Are you someone that struggles with finding the right partner? Ever wondered what was missing? It could have something to do with "your picker" as Anna calls it. Dive a little deeper into what's going on with Anna aka Wingmam in this video.
Anna is a dating coach based in Vancouver, and loves to help people with dating advice and how to find love. For more exclusive content check out the links below.
How to fix your picker and stop picking fixer-uppers. You want to stop picking fixer-uppers because they are just going to give you pain and suffering. First of all, the reason we pick fixer-uppers is because we have broken hearts and they come from shitty childhood stories. Some of those stories are even true. But, we can change those stories. Beliefs create stories and stories create beliefs. If we want to have a better story, then we have to change our beliefs and we have to change our story; or at least the meaning behind the story. For example, because my dad died when I was really young, I used to go into relationships for sure thinking that I was going to get abandoned. But what happened instead, I actually was the one who bailed every single time. What I learned was that I actually just wasn’t picking the right guys. A lot of times, people who do have abandonment issues will either go for people who they know for sure will abandon them, or they will go for people who are just not right for them and they will have to be the ones that will have to haul ass. If you want to stop picking fixer-uppers, then we have to understand where our crappy childhood stories come from and change the meaning behind them. What I’d like to know from you is, what is a crappy childhood story that you’ve given meaning to that has affected your adult relationships, whether they are romantic or otherwise? Write a comment below and let me know what something is that has affected you and, if you’re really brave, how you might change the meaning behind it to something positive. If you like this video, click “Like”. If you want to be the first to receive new videos, click “Subscribe”. You can also join me on Facebook where we will continue the conversation and there will be a link below the video for my WakeUp2Luv program where I actually help you work through all this stuff so you can find love. Thanks for watching and see you in the next video.
DISCLAIMER: Anna is not a psychiatrist—no way—or medical advisor—nope—you are responsible for your actions and the results thereof. Such is life.