 Ladies and gentlemen, let me see here Right and get the situation going on my end I think I got everything set up Apologize I had this set for nine o'clock and then Still redoing my flows in the house So I had to go to Lowe's with my wife throw it on me So I actually just walked back in the house and was able to hop on here I didn't get to do a video today. So I said, you know, let me hop on and do a live get one of my Q&A's in for this week So be sure to put on hashtag Q in front of your question I believe the Lord only call me to a hour tonight. I had a headache, but he didn't took it away so y'all Shaquita Harris God bless you now y'all give him one second now. Let me invite the Lord in the room I got my back brace on the night now. So I'm a little hot and invite the Lord in the room now I don't like answering people question without the Lord being with me now. Yes What are some things you can do alone while single when you fear being alone and Misunderstood, you know what while you single To be honest with you. That's I wrote that book single is not a curse and that's why I wrote the book because Everybody always thinks single is a curse You know, everybody is so ready to get into a relationship when they single And I'm like, you know what when you single You really don't realize what you missed out on until you get in a relationship Now it's beautiful being in a relationship But it's some things that God called you to in your singleness that he didn't call a spouse to you You know, I mean so when you single you can open that business you can start that business And you don't have to ask nobody and if any only makes sense to you that might not make sense to your spouse So when you single you can go where you want to go do what you want to do work as late as you want to work You know, you could do what you want to do because you only answer in the God And that's what you got to understand why you single. That's the time to write your book That's the time to start your nonprofit organization mentoring them young girls That's the time to start your for-profit company your LLC That's the time for you to take a chance on that business, you know, you're so in business your Etsy business You're fulfilled by Amazon business The things that make sense to you that you can see end up working out one day But you know a spouse might not see it might not be able to get it Because when you get in relationship now, you got to deal with somebody else Insecurities with their fears with their doubts with all of their personality Hangups their flaws make them perfect, but they still not you. So that's what you got to understand that now Miss J. God bless you now how to check a guy without coming off insecure or angry or Do they use that to make you not want to check them? Right, you know, well, you got to look at it if you check a man and you scream it You use you angry if you check a man and you crying Then you look insecure. You see what I mean? So it just you have to it's kind of like if you see a man looking at another one in Buddha if you look at him like and You might elbow on and look at him like What's wrong with you Now if you wait you get home and then you You know, I just always said to be growing up Then I have NASA tall If you know what NASA tall means And then we every time we go out you see what I mean Then you go into that whole spiel and you crying and it hurts me because you're looking at her butt And now he's like wow But if you just kind of look at him You see what I mean now you're not screaming. You're not crying So that's how you got it. You have to be able to check a man cool calm and collected. Don't don't get beside yourself All right now Let's see Elmorell then I look up to grab me a question out the chat and it's Elmorell Elmorell. Oh, what's going on now? Grasp your honor. Let me grasp your honor the question. Elmorella. I'm gonna answer your question 90 times How long should a man wait today after losing his wife to COVID? That's interesting. So You talk to a man that lost his wife to the pandemic and Y'all already talking and you wondering about that. You see what I mean Like y'all shouldn't even be talking if that's the case. Let me turn my back brace back on y'all. I forget. I got to look My brain why you got me with me flows now. I tell you this now me personally situation like that happened I'm gonna be saying the rest of my life But he need to be waiting at least a year to be honest with you I mean at least a year just out of respect for her family But to be honest you can't put a time limit on that and But if for you on the other side, I stay out of the way, I stay out of the way at least a year I stay out of the way La vie God bless you. No, hi Tony. Can I build a blog from knowledge? I got from a real estate Formation that cost a lot Made bad decision. Will I be? pursued for copyright Yes, you could build a blog you could build a blog on that you could write about anything You want to if it's your knowledge. It's your take on it and nobody gonna sue you and I'm at a time to spend money over that You know what I mean because most blogs it might not even be making no money Anybody gonna sue you over that says Lola. God bless you now. When should I tell potential man how I became Single mom of one My child father is the only man I've ever been with don't want him to think I'm loose booty nine on one and it does matter It's not about how you became a single man because a man really don't care about that You know, he already gets it like you single he gets it relationships in The key is that you should tell a man you're a single mom on the first date y'all talking the first day y'all talking That's not something you hold now meeting your child. Okay. That could be 12 months down the line But knowing you have a child that's out the gate. How it happened. He's not gonna believe what you say anyways He ain't gonna believe because everybody when everybody is three sides to a story your side my side in the truth Let anybody tell it is the other person fault is other person crazy And so even if that's true, he's not gonna believe it anyway La Priya God bless you. Why do men try to fight for the relationship when they start seeing you slowly giving up Just want a fan You know, that's a Men humans want a fan But I want a fan want somebody to be there for them. Want somebody they could you know run in and out on That's all it is And be God bless your boyfriend has a pregnant girlfriend and still Boyfriend has a pregnant girlfriend and still trying to have relations with me He told me I Was his best friend. I listen to your advice and put on track shoes. Okay. Good job. Good job Put on a track shoe confuse me that when you said boyfriend Maybe you meant best friend or a guy friend as my brother Ex fiance. Okay ex fiance. Okay y'all broke up Ex fiance of six years moved on with a with an older woman She is 45 and he is 26 after four months since the breakup Well, this last is this a rebound relationship Edmorell Now you become on her every night asking about that man You need sign up for a session Edmorell Another session, I know you say you had a session, but yes, that is a rebound relationship He 26 she 40 something It's been four months. He won't be with her for security She probably got a little nicer place to stay than he do a nicer car And so yes, that's a rebound relationship Tiffany Lane God bless you. Mr. Gaskins. Thank you. I had a great coaching session with Miss Carol Relationship restored boundary set Question though, why do men lie about their age adding on one to two years to seem mature? Well, that's why because most women are women are more mature than men and I'm glad you did a coaching session with Miss Carol Congratulations coach Carol So if a man thank you older or he know you older He'll add that on because see a 20 year old man and a 20 year old woman aren't really the same age See a 20 year old woman is really When it comes to maturity she's more equivalent to a 23 or 25 year old man Men knew that Landonia God bless you. Thank you Tony for allowing God to use you you are truly an inspiration to me I'm done with grown boys. God bless you now. I'm glad you made that decision Hey, y'all, I'm gonna be on here out of night now So I got about 50 more minutes tonight cuz I had to get started late at night And I need to having some time with my wife look her in the face Shanice God bless you. Thanks Tony for all the videos and Q&A that you do they have truly blessed my life I always get something out of them even if it's not my situation. I still listening learn you doing the right thing That's that's how you supposed to do it. A lot of people don't get that though Hello, Anna God bless you. I usually study my Bible and read books in my favorite coffee place alone What does a man think when he sees a woman sitting alone with a book? Well, that's a good thing. It means you're comfortable in your own skin. It means you confident And so a man don't think anything, you know now it just depends on what he's gone through as well So different men don't have different perspectives of that to be honest with you. You're sitting duck So what that means is he could come over there and Approach you a lot easier than if you were speed walking somewhere Looking at your phone like most women do or if you sitting there with a whole group of women like a lot of women do so Actually, that's really what you want to be doing when you get ready for a relationship to is being out and about but being approachable Juicy Vic God bless you now husband separated six months came to me said he wanted his family back and do counseling slash work Then he said he liked the girl at the job Heard he lived With a different girl I filed for divorce Yeah, go about your business go about your business says he coming back and then telling you he likes somebody at the job Go about your business. You're doing the right thing. Keep keep it moving. It's his soul tie. That's bothering. I'm not love Geo God bless you. What does it mean when a man asks you to teach him how to love? Is he sincere or is he making excuses to change? Well, he just grew up listening to music soul child and heard that song so many times planning the mama car Somebody car and it's just a line. He giving you but truthfully He ought to be wanting to learn how to love But he ought to be making moves because you can't really just teach a man how to love you could check them on stuff But what he's saying is Honestly is play the fool for me a little bit. Let me dog you out a little bit Let me make some mistakes and you just kind of put up with it and be entangled for a little bit in the name of Love that's really what what he's saying And in other than that he just trying to sound cute and coy Amber God bless you not a man. I recently started talking to have not met yet Suggested we get an apartment together by the end of the year if things are good He seemed like a good Christian man. Should I end it? Yeah, I'll be trying to end that I'll be trying to end that right now and because you know good Christian man and moving in together by the end of the Year y'all and he met yet and he already throwing out moving plans It sound like he in a situation to where when this hill Over it let up He finna get his eviction notice and he needs somewhere to move because he right now you got vixen for a baron's He sound like he needs somewhere to stay when they let this hill this eviction thing up this eviction situation up because a Man not supposed to be trying to plan to move in with a one by the end of the year He y'all and he met and y'all recently just started talking because you could be Lorraine a bobbitt daughter You said I mean y'all know what Lorraine a bobbitt did, huh? Yeah, man. It's right here swaying between his leg Off to la vista you could be Lorraine a bobbitt daughter. He don't know so that let me know He's not looking for love. He's looking for help. He want a roommate. He needs somebody to go half on some rent So he ain't be sleeping in his car Mr. Grateful God miss grace for God bless you now Tony I am conflicted on whether I should marry a man who has good character and faith But it's a bit immature and has childhood trauma from his dad leaving him I'm 23. He's 26. Should I move on also love your sense of humor. God bless you now Now now listen what you said now read that back to you read that back to yourself. Okay? A man who has good character and faith All right, good character and faith does not go with immature and Childhood trauma that don't all that don't go together. Okay, cuz good character and fave gonna wash out Immaturity and childhood Trump. So what you got to realize is He one or the other So the good character and faith must be a act Because he'd know you looking into that and you giving him points for that you give him credit for that But the immaturity and him not addressing his childhood issue that wash out that good character and faith So and he 26 years old. So he passed the age of reckoning which is 25 So now it's time for him to get some things together So what you got to do is you got to put a timeline on that situation right there. You give them about six months 12 months at absolute most and then you got to be making the decision Bless 100 God bless you now And y'all forgive me if I miss some of these. Let me see Lola I see now it if I'm on track, but child's father does music Dream listen to music how to keep son stable without being influenced by a child's father Well, hopefully your child father know not to do, you know crazy in this Lc. God bless you in front of his son and So just make that be known that he can't do all of that in front of his son so Hopefully that that's a given now if you sense that he's not doing right Then that's when you got to keep your child to yourself. That's when you got the yes your honor My son's father's Illegally Smokes the green leaf that's when you got to tell the business and Also has a DUI and also smell alcohol on his breath yesterday So I just don't feel safe with my son going over there That's when you got to go ahead and tell the business because you can't have Him being immature around your child, but hopefully he know how to separate stuff and do right Shayla card bless you now Last week you told a younger woman 28 who was in a relationship Who was in a relationship not to buy a house? What is your advice for a 46 year old and no relationship? Needs the tax credit for salary by your house Gone by your house 46 46 at 46 now you want to start planning to be apostle Paulina Because see the Lord says better to marry than to burn but If you ain't called a marriage then you call to the work of the Lord So at 46 you you gonna settle in you gonna settle in Your apostle Paulina until the Lord meet you on the road to Damascus and show you your husband Otherwise and at 46 the man you meet should already have him a house So then y'all can turn one of y'all y'all could date for a year He get on one knee in the month 13 Y'all plan the wedding for 12 months out y'all get married now You got two years together if everything's still going good you walk on down the aisle or you go into the courthouse Then y'all take one of y'all houses and turn it into an income property. You see what I mean? So at your age 46 you gonna start to settle on in do what you need to do get your tax credit from your house 28 total different ball game, you know that total different ball game Still got another seven years of just playtime when you're 28 Sonny Lee. God bless you X gave me a key which was nice But doesn't call or text for days when I address him about it His response is just pop up on me. He lives 35 minutes away, and I'm not comfortable with just popping up Well, what that is is he go to his girlfriend's house So really he giving you a key to keep you stuck to make you think y'all got something going on You didn't give him that key back Because if he don't call you a text you don't want to because he go to his girlfriend house The women he dealing with he see with them at their house So that's why you can pop up anytime you want to he ain't gonna be there You're gonna be able to spend the night and he ain't even at his own place You sleeping in his bed by yourself. You see what I mean? So gonna give him give him his key back to let him know it ain't nothing. It ain't nothing I'm going about my business you go about your business if you want something with me Then you got to show up and show out other than that go about your business. Hey y'all I got about 30 more minutes on here. No, I don't 40 more minutes on here About 40 more minutes on here the Lord only come to an hour tonight Brooklyn God bless you get some money from women lives of Going back and forth between two women Household one is pregnant for him from him and the other has two kids. I Have a nine month old baby from him as well, but Hasn't tried to move in Or live off me I'll tell you what so stay at this point right here. I'll be thanking Lord. You Caught nothing Because he's dealing with all them kind of women I've been thinking Lord you caught nothing and what I do I go right down at a child support court put them right on that child support Change my locks. He can't come in or I got to call me set up visitation I go and get on up out of that because see when the man juggling women like that You'll never know which one them women won't her episode on snap You'll never know what woman when you got old reckless man. Oh dirty Dirty D and he out here community D You don't never know which one and he gonna lay it on and She won't her episode on snap and she feel like you need to be got out the way and she come over there and loose up Your lug nuts and you go and send them set them out of the highway with them loose lug nuts You said I'm saying and you end up in the median Neck back and spine so what you have to realize when you deal with somebody you got to remove yourself from that situation This help playboy Talk to the top talk the child support check talks him through that child support check other than that Gonna have to get court-ordered visitation Because I'm not finna be caught up in your episode a snap. No toy. God bless you guy I've been talking to well past the 10 years Just ask me out Okay God been talking to well past The 10. Oh, okay 10 hours. Okay. I Love check my eyes. I thought it was a why that's okay 10 hours. Okay, I is Is a date on a boat at the lake a good first date he suggested due to the pandemic Mm-hmm No, I'll tell you need to keep your feet on solid ground Trust when I say keep your feet on solid ground because if he act up you need to be able to run See that right there the definition of up the creek without a paddle that man I had you out down that boat you can't do nothing and he know he you got you too far to the swim You not finna jump in there with all of the alligator. Uh, you know snake at a shark You up the creek without a paddle. So if you want to put something on you How you laid out