 video for you today I'm out of the city and we're gonna be talking about what they do when you leave ever you leave a narcissist the first thing they're gonna do is blame you everything that went wrong it's all your fault you failed to do something you could have done better you could have done more that's the narrative of the because remember they are self-absorbed and they like it they never look at themselves to see what they did wrong or what they could have done better they don't take accountability and that's why they never change they stay the same their entire lives they're emotionally at the level of a two-year-old child and that's why you see these silly behaviors that's why you see the temper tantrums and they always want to rebel they want to act out against you that's the reason for that so when it's all over when you leave that is what they will do they will blame you and if that isn't enough they will also try to find a way to tear you down they will try to find a way to stop you from progressing and whatever you're trying to do because they have to see it as though you were the problem and for them to do that they can't have you moving on and becoming successful in any in anything they want to keep you stuck in a state where the question in yourself and you're wondering if you've got it wrong maybe you made a mistake by leaving them that's what they want you to think as though it was all you and finally another thing that they do when you leave and it's something that you may not expect maybe not all of them will do this but most of them well when you leave they end up watching you and you may not catch it out initially because many of them are watching you behind the scenes they're stalking you on social media or they may even be doing it in person but you just don't know about it they may not stalk you directly but they could have someone else who is checking up on you someone who you don't know so you may never even know about it but that does not it isn't going on because this is what a lot of them will do when you leave but don't get it wrong they're not watching you because they miss you or because they love you that is not why they are watching you they are absorbed they only care about themselves that's why they never even took the time to get to know if you look back you can't even remember a time you actually had a normal conversation with them so they're not watching you because they love you or because they miss you it's got nothing to do with that narcissists are sadistic the very sick twisted people so what they do is when you leave they know that you'll hurt after everything they went and did to you so they want to see are you still hurting they want to see are you still suffering are you missing them are you longing and yearning for them are you wishing that things could be better are you wishing that they were changed that's what they want to see when they're watching you and if you are they're not leaving the door open for them to come back because that is when they will come back when they think that you need them when they think that they still got a chance that you know what you got to do know that they're watching you you've got to put something on there that will really show them something that will spoil stomach because they're hoping to see that you're still suffering they're hoping to see that going through it but if you post something up on your Facebook or Instagram and it shows that you are living your best life to enjoy in every minute of it now that they're gone that's is the last thing that they want to see that's what you should be doing instead of worrying about them you should be out there living your life because life is meant to be lived life is meant to be enjoyed not endured but that's how they wanted to be for you they don't want to see you join your life they want you endure and pleasant things they want to see you suffer and that's the only reason why they're watching you after you leave and that is why you're saying that if you do just only the good things about your life and how things are going well after a certain amount of time they're just gonna stop watching you because they don't want to see you moving on and having fun especially without them so then they may just fade away they'll just disappear and they may get distracted by a news but as you know it's just gonna be the same thing they never change what they did to you they did to people before you and you may remember that in the beginning they told you these stories about their ex and whatever they said their ex did to them that's what they did and if you look back that's also what they did to you so that's what they're gonna do to the next person after you're gone as well you can see the pattern but they project they blame you for what they did to you just as they blame the Rex for what they did to the Rex it's always been they are always the problem and that never changes so you need to be aware of that don't think that they're moving on they're riding off into the sunset it doesn't work out like that that's what they wanted to think but that's not how it is I'm just enjoying this view of the lake got my favorite there I don't know why I like that bird there's something different about it I've got these massive beaks and they're just like chilling in the lake in their own business yeah I like it okay that's it for this video if it was helpful as always please give it a thumbs up down below let me know your thoughts in the comment section subscribe share the video if you'd like to book a one-on-one with me you can do that for my website it is narksurpiver.co.uk and check out my Instagram as well I've got new pictures and videos on my travels on there every day thank you all for watching and I will talk to you very soon