 Yesterday I got this delivery of sand and rocks and the guy who brings the stuff often takes his kids with them in the boat and he showed up with four of his kids and a boat full of you know rocks and sand. So I and the dad and two of the kids were unloading all these rocks. It takes a while like 200 buckets worth of stuff. Two of the other kids were at the end of my dock throwing rocks into the water. Rocks that they just brought here that I just paid for. I saw this and I'm like hey guys what are you doing? Those are rocks I just paid for. Don't throw them in the water. So I throw another one. I was like whoa seriously. This is all in my bad Spanish but I'm doing my best. So they're like okay okay this will stop. And then one of them goes to sneak off where he thinks I can't see him. Bloop another rock in the water. And I'm like hey so by the fourth time this happens I'm like keeping an eye on their dad waiting for him to chime in and he's just like this. I don't want anything to do with the situation. So I'm like all right I'm not gonna I don't normally like to use dad voice on other people's kids but I'm not letting these these two brats or whatever throw away all our hard work even if it's not that much it doesn't matter. So I give him the lecture in in dad voice full-on dad voice. You know basically I said hey you know your dad did all this work to go get these rocks to bring him here and then I've paid for them and I'm working on this your brother's working on this your other brother's working on this and your dad's all we're all working here and the two of you are just causing problems. Stop causing problems why don't you just come and help why don't you help there's all this stuff to do come do find something to do to help and we still had we're only like halfway done the boat unloading the boat at that point but for the rest of the the time we were unloading which was like another 20-30 minutes they helped and I was like whoa all these kids needed was someone to say hey quit screwing around and be helpful and I and I was kind of looking at their dad being like why why aren't you why aren't you dadding them why aren't you being the dad now I don't know what his situation is I mean I know I know the guy but I don't know everything about him and he comes from a different culture than me so I don't know all the stuff but I can comment on it based on the culture where I came from where dads today are constantly being told to not be dads it is ridiculous because like you know when my kids are doing stuff I'm constantly giving them feedback like I'll say hey don't do that that's no good hey don't do that that's dangerous oh yeah that's a great thing to do nice work for you know hey you're being a jerk right now and people will come up to me and be like this doesn't happen often because I live way out here but like when I'm around other people will be like who are you being so mean to your kids why you why you say it all that stuff you you called your kid a jerk and I was like no no I'm not calling my kid a jerk I'm saying they're being a jerk by doing this thing and I'm giving them the feedback so they know how to not be a jerk so they don't go into the world as jerks having no clue that they're being little spoiled pieces of crap this is what this is what a dad is supposed to do anyway so dads are constantly getting this don't be a dad you're being too mean patriarchy patriarchy crap like I gotta give another example here a little while ago I said something about when my daughters are old enough to start dating anyone who wants to date them is gonna have to go through me first I got this this barrage of messages about you can't control your children like that they have free will they can do what they want if I want to date your daughter I can it's like whoa really no you know what you know what all right so many women today I'm gonna make this horrible generalize generalization about women sorry but so many women today are only interested in jerks and players come up to them and just play these women and guys will see this and be like dude how are you not aware that this guy is playing you what is going on this is not a good guy and women have no clue because her dad didn't tell them so when my kids are old enough to start dating I'm gonna I'm gonna help them figure out what kind of guy is a good guy what kind of guy is a bad guy because guys know that we can look at that we if we go to a bar we can say okay this guy is just playing this girl he's just gonna treat her like crap and oh here's an actual nice guy that this lady is ignoring she shouldn't be ignoring him like guys know this stuff but but women I guess because men and women are different or whatever and their dads didn't teach him so many women don't know that nice guys don't finish last they are the ones you want anyway I could go on and on about all the examples of things that dads need to teach their kids and don't because of all this societal pressure to not be an overbearing dad and all these dads are so afraid of being the overbearing dad and being being labeled as jerks and just part of the patriarchy which is bad and all this stuff that so many dads are so afraid of insulting someone they end up doing nothing well you know what doing nothing is not better than making a mistake so usually when I make these kind of videos I'm making the more for myself than anyone else but in this case I'm actually doing it right I've got a pretty good handle on this and I'm seeing a lot of dads not doing it so this is for you guys you know what if you're a dad don't be too afraid of making a mistake you're gonna make a million mistakes and when people come up to you and say oh yo you made a mistake and you're bad dad you know what tell him shut up because Jamie said trying is better than not doing anything because if you try you have a chance of getting it right and we need more dads to take care of their kids and teach them and give them give them the advice they need in the future you know what I didn't have when I was growing up I never learned and this is the exact opposite thing I was just talking about but the same thing I never learned what kind of woman to look for so I dated when I was younger just just the wrong kind of women because I didn't know what I was looking for because my dad never taught me now I have a much better idea and that information would have been great like 25 30 years ago so there are just so many examples of things dads need to teach their kids moms to you're not up to hook moms need to do a better job to parents in general but I'm talking just specifically about dads right now because I am a dad and I had this dad experience yesterday with a dad he wasn't being a dad so yeah the point of everything I'm saying right now is come on guys be dads take care of your kids look after them and you know what if you if some guy that you know is trouble is dating your daughter get rid of that guy your daddy's your daughter should be able to trust you more than that guy and if they can't it's because you haven't been you haven't been interacting with them enough you know what the other day we were watching a movie I was watching a movie with my kids sorry this is going all over the place I didn't really plan what I was gonna say or anything but the other day I was watching a movie with with my daughters and my son but he wasn't paying attention but in the movie it doesn't matter what was happened basically this guy or this lady chose to listen to a boyfriend over her own dad and my daughter is like why would she listen to some guy instead of her dad like it didn't make any sense to her and that's because I interact with her all the time I always tell her the truth I give her good feedback she gets to see how that feedback plays out in life and trusts me she trusts my judgment because I'm there for her and I'm giving her the feedback whether it's positive or negative I'm just giving it to her straight for real and she trusts me because of that so dad I know it's disheartening to hear all this all this negativity about the patriarchy and how you're being a bad dad if you're being too overbearing stuff don't be too afraid of being a dad you know what you're gonna make mistakes don't worry about it just just do your best and when someone gives you crap about it just say hey I'm doing my best here all right I gotta mention one other thing if I'm gonna say all that ladies if you are married to a guy and you want him to be a good dad do not hold divorce over his head do not make that a threat because every guy knows that in the current legal climate four words can destroy his life I want a divorce if you're holding that over his head you're tying his hands behind your back you gotta give him the freedom to be a dad if you want to have a good husband and a good dad