there right on that boat and you can't do nothing So listen on the first day keep your feet on solid ground Pandemic y'all go down to the lake Walk around the lake Walk around the lake. You could go to the park Sit social distance one is he on one side of the bench you on the other side of the bench. How your mask on So I don't like new Because he man too crazy today Tessie God bless your height on my boyfriend is 64 and I'm 52 He does not Talk about a future with me When should he start talking about a future with me I've been back with him for nine months after a year and a half break up. He stays on social media Yeah, Tessie, it's time to go it's time to go sister It's been nine months after you and a half break. It's time to go because at 64 He don't have much future left. So he out Talking about his future ought to be a priority so at 64 The way the Lord calling me man home today at 70 75 8 he doesn't have much of a future left It's more behind him than in front of him. So he ought to really be very Serious about talking to you about the future and if he has not done that and it's been nine months and he that age ain't gonna say that old cuz then some y'all get offended but When you 36 64 is You know, it's older is seasoned you seasoned you didn't submit around you know stuff You know, he knows way around a woman. He knows way around a relationship and then he's on social media So it sound like you have one of those men that's failure to launch So he's 64, but really he 34 in his mind because at 64 They didn't have no cell phones in his adolescence and a lot of his peak years. He didn't have a cell phone That's when they used to have the cell phone Like this here. I remember my uncle came over to my house with a cell phone. Yeah nephew. Hey, but you want to call somebody? Yeah, I was like, yeah, what's going on? So at 64 years old He right, you know what I mean? And so he on social media at this age in his life it's like welcome on now you supposed to be working on your real estate portfolio and Selling down to get married and to talk to the woman you're dealing with to plan out your life together So you have to be able to look at the signs and say a 64 year old man or did the social media That's a dead giveaway. You got to go. Yeah, go gotta go It's squizzed it be God bless. I apologize for something that I did to a guy I was dating he accepted my apology, but a jealous girl told him some things about me and he ghosted me Let him go let him go if another woman can make a man ghost you He'll deserve to have you so let him go don't worry about it. Don't leave no sleep Don't let him come back. No go listen to Becky that you was talking to that told you that go on back over there with Becky Don't come back over here this way go on about your business So little stuff like that. You got to recognize the red flags and go on about your business Allah God bless you do mature Christian men want a woman who respects and honors them See decent men with women who disrespect and talk down on them Makes no sense Well, see when a man get a woman like that, he's not really a mature Christian man Those men that do that that you see that is the editor the nasty movies They did the nasty movies or they like men's And unfortunately, that's a lot of men today. That's either did the nasty movies or Like men's and so the woman is a cover so she could yell holla cuss all she want to cuss Sister your mister got him a mister. So you it just his sister So that's why you could yell and cuss and y'all fight like cats and dogs like brothers It's because he got him a man You see what I'm saying? So it ain't no real man that got a woman Hauling and disrespecting him ain't no real man with ain't no real man got no woman That's hauling disrespecting him. So when you meet the economy It's it's it's typically one or two thing. They like men's or they preoccupied with the nasty movies They get that cell phone on that dot-com on that hub With hands a look so she could yep. Yeah, all she want to cuss he preoccupied You see what I mean? That's what that is and that's that's the thing that I want y'all related to understand It's like real men do real things When you see a man doing fake things, that's not a real man. You see what I mean? Miss grace for God bless you now I think he needs more time to grow as a person But I think I will move on because I see some red flags parents have another suitor For me, but my fear is I might have an emotional soul time since I'm waiting for marriage to commit Yeah, you might have emotional soul time you probably need you one session of coaching this is my mentor dot-life get you one session of Bell beauty God bless. I'm 32 and going to be single for a while. My older brother is special needs and Caregiver is ready to retire. It's taking care of him long term and my two kids Let lessen the chance of me finding love in the future Well, it just makes your pool of men a little different So the man that you attract will have just a different heart. It probably will be a man so what you need to do on Belle Beauty is Get on meetup.com and find a support group for Caretakers or caregivers whatever the terminology is and what you're going to do is you're going to find them You're gonna meet a man that's taking care of his sister with special needs or taking care of his brother or his mama and so you got to find old support groups meetup.com or whatever dot-com y'all have in your area and It might be zoom calls that they're doing right now They're doing zoom calls for y'all to just talk about, you know So when your brothers when your brother go to sleep, they that's when they schedule zoom calls So y'all can just kind of tell your story and vent and talk to each other About what it's like and how resources and that's how you're gonna meet your man So see it's not that you can't have no man just that it changes Alina God bless you I've had some bad relationships in the past But I finally met someone that's good and he has the requirements that I'm looking for but I feel no Attraction or chemistry for him don't want don't know what to do. Well, then that means he doesn't have the requirements that you're looking for because If the requirements that you're looking for Don't include being able to look at him Then that's not the man for you see the man for you is not going to