as well as domestic adoptions and other international Adoptions remember if you're an adoptee there is a reason why your birth parents Chose that route and there's nothing to feel bad about. It's not your fault It's just how life is and I am a big believer in everything happens for a reason You are put in the place that you're put for a reason And you're supposed to be here and you're supposed to be in the situation You're in to teach you something to learn to reflect and all of that jazz So I think I've rambled long enough if you guys have any other questions leave them in the comments down below I would love to know don't forget to give this video a thumbs up Subscribe and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye