 Hi Welcome to Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridget today. We're gonna have a video for a Sunday Morning Coffee episode I thought it'd be a good idea to to see you. I know I can't see you actually see you see you I can sense you feel you see you with my third eye perhaps But now you get to see me and get to do a cheers in this new year With our mugs. Thank you for all of you who have your Sunday Morning Coffee support mugs. Thanks for that Today's topic is spam spam Yes Spam filters. We're gonna use spam as an acronym But we're also gonna talk about it for what you think of when you think of spam You think of getting bombarded in your email box, right? Communication tons of marketing random stuff stuff you don't need and you didn't ask for it's coming in and it's clogging up your communication receiving channel This is happening also to us at a spiritual and energetic level Given current events given the experiences that are going on globally and in the United States In addition to that which is also happening in get this our personal human lives as if that wasn't enough We get excess Excess stuff whether it comes from our interpersonal relationships with friends or spouses or children or from other more acquaintance style relationships at work with co-workers or bosses, etc We're getting a lot of information and about at least half of that stuff that's coming in is spam and I want to empower you today in our Sunday Morning Coffee episode to help you to Manage some of that. Let's set some filters so that you don't have to just Magically absorb all those in we're gonna put them into a folder and let those automatically delete Because you don't need to waste your time and energy with other people's stuff being thrown at you And that's really what's happening right now And it's natural for that to happen as humans it seems as though I'm part of the relationships that we have with others we Come together around things that we have in common and right now It seems like there are some very current event things that everybody is experiencing and so you can talk about that and yet What is the glue that is magnetizing that together is really stuff that you don't really want in your energy field That you don't want in your brain the thoughts that other people are sharing their opinions their views is is theirs just like Your natural instinct to share to vent to express or Expell the energy that you're feeling is totally natural. It's completely natural and yet through this concept of spam using energy and Your spiritual know-how you can actually compress that information Put it into kind of sort it out and put it into almost like an automatic recycle bin because other people's opinions feelings views Are theirs They're not yours This doesn't mean you stop listening to them in other words Just because you get spam in your email box. It doesn't mean you don't use email, right? Am I right? We still communicate You can still connect with other people you can still be in relationship with other people just because they have Intensity of emotion just because they express themselves very vocally and verbally and and are intense and passionate and Really stern all sorts of dust up around them, you know I'm seeing like the image of pig pen Do you guys remember Charlie Brown if you don't if you're too young for that? Google up an image of pig pen where he walks around with just this messy kind of swirl around him Some people are just like that. It doesn't make them bad. It doesn't make them great motivators either but the good news is is You don't have to manage that you don't have to manage other people's feelings You don't have to be ready and prepared for somebody to go in on a deep conversation with you and Spew at you like just spray at you all their feelings and beliefs Now you and I both know very well that as an empath that you are gonna receive some of that You are gonna just be around people that need to be heard That just need to have an outlet and you just happen to be there with the big outlet written on your forehead No, you can still be there you can still listen to them without taking it in listening and taking on Energy are two different things you can honor the relationships with you have with other people whether it be your co-workers your boss your Sister your kids your spouse your neighbor you can honor those relationships by listening or letting them Say what they need to say and instead of all the stuff coming right into your inbox, which is your heart Dump it right here. Give me all your crap. I'm just a doormat for everyone universe Just dump all the crappy energy and conflict right on to me cuz I'll take it cuz I'm an empath I'm such a good person Instead of doing that Let it come out of them and on to the floor let it come out of them and slide down your energy field Like the trunk of a tree into the earth Let their stuff come out and go to the earth because the earth the energy of the earth Recycles repurposes transmutes remember I said we're gonna talk about energy and psychic skills that you have Okay, so spiritual skills that you have intuitive skills that you have use this now To create your spam filter Let the energy of other people that you care about or that you have to be you have some kind of an agreement like at work to Be in service in that environment without letting it overcome you and you be a big doormat for just give me all you got I can take it You don't have to do that. That's an old way. That's an old