 Age, city, gender, in the chat room. Nothing can stop you, but you're self-cackin' lacka. You said you're city, you gave me your state. Follow instructions, people. Come on. I want to shout out to city. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome back. Oh, we're starting the Monday off right. We're going to get it fired up in this mug because, whew, ain't no party like a godfather party because a godfather party don't stop. Man, oh man, hopefully you guys had a good weekend. I know I did. I caught up on some much-needed rest yesterday because it keeps moving, keeps pushing over here on this side. So, here's what we're going to get into. Moderators. Simple. Simply put, people in the chat room understand something. There are going to be plenty of people on the show. Some people you may not like. All I ask is you guys to be respectful of one another. That's it. Be respectful of one another and respect the rules of my platform. Meaning, if you disagree with somebody, leave them alone. You don't have to talk to one another. You don't have to interact with one another. There are going to be women over here. There are going to be men over here because I said it last week and I'm going to say it again. This high value thing ain't going to stop. So, for the men who got their panties in a bunch, and at this point I'm starting to call the guys out. If you got your panties in a bunch, it ain't my fault that you don't like what you are in life. Fix it. It ain't my fault. You don't like what you are in life as a person. Fix it. But don't complain about the system. And one thing that I found out Friday is something I've always known, but I wanted everybody else to be able to see that the issue with high value is twofold for a lot of men. One, because they can't wish it. What's going on? 51% Diego went in the house because they can't wish it. They just can't wish upon a star and make themselves high value. A lot of guys are in the mirror telling themselves, I'm the man, I'm the shit, I'm the this, I'm the that. But when they walk out in the house, don't nobody know them. Don't nobody know them and if they disappeared off the planet tomorrow, who would miss them? And that's what bothers a lot of men. Living a life of insignificance. And all I'm saying is recognize it and change it. Don't bitch about it. I'm seeing a lot of complaining and bitching on YouTube from grown chronologically grown men. So, one, a lot of the guys try to rejigger high value to include them when they haven't been there their entire life. It's like trying to get to your senior year in high school and all of a sudden decide you want to be the valedictorian. Well, you haven't done the work. The best you could do is graduate with honors. Number two, and arguably the least significant but the biggest problem was with money. I got news for you guys. $10,000 a month is the low number. Guys, there are people who make that in an afternoon. I know people on YouTube that make $100,000 in a day. I said Bella Thorne made $2 million just launching an OnlyFans page. So, if you got a problem with $10,000 a month, you're not even going to fit into this conversation. There are only a couple of people that I talked to Friday that I actually seem like they kind of got it. And it wasn't these people trying to make this broke argument, that moralistic principle argument that has never been high value. High value separates itself from the pack. And that's what we're going to talk about. Because see what I realize is many men and even into this degree women have an issue with some of these things because they are not satisfied with their current value. That's fine. So that's where we're going to go. Instead of just hammering the static concept of high value, we're going to talk about the dynamic thing about increasing your value. Turn that some bitch sideways. And somebody made me, I'm a PhD sound. And then the next thing is, yeah, increasing your value. That's what we're going to get on, increasing your value. See, you want to really see people at their worst take their hope away. And I'm in my platform, I'm not about taking anybody's hope away, but I got to get into this. Appreciate you, fam. Profit overweight. I got to get into the program. Here's what I need you guys to understand as we go forward. If you don't like the concept of ranking, keeping score, this isn't a platform for you because we're on the young men, young women increasing their value. We're on the, I want to talk to the hit squad. And I need to define some terms. You're going to hear me mention the term Henry a lot. Henry, Henry. Henry simply stands for high earner, not rich yet. And men and women can both fall into this category. Let's say a Henry, he's 25 to 20, 25 to 28 years old, making about 70 to $85,000. That's good money anywhere in this country outside of New York City. You know, you know what I'm talking about. 20, 25 to 28 making 70, 70 to $85,000. That's a high earner for his age. But he's not going to be rich on that. And the presumption is he's continuing to, he or she, they're continuing to increase their income year over year. They're not just getting 3% raises. We're talking about people who are getting money in chunks, 10% increases. And here, who are the people that do this? People who are in sales, who can control their income? And people who are in professional standpoints. You don't get rich working for somebody else. Let me dispel you right this. You don't get rich as an employee. You don't get rich as an employee. You make other people rich. The deal is as an employee, you exchange your time, skillset and expertise in exchange for their systems, their security and their exposure. And if you were smart, you will go in and negotiate the highest money you could get and go in and learn the most you can about the business of what you do and then leave and do it for yourself. You don't get rich as an employee. And far too many guys want to get rich as workers. Rich comes from ownership. And the very few professions outside of ownership allow you to make enough money to separate yourself from the pack. Law, medicine, sales. There may be some other ones in there, but that's it for the most part. So when you're a Henry, are high earning not rich yet? How do you continue to increase your value? That's what we're going to be talking about. That's for the men and for the women, it's a different, the value equation is different. But for the most part, I'm going to be focused on this increase your value thing, two separate tracks, 18 to 34 and then 35 plus. And I'm going to lump the men and women into a group together. Men 18 to 34 have different motivations than men 35 plus over 35. You pretty much are where you decided to be. And if you're not willing to make some wholesale major moves post 35, get content and happy with where you are. All right. So if you type in all caps, you will get blocked. You don't get to type any more than like 10 characters in all caps. Understand something. Software developers. Okay. Um, well, let me, let me say this law. Medicine. Tech. Sales. That should cover enough. Law. Medicine. Tech. Sales. Then on the. I call a Blake. I break Henry's into two categories. My white collar, which is law, medicine, tech, sales. And then my blue Henry's blue collar men have the quickest way to becoming, um, high value, not white collar because you can get into ownership faster in blue collar skill trade, electrician, plumber, HVAC technician, roofing, uh, truck driver, but you cannot remain in a solopreneur. You must build a business. You must build a business and then employ people. What is wrong with you folks calling me? I swear to God, here's the thing. I'm going to start keeping people's numbers who call me during the day during my show. And I'm going to one, I'm going to keep you down. I'm going to block you. I don't want to talk to you if you call me during my show. You're too. That's dumb. All right, but you call me during my show. You're not somebody I want to talk to work with anything because it's just outright rude. So for the person who just called me for whatever reason you called, understand you broke, you broke protocol. And, and Dennis, and, and, and I'm going to tell you honestly, guys, that's how the world goes. When you're trying to work your way up to high value, it's a lot about your social skills because the group acceptance is the quickest way for a guy who's got middle value to get to high. Somebody pulls you up. I would say the majority of guys who are high value have a story where somebody decided to pull them up and give them a shot. And they just looked at them and said, you look like you kind of got what it takes. Here's the thing. Blue Henrys. These are guys who never wear a suit to work, but it's not because they don't look good in the suit. They're just environments aren't suit driven. But these are my guys who can be in logistics, oil and gas, or the skilled trades to name a few. Ownership happens quicker over here because you get into your subject matter quicker than in white collar. In white collar, you got to do a lot of shit jobs as a junior or an account executive and work your way up. Dual tracks, but either way, there comes a point in white collar or blue collar where you have to leave the companies you work for. When I was working, when I worked for mobile, when I worked for MCI who is no longer around, I cut my teeth in telecommunications years ago and that entire industry evaporated. But the skills I learned there are continuing to pay dividends right now. So what is the point of increasing your value? Because increasing your value does two things primarily for guys. You increase your opportunities and you increase your options. So thank you to the Godfather for giving tech a shout out. Yeah, because increasing your opportunities right now, there are people right now that the pandemic is making new millionaires. Because they can't go into the office and because they have a particular skill set that lends to them being able to work in this digital landscape and become more effective at a distance. So to all my introverts, understand something. If you listen to what I tell you and just learn some of the basic things about EQ, you can separate yourself from your co-workers and your competitors and fast track. That's what I did. That's what a lot of guys do. Okay, let's get the likes up, man. There are 2,400 people in here. 2,500 people in here. We got to get it moving. What kind of sales job? Another thing, guys, I need to also explain something to you guys. If you want to talk to me one-on-one, you're going to have to pay for it. Don't send me an email saying, hey, I would love to pick your brain. I would love to talk to you. You're going to have to pay for my time. One of the key things in this whole high value thing is learning that you're going to have to sacrifice anywhere you go. You're going to have to invest in coaching. You're going to have to do crap jobs, work long hours, stop looking for the fast, track, quick. You're going to have to worry about the long, slow, deferred gratification. All the things you hear, and anybody who's been successful will tell you a lot of these things. And trying to work around or do it for a cheat or get over on somebody is the quickest way to make your name mud with people who could really help you. Because I will tell you, these guys talk. And if you think you're going to hustle somebody, like, oh man, nah. So here's the thing. High value. So stay on track. Henry's, high earner is not rich yet. That goes for men and women. And the difference between the Henry's and the previous generations, the previous generations were waiting to live life after retirement. These generations are wanting to live life now. The key is balance. The key is balance, in my opinion. You can still plan for the future and live a good life now. Because today, many people aren't getting married as early and they're not having as many kids. So it's different. But you got to realize the most important thing in high value is understanding time is the most important thing you have. Time is the most important thing you have. Money, resources, power, status, influence, network, gravitas. These are some components of increase. These are some components that you want to increase. Now understand something. I'm an image consultant. I'm an image consultant. And yes, I have a successful guy because I've tried many things and I failed a lot. But as an image consultant, I deal in reality. Reality, outcomes. I don't deal in theory and what could happen. You notice that a lot on my show. I'm always talking about outcomes, outcomes, outcomes. Reality. I don't deal in what could be or what should be. I don't deal in principled arguments. So in my world, things are very black and white, which makes gray. Which is what you see me wear a lot of times. Black, white, but most of the time you see me in a gray pinstripe suit. If you watch The Game of Thrones, I'm going to give you some ideas. Tywin Lannister, the house of Lannister, in the real world would have run that show. J.R.R. Martin made that show to where, or the book to where he died. In the real world, they would have been the Medici's. They would have been the Roosevelt's, the Rockefellers. They would have gone on and on and on. So I'm going to go into the alternate universe for the Lannisters. And I'm going to make them black. Because I'm black. I'm going to make them black. And we're going to call them the Lancasters. Now we're just calling them Lannisters. And that can still be white. It doesn't matter. But here's the point. Tywin Lannister was never trying to be the king. He was concerned about power. Power and influence. One thing that made Tywin powerful is he never sought the top job. Too many of you guys trying to be high value, you want to be the number one. You want to be a king, especially black guys. You want to be the one out in front. And I'm sorry, the market gets to the side. The market gets to the side who's out in front. And there's only one lead singer. Think about the five heartbeats. Everybody's fighting over the microphone. No, no. You want to own the studio and the music and the masters. Damn, own the microphone. There's always some new star. Be the hand behind the throne or the ear of power. There would have gone on and on and on and on in the real world. And that's the OG. That's a truly high value man. You know how he's a high value man? Because even as crazy as Joffrey was, King Joffrey, when Tywin Lannister spoke, Joffrey shut his sadistic self up. Tywin Lannister was so cold that when Joffrey as king, I am the king. And going off and dead, he said, I mean, he was roasting Tywin, right? He was capping on him. He was calling him all kind of sissies and fags and this and that and punks and wearing purses and all those other kinds of stuff. And what did Tywin Lannister say? I think the king is tired. That was it. I am not tired. I think the king needs some rest. And then his mother, the queen, the maester jumped up. Every powerful person in that kingdom at that table moved on Tywin Lannister saying, I think the king is tired. Maester, maybe some essence of nightshade to help him sleep. Tywin Lannister put the king to a freaking bed. King had the mic right. Tywin understood power and Joffrey understood power. And power lays where the people put it. Joffrey was the king, but nobody ever mistook where power was. So Tywin Lannister. And in my version of Game of Thrones, Jamie Lannister would not have gone to the knight's guard or the king's guard. French toast that. He would have been right under his father, as he should have been, as an apprentice, learning how to do what he should have done. Remember when Jamie was in Tywin Lannister's tent and Tywin was skinning a deer or something like that? And he was saying, I need you to become the man you should have been. Jamie Lannister was born into a position of power and principle and influence, but he threw it all away. But in my telling of Game of Thrones, Jamie Lannister will continue to move on. That's the guy who was born under a father who could teach him something. But I also need to move you into another world, the little fingers of the world. In my version, little finger would have kept on living. In my world, Varys wouldn't have been snipped. In my world, you'd have had Jamie's, you'd have had Varys's, and you'd have had little fingers. And they all would have been high value. I mean, Henry's in training. They were all vying for the next step. And there were three different ways of doing that. There are multiple ways, but there were three different ways. Little finger, traffic, and information. Varys trafficked in secrets. And Jamie was an accomplished man who actually had the outward trappings of power, but he still needed to learn some things. Now, in the real world, you know, that's not to get too far of that. So basically, this is how I think about things. You understand who Tywin is. You understand who Jamie was. You understand who Little Finger and Varys. Those are the people who ran, what was it called? Westeros. Millions of people. King's Landing. A million people in that city run by a handful of people. Like I said, high value men have always been worth. Can non-select men be high value? Varys was non-select. You don't get much more non-select than no fun bits. But anybody want to dispute his value? I'm sorry, I miss Tyrion. My bad. Tyrion. You had Jamie who had the jawline. Jamie didn't have the discipline. In my world, Jamie would have not gone to Kingsguard, but he would have had to stand back. But Tyrion was born the direct opposite. A dwarf with a mentality. And in my world, those two would have worked together to surpass Tywin. Because they wouldn't have gone and done the cane and able. They'd have worked together. Jamie would have been the front man. Tyrion would have been the guy behind. They loved each other as brothers. And they wouldn't have fought. They would have worked together to say, this is how we do this. No one will ever accept me as a dwarf and as an ugly little sawdough to do this king. But I will be your hand. Brother, you will be the king and we will run this shit. Not only will we run Westeros, we'll go take Easteros. We'll go make dragons. Why is this important? Because you... Little finger and various show you that you can increase your value. Tyrion and Jamie show you that even if you were born into it, it's not a guarantee that you're going to maintain it. It comes down to choices. So, increasing your value. Let me go a very high level. For women, increasing your value. There are some things that are important for women. And one of the most important things for women is understanding that even though you're the queen, you're still the king's wife. Your value is in the ability to keep a high value man. I'm sorry that you don't like that. But that's how the world looks at it. And again, I deal in reality. You can be an accomplished woman, but if you're 40 unmarried, no children, the world looks at you as something's wrong. You are judged heavily on the caliber of man you can keep. Not get, not deal with, but keep. So, career path, some of the things that high value men tend to look for on women. They don't want women to compete with them. I mean, rarely will you find a high value man that wants a power couple kind of thing. Sure they may exist, but in general, if they exist, they're different. Most high value men want women to play their wife role. The feminine role. Or if she has a career path or calling, it's something that she can do from home or from a home office. Doesn't want her out there in, up under another man's leadership. Let's just be real with it. So ladies, are you doing anything right now? What you going to college for? You need to go, if you were going to college, go to college to get a degree in something that you can work a business from home. Accounting is a good one. Accounting is a good one. Marketing is another one. Graphic design, I mean, what can you start a home-based business and make $50,000 a year at? Home-based. That you can make $50,000 a year in your 20s. Bring that out. And while you're doing that, you need to make sure you have a level of sophistication. A sophisticated woman is a fantastic conversationalist. She engages and listens intently to others. She also listens more than she speaks. Listening more than you speak, sophistication ladies, learn it. This will literally make or break you when involved or around high-value men or IV men or hit squad. So IV movement, increase value movement, increase your value. So I'm going to just say, hashtag IV. So increase value, but it's really increased your value. The IV movement. So we're talking about increasing your value. Ladies, increase your ability. Increase your level of sophistication. Increase your level of etiquette. Learn your way around the dinner table around dinner parties, around any place or anything that men of the caliber that you want would be at or would live at. Learn these things. I've talked about being feminine, beautiful, inspirational. We already know that. But ladies, you also have to be two other things. You have to be fit. Fit and flexible. Fit and flexible. Flexible in your mentality, flexible in your attitude, flexible in your body. So, ladies, don't skip the yoga and the Pilates. Yoga, Pilates, cycling, swimming, all these things are your friends. Resistance training, strength. Men love flexible and fit women. Stylish and simple. Stylish and simple, ladies. This is more. Knock off the outrageous colors. The outrageous makeup. Personally, I don't like, I don't deal with any women that have wild color hair. Really extravagant fingernails. I'm a French tip manicure dude, yes. French tip manicure, light makeup, lip gloss. Very much a simple stylish. Thank you very much. Chanel, Yves Saint Laurent, Tom Ford. Those are some brands. I'm not a Versace and those broad colors. Simple. Now, depending on the kind of man you want, you need to know what kind of woman he wants. But simple and stylish will always work for 80% of people. Well-spoken, no cursing. Ladies, get rid of all the foul language in your vocabulary. There's only one time a woman should say the word, uh, fuck. And it should be in the bedroom immediately by followed by me. You should never say the word. I shouldn't even have to say these things. Cursing? A lady? No thank you. Nope, ever. Nope, none. Zero. Zip, zilch, nada. Not even amongst your girlfriends. Because it'll slip up in public. Foul mouth women, lower their value. Because if you think, Roger, if you think Bradley, Amir, Keter and Ike want to have their woman out and about and someone hears her cursing like a sailor and they get back to him and his group, it's going to make him look bad. Again, you're about him. You'll make a bad look for him. Oh, you mean I don't have a life? Uh, no. Not if you want to be a high-value man's wife, no. Or long-term, whatever you call a long-term commitment. Tats, tattoos. I'm not a big fan of tattoos, but tattoos need to be covered in a formal. So be able to be covered in a formal dress. So a lady should be able to go sleeveless and backless. Because she's flexible and fit, right? I would say that's for 90% of guys. There are about 10% of guys out there that fit in the category of men. 10% of a very small number of men. But I have to ask you, ladies, is having a half sleeve, even if it's the most artful thing done, is it important enough to miss out on a potential man? Because it's already a very small group. But even as we're talking about increasing your value, you decrease your value by marking up your body. I will tell you right now, I've seen women here in Atlanta that I was like, ooh, dang, she looks the part. And then I'm, get up on her, and next thing you know, tattoo on your leg, on your back. I mean, even here on YouTube, there are women that I think are really attractive. But I'm like, dang, why would you get a tramp stamp across your lower back? I mean, that seemed cute when you had, but no, it's not cute at 40 years old. But I want no tattoo on your 40-year-old back. All right, we're going to open it up, man. We need to get these likes up because if we don't, man, we're going to, guess what we're going to have? Guess what we're going to have? Uh-huh. Get my likes up. Y'all thought I was kidding, man. Only 1,000 likes. Are you serious? Shout out to the Lancasters in New Yorks. That's right, buddy. All right, let me see. Let me get down to the last question. Somebody asked, lifestyle asks, how does one balance life and still attend to wifey? Well, wifey attends to you. Okay, how do you balance life and attend to wifey? Let me tell you. That's a misunderstanding that many of us have, especially were raised by our mothers. Wife is a help me. She's attending to you. You are... See, somebody, I did a video and I'm going to do it this week. Can we both be the prize? No, you can't. Wives need to attend to their husbands. Women command time. No, they don't. Women are grateful for the time that they have with you. We are in very different positions. Call in. All right, so... And those are some basic things for ladies to increase your value. Any woman across any board should be able to benefit and increase her value by these things. You know, being well-spoken, you know, no cursing. You know, some guys want women to be more well-read, more... more versed in current events. But generally, you want to be agreeable and easy to engage. When people are around you, people should feel light. Engaging and enacting you should not make a man feel heavy. All right, and it's for men. Some general bullet points for men. For men, first off, a lot of reason people are upset with this high-value thing is because men and women are questioning their value and because people are asking them value questions. That's why people are a little upset with this, because they're questioning their own value. Men are questioning their value. Women are questioning their own value. And honestly, people are starting to question that. And the thing is, if you're not happy with your value, you don't want to talk about it. But I would think if you're not happy with your value, talking about it should be at least their problems. If you're not happy, do something about it. For men, one of the first things, in no particular order, but I will say one of the first things a man needs to get, they need to do two things at the same time. You need to get a group, a personal and a professional group. Successful men travel with successful men. One of the reasons I was able to ascend the way I did through corporate America is because I ascended with a group. I'm not going to say the people's names, but D, J, C, J, D, G, C, P, M, B. Those six people, those six people and I, seven of us, went from company to company to company. And when one of us moved, we all moved. Seven people going at one target together, rising tide lifts all boats. Stop being a lone wolf. When you work in a company, stop trying to be a lone wolf. And this is the problem. This is why so many of you will never raise your value. You're trying to do it on your own. You're trying to be Tesla, and you need to be Edison. You need to get a group. People like you, people want to do stuff for you. Being right, principled and moral, only makes you a loser if you don't have the other components. You can be right, principled and moral, and a winner. See, it's not an either or thing. That's number two. Life is and. It's not either or. It's and. You need a group. You need a personal group and a professional group. Maybe those groups are the same, but generally they're different. And then you need a high value mindset. A high value mindset automatically goes looking for the hard path. It does not try to do the hard things, though. You don't go and try to reinvent the wheel. You take what's already working and you improve on it. How foolish would it be for somebody to sit back and say, hey, I see something that's working right now, but I'm going to do something completely opposite? Or would it make more sense to say, I'm going to take what's already working and improve upon that? That's what smart, working smarter, not harder. But see, this way feeds your ego. Oh, but you're going to have to check that ego. Because you're not going to ascend higher. You're going to cap yourself at your ego because there's a lot of eating shit you're going to have to do as you try to become a high value man. As you try to increase your value, there's a lot of eating shit because you're going to have to sit in Atlanta in a jammy position, in a Tywin position, in a little finger position, in a various position to Tywin Lannister. You're going to have to sit in a Tyrion position. I'm sorry. You're going to have to shut up and do what Tywin says. Even if you think he's wrong because he's the man. And other groups seem to get this, and guys who can do this, who can learn to eat shit, shut up, tend to learn the EQ skills necessary to move up and deal with other men of value. Get a group, it's a mindset. Then there's also a fitness component. Guys, you've got to be an athlete for life. You can't get to be 350 pounds, type 2 diet. Come on, man, you've got to be a fitness. You've got to get fit. You don't have to be a muscle-bound weightlifter, but you need to be fit, functional muscle. You need to add work, keep your core tight, flexibility, eat a healthy, balanced diet. There's a fitness component. There's also several things you need to master. You need some martial mastery. Dude, you need to learn how to get your hands and your feet calibrated. See, one thing I never really talk about is my martial arts background. Trust me, I learned early on that I'm going to have a lot of fights on my hands with guys. Early on, I realized that there were guys who were going to be upset with me, jealous of me, not like me, because I had curly hair and women like me. Because women liked me. I just put it right out there. Guys were going to be mad because women liked me and I was smart. So I wasn't just a good-looking guy in a dumb ass. So I was smart. So I knew I was going to have a lot of jealous haters. So guess what? I started Taekwondo early and I knocked several motherfuckers out quick. So it got around that you ain't going to be punking me. I was thin, lighting the ass, but I would knock you to fuck out. The word got around OKC real quick. Mess with him if you want to. He will beat your ass and take your girl and ain't nothing changed. Why do you need martial mastery? First off, as the man, you shouldn't want anything you can't defend and protect. Number two, people are going to try you and you don't want to end up getting yourself into a situation that you can't defend yourself, that you need a gun, some sort of weapon all the time. You're a punk. I listen to guys all the time, I'll cap you at least, you're pussy. Straight up pussy. Men who really know how to take care of themselves aren't looking for trouble, but they know how to handle it and that's what it comes down to. And there's a confidence that comes with knowing if I have to, I don't want to, but if I have to, I won't hesitate to make you puke blood. I don't go looking for trouble. I never have. You guys have heard me throw out that I was a bouncer before and I fought full contact, but I don't talk about it because I don't need to pound my chest about it. But even some of my friends in my real life have been surprised when they've gone around my martial friends and they realize, oh, you friends, he knows this, my best friend from childhood, the first time he saw me fighting in a tournament, he was like, oh, he's like, I better stop talking shit to you. I was like, he was joking, but he was kind of serious because he was like, I never knew. I'm like, what do I do? Run around with a Daniel Son headband around, doing jump spinning, crashing kicks. That shit ain't real. Martial mastery. Because you need to be able to take care of yourself. Number one and number two, the sheer confidence that comes with knowing, all right, okay, say whatever you want as long as you don't cross this line. And not having just the confidence that comes with that is hard to explain. The confidence with knowing that you don't have to bark loud, you can just say what you need to say and then just move through life. You don't even have to respond to everything. Someone decides to test you and you know, beyond a shot of a doubt, you can make them really pay for it. You're more concerned with them than you are with you. When you really master something, you're not, you're more afraid of what they're going to have to live with than what's going to happen to you. You may get punched or hit, but you're going to break something. Something's going to, something's going to really be wrong with them going forward. And see, today people don't take butt-whoopers like they used to. So, walking and keeping yourself out of trouble, checking that ego that I said early on is a big portion of becoming high-value. A lot of guys deter themselves of value because their ego's out of control. They can't shut up. They always got to be right. They always wanted to fight and they think they're the baddest and they're not. And they stay in lower-level stuff and they never can ascend past their ego. Because the guys that are up here that would work with them are like, ah, no. Hothead, troublemakers, bad for business. Mastery in something else. What are you a master of? When I was in sales, my goal was to become a top-sales professional president's club. I wanted to be a top-closer. A, B, C. Always be closing. I wanted to go... I wanted to be so good that when my competitors from other companies realized that we were in on the bid, I wanted them to say, shit. Who's running lead on the account? Kevin Samuels. Shit. That's what I wanted. I wanted my competitors to know that if you're going up against me, I will kick your fucking ass. And you know what? It made them better and it made me better. When your competition is trying to hire you away, you've done something. What have you mastered? You cannot increase your value being average at your profession. You need to increase something that is valuable and useful to others. Being good at stamp collecting or Magic the Gathering or Yu-Gi-Oh or Pokemon or 2K... Now, let me take 2K in a guards' way. Because you can in eSports. But in general, being good at something that's a hobby, it's not what I'm talking about. What is your chosen profession? And are you good? Are you a master at it? This is where you separate yourself from the group when you work with someone. When you work with someone and they say, well, you know, here are the top accounts. This is an account we need to assign that to Kevin. Here's an account. Here's a territory we need to open and gain market share in. And it's a difficult... We need to bring Kevin up from Dallas to do that. You know, we need to bring Kevin from Dallas to New York to take over this problem. Not to maintain it when it's working, when it's in the mud and fucking broken, we need this person. Woo, I'm getting excited. Because this is what it is. This is how you raise your value. Oh, yeah, Yu-Gi-Oh. Oh, yes, brother. Troop-Doop-Scoop. That was my dad. Okay. Raising your value. That means always work. And then another thing. This is where what you think of yourself matters. Affirmations. Affirmations. You have to tell yourself where I am right now and where I'm going to be. You got to remind yourself this is temporary. When you're getting up early doing shit jobs, this is temporary. And you're out doing, when you're out working at Walmart or you're doing a shit job waiting tables in your city to make cash money to fund your side hustle that's turning into a real business. So you leave in your job to go wait tables and everybody sees, well, wait a minute. You're waiting tables and you see people that you know and that you would have respect for and you got to go take the order. You want me to tell you something? Go who? Hmm. Go have to take the order of a woman or a man that you would like to impress or a woman you would like to date. You looking good on Suit Saturday. Walk my smell like Roger Dove and that. Then on Tuesday, she goes into the restaurant and you're her server. Can you walk out with your head up? Will you let that, how would that mess with you? If it does, go back to step two. You need to high value mindset. Remember, I'm here for a reason. And it's short term. It doesn't define you. So why is this important? Because the things you have to do along the way don't fuck with you. Oh, man. So I laugh when people talk shit about me because I was like, you ain't... Don't say it, don't say it, don't say it. The things you have to do along the way are a testament to how strong you really are. See, weak men couldn't do it. The ego would fuck with them. The pride would fuck with them. They couldn't let nobody see them looking bad. What? Go work at this after... You want me to go to my job from eight to five, you know, looking this way, and then you want me to go after work to put on the uniform? Oh, no, man. I mean, I want the money, and I know it'll be short term, but I couldn't have nobody see me doing that. You ain't ready. You ain't ready. That's why being high value is so damn important. It's so valuable because all the things that come along with it, it ain't the money. It's not the flash. It's not the gravitas. It's the things that it took for you to make yourself something. You were not born high value. You make yourself high value. You make yourself demand. Made men... First generation high value is a choice. So, Tywin Lannister made himself, and he made a path for his son, Jamie, and in our world, Tyrion would have had a path as well. What are you going to fit in? Ladies, your path is different than a man's path, but the thing is, we all have a chance to increase our value. And therein lies the final fig leaf. Forget the fact that you don't like the way I define high value. Forget the fact that you don't like the fact that I say, you need to do this or do that. Okay, are you happy with your value? If you're happy with your value, then you should not have one thing to say about anything I talk about. If you're truly happy with your value and your position, but the reality is, most people are not happy with their position. And instead of increasing their value, they want to change the rules and change the definitions. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. All right. So, we're going to be talking about how to increase your value, but now I want us all to be on the same page that increasing your value is important. Today's monologue was a little bit longer than most, because I needed to set the table for things going forward. Things going forward are about the IV movement, increasing your value. Increasing your value. I forgot Ms. Tierra. So anyway, we're back. The link's up in the description. Ladies, call in. Guys, you can call in too. Here's the thing. Keep it short. Keep it concise. Ask a question. And get out. Ask a question and get out. Go ahead and unmute yourself. Go ahead and unmute yourself. Hello. Yes. What's your question? I'm 22 years old. Okay. And I recently just moved out of my mother's house. And got a job, a full-time job. And I'm debating going back to school. But I just wanted to ask you a question. How do you, should I get another job and maybe work so that I can pay the bills? Or should I just divide my time in between work and school? What would you go to school for? So I'm going to school for an associate's degree and then try to transfer over to get a bachelor's degree. And what? Area of study? Business communications. Nope. Don't go to school for that bullshit. Okay. That's a bullshit degree. It's just debt. Meaning a bullshit degree in that it doesn't buy you anything these days. What do you want to do with yourself? Were you raised with your dad? Um, yes. I did have a dad growing up, yeah. That sounds kind of shaky. Okay. At 22 years old, you're young. You don't know what you want to do. You need to work a lot. The main thing you need to do is work your ass up. I need you working 12 to 16-hour days. I need you coming home to shower, sleep, and shit. That's it. Shower, sleep, and shit. I need you dealing with women 5% to 7% of your week. Period. And I need you to do that. For the next 10 years. And then after that, you can decide what you want to do when you grow up. No offense. But you got to try a lot of things. In your 20s, I mean, how long have you watched me? I've been watching you for about a month now. One of the things you probably should have noticed is I talk about doing a lot of stuff because I tried a lot of stuff in my 20s. And I didn't stop. I didn't stop. I didn't stop. I didn't stop doing stuff in my 20s. And I didn't stop. So moving out of your mother's house, the first thing you need to do is you need to go listen to this broadcast again. Because I talked about some of the things that I did and some of the things that I knew that I know lots of other successful men have done. The group is important. You got to get around a bunch. You got to get around a lot of like-minded men that are going to push you. You don't need content friends. You don't need John Madden football friends. You need people who are going to law school, medical school, who are starting businesses, who are talking about investments. You need people who are going to go out of their house and be like, shit! You see that car? You can be like, fuck! You can be like, damn! Those are the kind of people you need to be around. And then another part, the money you would spend in business management or whatever, that's where the coaching comes from, man. There's a lot. But here's the thing. It all starts with money. You got to get your earnings up. Earnings are the first part to start increasing your overall skills to become more valuable in the marketplace. Got it? Yeah. I got to get on to the next caller. So make it quick. So yeah, I hear what you're saying and I agree with that about the business communications and sort of BS. I mean, right now I'm working in junk removal. So I do see, I go into people's homes and there are men who have businesses and they're doing fine for themselves. I just don't know how to get there without a bachelor's degree. I don't see it being realistic. Well, hold on. So you think just a guy going to get 70% of entrepreneurs in this country don't have degrees? I just showed you you don't know enough. You need to study success. Go study successful men and just because they have a house you need to ask the questions. This is what I mean by 22. You need to, you need more experience. But college has never been a way to get rich. If you're gonna go to college you need to go science, engineering, technology, math, some sort of professional thing. You need to make money for other people. This way you're going to college to get an average degree from an average school to do average work to go with a $50,000 year job. You ain't buying shit with that. Alright. Thank you. Thank you. See guys, it comes down to a real simple choice. You gotta go down the road at least travel. And you cannot go down in a safe way. You guys want to do this safely. Oh no, we're gonna get it. I don't know who you are. Gabriel, go ahead and unmute yourself. Okay, let me do this. I don't want you guys unmuting yourself. So, what do you got for me? What's your first name? Gabriel. Okay, go ahead. Question. He knows like him as long as you stay in him don't ask him. Okay, okay. You're 31 with no kids. And you want to know how to increase your value. Increase your value to what? It