 Parents are married. They have been for the last 20 years. My grandparents on my dad's side are married. My parents on my mom's side, they're not. But I feel like what made me angry that I'm working through is my example of men. Because when I hear my mom talk about my grandfather, who I didn't get to experience, it's not what I see in my dad. So I was angry with him for a little while. And then I got over that. Well, I'm working through that and I got over it. But when I listen to your show, and even tonight, I hear what you're saying in regards to, you know, women should focus on like their fitness and being feminine and cooperative and all of those things. But it still seems like we're still at a disposition. Like I still have to work against that narrative. Okay, ma'am, you threw a lot at me at one time. You braved with your grandparents, your mother and father. Everybody. I wanted to give you a background. How old are you? 26. All right. Did you have braids? Say that one more time? Okay. 26. I'm trying to remember. Okay, you got to work. You got to work at what is frustrating that you have to work against what? I feel like I have to work against the narrative that is set for black women that we are just angry and loud and upset and pretty much everything that you're you kind of talk about in your show. All right. All right. So the narrative, is it a narrative or does it play itself? Why? Okay. Well, there's part of narrative, but then you have to ask yourself your live reality. Or I took that little straw poll. Are black women happy or the majority of black women happy or angry today? I would say the majority are unhappy. Why? Why would you say that? Black are better whereas the circumstances that we put ourselves in. Right. Okay. But okay, so it's not a narrative if it's the majority is true, man. I understand that. I understand that, but my confusion is or not even confusion where the disconnect for me is someone like myself where I am working to improve different areas that I see our weaknesses that are my own and that I've learned through the behavior of the women in my life and watching their marriage. Okay. But that's what I mean by I feel like. Okay. So where's your boyfriend or husband? I actually just spoke up with them, my boyfriend. How long, how long were you guys together? We were together for about five months, five and a half. Okay. All right. Who broke it off? I did. Why? I wasn't happy. So let me just go ahead and let me go ahead and just level saying you said you're 26. Yes. Let me just go ahead and level set you man. I have to work three times as hard to get a half the credit and guess what? That's just my lot in life. There's always going to be prejudice and discrimination and unfair treatment to any human being. There's a difference is you either going to work to overcome it or you're going to let it overcome you. That's it. And it won't be the latter. Well, then, but the thing is, if you say it's un, you see the thing is the being, you shouldn't be angry about the treatment. It's not fair and it was so angry. Well, if it, what are you going to do about it though? Because here's another thing. Black women are under who's burden? Who's burden are you under? Because it can't be black men. No, it feels like what I see. And what I see is like my parents' relationship for my mom or my grandparent. No, no, no, no, no. Okay. Your proms relationship and your grandparents relationship or their relationship. You're a grown woman. It's time for your own experiences. I agree. I agree. I do. So when you tell me that you were mad at your father because he's not your grandfather, the first thing I'm saying is the nerve of you. The first thing I'm saying is the nerve of you. Should your father have been unhappy with you because you ain't your sister? You see, you have no problem. Women, black women in general have never had a problem judging black men, even the one that you should not judge. He's your father. I don't feel like I'm taking the, the approach of being like judgment to like you're wrong. I'm not saying that, but I am observing what I grew up around my environment. And I'm not saying that I'm not taking any. Okay, but hold on. Will your mother and father marry? Yeah, they're married. They're still married to the state. Right. And did you graduate in high school? I'm sorry. Did you graduate from high school? Yes. Did you go to college? I did. Did you graduate from college? I did. So your father raised the college graduate? He did. What the French toast are you talking about? That's better than most of the country. Sounds like you're, and he's still married to your mother. Sounds like he did a hell of a job to me. That's why I also said I'm not taking anything from him. I'm not. But you said you were mad at him. No, no, no, you said you were mad. You know, earlier you said that there was a time when you were upset and mad and angry. And then the nerve of you to look a gift towards in the mouth. You got what eight out of 10 black people don't have a father in the household. But as usual, black men still ain't good enough. So you make an issue where ain't no goddamn issue. Judging your father because he wasn't your grandfather. When you got more than what most kids in the neighborhood had a dad, a dad that was apparently good enough to stay married to your mama raised a high school in the college graduate. Wow. And black men hear this shit. Black men hear this and they're like, well, what the fuck else are we supposed to do? Being married to a black woman and raising those and providing a lifestyle to where you graduated from high school and college and didn't end up on drugs or on the street in the penitentiary, whole house, babies all over the world. What the fuck else is the black man supposed to do? A white man could just go to work in the plant. And that's good enough. A black man got to go build a goddamn plant. His kids still ain't happy. I'm not laughing. I am not fucking laughing. I am because I'm not angry in that way. But I am. Black men are because I listened to what you said. You were angry with your father for what reason? Because he wasn't another man. You don't know your grandfather. You weren't raised there. So all you had was stories that your mama told you. So you take the stories that your mama told you versus what your daddy was doing and got the nerve to get mad at your dad. Well, how did he feel because he couldn't be the man you thought your grandfather was? Did you ever ask him how he felt about that? We did. Yeah, we have had quite a few conversations. And how did he feel that he's dead? Of course. But it wasn't just because of the comparison to my grandfather and the comparisons came from what I felt like my mom did receive that I was fighting for my dad, which was his attention. I felt like he was able to be more present with my brothers at the time than he was with me growing up, which was a part of our conversation that you're asking about. And from his standpoint, he gave you. And how did your mother balance out these things? My mom gave me a lot of the things that I feel like I'm working through now. I'm not trying to put it all on my dad. That's why I said the women, because I noticed how she also treated and behaved with my dad. But what you did not mention is that you were upset and angry with your mother. We just didn't get to that part. You didn't leave with it? I had to pull it from here. No, I wasn't. I wasn't trying to withhold it. All right. And here's another thing. All right, granted. But here's the thing. First world problems. You sound really entitled, man. You had a mother and father who was still married. Apparently, they provided for all your needs. And you're worried about your wants. I didn't get what my brother's got. Oh my God. I don't think that that's wrong for a little girl to want that love from her dad though. No, no, it's not wrong to want love. But this is why I say first world problems. There's this disney vacation to where the man did the best he freaking could. And it still wasn't good enough because the youthful year, the years his daughter should have been praising and loving her father. You were angry with him because he didn't give you what you felt you deserved or should have got or what your mama got. Oh my God. When you have children. I'm sorry. I didn't hear the question you asked. I hope when you have children, you don't have to experience that level of hurt. And as a parent, whether an ungrateful child and some of you ladies don't seem to realize that this is how so many men feel defeat. They don't even want to try. Let me go ahead and say this. This is why many men don't even want to try to do relationships or get married anymore because they hear this, that this woman came from an intact grandparent, grandparent, nuclear family, lived a life, presumably middle class parents are still married. But because she didn't get the kind of love that she felt she needed or deserved or wanted. And in her medicine, that's when I got to look forward to to get out and go work my ass to death to provide to stay on the straight and narrow to be faithful to end up with that to have a all right iPhone you back.