victim way That's an old pretend fake way of acting like you care. You're so compassionate So you'll sit and listen, but you mistake the concept of listening as taking on their crap Stop Stop Just stop Stop It's spam. It's spam We've all been tricked by the marketing of emotions and feelings and freedom of expression and sharing your opinion and Everybody matters. We've been tricked into Believing that that means something very different than it actually means Everyone has a voice everyone gets to express and share but let it come out of them and down your energy space Like a tree down your energy space Down into the earth let their stuff go right to the earth Just create a circle imagine their stuff coming out of their mouth and their hearts because really what they're sharing and Expressing is heartfelt. It's clearing They're detoxing and when somebody is clearing or detoxing when they're sick You don't want to be by them when they're dealing with a virus perhaps or they got the flu Maybe and they're kind of letting it come out, you know what I'm saying without being too graphic That's exactly what's happening here But it's natural. It's not good or bad. It's just it's just natural, you know, you know, this is a pattern This is a pattern and what you can do is create a spam filter That is new up-to-date modern for the new empath that allows an energy to come come out of them Let them let them know that you're you are a safe space, but that doesn't mean you take it on That doesn't mean you fix it. That doesn't mean you're the hero That doesn't mean that you agree. You just are there. You're just present and you can say it I'm just present. I'm here for you. That doesn't mean I'm gonna fix it I can't fix this. I can't make it better for you, but I can be here I can listen and what listening means is just holding space and what holding space is is letting them get their stuff out Letting it go into the earth and come back in a positive way for them for healing Let the earth take it. Let the earth take it. Let the earth take it because she's an alchemist She can recycle. This is energetic. This is spiritual. Are you at the new level? Are you? Are you ready to transcend this very structured old way of looking and being and inter Interrelating with people. Are you ready? Let's add and upgrade our spam filters Let's create a new way as empaths to be present To honor to allow people to move through their process without judging them or without hurrying them through it because don't you don't you mistake Your need to be comfortable For your nobility in helping others I'm gonna say that again. Don't mistake your personal need to be comfortable with nobility in helping others because people so many people especially in paths will redirect Will not want to be present for somebody else venting or spewing their opinion. So they're either ignore them Avoid them. These are these are total defense mechanisms that are completely realistic and rational to use and have Been very effective in the past will avoid or ignore these people or will redirect and try to help them I want to make them comfortable because then I feel comfortable It's hard for us to be with someone and feel all that discomfort So what I'm suggesting to you is implement a new spam filter and I'm gonna give you spam SP am as an acronym There's a lot of stuff in this Sunday morning coffee And I know you're ready for it and I know you need it, especially 2021 or in the first week of January and we need it We need it to sustain us To allow us to step into our power in a heartfelt way. That's not reactionary That's proactive and that's what's productive to be present to let other people have their Experiences without us having to step in and stop their experiences Do not stop them from saying what they need to say or to express what they need to express even if you don't agree Even if it's not at all Something that you could possibly Pallet See it for what it is. It's theirs and it's not yours this is not about division and Us us and past versus them all everybody else that wants us to help them because we're all the same Sometimes we are those those them people that needs help that needs somebody to just step in and fix it because it's it's hard Life is hard processing is hard being a person is hard But luckily for you and I we have this intuition. We have this energy around us We have more than what we can see with our our human eyes We have more you're so much more resourceful You're so much more capable of allowing other people to process their crap without getting in it with them Don't have to do that anymore. That's an old way. You don't have to ignore and avoid Instead instead you spam SP am and I want you to take that as an acronym put it in your journal The writing in my journal this morning one of them. I have a couple of different ones. They're super cool this year They're super cool. My journals for this year. I'm trying to see how do I They're super cool journals this year This is just and this is basically just a notebook, but Spam so I have a couple of acronyms. So write it down and I want you to use it as Something that you repeat over and over and over again when you're reading Facebook and somebody's triggering you or when you're listening to a friend or like me I listen to my 96 year old grandma go on and on about current events about Viruses about violence about all this stuff and I just let her speak of it without becoming it You don't have to become it. You don't have to fix it. I