comes to women and the life I want to live as far as like the house I want to live in and the life I want to provide to my future children. I'm really kind of just running away. Dude, you're 31 years old. I need you to say you're 31. I'm still hearing an offense. The dude that just called 22 you sound just like him. And you're 10 years older. You should know what you want to be doing by 31 years old. And the first thing that came out of your mouth was increase your value. And the first thing that came out was something regarding the woman. So let's just cut to the chase. You want to increase your value so you can get a better quality of poo. That's the first thing that came out of your mouth, man. Yeah, that's number one. All right then. What's your motivation? Before YouTube, did you want to increase your value? What kind of studio? Okay. Where do you work out at? How tall are you? How much did you weigh your last weigh in? You ain't working out, bro. The first thing a man has to man, the first thing. No, no, the first thing a man has to value is himself. That's what I'm showing you. 31, the first thing you came out of your mouth was a woman. And I can just show you that you're not even doing... See, the answer would have been, man, I really ain't working out. Just being honest. I'm overweight. And that's the thing. I deal in reality. You're not going to... And if you listen to the broadcast, I lined out. I said, a man needs to you know, get around personal and professional at least. So what I'm really hearing is what I heard often. A lot of you guys, you want something for nothing. You don't want to do the work. You want to be lazy. You want to come easy. And I'm glad the price is high. I'm glad the price is high. So you can't have it. It should only be for the guys that want to do the work. Or else it wouldn't be worth anything. At 31 years old, no kids, there's nothing stopping you from getting up, going to the gym five days a week and working 12 to 16 hours. No, 12 to 16 hours. Hold on, 12 to 16 hours a week that you're getting paid for. Alright. Okay, well, man, I got your question. So that will be my advice, man. Your motivation has to be something other than external. All the best, my friend. You two now. Guys, women can't be your ultimate motivator. Okay. I don't know if they heard that. Alright, okay. Next, we're going to go to Rashi. Go ahead. What's your question? Alright, so I'm 21. I'm in college right now. I'm a communications major. I'm something that I've been dealing with. What's your question? Okay, what do I practice to motivate myself to do things? What do you use to practice motivation? Where's your father? Huh? Where's your father? Oh, he's not in my life. He left before I was born. Alright, so you're 21 now. Why are you in communications? Why are you in communications? Why are you in communications? Because from high school I was told that communication was like a versatile degree. How many communications members? How many communications people with communication degrees you know they're high earners? Is that a degree path for men who make money? No, not that I know. So you're doing an easy degree? Did you submit the truth, man? Yes, I guess so. Yeah, you're going to college for an easy degree and you can't be motivated to do an easy degree? Well, it's not. Let me stop you right here, dude, because I don't want you to dig too deep. You need the truth. The truth is you're in college for a degree that's easy when you could be in college for something that's worth it. And you're asking about motivation? Here's what's going to motivate you when you get out of college and you are broke because that communications degree is not worth the price of toilet paper and you're living on a minimum wage job struggling to find some place that's going to pay you $20 and you're looking at that for the rest of your life necessity motivates us. But see, right now in your 20s, when you could be doing something more, you didn't challenge yourself. You went with the easy route. So the first question I asked is where's dad? Because mom lets boys do this. And how far, how many student loans have you taken out so far? I recently took one out and stayed at the dorms here. Oh, at the dorms? So how much debt are you in? About the end of the year probably like 10 grand. Well, first question is first. Why do you go to school to get a communications degree? Because it's easy. It didn't go for something that's paying anything. That should be your first change. So you can't get past the first step until you accept the last one. What's your classification? My classification? Junior, senior? Oh, that's sophomore. So you went to college late? Yes. I had housing issues. So it's... If you're going to stay in college and go get something that's going to pay some money. Don't do this. There's nothing high value even above average earning for your communications degree. It's a joke of a program and you know that. It was a joke of a program in the 80s and now we have a digital world. So you think something like... I'm trying to do consults. I'm being very direct guys because the world is very, very direct. John, how are you? What's your question? Two questions if you have time. Very quick. First one, I'm 32. I'm enrolled to school. I know exactly what I want to do with my life down to the T. My focus is not strong. My first question is how do I find my focus and move on from my past? And the second question is I live in Victoria, BC in Canada. If you know it's not by daddy. Hold on, hold on. You're kind of muffled. You said you're 32 and you said you know what you want to do? With my life. I know exactly what I want to do with my life. And then your question is how do you remain focused from your life? How do I build my focus? My focus is not strong right now. Well then, hold on. You said you know exactly what you want to do with your life but the problem is focus? I had a different lifestyle before coming to school. I just need to understand what you're saying. Yes. My first question is my problem is focus. What are you going to school for? My major is electrical engineering. My minor is mechanical systems. So mechanical engineering. How are you paying for school? My dad is paying my tuition and I'm taking off student loans plus internship for everything else. Okay. Were you raised with your father? That's a yes and no question. That's a yes and no question. Were you raised with your father in the household with you until age 18? Yes. Alright. Focus. At 32 years old, you should be teaching focus. So I'm hearing a guy who went to school late. Yeah. Alright. I'll give you a simple path. You're going to have to hire a coach because the things that you should have accomplished along the way you should have got out you should have already been out of college and in your career. You're 10 years behind. You don't have time to do self-help. You don't have time to read your books. You don't have time to wing it. You're going to have to pay. So you went into debt for this. You're going to go into another about $25,000 worth of debt to get the coaching because you didn't get it from your parents. Or the alternative is do everything the hard way and be behind. Second question was what? Second question. I live in Victoria in BC Canada. And there's not a lot of brothers here. As a high-value man I want to find my network here. You're not a high-value man. As a high-value man what? You said a high-value man has a good and strong network. Right. But we're not a high-value man yet. Well, we have to develop ourselves as a high-value network. But we don't need to be worrying about high-value man yet. We got to get to man. Okay. You're not to man yet. Okay. I mean, no offense, you're 32 in college. You're not to man yet. So you guys are still wanting to skip steps. I just told you, you're 10 years behind. High-value should be anywhere in your conversation. How do I become a functional man? Because whatever happened, I was allowed to waste 10 years. Actually 14 years. Hmm. Yeah. And you need to, like, tattoo that on your forehead and focus on that. I'm 14 years behind. So I can't worry about YouTube and Instagram and Facebook and fanciful notions. I get caught up because the world doesn't owe you or me understanding. They look at a 32-year-old man and say, why are you here now? Because when you get out and get a job in entry-level engineering, your colleagues are going to be in their early 20s and you'll be in your early 30s. When will you graduate? In two years. I'm going to major in the minor. In two years. So you'll be graduating roughly 34-35 and you'll be working with guys 21-23. That's a problem. Corporately, it's a problem. Because managing a 21-23 year-old versus a 34-35 year-old, so, I mean, you got to keep their front and center, man. You're behind and you got to catch up. And that's why you got to pay for coaching. Tens of thousands of dollars in coaching to help you close that 14-year gap. Got it? Got it. Thank you. Who's deleting messages? Hold on. Who's deleting messages? Is somebody deleting Leah's messages? Don't delete her messages. Moderators, put the link in the chat room. Leave Leah alone as long as she's not bothering anybody. Leah don't bother nobody. Mari, can you unmute yourself? Hey, how are you? What's your question? So, I guess in the midst of this pandemic I was working two jobs. One which towards, I guess, well, excuse me, prior to the pandemic had the opportunity to be... I'm going to rephrase it. I was spoken to by the executive director and my local MCA and I was asked to basically look into going into position of the athletic director for the whole... Question, please. Yes, yes. What's the question? Oh, yes, sorry. The question is basically during this pandemic I had two jobs and dropped out from the one. The second job basically is in a I guess you call it a gig or a side hustle of mine something that I'm passionate about. And... What's the best way to branch out from, I guess, my side hustle actually? Where do you live? Atlanta. Who do you live with? My mother currently. That's how you get the fuck out and branch out. You don't get out of your mama's house. Okay. Because you're going to tell me about pandemics and everything else and what you're telling me is I got half a job and I live with my mama and ain't got shit to do with no passion. You don't get a passion. How do you? 25. You can have a passion that's 50. You don't get a passion. You need two, three jobs. Okay. And a shitty apartment, a beater of a car and a girlfriend that goes along with it. You need ramen noodles, Kraft mac and cheese, bologna, 10 pound bag of fries and get out your mama's house. That's why you used all them words. Because at the end of the day, you know I'm 25 living in my mama's house half employed. Right? Yeah. And what do we call that? The world calls... I said the world calls that and a man at 25 living at home with mama, the world will call him a loser. I mean, I'm waiting for... I guess that doesn't matter, but I'm waiting to... There's no wait, bro. There's no wait when your mama paying the bills. Mm-hmm. You have a girlfriend? No. Bro, I'm trying to tell you, you can't have one not worth a damn. See, this is where a lot of black men fall apart. I don't know what he's passionate about. Your passion, your passion. Who told you you get a passion, man? I mean, seriously. In the pandemic, I live here in Atlanta too. Mm-hmm. There are plenty of jobs. And you work in one? Half of one? So would it be a bad decision right now to try to start, I guess, the entrepreneurial route? Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Okay. Do you have a degree? Yeah. In what? In sports management. Is that a two-year degree? No, it's four-year. What can you be an entrepreneur and you've done nothing? See, entrepreneur is another word for fly by night. You've done nothing. What does your resume look like? What's the longest you've ever worked for one company? The longest would be... a year and a half. And that was cut due to... And how many hours were you working at this company? Um... In total, through a week, I want to say about maybe... I'll say 36 depending on the other job as well because I was working both of them at the same time. Okay. So you're not... You haven't even had a full-time job. You've never held full-time employment. So how do you go from not having full-time employment to entrepreneur There's no free money. There's no get rich quick. You need to go to McDonald's, Chick-fil-A, Popeyes, Burger King, Big Lots, Kroger. You need to go pick up whatever shit job you can to work. Grab your balls and become a man. You've got to get your own place, dude. Turn off YouTube. Get in the world. Because you can't come... Okay, dude. No. No. You're still trying to think of ways to not do it. You want to do it. You don't want to get your hands dirty. That's what it is with a lot of you young guys. You don't want to get your hands dirty. That's hard. That sounds like work. So should I do it this way? No. You should get your ass up tomorrow and go get a job. Because you're on the channel of an image consultant. Right? I talk about men trying to become the best version of themselves. And to the top 10% of men. And, dude, you haven't even got into manhood yet. Your mother needs to put you out. Because there's nothing wrong with you. You're a physically healthy, 25-year-old man living in your mama house. So to tell me you don't have a girlfriend because you're focusing on your what? Your purpose? That's some YouTube bullshit. You need to get out of your mother's house and go to work. You need to go to school by November. So even graduate school then? Oh, man, I'm tired. Graduate school in what, man? You still want, okay. Okay, go into more debt for sports management. Which is going to do what? It ain't doing nothing now. You still see, this is why I push back. A lot of guys go to grad school. All this grad school stuff is trying to delay becoming a man. Grad school just is another way for you to hide. What are you so afraid of, man? I guess I'm in my own way, so I sneak up on my way. No, no, what are you afraid of, though? I mean, at 25, you got to know that you can't even, you can't even, I mean, at 25-years-old, do you got a key to the house? Yeah. All right. But at 25, you should be out taking charge. And you look hella comfortable in that house. Working part-time. There's no way you should be able to come to your mother's house with a part-time job and sit down comfortably. You should be ashamed to come to that house that way. Your pride should bother you. How much are you paying in rent? I'm not. Huh? Not. Say what? I'm not. You have a car? Yes, sir. Who bought that? The other half of it? Do your mother have a boyfriend? Um... Not to my knowledge. Well, technically, but... So you're a son husband. I remember you spoke about this in a few episodes. I'm going to do all you son husbands a favor. Don't call my show. It's not going to go well for you. It's not going to go well for you. It's not going to go well for you. It's not going to go well for you. I don't want to talk to you. I don't want to hear your story. I don't want to hear nothing from a 25-year-old living in his mom's house trying to find himself. I don't want to hear shit from you. That's just real. I don't. I have nothing to say to you. I'm not your daddy and you ain't my responsibility. I'll meet yourself. Hello? If it's okay with you, I do have two questions. You may be free. You can go ahead and ask the person. I'd like to know other than women what other obstacles or things I should avoid in my 20s before I reach my 30s to reach that next level. In your 19, are you trying to find out what obstacles you should avoid? Other than women. What are some common obstacles at 20-year-olds? Laziness. Complacency. Are you in college? Okay. Are you in school? Yes or no? Oh, yes. You in college? Yeah, I'm going to ACC which is a Houston college for web development because I want to... So where's your dad? In my life. In his house. Okay. Are you going to school full-time or part-time? Part-time. So where are you working? I actually work in my city's court system. I am a civil screener. I scan people through... How many hours a week are you working? How many hours a week are you working? A total 25 hours a week. Okay, that's unacceptable. You're part-time student, you need to be a full-time worker. So you've already filled the first one. I'm lazy. I can't fix... I can't fix lazy, guys. I cannot fix lazy. All right, man. If y'all are calling in with these lazy... Hello, unmute yourself, please. Yeah, hello. First name? First name? What's your question? Do what now? This is about increasing your value. Are you have anything on the topic? Make it short, please. Okay. I have put $20,000 on the side to invest, but I don't know what to invest in. And while I was waiting to figure out what to invest in... Are you working full-time? No, I'm not working full-time. When's the last time you had a full-time job? For the pandemic. Do you have a college degree? No degree. Who do you live with? I stay by myself. How are you paying rent if you don't have a job? I'm still collecting money from my last job from the pandemic. All right, so... Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. So, I'm talking to a man who ain't had a job in what, six months? Yeah. And you asking me what to do with $20,000 funky dollars? You can't increase zero to nothing. You can't increase zero. I have 18 people in my car room right now. If you have a full-time job as a man, if your man has a full-time job, type yes in the chat room. If you're on Zoom right now, you got a full-time job, type yes. If the guys who type yes, if you live in your own place, type yes. I'm gonna go ahead and unmute you. Go ahead, Nacey. What's going on, man? Brother, give me some help. I can't hear you, though. You're muted. I can't hear you. You're muted. Andre, you're... unmute yourself, Andre. Go ahead. Still can't hear you for some reason. Andre, I can't hear you. There we go. Testing, testing. AC, can you hear me? I can't hear you, though. There we go. That should do it. Oh, well. I'm kind of embarrassed, man. Um... I'm not gonna... I can't hear you, AC. Let me see if I can hear this. Yeah, we got the sound. Um... I'm gonna put you back in the chat room, and I'm gonna drop you back in. Um... I'm gonna admit AC again. All right. So here's what I'm gonna do. Ladies, you're up next. Ladies, the next 30 minutes is for you. Okay. Okay. AC, go ahead and unmute yourself. There we go. There we go. You hear me? I can now. Okay, cool. So the common theme in which I'm seeing is people trying to skip the boring part of life and success. Yes. Well, success is extremely boring and monotonous. It just looks cool once we get to your level. We're on YouTube. We got $5,000 views tonight. We're doing stuff to get there. It takes years of monotonous work. And also, you don't have to become successful at the thing you're most passionate about. That's an overused word, especially for men. We should be looking for advancement and fulfillment. And what we'll do is we'll get passionate on the back end. So I did one thing last year that made me $130,000 that I was not overly passionate about. But I'm great at it. It's a gift. I take that money and invest it in things I'm passionate about. I had fun at the beach in Jamaica with a lovely woman. I invested in the stock market in real estate. If you do not know what you want to do, do something that can make you money long-term that you're good at. Take that money, invest it in other things that will make you happy and fulfilled. I think you're good at it. Thank you, brother. Thank you for giving us something. Yeah. Oh, child. Worry about that stuff later. Mastery is sexy. Mastery will bring you money. Thank you, bro. A.C. Hatchet, everybody. Look, guys, I'm trying to... What I'm trying to do is I'm trying to... All right. I've had more people ask me, why don't you talk to guys? Maybe from what I've seen, a lot of guys aren't really ready. A lot of guys are still... Why don't you talk to guys or young men? Because a lot of you aren't ready yet. A lot of you, your eyes have just been opened in your 20s. And you're asking questions that you should be asking after the 10 years of eating shit. So you're trying to get there too soon. So if you're in the dark, I'm not going to put you on. I don't have time for wannabe troll like dudes. So, here we go. I'm going to go to... Let me see. Fred T. I'll mute yourself. Yeah, what's your question? First of all, I'm 21. I work three jobs. My kind of question is, and I'm on track for an IT career. My question is, should I wait until I'm on the road to making good money? Should I wait until I get my job to focus on relationship? Or should I still try on the road there? No, I wasn't listening. So you didn't hear what the other guy just said? No, sir. You can't be bothered to listen. I can't be bothered to answer. Fuck you mean Chris. I'll mute yourself. Hello. Hey, what's your question? From a construction job. And right now, I was good at my construction job. What's your question? How does somebody who is anti-seductive get into sales? How old are you? 27. Anti-seductive or anti-social? Anti-seductive. What does sales have to do with seduction? Everything. No, it doesn't. I think you have a misunderstanding of sales. Why do you want to be in sales? I want to hit the number of targets I want working hourly. You want money? You want money? Yes. There's no free money. Okay. I don't think you have an understanding of what sales is. It's not anything about seduction. It's about becoming an effective communicator and getting that person to purchase a product or service that will do them some value. And people don't get into sales and get free money just for being yourselves. You have to get professional training. You have to become an effective communicator and effective closer. There's no free money. And it sounds like you just wanted for the money, which is fine, but they don't give that away. You have to earn that. My main problem is... Okay, I answered your question. Go ahead. Your main problem is what? I have a problem getting people to like me. Okay. This is where coaching comes in. This is where therapy, clinical therapy to understand what's going on with you to make sure there's nothing clinical in coaching. But at 27 years old, let's just assume that you're a good person and you're a problem of getting people to like you. I've said this countless times. The world does not owe me or you understanding. You have to fix it. And you can't do it on your own. You can't read it in a book. That means you're going to have to invest in it. That means you're going to have to get in your wallet and spend thousands of dollars and invest hundreds of hours of opportunity to go do something for 10 years and eat shit. Thank you. There's no free money, gentlemen. This is why the high value thing is so many guys upset because they want something that, you know, they want it easier. I get it, but it doesn't work. Go ahead, Nicholas. Hello. Just your question. Just your question. To a student, I want to know if going into pharmacy alone is enough to make myself a high-value person. Nope. It'll make you a higher earner, but it's not enough to make yourself high-value. All right. So from pharmacy, how can I become more of a high-value person? Why do you want it? I guess, you know, again, to be at that status and be humble for women. All right. So obviously, just being a higher earner does not get you to other things. If you watch what I say, that requires more teaching, more coaching, more input. High earner does not automatically make you high-value. And that's the problem. A lot of my technically or scientifically minded friends or people have because they think I got the money, but that does not make you that does not give you the status or the ranking or the rating you want to. I've already listed out the six basic principles of high-value. There are some other ones after that. But that's what's required. So if you want to and the ultimate outcome of being high-value is what? You want to have what is an outcome? I guess not just the money but the status for what? I need to know for what? The why is important. You just want to have the status to have it because it makes you more attractive to women. And for people in general, you brought up status. But I know why I want things, but you got to know why you want them. See, the why is important. Because if you don't want it, if your why isn't big enough, it won't matter. Otherwise it will lead to status. Just respect it all. Respect the peers. Again, I've answered the... Okay. Money isn't enough. Money is a starting point. But the other parts require effort and work. I mean, if that's the case, every pharmacist should be respected. I just went to the pharmacy today and honestly, I'll be honest with you, I don't care who's back there. When I go to get my medication, I could give a shit who feels it. There's a pharmacist here at Walgreens and across the street at CVS, there's another one. There's an entire team of pharmacists there, right? Drive down the street to Kroger, there's another one. Drive down to Walmart Pharmacy, there's another one, right? There could be 10 pharmacists on the same goddamn street, right? I want to say 10, the same street. Okay, and here in Atlanta, because there could be... how many pharmacists are in one CVS? One. They only have one pharmacist on staff for the entire... 12 hours a day, they're open. Probably two or three, actually, in that case. Exactly. And if there's two or three there, there's two or three across the street at the Walgreens, two or three at the Kroger, you get to 10 real quick. My point is being a pharmacist ain't nothing special. Yeah, I was thinking about, like, specializing, like, oh, getting my residency in specializing. Being a pharmacist ain't nothing special, just like saying, I'm a doctor. You could be a family doctor. That ain't nothing special. There's a hierarchy in medicine, too. You think a family doctor and a brain surgeon or a cardiac surgeon are on the same level? And how do most doctors look at pharmacists? They look at pharmacists as doctor wannabes. Come on, man. Yeah, because doctors, physicians look at dentists and pharmacists as guys who couldn't go to medical school. There's nothing special about being a pharmacist. I didn't make the world. So you may make money, but what are you in the world? You guys want it too easy. You just want it for the money. But then you're the same... The same guys will turn around and get upset if a woman wants you just for your money. Pradoxical. All right. Let me get to... ...dumb trees. Is that you? Mr. Bingham? Yes, sir. Oh, six. What's going on? What's going on? I'm a nuke, by the way, so don't... I know. I saw your video. What's up, friend? What's the question? So, I'm living in Seattle. I've been in the private... What's on your next? Go ahead. Private nonprofit sector human services. I've been working in middle management. And I want to know what would be a good move for me to get my MBA to be more competitive? Oh, no. I'm 37. Getting an MBA at 37? It's rarely a good move. Okay. It's rarely a good move at that age, because... What's your undergrad degree in? I have undergrad degree in psychology, and I graduated from seminary. I have an MBA. Okay. So, an underlying degree. MBA doesn't hold the way it used to. Okay. What do you want the MBA for? I want to go higher in management, so possibly going into, like, maybe a CEO or a CEO. Okay. So, what company are you working with? Is the company going to pay for you to attend the program? They pay some of it, and I'm going to pay the rest of it out of pocket. Okay, but after you get it, are you responsible to work for them for a certain amount of years? No. Well, if they're going to pay for it fully, I could say get it, but I just don't see the value in having an MBA at almost 40 years old to try to become a C-level executive, is that what we're saying? Right. For what size organization? Um... Are you trying to do it for the fortunes? Not necessarily, no. Are you trying to do it for regional players? I mean, give me the size of the organization. Yeah, regional. Um, regional. All right. All right. Do you respect? The guys who are in line to become an executive for regional concerns are already on-path in track right now. Okay. They're already in play. Okay. It's not about education, and I think you know that. Right. Right. So why go get more education if you know it's not about that? That's true. This is where you're executive. When I do coaching with guys, with guys at your level, I do what's more called peer counseling. Because it's not so much about coaching guys at your level, it's more about counseling guys at your level to just start to flesh out some of my own ideas. See, you probably already have the skills that it would take to go to do the job. You just don't have the connections. Right. Okay. And that's what you need. Okay. The connections of the consideration, and you don't get that for free. It would be better to invest in that