 A nicer version of the person that hurts you cannot heal you. When someone hurts as a parent or a teacher, a leader, a pastor, a friend, a partner, when someone hurts us, we cannot then move the responsibility for our healing to someone that we think is a nicer, better version of them. For instance, if you have a church wound and you decide to go to a different kind of church and you do that and feel that the new pastor is a nicer kind of version of the one that hurts you in the last church, I promise you, that the old wound will resurface when the new pastor stops giving you the special attention you felt you had and switches it to another person who's maybe come for the same reason I've pasted for years and years and watched this pattern with people. Because when you keep substituting the person that hurts you with someone you think is a nicer version that won't, I promise you, that stuff gets old and runs out because only you can heal you. And I want you this year to break the pattern of looking for substitute healers that are going to fix you because all they'll do is smother over the wound with their new form of validation that is a temporary fix for something that is going to keep reoccurring. Only you can fix and heal you. So this year, dig deep and do the work once and for all that makes you stop looking for substitute healers and moving around in your life trying to get someone else to fix you. They can't. Only you can. Love you guys. Stay strong. Hope that helps. Thanks.