just let her get it out of her system. I Listened I was present and I let the earth take the energy it didn't become me It doesn't have to become you either But this takes practice and lucky for you guys with lots of opportunities in the next nine or ten months to practice this So let's get good at it now instead of waiting until the ninth month and go. Oh, this has been a hard year Guess what the memo is out now. So step in Step in know that you're resourceful know what your power is. It's not to stop or prevent discomfort It's to allow people to be who they are and let them figure that out because people are becoming right now People are becoming and people are collectively externally We are watching people clear the toxins from themselves and from other systems and structures They are connected to and that takes time It takes time. It's not always more miraculous and instantaneous and it's not a pretty picture. So What you can do is you spam Use it to your advantage. Let's leverage this as a tool. So right in your journal spam s P a m write down Right in line and then you pick words for each of the letters each of those four letters. Yes, you know I like four. It's archangel number four four pillars as a tool that I use in session with people all the time and so four is a nice balanced energetic number and SP am spam has four letters So it creates a structure for you and it's kind of silly and the brain like stuff that distracts you, right? That's another way instead of avoiding or ignoring Distraction so let's use it to our advantage be resourceful with the tools you have so spam SP am So here's some possible words when I was thinking of this myself in regards to other people expressing their opinions and seeing all this discomfort and all this pain that's happening and and all this confusion and Observing it and also feeling that energy within myself deeply feeling it this week and Knowing that I have the skills and the structure to manage and navigate it using this like a simple tool with words to help the brain Understand what's going on spiritually Energetically that's where your power is you guys. That's where the power is Finally, I'm past we got power Yes, let's do it. We've been getting ready for this now for ever So you know what to do here spam create the four energetic structured pillars using this word SP am and Choose words that might fit for you and be creative with it be fun with it so that when somebody is Going out going at you or venting while you're listening you can replay this SP am in your mind and create words that have to do with each one of the letters And that will just remind you to help the energy go into the earth Let those people be who they are they're becoming they're clearing and you are Enhancing your connection to yourself to the spiritual helpers and energetic support that you have around you and you're honoring You're showing up. You're being present and I'm so proud of you for that. I know it's not easy. I know it's not I don't expect it's not easy Of course not, but you you can do this You can do this So here's a couple of ideas for you So here's a couple that I came through came that just came flying out when I was connecting into this Soul presence active meaning Soul presence Active meaning so this activation like what is this meaning my spirit is present for what's going on here and I'm feeling activated. What does this mean? That's a good one. See look how deep this can get you guys and also can be fun to like Singular perspective One person's view right singular perspective Access meaning I like this word meaning access meaning singular perspective. That's their perspective Okay, it's a perspective All right They are trying to Access meaning like deeper meaning a lot of people. We're watching people having Spiritual experiences. They're coming to Jesus moments. So to speak without actually being conscious of it We are watching people evolve and change and shift We're watching them shed and sometimes it gets so bad before it can get better. You have to hit rock bottom, right? some people for some people that's their process because they're really ingrained in structures and I myself have that I have I know I I know I have some structures some patterns some go-to patterns of behavior That I personally am working through I have a coach that I'm talking to tomorrow To get the support that I need which brings me to another version of spam filter for you Support people Support people and accept the mess Support people accept the mess Support people accept the mess. It's messy. Let them just spew all over you their energy But it doesn't affect you because it doesn't come into you. You're present Behind this energy of a tree going deep into the earth and that earth energy is recycling and repurposing She is magical use the elements of earth to help process this That's why we're humans. That's why there's a planet earth That's why we are connected to earth to have help because we need it now Here's another one And you can be funny with this, right? So I'm gonna try not to swear with the a word I'm gonna let you interject your own a word there. Okay stop pushing stop pushing SP and then I have this little kind of phrase that I've been working with and It's the masses are not as So Those are the last two words masses is my last word and as with a couple of extra s's is my third word so stop pushing the as Masses when you are Ignoring something that's important when you're procrastinating aren't you kind of crabby