 When the narcissist finally changes their ways When they finally improve their behavior habits and beliefs Sometimes they will change their ways They may begin to act kind and helpful As someone who can support you They may begin to act as a person of exemplary conduct and virtue As a person who is just trying to do the right thing But they haven't really reformed They haven't really relinquished their immoral, criminal and self-destructive lifestyle They haven't really made changes in order to improve themselves Although it may look that way They can never really change Because that is an oxymoron It's a contradictory statement It opposes its own meaning The whole point of the issue is that they cannot change If they could change, there wouldn't be a problem But it may seem as though they have changed It may seem as though they're finally doing the right thing But there are always reasons why they're doing that It's not self-motivated It's not because of their own enthusiasm or interest Without needing pressure from other people They're doing it because they have no choice They're in a situation where they must do it There's no other alternative And that is the only reason why they will change They're getting older They're no longer getting attention or admiration They're no longer getting the privileges or special treatment that they used to They're no longer getting things for free So now they have to live just like everyone else They have to behave like a normal person They can't afford to be grandiose Because they're not getting the same amount of attention or validation So they may have been cheating on their partner They may have been engaging in destructive behavior But the only reason why they're not doing that now Is because they know they can't get away with it anymore They know they're not going to get attention So they haven't really changed They haven't learned from their mistakes They haven't accepted accountability They've only changed something about themselves Because they're forced to They have no other choice So if they are given the choice Or if they think they can get away with it They may still try to do the same thing again Even if they're married with you Even if they have children with you They will still try to sneak off with someone else Because they don't really care about you They don't care about being a better person for you All they care about is getting attention and validation They will give you fake apologies and false epiphanies They will tell you they're done with that lifestyle now They will tell you that they have changed And that all they want is a better future for themselves and a good relationship with you But as soon as they get the opportunity to go back to their old lifestyle again They will do it They can't help themselves They will go out of their way to get attention They will take advantage of anyone who comes their way They will always look for excuses to go behind your back To justify their destructive behavior They never change They're damaged people They can't have a normal relationship with you They can't function in it Because they never learned how to do that They've never been exclusive to anyone They've always had multiple partners They've always cheated on the person that they're with But they always had a primary partner They always had a person that they came home to Because they're very selfish They only care about themselves So they will find someone to take care of them Someone that they can come home to Someone who will give them everything they want But they will refuse to be a loyal and supportive partner They will be seeking out other options Instead of using that time to attend to you Which is why they shouldn't be someone you want to be on your team Because they are horrible partners They want you to be everything they need But they don't want to act that way for you They want to be in a relationship But they don't want to act like a relationship partner They want the benefits and the advantages Without any responsibility They haven't really changed They've just lost their power So if they get the opportunity to regain their power Even for a short moment of time They will use it They will do the things they said they would never do again They will lie to you They will act innocent They will act like they're not doing anything wrong But you need to trust your own intuition Because they're never going to tell you the truth They want you to think that they've changed They want you to think that they're different now So if you confront them on it They will just twist it on you They will say that you don't trust them They will say you're insecure While they're doing all of this stuff behind your back Whenever they try to show you that they've changed You shouldn't believe it Because in time you will notice the signs that they're still the same They will make up excuses They will say that they have changed The second they get the opportunity to portray you They're going to run off to it So don't fall for it Don't believe their lies Thank you for watching I hope this video ends in it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.archsurvivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon