 Hey everyone, welcome to the life. What does the narcissist do when it's all said and done? When everything's been said, when it's all finally over, what do they do? They'd like you to believe that they've moved on and they're so happy now without you and everything's going great. Yeah, they'd love you to believe that and they will do whatever they can to make you believe that. They might post pictures on social media trying to mislead you, trying to sell you this mistaken impression of their lives. They really want you to think that they're so much happier without you because if they can get you to believe that, it's just more supply for them. So yeah, they will try and post pictures on social media, whatever they think will get your attention, whatever they think will get your mind overworking, thinking about them, but you really need to take a step back and look at it for what it is. You really think someone like that could ever be happy. Just remember what they were like when they were with you. They were miserable, always attacking you, always putting you down right till the end when they finally left you. And that's when they were really at their worst. You really think someone who treats people like that could ever be happy. It's such a contradiction in itself. I'm sure you will remember in your own experience that when you feel really good about yourself, that's when you are able to treat the people around you the best. That's how you'll know that they were never happy. They were never happy when they were with you and you might think that it was to do with you. And of course they will do whatever they can to make you believe that it was your fault. But if you could look back into their lives, you would find that they were like that anyway. They were always miserable and they just thought they could depend on you for their happiness. They thought that you would fix everything for them. They thought that you would change their lives. That's what they were expecting. But of course we can't really fix anyone. We can only help people to help themselves. The narcissist doesn't understand that though. And when you fail to meet their impossible expectations, which we all inevitably do, they will blame you. They'll make it seem like you weren't good enough for them. But if you look at it carefully, they're so quick to blame you for everything. But it's like, what did they ever do for you? What did they ever bring to the table? And then they want to make you believe that they've moved on and they're so much happier with someone else. It's just the same story again and again. It's like it never changes. They were dependent on you for their happiness and even if they do find someone else, they just end up trying to depend on them again. It never changes. But they're never happy because no one can really make you happy anyway. Happiness comes from within. And that's why no matter what relationship, friendship, whatever it is that they get into, they're never satisfied because they're always dependent on other people. They're holding other people responsible for their lives. And that's just a recipe for disaster. No matter how much you may trust someone. It's never a good idea to just put your life in their hands. But narcissists, people may think, narcissists are very paranoid and hyper-vigilant. So how can they even depend on us so strongly? How could they trust us with their lives? It's like it doesn't make any sense at all. But then it does make sense. It makes perfect sense because the narcissist will trust anyone more than they trust themselves. Sorry about that. Mine's just went off. Bit of special effects there. Yeah, they will trust anyone with their lives more than themselves because they've only got a look at where they've got themselves so far in life. You know, they screwed everything up. One disaster after another. It really is. They want you to believe that they've had these perfect childhoods. Everything was fine. There was no abuse. But dig deep into that. And that happened in their childhood. Horrific things. Little childhood abuse. And it really traumatized them. It caused a lot of problems for them mentally and emotionally. They don't admit it. They want to talk about it to you or anyone else. They just want to pretend like everything was fine. They pretend like everything was perfect. But by doing that, they've only prolonged their own healing. Quality of your life isn't determined by the things you have on the outside. It's not determined by material things. Such as money, designer clothes, a handsome man or a beautiful woman. The quality of your life is not determined by those things. Determined by your state or condition on the inside. The greater your state and condition on the inside is, the more that you are going to be able to enjoy those things anyway. You can have it all. But if you're miserable on the inside, nothing's ever going to make you happy. And these narcissists, they might be out there trying to obtain whatever they can to display this illusion of happiness. But they're never really happy because they've got all of these wounds inside of them. And it's killing them inside. But they deny the wounds or they'll just project it on whoever's closest to them. But that doesn't make it go away. Shame continues to grow within them, eating them from the inside. And that is why when it's all said and done, they don't just move on. That bitterness and resentment that came from you never being good enough, their impossible