are you a little grumpy? What about when you know you're resisting something when you feel resistance within yourself Don't you get crabby and moody don't you get angry because it's so much easier to get mad and push people away from you Instead of actually addressing and dealing with the real emotions, which are fear Anger is just a front for fear and Underneath that there's other emotions like sadness like grief like personal loss Like wounds that make us feel like we're not enough and we're never good enough And we didn't have opportunities when we were 25 to go to college and so now we're we're just We're the the poor working class and we don't have whatever it might be for you Whatever it might be or I missed on an opportunity because instead of studying Nursing I studied finance and now here today I could have helped all these people in these hospital settings and here I am instead in a miserable job working with other people's money those kinds of things like there's so much regret that lives underneath resistance that connects to fear that Time is running out for us that we're not good enough that are we're not visible that our voices aren't heard that we're not seen and More so that we're that opportunities are being stolen or taken away from us There's this perception that that it's not even entitlement, but there's this energy that that connects to that resistance piece that comes through anger that feels Like we missed out like we missed something We missed out. It's not just about being lucky. It's about we were passed over For some reason we didn't get notice and other people did and that's not fair and we feel cheated Like life is cheating us these are just some examples of Feelings that are underlying this anger and the need for expression and That's what we're seeing You can't fix anything for anybody else right now, especially right now You can just be there be here and be here in your heart Cultivating this knowing that earth is present for you so that you can process your stuff and your feelings and your emotions And yes, you can vent and not judge yourself for it Especially if you're moving through the process if you get stuck on the venting That's a huge red flag that you need to reach out for help get your counselor on the phone Start scheduling some sessions ahead for the next two weeks three weeks six weeks two months I'm not kidding call your counselor your licensed clinical social worker Whoever you work with that's a mental health worker that provides you with an opportunity To process and talk through things without judgment in a safe space for some of you that might be in small friend groups However, I caution you with that because friend groups they have skin in the game. They want you to feel better They don't like to see you suffering and so right away friends can step in and try to fix it and make you feel better So just know that that will be their motivation because they love you and they they have skin in the game. They care so deeply they The way you feel really affects them and so it's natural for them to want to help you So they might give you advice well intended, but it might not help it might make you actually feel worse because When somebody gives you advice or tells you what to do It's kind of like they assume That you don't know how to take care of yourself and you do in fact right here right now My friends you are learning to take care of yourself You are and at the same exact time that you're working through your own personal stuff Maybe you're dealing with addiction. Maybe you're new in recovery Maybe you're you're working with the diagnosis Maybe you've got during this incredibly traumatic time You got a mega diagnosis a health diagnosis that you're going to be having to work through There is a lot That you might be processing personally and that doesn't mean that you can't be there for other people You can There is a balance here that happens Just notice that you're observing. You're a compassionate observer. You're not the fixer. You are not Jesus Amen in hallelujah. You are not Jesus and whoever your massive healer that you look up to is You are not that The only person you are that for is yourself and that's your personal connection with that spirit guide or those spirit guides to help you To shepherd you through your process You don't have to isolate yourself While it's messy while you're the one that's the spam Don't worry about that Be authentic. Maybe that's one of the a where it's authentic Maybe s's show up Maybe p is pursue Maybe a is authenticity and Maybe em is me for me for me You are beautiful. I'm so glad you're here with Sunday morning coffee I'm glad you're part of the channels that I do and I share If you're looking for some inspiration, you can check out my fairy grasshopper YouTube channel above life channel on YouTube as well And you can also find me on Bridget inspired on Facebook and Instagram All right, my spam friends If you are so inclined and so inspired go ahead and put below some of your spam Acronyms that you're going to use so that you can let other people deal with their stuff and let them become as they're becoming and honor your Own process. It's not a competition. It's not in us and them That's what got us to this point in the first place is the separation That's a myth. It's totally an illusion Now that's a real conspiracy theory, isn't it the us and them? Oh, yes, it is. I look forward to reading your comments below This is Bridget. Thanks so much for being here