than in MBA. I think you always talk yourself through the first part of that process. All right, man. All right, man. Stay cold. He's out. Shout out to all the brothers Alpha Alpha. He was an Alpha in the house. All right, big one. What's going on, brother? Go ahead and unmute yourself. Mr. Samuels, what's going on? You hear me fine? I'm good. What's up, Neff? Listen, man. So I work as a college professor. My question is, and I'm an entrepreneur doing internet marketing, how to build your network, especially during the pandemic? I used to hang out a lot. You said you work at what kind of professional? As a blank professional? I do. I'm a college professor, number one. Okay. And I also own an internet company that makes pretty good six figures. As an entrepreneur, it's a lone wolf type of thing at moments. I wondered how to build my network. What city are you in? I'm in Boston, Massachusetts. Boston, start at the schools. Boston has one of the most vibrant networks in the world. Harvard, Boston, you know what I mean? You got the college triangle right there, right? Yeah. And I know people in them. It's more like I'm trying to build, I'm trying to build a pair of relationships that I serve people in business. But you got to start with, okay, again. You don't start with the end. You start where you start. Start at the schools. And then the chambers. Are you plugged into anything that's uniquely Boston? Not at all. All right. So you want to get plugged in, but you aren't even starting with what makes Boston Boston. Boston has an Irish population, has a strong academic connection, has political ties, and has a thriving business community. And there are some things that are uniquely Boston. All of those places will be great places to start. The people you want to talk to are in these places. You're just not going to meet them up front. They have the events. They have the events. They have the social calendars. They have the contact list. It all starts from existing groups. And also, are you a Catholic? Absolutely not. Are you a Christian? I'm a music minister at a church for you. Okay. You say absolutely not. Boston has a huge Catholic population, right? Mm-hmm. I didn't know that until you just said it. That's why I said uniquely Boston. You didn't understand what your city is. I don't. Okay. Well, okay. I'm from New York. That's all right. I'm from New York. How long you live in Boston? I probably say seven years. So, bro, that don't count no more. You're in Boston. I feel you. No, you're absolutely right. I know. So you got to get plugged in. You and Boston, they got baked beans, they got New England Patriots, they got Celtics. Man, come on. You got to get in touch with Boston because even if you start networking, you can't speak Boston language. You can't say, I can't do that part. Yeah, but they're going to find out that if you can speak to speak, you don't know what they know because you haven't become a Boston guy. All right? Got it. I feel you, man. Thank you. Appreciate you. I mean, we all want to, it's all about people, folks. It's always about people. Let me get on down here. Let me see. Let me see. To Charles. Let me get on through here. Next person up is Charles. I'll mute yourself, Charles. Hello. You muted yourself again. I'll mute yourself. What do you have for me? Can you hear me now? Yeah, what's your question? I have a quick question. Hey, I've been in an airport for about 10 years. Is that time to transition? Going to transition, I'm getting my MBA going back into the government service, but I want to go to the $250,000 mark. I won't be able to make that type of salary during government work. So what do you recommend? I'm in my career field in acquisition. What city are you in? Hawaii. So your end goal is to make $250,000 a year? Yes, sir. Why? Take care of the family. I got two kids. Okay. But where did the $250,000 come from? Looking at my father, seeing what he took, he made around 160, so I want to go one step above that to actually... How old are your kids? Five and nine. Respect, man. You had the kids before you had the money. That's true. Hey, that's why I'm with you. I mean, there's no free money, fam. I hear that. So basically you ask me, hey, man, I don't have the skills or the connections of the network to be worth $250,000 to the market. How do I get that money? That's effectively what you ask me. Well, I got the skills. Okay. But you don't have the network or the connections. Yes, well, being in the military. There you go. It's a trade-off. You went to the military, which gave you comfort, safety, and security, but it took you out of the competitive job market. So it cost you connections and network. So even if you've been in there for 10 years, you've effectively not spent 10 years in the business sector of any city. So now you want to come in and claim your 10-year military chip and say, I have the experience, but it requires more than that. It's like I told the last guy, you can have the skills, but if you don't have the network or the connections, these jobs aren't about skills. If everybody with the skills could make that money, it wouldn't be worth the money. So effectively what I'm saying is, one, how much would you be making after you leave the military? About $90,000. So you want to make another $160,000. I can take the riskier route and go entrepreneur and go do what I do as a contractor and work as a middleman. But the thing is, you'll be making $90,000 after you leave the military? Yes, sir. All right. And then you'll have the time to work. 40 hours of plus? Yeah, I have to. Okay. So I'm trying to ask, will you be getting roughly a pension, a retirement or something? You'll be getting money every month? Yes, sir. All right. And that's about $90,000 a year? No. So transitioning, I go to a civilian world. Okay. I got a job guarantee basically. And it'll be paying you $90,000? Yes, sir. Full time? Yes, sir. So you're working a job that you've had to do something for 10 years to transition to the civilian world after 10 years' experience to go work a full-time job that's paying $90,000. Yes, sir. But you want to then find a part-time job that's going to pay you nearly twice as much? I don't want to find a part-time job. I want to make a decision before I actually transition to the government, sir. It took you 10 years to make $90,000. What decision could you make that's going to give you three times the money? See, the logic is real simple. It took you 10 years to get up to a worth of $90,000. There is no transition to make two times as $180, $250, let's just say $270, that's three times the money. There is no transition for that. Does that make sense? I hear what you're saying. There's no transition as far as going to another job at that higher level. Well, there's no transition as far as skills. I understand. My friend, the reality is you're not worth that much on the open market because if you were, then why we need to go to college? If I could just go to the military and have the safety of the government, Uncle Sam trained me in the military, get military benefits, housing and all that stuff, and then if I did my 10 and then I could come out and then transition to something paying me three times as much, why would I need to go to college or anything else? Everybody would be willing to do that. See, when I say it like that, it's like, well, damn, that sounds crazy. Well, yeah, you want free money. No, you're a $90,000 dude. That's what you're worth. What do you recommend to upgrade that value? Well, bro, I mean, truthfully, the only way you get more money is being more valuable. And you've done nothing to make yourself any more valuable. And that's not too bad. You've taken a safe route. Honestly, when I came out of high school, military was a safe route. This is the safe route. After high school, would have been going into debt, going to get a degree, then having to get out here and compete. That's the more risky route, right? Yes, sir. But it has the greater return. You went the safe route. I don't want to go into debt. I want Uncle Sam to pay me. I want the comfort and the benefits of all these things. So you got safe money. You put your money in the savings account, I put my money in the market. You get 0.2% interest, I get 12% return. It's about risk. And you didn't want to risk anything. So now you want to say, well, now I'm safe, I want to take a risk. The market is still what it is. Effectively, you'd be going out into the market and they'd say, your 10 years in the military is worth what? You can't come in at a 10-year experience level. Well, across the board, you can't come out at a 10-year experience level. If you could, you'd already be doing it. I don't know. Well, you don't know. The answer is no, you can't. Because if you could, it would be a well... If you could, it would be a well-known tactic. And if you could say, hey, man, when you get the 10-year, all you got to do is go to ABC Company and they'll pay you... Unfortunately, man, you are where you are. You want to make more money, you're going to either have to risk and invest in something, but I mean, talk about entrepreneurialism and all this other kind of stuff. I mean, I don't know what kind of skills you have, but the bottom line is, you took a safer path and it's safe money. When you said 250, I'm like, bro, you do realize that's top 3% earners in this country, right? And you don't get that just going to the military. So you're saying that is no action? All right, man. Okay. I've already answered that. I got other people. Do you want me to give you a... I don't know what else you want me to tell you. Sure, I guess anybody could do it. You can win the lottery, but it's not a guarantee path. There's no guarantee. So I don't know what else you want me to tell you, man. I mean, do you know many... Okay. Who do you know who's left the military? Who's making $250,000, $300,000 a year? I don't know nobody making... Exactly. I'm not saying that. I'm saying how do I take that path to get to that point? Who do you know who's left the military? Who's taken a path to make them that kind of money? Well, I don't know that many people that left the military. A lot of people want to stay there. Well, is that normally what... Who do you know... Who have you heard this happening to? Nobody. There we go. There you go. I want free fucking money, man. Man, I'm tired of y'all wanting free... Free money, free money, free money, free money. All right. All right. Toro. Hello? I can... Go ahead. There's another question you answered on our previous callers. So my next question would be, what would your suggestions be... or additional suggestions be for increasing my value? What do you do currently? Right now, I'm a social worker and I'm starting a tax business. How old are you? 36. What is your value in what area? I would say, well, obviously financially, I want to make six figures. My father made six figures when... Okay. You know, I was living with your house. I was living with your social worker. Yes. You ain't never going to be a social worker to be six figures. Oh, of course, I know. All right. I would have to be a supervisor first. Okay. That's also why I'm starting the tax business because it's something that I can do. Okay. So why do you want to make six figures now? It's something that I can do. It's not that I want to make it now. I just had a few setbacks and I'm in a position right now where I can actually do some things. I have more free time. I've been working more than 60 hours a week. So let me go ahead and knock it down. Okay. 36. What city do you live in? Los Angeles. How much are you making? Right now, 75. I would leave Los Angeles. That would be a bit difficult. I have a daughter here. Well, you're living one of the most expensive cities in the country and you're making $75,000, which is broke at 36 years old. A tax business is not going to push you up to a high standard of living. I have clients in Los Angeles. I've been in Los Angeles in two weeks. Okay. $75,000 a year in Los Angeles is roughly $36,000 a year in Atlanta. Am I off on that number? I wouldn't say that you're off. My situation is a bit different. I'm just asking about the numbers. No, you're right. All right. So do we expect even getting to 100 in LA? Yeah. It's still pretty abysmal. So you say you have a daughter. Yes. Are you and her mother Mary? No, we're not. How did your daughter? She's eight. Well, fam, I have news for you. It's going to be harsh. You don't have custody, right? I've already accepted that. No, I don't. All right. Then you need to leave because you don't make enough money to stay there. Are you already a weekend dad? Look, I had to go back and forth for nine years from Oklahoma for a long time, but I had to go someplace where the money was. A social worker in LA doing taxes on the side is still broke. Understandable. All right, man. Thank you very much. See, you guys want it easy. You don't want to do what you got to do. It's like, well, I don't want to have to move. I don't want to have to... Ah, well, I wanted to go to the... Okay. Increasing your value is a hard proposition. It takes work. Garwin, hello? Hey, Kevin. Okay, go ahead. What's your question? I'm in store. I sell suits. Okay. I want to get the tip on becoming a better closer. Becoming a better closer? Yes. Hmm. The company you work for, do they provide any kind of sales training? Barely. All right. Well, the way you become a better closer is investing in sales training. When I was a rookie salesperson, I made $35,000 my first year. I took $5,000 out of the $35,000 gross, and I had to invest it in nine weeks of training. But the next year, I made $15,000 more. So that's the only way. There are no tips. You need training. Because you have to have training and pitching. Overcoming objections, closing, pre-closing, trial closing. Follow-through, follow-up. Prospecting. It ain't free, man. Sales training is what's needed. So oftentimes, people will say, see what I do here? It's a lot of sales in this, because it's asking effective questions to lead to an effective outcome. All right, Kevin. Okay. Thank you. Thank you. All right, guys. See, going to college is what everybody else does. If you're not willing to go into the addition of $15,000, $20,000 worth of debt on top of college, then just say there and do regular, regular, smuggler. Dramon, go ahead. I'm good. What's your question, man? What do you recommend for a fresh-faced 25-year-old? Man, that's all I need. What city are you in? I'm actually in Mississippi, man. I need to get out. I'm planning on... What part of