expectations, that's still there. It doesn't matter if they walk away. It doesn't matter where they go. If it's five years, 10 years, that's still there because they don't know how to heal it. They don't even have any desire to heal it. But that part of you is still there inside of them. And they take it with them wherever they go. It's like a trauma, justifiable trauma at that. In their delusional minds, it is justified for them to experience all of that bitterness and resentment towards you. After all, you didn't save them and they were expecting you to do that. But yeah, when it's all said and done, they don't just suddenly walk away and then everything's right again in their lives and they're just so much happier without you. They've met their perfect soulmate and they've got everything they want in life now. They would love you to believe that. And I've had so many clients, you know, when they all say the same thing, you know, the narcissist looks so much happier with this new person. They've moved on and they've forgotten about me. It's an illusion. It really is. Just remember everything you did for them sacrificed your life for them just to make them happy. But were they ever happy? Were they ever satisfied with what you gave to them? And do you really think that anyone would be willing to give to them even a fraction of what you gave to them? Well said and done. Just go back where they belong. Before they met you, they came out of a hole somewhere and then they came up, they got lucky with you. But then since they got with you, they started becoming really arrogant then. They started to think maybe they could do better when in reality they weren't even deserving of you. You were way too good for them. They just never once you do to know that. That's why they kept you down all of that time. When it's all said and done, they just go back to the hole where they belong. It's like when they meet you, staying at this five-star hotel where they can five-course dinner, their mains. The canapes, a selection of desserts, maybe even some tea or coffee afterwards. They've got everything they want. And then after that, they basically go back to a B&B. A bed and breakfast. Back to the standard that they're used to because you were a high quality source of supply. If you're watching my videos, the odds are you were a Grade A source and they don't just forget about their Grade A source. They'd wish they could forget. Once you've figured them out and they know there's no way they can come back. There's no way they can get you to see them in the way that you used to. They'd wish they could just forget about you. But they can't. They can't just do that because they expected you to save them. And the bitterness and resentment is still there and it's never gonna go away. It's always gonna be there. Eating away at them. But yeah, when it's all said and done, they just go back to where they belong. They just go back to the standard they used to. And maybe five, ten years down the line, you're that person they're telling their friends and family about the one that got away. And then maybe 30, 40, 50 years later, they're telling their grandkids about you. This amazing special person that they never forgot about. You're that person to them. Because of everything you gave to them. Because of how you made them feel inside. People will forget what you did for them. But one thing they will never forget is how you made them feel. And when you first met the narcissist, you admired them. You respected them. And that is something that they will never forget. But at the same time they know that you're never gonna see them in that way ever again. So they've got no choice but to keep walking and try and find you in someone else. But they never will. They'll always be dissatisfied. They'll always be looking for something more. They'll never really find in what they're looking for. And that's just how it is for these knocks. All I can say is just be grateful that you're not one of them. Because it must be a really miserable existence, you know, to be a knock. The way they just give their power away depends on everyone else for the happiness. That's no way to live. Maybe if they just knew that our power comes from within. And if they were able to harness that power, they probably wouldn't even be knocks anymore. But of course we can't expect miracles. We've just got to focus on ourselves. Keep bettering ourselves, focus on our own lives. And together we can heal from all of the things that these knocks did to us. I do have another channel as well that's more focused on healing as well as spirituality and self-development. So I would highly recommend checking out that channel. It's called Spiritual Secrets. If you just go into the Knock Survivor community page, scroll down a bit and you should see a link to go there. And if you're interested in joining a community that we have outside of the channel where we can discuss narcissism and I'm also answering questions on there as well. I do have a new support forum on the Knock Survivor website. So do check out www.knocksurvivor.co.uk. I have recently purchased the knocksurvivor.com domain as well. So that address will be available very soon too which will be easier to remember. But yeah, thank you for joining me tonight. I hope that this message resonated with you and there are going to be more original knocksurvivor premiers from now on. So that's something to look forward to on the channel. Thank you all for joining me and have a good night.