be You know bump booty ugly if the man for you is going to be Lookable you're gonna have some chemistry with him. You see what I mean? So it's kind of like salt Slug trying to be with salt. You see what I mean a slut don't want none with no salt and And that's what you have to realize you not attract to the man There's no chemistry that man for you and see the thing about it is a lot of times Look ugly He and I and I'm not saying look ugly to be disrespectful. That's a term of an endearment of you know Looks challenged Okay, it's a lot of us men that are Looks challenged and so when a man is looks challenged to see We learn how to be kind we learn how to be nice. We learn how to be humble we learn how to Have all the requirements Because when a man go through a looks challenge season in his life It changes life because he can't overlook by a lot of women So what you have to realize is that sometimes the man that is what you would consider a little ugly? He actually not a good guy Because if he really was a good guy, he would want the woman that want him instead of wanting the woman that don't want him See when you ain't got no physical attractive is man. It's because of how you see him So it's somebody that's attracted to him that got all the chemistry in the world for him like science class But he don't want her he won't dog her out He want to chase after who don't want him. So that actually means he's not actually a good guy Because if you're a good guy, he'll want who want him. He'll treat that one with respect who trying to be with him instead of chasing you And you not his type He's not your type sunshine God bless you now. I met this guy one day I Was upset about an ex we talked about it y'all gotta give him not my hard draw this Situated Okay, I Was upset about an ex we talked about it and exchange number He calls me friend and treats me as such took me to eat a few times I'm starting to lust after him in the friendship or no well that's a tough one now because You don't know if he calling you friend because you vented to him about your ex or You don't know if he calling you friend because he actually want to just keep you as a friend and maybe Promote you to friend with benefits because he may be attracted to somebody else a little more and when she tied up because she booked and busy he called you and You know you the six man off the bench. You see what I mean? So that's a tough one right there now I'm gonna tell you like right here You got to be careful with that lust and and with that lust is when you go to fantasizing So stop fantasizing about him when you with him alright you with him y'all on the date when you not with him You need to be busy Building your business working on you focusing on you and not thinking about him because that's what it gets you called up But just pay attention now pay attention Queen heart God bless you now Is it overly critical to call a guy out for always using I Instead of we when discussing his future plans Plain to want to marry me in a year called it off because it seemed like he's doing his own thing well, I mean It you could have jumped the gun a little bit on that one now you could have jumped the gun a little bit on that one because That's the difference between I and we is also knowing how to use proper English and Just knowing how to talk You know with the right context and so and he lived with itself and y'all not married And so when he's saying I he could just be just talking You know if he with you and was spending time with you and treating you like his woman That just could be a slip of the tongue, you know, I do that still today You know, I do that still today and everything I got is my wife's and I still might say man I got the bill to pay up man. I did this or I got this or hey, you know, it just I But it just cuz you thinking out loud you talking about yourself you live with yourself So you you could have you could have jumped the gun on that one there Just cuz man sometimes mind just is not that politically correct and Women possess cognitive skills that men lack so as a woman you more articulate and expressive than a man So you really got to go off how he treats you now If he literally was treating you like he's single and he doing all the way him then that's totally different Okay, Jenna now where y'all at now where you at John? PHP 499, but I got a feeling I Got a feeling that's both ours in America now where PHP at nine Jenna He's 38. I'm 22 Two kids two baby mamas One daughter the same age as me Tried to leave multiple times He smokes cusses disrespects me on social media Tried to leave but when I do he begs on his knees and cries thoughts Jenna You need a co-decessor because it came on him waste all my time Okay The man 38 Okay That's 10 plus 16 16 he ought not to be your daddy for one Okay, you got two baby mama You got a daughter your age up got a daughter your your age what I said then I just say he ought not to be your dad He got a daughter your age you dating your daddy You dating that's your daddy classmate You see what I mean you can't you can't do that and then he Smoking cussing disrespecting on social media and see then when he beg and cry on his knees I'm gonna tell you like this right here gentlemen. You got about two years You got to leave that man immediately You got about two years before you end up in somebody's freezer Because when a man do all of that right there that you described smoke drink cuss Disrespect you on social media then get on his knees and cry He's slap crazy that man is crazy. Yeah me That man is crazy because when a man got all of those emotions He got Ted Bundy in his blood I'm trying to tell you generally you got to run you got to run why you can cuz the longer you play with it The crazier he get the more controlling he gonna get and Ted I'm telling you don't want what's on the other end of that Jenny. You got to run now Need a session Break God bless you. How do you heal from a spiritual soul tired from a man? I connected with this man so deeply and there was never any It's embarrassing that I still have feelings any advice do I need coaching? Well, you probably need therapy on that one You probably need a therapy session a couple therapy session a couple and coaching session or help you with a relationship coach But really what it is is it's not about the man in the tie. It's about your desire for love So what you got a really uncovered is that brokenness that pain that? Abandonment those issues that you dealing with internally that made you cling to him and desire him and want him because he didn't Do that much for you to feel that deeply he just was the The placeholder he was the filler of the voice and so you really You will did it to what he represented, but It's not him. So you got to heal you you got to heal your heart God's daughter God bless your struggle with severe depression before God helped for it scared if I meet a man and fall in love and If I open up about this That I had struggled he will leave me. How do I deal with this fear? Well, this what you got to do Don't make a boyfriend your therapist Open up about your struggles to God and to a professional and you let him be the boyfriend Let the boyfriend be the boyfriend build love Build your chemistry build your relationship when y'all get married and it get deeper Now you can talk about some things that you dealt with years ago But if it's not evident and you dealing with it You doing the work with your therapist your counselor you reading the books you working with a coach You doing the work then you don't have to take that baggage to him You don't have to talk to him about that because see everything ain't for everybody So when you go telling a man that you to met this boyfriend your business He might use that against you because remember it take a man years to fall in love with you So you tell him man what you used to struggle with he might play on that like a puppet master Not next thing you know you literally losing your mind over him because he playing on that you see what I mean so talk to a professional by that right there and You talk about the wind and the breeze and the game and the cars and the clothes and the businesses with him and Deal with that deep heart stuff with the Lord and a professional. You see what I mean Don't don't don't put everything on somebody you date Scranton God bless you now a I got about 17 minutes now In a culture that celebrates Thick women how hard will it be for women such as myself who haven't been blessed with a behind to find a man Who is genuinely attracted to her and wants to date? Well scranton, you know to each their own inside of the same races and cultures that Celebrate thick women. It's men who? Don't do who prefer very petite women. So it's beauties and out of a holder Don't feel like you got to go get your booty put in because a lot of them installs end up Falling apart they end up dropping and sighing It turned at lower booty meat Real dark sometimes get infected and start to flow through the blood So what you could do because when I met my wife and she turned around and walk away. I Said oh Lord ain't gonna be able to do it Ain't gonna be able to do it cuz see my wife is African and Indian meaning we all from Africa, but her daddy side from India Indian women built different than African women see African women they had to carry them big jugs of water And so they had this hill set back there to set that stuff on Indian women they built a little different on average now you cross over you gonna have some African women that you and you Have some Indian women that you but why it got this Indian in them. So when she turned around And her bike did like that. I Said oh Lord, I said Lord You tested me Lord you tested me and I had to learn and I had to grow But guess what wife did? She went to the gym She went to the gym. I was such a booty man coming from the South I was such a booty man that I was almost okay with her going to get a booty install but The Lord dealt with my spirit and that's something that she would never do and We had a couple conversation about it cuz it seemed like everybody was doing it and She say that's what you sit on. She said I never go get some put in my booty and you got to sit on that That's gonna mess stuff up. So I say yeah, you're right They ain't I ain't want you to do that anyway, but yet on the other side the immature grown boy side So what my wife did she went through this workout regimen With dealt with a lot of squats and lunges and all of that and guess what got a booty today Got a booty. I remember she saw my sister one time and my sister said your wife got a booty done I said no, that's Dr. Jim. That is Dr. Jim not J. I am G. Y. M. G. Y. M Not J. I am that's Dr. Jim. So let's tell me with that right there You ain't got to go under the night. You got to get on a step master Squats holding the dumbbells in your hand Lunges holding the dumbbells you're gonna get all you want back though Nisi on moderators y'all can relax y'all can relax only got 14 more minutes on here Y'all can relax now I'm behind on my question now y'all hold on now. I only got 14 more minutes on here now y'all hold on So many questions now hold on Nicely, God bless you just moved in an apartment five years five days ago Today my job had a meeting about possible layoffs in September Should I try to get out of my lease or take a chance that things will work out? Well, see the thing is you got to walk by faith. They say possible layoffs. All right possible layoffs All right, so what's your possibilities what I do right now? I'll be the work 30 minutes early I'll be the standard work 30 minutes late. I'll be doing my work and somebody else work Oh, yeah, I think my work and I finish the work too. So here you go. You should I mean you want value? You got to add value. So don't don't give up on God. Don't lose your faith. Don't operate from fear You got operate from faith. You got to do more Melody be God bless your husband emotionally cheated in the first year of marriage He's really changed his behavior, but I scrutinized everything and I can't get past it And I still question everything how to heal in the marriage. You're gonna need coaching You're gonna need coaching with myself one session might do it at a max four sessions But when you marry you got to get coaching And cuz you got to hear some other things you're gonna have to hear some realness What you're gonna have to hear is that that's every single man in the entire world So if you mad by emotional cheating 90% of men physically cheating so when you realize what you got and what you comparing it to and you realize how he didn't change Now you're