Mississippi? Jackson. Yeah, you need to leave there. First of all, honestly, 25-years-old, probably the only kind of sales that are going to be around there for 25-year-olds, entry-level is car sales. Okay. And you're going to need to take... Okay, you need to listen. You could do that, but it's a burnout job. Okay. You're going to have to cut that hair. You're going to remove those earrings. Okay. And as much as the downhomes, the southern colloquialisms, you're going to have to get a straight-laced corporate speak on. But the ultimate goal is to make enough money to move to a larger city with better job prospects, to get into a corporate sales environment before age 30. Okay. That's what I would suggest. Okay. I'm from Oklahoma, so the prospects are much better there. But it needs to be outside sales. Okay. It can't be call center. It has to be something to where, you know, you don't want to go into Verizon or any of these places that will say it's sales. Well, actually, that may not be a bad fit, too. If you can't get into car sales, excuse me, AT&T, Verizon, these kind of places may not be a bad fit because you'll make enough money and you'll be working indoors and you can actually take a lateral move and transfer to someplace like Houston, Dallas, Atlanta, a bigger city with a larger market. Transfer laterally with the company, have a job waiting on you. Go get you an efficiency apartment and go live in one of the bigger cities and then start working that city. Work that job and really the best thing to do is start working with a headhunter, recruiter, something like that to try to break into entry-level sales somewhere. Got it? I got it, man. I appreciate you. All right, then. Let's move. All right. See, I mean, sales has a lot of options, but you got to be willing to do the work. You got to be willing to make the moves. Who is this Toran? I'm sorry, Gabriel's next. Gabriel, how are you? Unmute yourself? Ask to unmute. Okay, I'm going to ask you to unmute again. I don't know why it's not unmuting. Do-do-do-do-do. All right. Hidden leaf. Unmute yourself. What's going on, man? How you doing? What's going on? Hey, what's your question? Go ahead. Your question is what? My question is I just recently got an opportunity to really, like, step up, you know, really, like, take myself to the next level. And, you know, I just want to know when do you know it's the right time really to take those risks in business? I don't know. Okay, give me another one. Hold on. What you just told me is I really got a chance to step up and take it to the next level. I mean, how old are you? I'm 34. Step up in what way? I own a cannabis dispensary and I've got an opportunity to get a new commercial space. And it's a little bit more expensive than a clinic. Okay. A new location? Yeah, it's a nice location, a better location. When do I know when is it the right time? Well, just in any business aspect, not just about the dispensary. Okay, 34, you need to start taking some risks. You're gonna fail, man. You take the best shot you have and you work it. If it's a good space, a good opportunity, can you make the money to pay the rent? I don't know where you went. All right, well, he went away. So, yeah, guys, there's a repeating theme here. How do I get an outcome without risk? Sincere? Ah, nice. Go ahead. Hello? Yeah, what's your question? Okay, you just muted yourself. Hold on. I'll mute yourself again. What's your question? What's your question? Okay, you keep turning off your camera. What part of the medical field are you in? Okay. So, why you say become a high-value man working in the medical field? You said how to become a high-value man working in the medical field? Yes. But you're a phobolomist and a what? And a nurse technician. All right. What's that in the background? I'm sorry, that's one of my patients talking to my work right now. All right, so, in general, those aren't high-paying positions, right? No, they're not. All right, well, there's your first answer. Yeah, yeah. So, I'm asking you for any suggestions and ideas. How old are you? I'm 27. Okay. But you've chosen your path. There's not the ending result though. Okay. I know how much I make. You know how much a phobolomist and these people make. You're asking me what? How to make more money? Any suggestions? Yeah, you need a different career. You need a different career path. Okay. You chose to be a phobolomist and you're in the medical profession but you're not a doctor. That's what the money is. The positions make what they make. And unfortunately, unless you plan on changing professions, you're kind of stuck. You can't change the definition of high value. You need to increase your value by increasing your worth. And you increase your worth by increasing your marketable skills so you can earn more money. Can I tell you what my original plan was? It doesn't matter. What matters is what you're doing now. You're 27 and you have... Can I tell you what my original plan was? You got too much noise going on in the background. Go ahead and unmute yourself, Toren. Yes, I can. Great. Have the high value salary. Okay. And I wanted to speak to some of the younger guys that called earlier. I'm 49. I have a six-figure job ahead of it since 2013. I've been earning over $100,000. I think it's very, very important that even if you're in college and you find someone, it would still be smartest to do your career solo, get yourself situated and established like you've always advised on your other videos. Even if you think you want to be married early. I married while I was in graduate school. Things have thankfully worked out for me. I married what I did not know at the time, but what you call an FBI. And things have worked out really well for us. However, it was just a luck thing to be quite honest. I did not plan for it. This type of format wasn't out there. So I just wanted to give younger men some encouragement that, you know, even if you think you're in love and you want to do the thing early, still it's smartest to wait. Appreciate it, fam. Thank you. I'm going to go back to this guy who's the phobotomist. Cynthia, go ahead and unmute yourself. Hello. All right. You were saying, do I want to hear about your original plan? Right. Okay. No, and I will tell you why. You're not doing it. You're doing what you have to do to survive and live. Okay. Okay. So your original plan, it doesn't matter. It does if it can change my situation. Go ahead. Since you're the case, I do. No, nobody ever said that. But anyway. I mean, I don't, I mean, go ahead, dude. The reason why I became a phobotomy technician is because there's something called a paramedical insurance exam. I'm not sure if you heard about that. It doesn't matter. Go ahead. I don't, I don't have to know what you're doing. All right, thank you. All right, look at it, man. Don't be a bitch. Don't be a bitch, boys. Get the fuck out of my phone, bitch. I don't get the phone. Go take blood, boy. Came with you and milk a job where people quieted in the background. You sensitive ass. I didn't choose your path. No, no, see, what I'm gonna do, I'm gonna get another roomy room. I don't need to do all that. I'm gonna be up to the bottom, as you see. Then I'm gonna get in and work the insurance path. And then I'm gonna have my dream to where it can make me a six-figure dude while I'm drawing blood and dispensing jello. But that's how we do it around here. Man, if you don't shut up. Hello, go ahead. Hi, can you hear me? I can. Your first name is? Brianna. What do you got for me, Brianna? I wanted to know if there was anything I could be doing to help increase my husband's value. Your husband's value. Good question. What does he do for a living? He's a manager at Sharon Williams. Sure. The paint place? Mm-hmm. Is he managing a store? Yes. What's the position up from him? Up from his position? What's the position above his? I believe his district manager. Mm-hmm. Or regional. Has he expressed a desire to want to be a district manager? Yes. Okay, what is he doing to you? What is he doing to get it? I mean, he works hard. Okay. Works every day. I just wanted to know because we're both young. We're both 24. And it sounds like he kind of got, I don't want to say married too soon, but I wanted to know what could I be doing as a wife? All right. Okay. Is it too soon for what? To have the responsibility of a wife and kids? I'm sorry. Can you say that again? Married too soon to have the responsibility of a wife and children? Yes. Yeah. We did. Do you guys have any children? Yes. How many? A 11-month-old son. And how much is your husband making annually? I'm sorry, about 52 or 4. Okay. And are you still working? I am not. All right. Well, here's the thing. At 24 years old, did he go to college? Yes. We met at college. All right. But to become the, what is his degree in? Economics. To be a manager at Sherman Williams is a dead-end job. They don't need to go to college to manage a paint store. And he can work his ass off. But they don't just promote you because you work your butt off. That's why I asked, what is he doing? What does he want? And it sounds like he's maybe a hard worker and maybe responsible, but the world does not reward that alone. He has to become more valuable. And you can't help him do something that he's not doing. That's why I asked you, has he expressed a desire to become something more? Yeah. Okay. Number two, has he expressed a desire on his own? Yes. What did he say? A roundabout. More in regards to finance. Yes. Yeah. We, our guests, our concern is more so making a financial, creating financial stability for our son. Okay. I get it. But I asked you, what is he said about becoming more financially, earning more money on his own? Meaning, do you bring up the idea, honey, and say, I would love a different standard of living? Or he's just saying, you know what, I'm working here and in two years I need to be at the district level. So I'm doing, it doesn't sound like he's, I mean, I'm not hearing that he's a driven man. It's not an insult, but it has to come from him. There is no free money. Just because you and he are married and have a child, the world doesn't owe you guys anything. You're making, he's making 50 something. You're not working. Everybody got kids. They don't give free money. And if you guys want to have more children, he's going to have to increase his value. If you don't do that with an economics degree, you're being a paint manager. He needs to get out of a daddy in career. That's what you really want. He needs to get out of a daddy in career. One of the best things, one of the best careers is sales, especially with a nowhere degree like economics. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but that's where it is. I know he, I know he likes sales. Okay, but liking is, but like, I don't give a crap about like. It has, okay, do you, do you guys want to have any more children? Yeah. How many more? At least two. So you will be going to work. Yes. Yeah, you'll be going to work because he can't afford for you to stay at home. And you guys are my best, here's what I would suggest. You guys are young, decrease your standard of living, turn off Instagram and get real about how much people make in this country and a middle class lifestyle and be happy with what you have, always striving for more, but not trying to live this lifestyle that comes on a picture or something because ma'am, you picked a man who has an economics degree. You did not pick a doctor or lawyer, a stockbroker or whatever. So you didn't pick a high earning man. And you don't have to be a high earning man to be a good man, a good father and a solid citizen. Yeah. So... I had her, I mean, sorry. You want a standard of living, I get it. But children, 72% of mothers in this country have to work. And if you want more than one child, which I suggest not just having one child, I'm a long child, ma'am, you're going to be working unless your husband can figure out a way to earn three, four times the money he's making. He should be on the call. But I appreciate you calling in. It's a good wife thing to do. But that's about as far as I'm comfortable with actually trying to advise someone's wife, but I think you're a good wife to at least ask the question. But he has to be the one that's driven. Got it? Yes. Bye-bye. Thanks. All right, guys, I'm going to get up off here. It's almost one o'clock. I've answered enough calls from guys. And I got more and more guys coming in too right now. It's just like, it never stops. So let me go ahead and wrap this one up. This second. I see the rest of you guys. I'll try to get through you. And that's it. To the guy who was the phlebotomist, let me tell you why I hung up on you. One, you don't know as much as you are going into a feminine energy argumentative place. Sitting there talking to someone who, whether you like it or not, I've proven that I know at least a little bit about what I'm talking. Your life is proven that you don't. And getting mad at, getting frustrated, getting whatever, you want more respect than you've earned. Don't talk over me. Don't do this, don't do that. You can't even keep the people in your background quiet. And see that's also why some of you guys are frustrated with the position you're at in life because you've chosen it and you may feel as though I should be here and I'm here. That ain't my fault. It's not the world's fault. It's in your control. All right. The dude that said, let me go to, let me go here. Matt, what's going on? I'm here yourself. Hello? I can't hear you now. What you got for me? What's your question? Yeah, what's your question? The world of furniture. And I'm having a hard time knowing how to market myself. Your professional woodworker. Your profession is that you're an image consultant. So you're a professional woodworker. Okay. That's a skilled position. What city are you in? I'm in a place called Saratoga Springs, but let's just say I'm near Salt Lake City. Okay. So the first thing it's always wise to do is say, I do this. What are the top dogs in my line of work? Who are they and what are they doing? Because I always think don't go recreate the wheel. So let's say you have Tom's woodworking, Rob's carpentry and George's woodworking and carpentry. And they're number one, two, and three. I look and see what they're doing and what kind of advertising and marketing they're doing and copy that. Outside of that, let's say there's no template. You're selling to the public or are you selling to businesses? Matt? I want to do both. You got to pick. I know you want to do both, but you got to choose. See, a