 question. Conti creators know to actually ask me. Hi. Just out just chase a clout trying to get a name or get some views that the chain work for. Hello. How are you? You might want to move your face back. Hello. I'm wonderful. There we go. What do you got for me? So I am 28. I live in Atlanta, Georgia. And I guess I just, you know, I want to know why, you know, what my, what my stats are like. For what? Uh, like, you know, I don't know what you, what are your stats for what? Because, you know, I want to be married or whatever. I want to be in a relationship, but I feel like maybe I'm a little too picky. I don't know. Are you being serious or you're trolling me? No, I'm being very serious. I think I could be a little bit too picky, but I would like to. What do you mean? What picky meaning what? I mean, I just want to dive it like, you know, is successful. Um, a provider, a leader, and you know, but I feel like, do I have children? No, I don't. You go to college? I graduated. I had my bachelor's. And what? Psychology. Do you want children? I do. How many? I would like, you know, maybe like two or three. Okay. Do you want to have to work to pay significant bills after you're pregnant with the first child? I think working is normal. I don't have a problem working. Do you want to have to work to pay significant bills after you're pregnant with the first child? Yes. How much would you need to make in Atlanta to raise three children in the middle class? I think, uh, me and my husband would probably need like a combined income of like 150,000 a year. No, no. Three children? Well, okay. Well, let's say this progressively over time, because you're not just going to have like three children all at once. So the idea is, like by the third child, I think we should have built wealth to at least like 200,000 annually. I think that's reasonable. Man, that's close to the 350,000, the three kids. Oh, okay. That's fair. How much is a psychology? How much are you going to make of it? Um, so currently I make like right around like 80,000 a year. And the idea, I actually am currently working towards like building my income substantially. So the idea is hopefully- After you start, after you're married, pregnant, having kids, you're not going to be working full time. Yeah. So the idea is that- You're not going to be working full time. Yeah, the idea is always to somehow become phantom rich before you start having babies. That's not how life works. Okay. You work and you live. But you're saying that you wouldn't own that, do you have? I have like 15,000 in loans. You're a consumer debt. I don't have any consumer debt. Okay, how tall are you? I'm five foot three. Just size. I'm like a four, a four, four or five. Do you mind backing the camera? My face looks a lot heavier. I hold a lot of weight in my face, but I'm petite. Do that so we can see up and down? Well, I don't really have like real clothes on right now. I kind of have- I recently had surgery, so I have like um- What kind of surgery? Um, I don't want to blast myself. You got like 6,000. Okay. What's the most you've ever weighed? Share. What's the most you've ever weighed? Um, 100 and 150 pounds. You look a little- you look much bigger than your vest size. I'm not. Okay. No, I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I said okay, but I'm still saying you still talk about a man in the top. Eight percent of earners. Eight top eight percent of earners. So okay, so I listened to your live with like the last lady and I felt like you were like, okay, you're 44. So I guess my question to you is for like a woman in her mid-20s, just an average woman, like what should be your- like what should be the goal? Because honestly, I feel like, you know- I need you to stand still and I need you to stay still in my place. People are watching this. Oh, sorry. Um, like- because I mean, especially here in Atlanta, I feel like- Well, let me- let me ask you a question. An average woman? What's your father do for a living? My father, he's a professor. He's a chairman at a university and my mom's a pharmacist. Okay. Okay. They're above average. They went to college, but I mean average people get average people. Yeah. What's the average black man making this country? Um, you said 50,000, so. Yeah, well actually it's 42, but 50 is still- I mean, how old are you again? 28. Uh-huh. Have you updated a man making 150,000 dollars a year? Uh-huh. How long ago was that? Um, I mean, most of them- Hold on, hold on. When I say date, I mean, Siri, did you just roll your eyes? You said what? Did you just roll your eyes? No, no, no. That was- I was thinking. I was like thinking. Okay. When I say date, I meant y'all were Facebook. You know, this is my man. He's claiming you. I'm not talking about- he's got another girlfriend. Y'all monogamous. Yeah. Have you ever dated a man making that kind of money? Yeah, the last guy dated. Uh, how long- how long did you guys date? Um, we were friends for a while and so- How long did y'all date? Uh, for like a year. And why didn't that go anywhere? Yeah, he- um, I think because of his, um, earning potential, he got- like, I feel like- so he was like a plastic surgeon and I feel like he start- so we started dating when he entered residency and like, I just feel like he got bigheaded. Like, he realized like all the women that were chasing him and he's like- No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No, listen. Okay, listen. Excuse me? We had a difference in