gonna realize that you got to get off that high horse and understand that he a human and he made a mistake And not he done did the work and he didn't change and you hanging on to something that The net or the next woman will pay you to have your husband You said I mean if you had she a trade spots with you on an instant So just like God forgive you you got to be able to you know, forgive and Special when it's something like that and if you're gonna stay Now you ain't got to forgive emotional team, but you stay so if you're gonna stay You got to forgive because he can't be in your prison of Unforgiveness because that's a miserable way to live for both of y'all One fashion diva God bless you not my baby daddy had intercourse with ladies and I was around a lady and He was there and I didn't know until afterwards also publicly humiliated Should I forgive him? It's been three years since he say he had changed Everybody say they change can he show you he changed but me personally it's been three years And that's your baby daddy and y'all you ain't say my ex-husband So I really wouldn't be taking no risk on no baby daddy now if it's a husband and you trying to make marriage work That's a little different but baby daddy Got to go Miss M. God bless you now We are both in mid 40s long distance three months spoke to his mom for the first time Small talk told her she raised him right. He has been a gentleman. She responded until you get to know him red flag Yep, that's an absolute 100% red flag either his mama crazy She trying to save you but both of them bad. I don't want to be on neither side of it Because if the mama say that if she lying she crazy If she lying she absolutely crazy you have me mama gonna put strict nine in your suit Because she don't want nobody to take her son if she telling the truth That's the woman cold and she trying to save you another thing too. You gave you gave a Complement a little too soon, but she could have been joking as well not other side that she could have been joking But you gave a compliment a little too soon y'all been talking three months Naja God bless you. Thank you so much Tony God bless you. I am 18 a professional model Just published in bold your videos have changed my life now I know how to respond to men and stay a V. Yep Stay old v. Now stay old v. Naja and God bless you on a bold Publishing that's a show no blessing now Stay near the cross and nitty's have video They show gone be out there God bless you Yasmin D. God bless Tony for man takes a few years to fall in love. Why are some But what I was Huh About to say Man voice at the door this time of night. I'm like what the man do it? I'm a dough. I put something on them What UPS working this time of night? Well, you want some overtime? Yeah, I'll get back. Oh, yeah, I'm gonna video. I'm gonna video Hey, that's old me. Oh Voice at my door What are you PS? I'm gonna tell you something That woman now then got a package every day. It depends in give me She's got a package every day. I said, Lord, you pee open bike up So this woman don't feel like she got to order something. I mean, it'll just be a neck neck Hey, what you ordered? Oh, I just ordered a cone Boy lord marriage, it's a beautiful thing. Hey, I got eight more minutes. I got to go Yeah, Tony for man takes a few years to fall in love Why are some men willing to leave their wives and change their family dynamic to be with another woman that They newly met are they in love? No, they're not in love the man is not in love But the issue is that Because it takes me in years to fall in love. He never fell in love with his wife So when he meet a next woman, he think that he got a better chance of falling in love with her quickly Faster so that's why he leaves his wife because he never fell in love with her and That's a man. That's not a man right there That's a grown boy and the other thing when a man do something like that when men do something like that You got to get you you got to just thank the Lord because of a man that nasty the amount of lightning strikes gonna be coming near his life the amount of Drivers on the wrong side of the road the amount of deers running in front of his car The minor stuff that man got to be dodging he gonna be living like he in that final destination movie every day He's just everything he's doing the matrix because when a man that nasty Ain't nothing by his life gonna be pleasant and blessed In the real now he might make it look good, but he's going through it Marcia God bless or Marsha Marcia God best I dated a man For five years. I never got the committed relationship. I know I should have left a long time ago. I fell in love and Was so hard to let go. I've been through so much with him. What should I do? You're gonna need some coaching you're gonna need by full session of coaching you need to keep going You don't have to let go you don't have to let go now You're gonna have to let go because you're playing yourself. You're playing yourself The toy of God bless you. Okay. What about a boat ride on the same lake? My father will be on same day now Or how about invite him on my father's boat first date now now Up nine if you're going out in that water take your father with you take your father with you Normally, you don't want to introduce a man to your daddy that soon, but if you is Bent to go out on that water now. I hope you can swim like a fish Since you and now you blessed your daddy got a boat. You don't mean your daddy got a boat Let me draw the boat. So it's like you bless So you bring something to the table now when your daddy got a boat the listen normally I wouldn't say introduce a man your daddy there early But if you really want to go out down that water, let him come on your daddy boat and And daddy got to go if your daddy can't go we gonna be able to do it Maryland. God bless you now I seen you right there Man, all right now. All right. I miss some questions. I miss some questions Jenae God bless you the saying if it's meant to be It'll come back to you. How do I know if it's truly coming back? For me or coming back to potentially teach me a lesson that I haven't grasped yet like a test You don't know only time I tell so that's why if you take somebody back You give them about three months and six months at the mass at the at the max and that'll show you That'll show you what they're