 You are currently watching this video because I have turned So in light of that we're gonna do something a little different for this video I am 30 days away currently from being 30. So for the next 30 days I'm going to film one life lesson that I've learned in the past 30 years So let's get rolling with number one The number one thing that will transform your entire life is diving into some form of self-development. Okay, hence this channel There are so many videos movies, books, audiobooks, podcasts, so many things out there that you can use to learn yourself better to improve your life Financially, spiritually, physically, emotionally, all the leads, okay So if you're not into self-development and you're not happy in your life get cracking toots All right, number two, stop begging and pleading for people to do things Sit back Allow them to show you their true colors and make your assessments and decisions from there Do you want someone, let's say, to commit to you in a relationship because you begged them to or because they want to? You know what I mean? So just allow people to be who they are and make your decision from there Number three, vulnerability is the most important component to any relationship I'm not talking about just a romantic relationship But with family, with friends, with anyone. If you don't have vulnerability Then you don't have the ability to truly trust that person Number four, words mean nothing Unless they are backed up by actions and look I am a words of affirmations girly, okay I get it words aren't amazing if that's how you receive love But if someone's saying something and their actions are not matching Doesn't matter who it is Doesn't matter. You have to learn and I learned this the hard way you have to learn to trust actions over words Number five the simplest way to a healthy and fit body where you look good and you feel good is Cutting out everything processed, okay cut out all processed foods including alcohol That's all you need to know stop calculating all your macros stop following all these crazy diets Stop doing all of this and just focus on the quality of the food that you're putting in your body and drink lots of water It's really it's really that simple guys Number six Invest in making your bedroom and or your home a peaceful sanctuary Okay, this is where you come to find solitude and feel comfortable and At your peace of mind. It's not something you have to do all at once, but piece by piece You can see here That's what I've cultivated for myself Number seven guys learn everything you can about financially investing and look I Was never taught anything about money and investing and things like that I took it upon myself to learn as much as I could about it even if you can only invest or put away $50 a month $30 a month. It doesn't matter. Just get in the habit of it We'll learn about it and it will compound start as early and young as you possibly can Alright number eight Be open-minded. There is nothing more that will keep you Insignation and stuck than being closed-minded and not allowing other opinions to and Not allowing your mind to kind of wrap around other opinions It is not hypocritical to change your mind upon new information Okay Instead of being so quick to get your point across get your opinion across when someone disagrees with you Listen to them understand where they're coming from and maybe you'll see But their opinion might be better than theirs Okay, our opinions are not who we are and it's time to stop defining ourselves by our opinions Number nine prioritize your relationships over everything I mean your friends your family your partner your kids whoever it may be because there is literally Nothing more important in this life than the people that we love, you know Who cares if you're having a great time and you're up late and you're laughing and you're with someone you love Oh, but you have work in the morning you school in the morning. You're gonna be tired Who cares? Okay, embrace that time alright and enjoy it with the people that you love Number ten help those in need whenever you can all right give the five dollars to the homeless man sponsor a kid sponsor a family Donate to that high school person that posted on Facebook that needs help with a go fund me You know what I mean? Just give back whenever you can it doesn't have to be anything crazy, but just understand that there are So many people in need and that if you were in those positions you would want help as well number 11 learn how to deal with conflict in a calm manner your respectable cursing the littling someone Raising your voice is not going to solve anything and to be honest. It's only only going to make you More low value. So just be calm think things through Respond and don't react Number 12 Journal it is just so incredible to look back at your growth your memories Everything in between I was never a journal there my entire life And in the last three years I've filled up about six You don't have to do it every day, but just when something that you want to remember pops up I promise it's worth it Number 13 Support your friends small businesses invest in their product buy their product at full price Or even just share it on social media because the thing is is if even if you're just sharing their stuff It's not costing you anything, but it will help them immensely Why are you supporting people? You don't know that have millions and billions of dollars, but not your own friends and family 14 Understand that your thoughts and your feelings control your entire reality your whole reality your whole life experience if you can learn how to Change those two things your thoughts and your feelings in conjunction with each other You will literally transform your entire life. It is an ongoing process. You have to do it every day, but And I promise you'll be so thankful for that 15 learn how credit cards work Learn how to utilize them correctly and you will learn to save Thousands of dollars get absolutely free money free hotels free flights like it is crazy How much people throw away by not utilizing credit cards properly? I'll post a video right here so you guys can check out how I've been using it