values. Well, not really. Not really. Because you're talking about the way he started looking and his potential was saying where you rolled your eyes and I said, man, Black man made 40,000. No, no, no, no. Like he- okay, so he started saying like he wants to have like a polygamous family and he don't believe him. Like, he just- the things he- That's what he wants. You can get it. He can. I- I'm- Right. Well, you can't- Cause why? Cause he's in the top 8% of Black men and top earners. And you asked me, man, um, you got to rank yourselves. Well, what would you rank yourself? Um, I- I mean, I think I'm like a, you know, like a seven. I don't do sevens. You say you don't do seven? No. What is that? Like, what- what does that mean? You can't rate- you can't use seven. Cause everybody wants to use seven. Zero to ten, you can't use seven. Now you gotta see why I don't use seven. Cause everybody wants to use seven as a safe number. Okay, uh, uh, 7.5? No, no, no version of a seven. Okay, eight. Okay, eight. Okay. And you- you're- all right, now if you- now I'm gonna say something, okay. Or maybe that's just expressive, but if you're doing all that shit with your face, I'm gonna tell you to get up off my phone. That's not cool, young lady. I'm- I'm just an expressive person. It's not disrespect. Yeah, it is. Yeah, you would do- you would do this shit in church or in the college class. Okay, I'm sorry. I mean, you asked me for my professional advice, so can you respect the platform? I sure can. Thank you. And eight. You give yourself an eight. Okay? Um, who else would you rank in the eight categories, as far as, like, famous people? Musicians, movie stars, they can ask. Oh, okay. Um, an eight as a famous person? Like, in, like, a ratio? Like, not- Come on, like, Beyonce's an eight. No, Beyonce's not an eight. Who's the image consultant in real life? Okay, so you think Beyonce's an eight? I think Beyonce's a ten. No, she's not. Okay. Beyonce's an eight. Kelly Roller would be a nine. In Rihanna, even with her big forehead, would be a ten. Okay. So, like, give yourself an eight. You put yourself in the category, or Beyonce's. Okay. Okay. So, I'm not an eight? Are you in the category with Beyonce? I mean, no. This is one of the major issues you ladies don't know how to rank yourself. So, when somebody like myself comes along with some truths, most people in my profession would give Beyonce an eight. And many black women would give her a ten, because you want to guys want to give yourself higher numbers. So, are you in her category or not in her category? No, I'm not, I'm not Beyonce. I mean, we're talking about discipline of face. Okay, then what, then what would you give yourself if you know, understand Beyonce as an eight? Okay, maybe I'm like a six. Which is closer to reality. Because by giving yourself an eight, you automatically put yourself in the pretty, beautiful or gorgeous of all women across the world. And I'm sorry, at 28 years old, your live life has told you that you're likely not there, not in the comments section. Are you reading the comments? You said what? Like I said, were you reading the comments? I haven't really seen any of the comments. Okay, good. So, ultimately what I'm trying to get you to understand is um, you care, you care, don't look at the comments section. You, you carry your weight in your face. Okay. I mean, and you said that you recently had surgery, so that typically means stuff like... Oh my gosh, this is on my page. You know, it's not, it's on my page. Okay. This is showing up on my page. Awkward as hell. Oh, I mean, life is life. And I haven't been, I mean, here's the thing though, man, whoever you are on here, live, stream or wherever, that's who you are in the real world. And if you're wanting a man who's going to be in a top earners of black men, that's an extremely competitive place to be. I said that's, that's 2% of men. I mean, but what if, what if your goal, like, I mean, I, I don't think income is really one of the first things I look at when it comes to a man. But it's where there is a factor based upon what you want as far as an outcome. The amount of, okay. You want three children, two or three children. Are you content with having to share a car? Are you content with having to drive something like, oh, I don't know. What's an inexpensive $15,000, $20,000 car? Are you content with driving a $20,000 car? This for the rest of your life? Are you content in living in like an $80,000, $90,000 home? East Point, Decatur, College Park? I mean, what do you mean? Most people don't earn college money. Most people are normal people. See now, now shit gets real because we started the backfell. I mean, I, I just, I feel like the reality is you want a different, you want a lifestyle of a white collar, middle class to upper middle class person. Because that's what your mother and father sound like to have. Pharmacists and professors. You're breaking up. I want, I believe that my parents, my parents worked hard and they afforded a pretty decent life for me and they came here as immigrants and they weren't rich. So that I like the idea that I have to make. But the difference is, the difference is, you're not them. You were born with Western sensibilities. Well, I, I came, I wasn't born here in America. I was born in Nigeria. Western sensibilities, okay. Western sensibilities, man. But what I'm, what I'm saying is, Okay, okay, okay. All right, all right, all right. Listen, okay. What do you live? I live in