person that sells to everybody that sells to nobody, you have to define your ideal customer. Ideally, it's easier to sell to people than businesses. But what do you want to sell to? Yeah. People. All right. All right. Definitely I would like to sell to the high-end clients You got to work your way up. You got to work your way up. Matt, Matt, Matt, you got to work your way up. No one knows you. You may have the best work in the world. No one knows you. One of the things I would suggest is one, hiring a local marketing firm to help you get your name out around your ideal customer. People can't purchase from you until they know who you are. You are the woodworker. You're not the advertising and marketing agency. And the problem with that comes is you got to pay for that before you make any money. While you're doing that, how many do you have existing customers or clients you've done work for? A handful. Huh? A handful. Mostly side work. Okay. Only a couple. Only a couple. Okay. Well, then here's a problem too. Then you got to go do some work for free. Go do some work for free and ask the people that you do the work for free to publicize you. I did. When I was in Oklahoma and I was starting out as an image consultant, no one knew me. And I had to pay for advertising and marketing just like everybody else. But I also offered my services to the local magazine editors that ran the three largest magazines in Oklahoma. Perfectly, $10,000 worth of advertising for doing an image consult for the chief editor. You're going to have to work it. And that's the thing. It sounds like you're still trying to build a business. Marketing is not... I mean, marketing comes as a result of a solid business plan with a marketing plan in it. You need someone to write you a business plan and then your business plan needs your marketing plan. You don't need to write it. You need to pay someone to do that. And then you're going to have to go into debt in order to invest and build and grow a business. Like I said earlier tonight, there is no free money. Thank you, man. I appreciate it. All right. We're back to lifestyle. Come on, dude. All right. Look, 34 years old and you have a spot on the cannabis business, right? Right. I'm really... I'm high up. Okay. Hold on. Hold on. All right. How many years of experience do you have in this? Years. How many years of experience do you have in the business? In the business of cannabis or in business in general. The business of cannabis I've been in, I mean, at least 12 years. Okay. Are you known in the area? Yeah. I'm popular. I have a network. All right. So then if you have an opportunity to get a better location, is it going to increase your income? Yeah. I make pretty good income now, but it's... Is the new location going to increase your bottom line? Yes. How do you know? Just the location. It's prime real estate. I know the city. It's going to make everything better and people might find out... If that's the case, you should have did it yesterday. Yeah. I've just been trying to make sure that I can... No, no, no, no, no, no. There's no need to go back and forth. I asked you how long you've been in the business? You said 12 years. I said, do you know what you're doing? Yeah. I said, are you known in your city? Yeah. All right. Then is the business you're talking about going to improve your bottom line? You said, yes. There's no more questions to answer. You do it. All right. All right. I mean, why do we need all the back and forth and him and Han and... Just fucking do it. I'm going to do it. The question is, I don't... The question is... But the point is, if you really did sure on the things you told me, that it's a no-brainer, but it doesn't sound like you're that sure. That's why it's not a no-brainer. I just want to make sure because of the times that we're in. I don't give a shit about the times we're in, man. The times we're in, there's millionaires and billionaires on watches being made right now. I don't want to hear anything about the times that we're in. Steve, I mean, Jeff Bezos, the CEO of Amazon, started this year with his money and he doubled his income this year. I don't want to hear a shit about that. People are still going to smoke, aren't they? That's right. Fuck you mean. I want no risk, man. You need to unmute yourself. You want no risk. Hello? First name. What's your question, man? How are you? Good. What's the question you got for me? Ernie. Okay. I just wanted to say thanks. Appreciate it, my friend. Thank you. Good way to end. Good way to end. Look, guys. Part of the reason I did my show with Ramil Amir or the Lions Den was to talk about business and I keep saying there's no free money. There's no free money. You may be really good at what you do but until you put it out in public and give people a chance to buy from you, it doesn't matter. It's always going to be a risk. Relationships are a risk. Businesses are a risk. Hell, life is a risk. And if you want to take the safe path, the safe path never turns out to be anything other than safe and average. And that's what you're starting to see. What are we starting to hear? I want to increase my value. I want to increase my value. All right. Here's the thing. But if your value is already low, let's say value is on the scale from zero to 100. And let's say average or normal value is 50. Well, if you can increase your value from 50 to 70, you've increased your value by roughly what? Roughly 40%. That's a big increase. All right. Let's say your value is 10. And you increase it to 30. Well, that's a three times increase in value. But you're still at 30 versus the guy at 70. Where are you starting from versus where do you want to get to? And in due respect, a lot of you guys want free money. Like the guy in Hollywood on Hololulu. You went to the military, the safe bet. I'm going on Uncle Sam. And I'm not going to get out here in the marketplace and have to compete with you guys. I'm not going to go into debt and go into college and get out in the marketplace and compete. For the higher return, I'm going to take the safe path. Three hots in a cot. You know, we all know what it is. And then at 10 years, I come out and I can transition into a stable, comfortable, civilian job. But now I want to take that. And I want to, I want to parlay it into free market money. No, it should not be that way. And I'm glad it ain't that way. You should not be able to go get safe money and parlay it into free money. No free lunch. So here's what is going to happen right here. Here's what's going to happen. And we're talking to the ladies going forward. Guys, I've given you guys two shows. I'm making videos for you guys. But if you want advice, let me tell you what you're going to have to do. You'll have to pay for it. Because a lot of you guys are looking for a million-dollar advice for free and business advice and this and that. This channel is not about me helping you increase your business. It's about helping you increase your profile. I can talk about business, but look. And what I'm starting to see is a lot of you guys between 18 and 34 that have called in, you've allowed yourself to get lazy. You're not hungry. You're not driven. Here's another thing, man. Real talk, millennials and generations, y'all ain't hungry for nothing. Y'all ain't miss no meals. You're not like the previous generations, people who actually went to bed hungry. The music you grew up on and the stories you hear people tell, y'all ain't lived it. And it's not your fault, but you're comfortable. I mean, like when I said I talked to a dude that's 22, you know, dude that's 31, and they both sounded like the same person. I'm like, well, there should be 10 years gap between this dude and this dude. I don't know what you're saying. Or the dude is 25, except on the mama couch working part-time. You should show enough. No better than that. And honestly, I start to see why this high value thing is starting to ruffle some feathers. Because if you just had to look at the samplings of last two nights calls, the majority of guys aren't even at the... I'm just saying I'm joining you guys on even at the normal part, the middle part that I'm right here in the middle. They're not even on the top of the bell curve. You know, if this is the low end, this is the mid, and over here is the high end, the mean is right here. A lot of you guys over here. And you wanting to be over here. Wait a minute. You cannot go from over here all the way over to here. What kind of magic beans are you talking about? Like Andre had to say, you guys are wanting to skip the boring, hard work part. You want to get to the YouTube, Instagram, suit, fragrance, you know, drinking good, eating good, smelling good, looking good, riding good. No, you need to get to that part where you eating crap. Go back to the beginning of the video. Watch the things I said at the beginning of the video. And go forward. I will say this to you as a man. If you're not willing to invest $10,000 in one calendar year, just shut it down. Because that's the really the starting point. You're going to have to be willing to invest money. And that's what your competition is doing. They're investing money into sales coaching. They're investing money into becoming better competitors. And with this whole coronavirus and the economy, man, this regular-degular-schmagular thing is a very big risk. You know, I would suggest that you guys really put some deep thought into getting yourself stable. That's why I say I don't get why you're not working two jobs minimum. Why you have a shot at it. So why are they getting banned? Who got banned? Who's banning people? He only asked about things. Okay, who's banning folks? I got put in time out. I don't know. Oh, stream elements seem to be banning folks. I don't see anybody banning anything. Nobody got banned. You got timed out. Let me see what's going on. Stream elements. Let me see something. Let me do something real quick. Let me see. Well, no one's been banned. You've been timed out. Stream elements may be having an issue right now. Let me see. Yeah, no one's gotten banned. No one's gotten banned. So I will go back and adjust the settings. But the overall point is this. You got to do the work, guys. You got to do the work. Hashtag show your work. And personally, I like it that way. I'm glad that you can't get it just because you want it. What will be the point of having to do the work then? If you could just decide to go get it because you's like, well, I want it now. No. There's a reason why bankhead and Buckhead exist. There needs to be something to aspire to. Let me go to the spam filters. Okay. Paragraph protect. Okay. All right. That should do it. Nobody got banned. Lengthy paragraphs and things. So there's a reason there's bankhead and Buckhead. No one got banned. Hey, first up, check this shit out. I do. But the thing is the comments and the comments section. Oh, it's moderated. You can't just come in here talking crazy. Yeah. Nobody, the moderators don't ban anybody. You've been getting timed out by the bot. Symbol protection. Emote protection. Ban phrases. So there we go. So if you put in, if you, if you write a real long paragraph, it was banning you or if you put in a bunch of symbols, like, I mean, the thing is, you can't be putting in like 50 symbols. It's going to ban that too. And that's the thing YouTube is even starting to do. I think you guys need to understand something. YouTube is watching these live streams heavily because you got people on live streams lying about folks, slandering people, defaming people. You got, there's a lot of stuff going on with content creators. And I don't think a lot of folks over here take it as seriously as it is. YouTube is tired of a bunch of the foolishness. And they are even, YouTube is moderating comments in the chat room and in the comment section. And I believe this, I'm not going to allow nobody to mess my stuff up. So yeah, they were deleting left and right. Yeah. But it's not the moderators. My moderators are good. How do you become a moderator on your channel? Well, first, I got to know you. Two, you got to be around long enough. Three, you need to be a patron. Why do you want to moderate on my channel? Oh, I slander folks all the time. Oh, really? I don't even talk about folks, but let me do this. Boom. I'm going to slander you right now by getting rid of you. Bye. So here we go. Oh, your mama. Dummy. I know the thing was in the crazy land now. Can I edit my content? I don't know you. And I'm also going to, I'm also going back through moderators because I have some moderate. One of the things that happens in YouTube, you have to, when you run a channel, it's wise to stay up on top of your, your links and people who's moderating things. So you ever come into Seattle? Yes. Coming to Seattle probably in the next five weeks. So anywho, all right. This show is going to be up. I'm going to start slicing and dicing these shows into smaller bits to put them up on, on Instagram and on, on Facebook because this thing ran three hours and they really about an hour over. So these shows really should go about two hours. So peace out. YouTube is the thought police nowadays. No, understand something. YouTube is a business, Jared. And I 100% support the fact that they need to protect their business. Do you realize how many people come into the YouTube to think they can just make an avatar and a fake name and just talk, say some of the most God awful stuff? There's billions of dollars on the line. And you've got people trying to sell products and companies marketing their products against people who have nothing in this game except they just want to spread BS. No, thank you. I hope they start moderating it more. I hope they start moderating it more. I hope they start shutting down a bunch of the foolishness because some of this stuff is getting out of hand, man. So, all right. Can somebody put the link in there? No, the show is over. The show is over. All right, people, I'm getting up out of here. It's been over an hour. We're over an hour late, but it was a good show. Next time, peace, we are gone. YouTube is a business. I think people forget that. Shout out to Raven. Shout out to Carl. What about late bloomers? Oh, and lots of late bloomers. That show is going to be, no. Late bloomers is going to be later on. Late bloomers, Alexa, stop music. Alexa is really a girlfriend. Alexa is like... I don't know. Have you seen some of those kids where Alexa is alive? Stop it, Alexa. Go to sleep. You paying for nothing? Well, I think it's something you got. We're getting up out of here.