for years I've never overspent on my credit card because of how strict I am with it And I And I literally have not paid for a flight in years. Okay, and I travel a decent amount That's thousands of dollars that I've saved by just learning and utilizing the correct credit card So I promised you guys just Do it. It's not scary if you do it the right way check out the video I'll post it in the description below and Get so free stuff, you know, get your free stuff Number 16 the person who cheated on you Who didn't respect you who abused you emotionally or physically? Or never chose to commit or never chose to commit to you is not your forever person Stop making up excuses for them and realize that you are meant to be chosen and respected and cherished and loved Number 17 learn to embrace and love your alone time. All right, most of the times when People don't like being alone like in general and I used to be that way trust me for most of my life it is because they are Running from and fearful of their thoughts, you know, they they don't want to be left alone They don't want to have those outside distractions because if that's the case, you know, then they never have to deal with it. So when you Embrace your alone time and you spend time with yourself That's how you face your demons. It's how you get to know yourself the best and it's how you heal All right, like it is so important if you're someone that hates being alone. I Would highly advise to dive in that you know what I'm doing right now It's Saturday night I'm alone, you know, all about my friends. Everyone's busy and I was like, hmm, what I want to do with my night. So I'm going to see barbie by myself I got my blanket and everything So don't be afraid of doing stuff like that you guys, right and take yourself out on a date Number 18 have a morning or night routine preferably both but have something that's Easy, it's simple. It makes you feel good. It could be 10 minutes 15 minutes. Whatever. This is Vital right nugget. This is vital for your mental health and to feel good and Peaceful throughout your day and to also go to bed tonight on a positive note I highly Highly recommend this. I have noticed that when I don't do my routines I get way more scatterbrained more anxiety and more stressed out and when I can really hone in and stick to this that So just do it even just start off with one start off with night or morning Get used to it get in the habit of it and then work your way into you know, the other the opposite one number 19 the things that scare you do those When you step out of your comfort zone, you will be shocked at just the Growth and the amount of beautiful life-changing things that can come your way number 20 You're not just going to Swear this hammock. It's just been so static lately. What is that? anyway, number 20 you're not just going to Wake up one day and just be happy all of a sudden. I think a huge misconception is that like Some people are just born happy and others aren't happiness is a choice and what I mean by that is it's it's a conscious choice and it's It's something that you can actually learn to develop and build over time You aren't destined to just be unhappy for the rest of your life with no way of changing it Okay, no matter what your background is or where you come from or what your play the playing cards that you were dealt with are 95% of my channel is Directed towards helping you Learn and heal and figure out different ways that you can find happiness and can be happy So I recommend checking this out and if you really do want to be a happier person Like genuinely like you want to feel good and you want to be positive and you just want to feel happy and at peace these 30 things this this list that I'm giving you is Gold you just have to actually listen to them and and implement them And that's really the the toughest part but as you continue to do that It's like it's like anything else where with practice these things get easier 21 you have so much more power over your life than you think you do and as soon as you Can take the blame? For all of those negative things. You will also Simultaneously take control back so that you can change those things you have the power within yourself 22 the true key to any healthy Happy successful relationship, and I don't mean just with a Romantic partner, but your friends and your family and even in a sense like your place of work your job or your career The number one key here To me is vulnerability Vulnerability Shows the other person One that you trust them to there is a sense of love and respect there and You really just can't get anywhere and build and deepen any type of relationship if you are not willing to Put your guard down and let other people in and I know I know Okay, I know it's scary But if you want to be closer to someone That is the That is the straight shot. That is the way to do it Okay, and the thing is is if it's not received well and the other person's end That's not on you that is on them And you are not meant to have a deeper relationship with that person if they can't handle it and or reciprocate that Vulnerability number 23. Let's be real here. We're not taught about Romantic relationships in school and honestly the majority of us Don't see an example of a healthy like really healthy relationship So what that means is we have to take it upon ourselves and do the research ourselves and and learn About relationships, you want to know why there are so many failed Relationships and divorces and and so many people cheating and all these horrible things that come with these romantic relationships It's because no one knows how to navigate them No one knows how to deal with them No one knows how to to to have the emotional intelligence to speak to their partner and and get their point across Right, but in a way that makes you on the same team as them and not an opposing an opposing team so this tip is to Research and learn all about relationships masculine and feminine energies Polarity all that kind of stuff and it will transform your relationships number 24 do shadow work learn where your limiting beliefs are your negative thought patterns your traumas when you dig deep and