 Hey everyone and welcome back to my channel. I wanted to do a reaction to an episode of Black-ish. I kind of started to point to this episode in the last video I did but in this one I want you guys to see me watch this video where Bo is in the OR and she's confronting another physician and points to something that I have dealt with and I know a lot of other women of color more physicians have dealt with and that's earning or just getting respect in the workplace. So I want you guys to watch me and I'm going to stop and react to some of the parts that I feel are really important for everyone to see. Whatever hon, I'm married. Okay now let's go over. Papa's got journey tickets. Yeah gotta see if that Filipino gets for real. Oh wow so like I said yeah there's always there's been a struggle for many women in the workplace to get respect but this is specifically personal for me because I have been there not getting hit bumps by another physician but I have been there where you know I'm in the room I'm playing my role I'm doing my job as an anesthesiologist and people will certainly not assume that I'm that person and they will just like gloss over me when they're asking about like who's anesthesia who's anesthesia and I'm just like yeah it's little on me I'm it and another thing that's in this scene so it's assumed that Bo is a nurse and that is that's everyday for me it's like you know I'm in the OR I'm doing my job and people will come in the room and just be like all right I could be anything else but you know the doctor I can be the scrub tech I could be a housekeeping I could be one of the circulators in the room but I just am not assumed to be the doctor and oh I can even be the resident I could not be the attendee I can be a resident I can be a resident but not the attendee oh you're the attending yes they are smart and black therapy excuse me doctor honey buddy I jump in here real quick but I got an excuse I'm not good at waiting oh what's with the face I remember you were a doctor when the surgeon hip-checked the moment she was just like what was the network that's how I be feeling sometimes but yeah it's I mean just to be really like honest and serious about it like that struggle exists it definitely exists and it's an everyday thing for some people it depends like if you're able to overcome that by like building rapport with that person or directly confronting that person which is very uncomfortable sometimes that's the only way to gain the respect and also to have a relationship where people are you know more cordial with you and more respectful of you as a person and what you do so I'm assuming that's the first time that those two work together so maybe they didn't have that opportunity yet but I definitely identify with Bo where she's just like you know in the moment she's grinning she's burying it and then she goes to her car and she's like she's losing it like oh why can I just like tell him off that moment why can I just confront him in that moment why do I look like a fool in front of people well it's because I'm a people pleaser so I feel you Bo I feel you I've been there and I think that's a lot like me like I don't like to confront people be confrontational and in general situations much less at work where I'm trying to be professional so it's it's tough it's really tough I I feel you hey sweetheart you might you want to scrub in yeah scrubbing here you need some gloves you like want to do that you fantasize about doing stuff like that you would never do that at work like that's when she Bo reached her breaking point she was just fed up with the disrespect and I feel like she didn't have her therapy sessions um in this episode she gave them a way to her husband because her husband needed to work through some issues and so she didn't have her usual outlet with therapy so she just she was unhinged I feel like a lot of um people and myself I don't go to therapy yet but a lot of people just get to that breaking point as you know a lot of women physicians feel like they want to get to that breaking point because they're constantly getting into these situations where you know someone is pressing them and it's just like disrespecting them and just not recognizing them for like an equal and that is tough I mean I mean you really have a lot of pressure against you um you know as a woman physician especially a woman physician of color it's really really you know a uphill battle and it's still going right now I don't think we're anywhere close to being done with you know fighting for respect of others so you know you use your things yourself you know I went through the same thing that you went through I went through medical school all the exams that we went that we had to go through for licensing I did the same thing you know residency put in the same amount of time and a lot of hard work and sweat and tears and you know we're in the same boat you know MD we're in the same boat then on top of that it's like okay after all of that you know you see me doing my job every day and I'm damn good at it gotta say I do a good job and I think that that point and people learn to respect you when they see like your work and outcomes are good and things like that that nature okay so this is happening to you in your day-to-day job or you're also a doctor and you're going through this so what do you do about it so I feel like you having a conversation with the person who's doing this to you is really hard the first thing that I typically do if I feel like I'm being put in this situation is I just try to like not react like Bo obviously I mean if you want to keep your job you won't do that um this is just purely for comedy but you want to handle it professionally so you want to show that person that you are to be respected and you can do this kind of indirectly just assert yourself and what you're doing so I make sure that I do the best that I can for my patients always but especially in these situations you want to make sure that you assert yourself as a competent physician a competent ploy a competent colleague and that respect that you're trying to get is going to be given to you when your work speaks for it so I always do that I make sure to parry back with confidence you know that person is looking at you as someone who's not respectable and you want to dispel that myth in their mind I am someone who's to be respected I respect myself and I show confidence in what I do and you better do the same usually you know if you're a junior member of the team or you're just coming on to a job you're gonna have to pay your dues you know get all the difficult things put on your shoulders people are gonna dump on you and then once you actually show them that you're able to handle it all and you build yourself up and you build a good reputation for yourself then people will start to respect you more and you know you have a good reputation that will precede you before you do anything people will say oh that person knows what they're doing I've seen them in action and your reputation will build so unfortunately as a woman in the workplace you kind of it's like your first day every day you have to constantly prove yourself and constantly build up that you know reputation of you know knowing what you're doing and being competent every day if you're in this position you're doing this just know that you're not alone and this is something that every woman goes through I would say at this point and especially if you're a woman of color it's going to be okay you're going to get through it just keep working hard doing what you're doing with confidence and be strong and no matter what happens at the end of the day you're going to be okay