Atlanta, Georgia, but I hope. Do you live with your parents? Yeah, I live with my parents. Why? To save money, to build my business. Okay, have you ever lived on your own? Yes, I did. So you live with your parents to build your business. So if somebody's making $80,000, you, you, you would be okay with the man making half of what you're making. I would be okay with the man making half of what I'm making if he had a plan and a vision for it. See guys, this is what I always come down to. I'd accept it as long as he had ambition. See, this always comes down. Listen, no, no, no, no, no. We know where this goes, man. Something's wrong with your speaker. No, average purge, the average black man in this country earns $42,000. There's no more money. There's no more ambition. There's no money tree. There's no side hustle. That's what the French toast they earned. Half of the men earned that. I mean, can you listen and understand that? I do understand. I completely understand. All right. And then the men that earn more than that want a hell of a lot more, like your ex-boyfriend who told you, oh, I'm an above average earner. I'm going to go get the moon and the stars because most guys earn less than me. Okay. So Lou, can I ask you a question? Listen, the men that you want, the income, the lifestyle, no matter how you want to slice it, how you want to pretty it up. I've been, this is not my first rodeo. Please stop looking in the comments section. Look, look ahead and think of, you're looking down there. It looks like you're not looking here. When you're at the end of the day, man, you can pretty it up, but you want a certain kind of lifestyle. It's a white class, a white color lifestyle. All right. So let me ask you this. Can I have the question? If that's okay. Can I? So for women who have realistic goals, who maybe like, I guess what I'm trying to say is it okay to want a man that has a average earning potential and you guys are able to build to have more in the future? Like I feel like sometimes you're kind of distressed. No, no, no, no. You're not the builder. That's why I stopped you. No, you roll your eyes one more time and I'm going to hang this shit up. I don't do that young lady. I want the French toast is wrong with you. But you know what I do know? Is this how you act on the phone? You are tripping a relationship and I've tried to be really nice to you. Acting the way you do. Bucking your eyes and shit. This is live. People are looking. Okay. So I'm going to get off live because I feel like you're being a little outrageous. But thank you so much. You don't come over to somebody's place playing games. Bottom line is I'm bottom line is all you women. He's so rude. No, women like her come over to somebody's business. Bucking your eyes. That's another woman. For whom the average earning man would not be good enough. See, what I want for you ladies is to start understanding every time a woman says that they need a man in the top 15, top 10, top 5% of earners, they are telling the rest of men you're not good enough. Well, if they can say that, that's fine. But they're going to have to be able to live up to that. Y'all don't seem to have any problem with women having a standard. But when the man comes along and say, well, guess what, man? You know, you saw her have a fuller face. I'm like, all right. Men who earn the kind of money you're talking about are going to get women who have room to grow. Standard your mother's house, on and on business. It's too much attitude. Too full of yourself. That young lady was very full of herself. She may not have been acting all over the place, but she was very, very full of herself. That's why the ego. And that does well for when y'all are talking out of diva queen boss stuff. And it does not work well for the kind of men that women say they want. So if you think this is rude, then not stay out of here, man. Because this is how men talk. I've said it. Men are not going to talk to you like we're women. This is my platform. And when I've had enough of somebody acting immature, childish, goofy, I'm going to call it out. And if that's rude to you, don't come back. That's what I said on Clubhouse. Women are used to one way of grashing. You're used to women being able to act a complete ass. And men are just supposed to take it. Men are supposed to let women just say whatever, do whatever. And just because they're not screaming or raising their voice, we're just supposed to let you do it. No, absolutely not. And the bottom line is she rated herself an eight. She thinks she's pretty. Okay. She's cute. She's cute. But you're not at the Beyonce level. You're not eight, nine and 10. Life has shown that you're at the five, six area. And because I could not get an accurate estimation of her physique, I will give her the benefit of the doubt and say that she had an average physique. But I do know what is such a full face. Men tend not to be drawn to full faced women, especially for lots of reasons. So what point do you ladies feel like you're going to have to start making? See, the problem we've gotten to is so many women feel like they're settling for being realistic. An average man is nothing to settle for. I got news for y'all. An average man is nothing to settle for. And I'm tired of hearing y'all talk about you'll be settling for that. You don't settle for an average man. You settle for a below average man. An average man is a catch. Just like an average woman is supposed to be the prize, right?