look it's not Easy work, but when you do this and you understand Why you have these thoughts and beliefs and traumas and where they come from That is when you can truly start to transform them and heal them and Become the person that you want to be that you know deep down you are Okay, but these things are are blocking you and We can't unblock them, right unless we know what they are So if you haven't heard of shadow work before I highly recommend looking into it like I said it is It's not an easy thing to do But if there is one thing that I've done on my not only spiritual journey, but just in this whole realm of self-development This single thing has been the most Transformative and beneficial for my own growth and my own happiness. Okay, isn't that what we're all about here? Shadow work number 25 Understand you do not need to be tied to one career your entire life. Okay taking opportunities and risks when they present themselves is going to be Absolutely key to your growth. Okay, I wish more people understood this because Not that serious I've changed career paths five six times and Sure, like some of them haven't worked out, but they've all led me to where I am now Right and I wouldn't have Grown the way I have I wouldn't have become Successful the way that I have if I hadn't taken those risks and if I had tied myself into this one career box Okay, so just Chill out if you're not happy with your line of work You do something about it. Seriously, you can always go back. So just do it number 26 Stop dating for potential and date for face value People will show you and tell you exactly who they are. It is up to you To listen to that and to decipher it life is way too short to be wasting your precious time on the wrong people So will you take this person as they are right now in this moment? Or are they not giving you what you truly need and what you truly desire out of a relationship? number 27 and who would I be if I didn't mention this on my list of 30 because if you watch my channel I do bring it up a lot because it's oh, it's so important and it's really I See my life fluctuate a lot whether I am or not practicing this and that is gratitude I'm telling you guys. I what when people think of gratitude. I think There's a misconception of thinking that it's like has to be this big grand thing whereas if You wake up in the morning and I suggest doing this in the morning. It takes literally 30 seconds Okay, you can still be in bed when you do it like I am and You give gratitude for three things in your life. It can be the big things It can be you know the home that you live in it can be the people in your life It can be your career your job your car or whatever it can be Just the feel of your bed Right, it can be. I'm so grateful that I live in This in this nature like seriously though like how frigging stunning Is this backyard? I'm grateful for every day. It's so beautiful and I'm telling you guys like When I am not practicing gratitude and not doing this this these statements in the morning. I Do notice my mental health and my happiness simultaneously just Plummeting and when I do practice this consistently It's it's literally life-changing and so I had to just Put this in this video and I want to show you guys a really easy way because sometimes we can forget, right? We can forget to do these little practices and so I want to show you real quick What I do so that I don't forget to do this now you kind of just put in your phone Obviously, if you're really good at making habits You can do it that way too, but what I do is I Made sure that I could not Forget and so what I did is I put it Where is it right here? Right on my bathroom mirror so that every time I come into my bathroom I see I am so grateful for blank and all I do Is I just fill it in fill the like I'm so grateful for this bathroom, right? I am so grateful for anything. It can be little things and try to come up with different things Every day it can be different people. It can be different items It can be for yourself and for your own self-development You go you can be grateful for the fact that you took the time to watch this video and Maybe take a few things from it to improve your life. Okay, so Don't forget number 28 move Seriously walk And we'll jump to you Walk exercise dance every damn day or at least those days is not just about Looking good, right? I mean, that's a huge perk to it. Obviously, but if you Move your body you will feel amazing. I'm telling you I've been an athlete my entire life. I have Ran track. I have been a competitive gymnast a cheerleader I've been lifting in the gym for almost 12 years now 11 years I don't know and I can guarantee you that throughout these last 30 years. I feel so much better I just feel great on the days that I move my body to stop making excuses and just do it If you're just starting out just start slow Go on a 15 20 minute walk around your neighborhood every day and just gradually work your way up And I promise like not only will you look better, but you will just feel so good and I want you guys to feel good, you know number 29 learn your personal balance learn when to push yourself to go out with people you enjoy and When you want to stay home learn to know the difference of When you want to when you don't want to go to the gym of when to say yes I'm going anyway and when to know to give your body the rest that it needs I have always been prone to linking my my worth and my value to my Accomplishments and my productivity and I think unfortunately a lot of us do that. This is something that I have been working on for About two years and while it's still present from time to time. I will say that this one thing has really given me the ability to Help me on my journey to inner peace. So I would definitely suggest finding your personal balance and Lastly number 30 in a world filled with social media and filters and highlight reels and all these things it may seem like Everyone has it together, but you but that is the furthest thing from the truth Okay, we all fight battles that no one else is anything about you were created to be you and not anyone else So love yourself embrace who you are and lastly be limitlessly