coming back for now GG God bless the neighbor slash mechanic passed away last month In a motorcycle accident, it hit me hard the guy you told the guy you told me to pay that Wanted to fix my car for free Okay. All right. All right sit with it. You know sit with it feel it feel that GG. It's all right to feel grief Feel that okay. It's all right to feel grief Feel that and then look at y'all Time that y'all talk and knew each other and get all the lessons from it, too and then also Ask yourself if you miss the opportunity to witness to him because if you miss the opportunity to witness to him That's the lesson that you got to get from it so that Anybody else you meet in your life you speak into their life anybody else you meet you speak into their life Same thing having me a few times where I met somebody and they died not long after and I realized that they were sent to me For me to be a witness to them and ever since then I speak in everybody life I come in contact with I'm pushing them to purpose tomorrow morning I'm producing a course for one of my homeboys that got so many gifts and everything but he tapping in he tapping into it and I want to help him tap in even deeper even faster because We only got one like to live so that's what you got to do. So get every lesson from it and Grief feel it cry and you're gonna grow through it Miss God bless you. I can't get enough of your videos and reading a woman's influence This is changing the way I move a God bless your life Cute face J bless you my kids dad won't let me go but won't put in effort I told him I'm working on me and he's still trying Watch him for 30 days. He put in no effort and told me he shouldn't initiate the con convo You got to cut them all the way off I don't think he talked to you through That child support check talk to him with that child support check. Oh boy If all of us conversation See what I'm saying. Can't hear nothing. He's saying Uh Tammy God bless you. He keeps me at bay slash emotionally unavailable. He lost after older woman Father was in and out of his life raised by mom. Can you expand on this father son relationship? How it relates to the love life? Well, a lot of times with that situation is it determines a man's level of confidence In a relationship. So if he didn't see his father love his mom, that's where His example of manhood comes from so he feels You know Uncomfortable and unsure of himself And but that's a little deeper right there. So you might need a session on that bridge at God bless a high toning I'm on chapter 10 of a woman's influence It's a great book and just sending you and the queen of blessing keep up the great word. Hey God bless you God bless. I'll be reading the message And I'll be like lord, don't let me say nothing out loud. That's gonna be bad now So thank you for the compliment. She needs God bless. God bless you Tony. I realized at the third Year too late. I was dating an unbeliever and it triggered my spirit I walked away. He mentioned to other men that I was pressuring him on marriage Thank you Tony. Hey, God bless you. I'm glad you got on out of there Ashley. Oh bless. Hey y'all. I got to go now. No more questions. I don't put the nine Don't put no more questions in here now. I'm on now Ashley. Oh bless your divorced mother working on the three B's landscaper flirts contact The dad for yard He asked for my number and dad cut the combo Dad knows husband was abusive and toxic family. I like the son. Will he pursue? We are late 30s Well, he flirting but see you got to realize now men like notches in a belt So what I mean by that men like notches in a belt if you do landscaping You want to landscape some something else? You want to mow you another line? You see what I mean? If you a school teacher You want to teach a session with one of the mother teachers after the students gone on your desk If you a police officer You dreaming about somebody you stopping and want to do something strange for a piece of change to get out that ticket You see how I mean men love notches in a belt. So you can't ever take Nothing serious You can't take nothing serious what a man will tell you know that you know because of a man like you you gonna know it But a little bit of flirting nude when a man like you are gonna feel like a tsunami hit you You hear me if I only feel like a little drizzle of flirtation. No, he don't like you That feel like Like for so god bless your tony when a man loves a woman It's so obvious Uh-huh. Somebody told how can we as women avoid being a placeholder? And be with the one that actually loves us since men don't really operate from love Well, you answered your own question When a man loves a woman it's so obvious. So if you don't feel a tsunami of love You got to go You got to go Because see a man ain't got to be in love with you to show you love and for you to feel that So by that 12 month mark, you got to ask yourself. Am I being washed in love? Do I feel loved? Do I feel like he truly loves me to where if somebody said a your life is on the line Can you tell me does he love you? Yes or no If you're wrong you lose your life if you can't answer that with a confident Yes, that you know that you know that this man love you on day three 66 All right get this purse. Okay got to go. All right hand sanitizer Okay. Well, hey, it's been nice knowing you. All right. I will Everything's been okay, but we finna have to go ahead and okay, so Thank you and I'm gonna take my stapler with me. You see what I'm saying at day three 66 I got to go I got to go if if you don't feel all kind of love Oh, I'm gonna take this check with me too. I got to go and You know what I was gonna leave this little soy sauce, but I'm gonna take this too Everything got to go You got to pack it up Day three 66 day 365 When it hit 11 59 You doing your evaluation you doing your evaluation day 365 at 11 59 You doing your evaluation just like when you at working you got to check the inventory you All right. Okay. Do we kiss me? Do we hold me? Do we take my own dates? All right. Have he cooked yet? Have he clean yet? Okay. All right You going right down the list If the good can't outweigh the bad I got to get this soy sauce out of my office. I was wondering why I was smelling zesty in here But I got this open pack of soy sauce and why I brought some pan to express the other day. I left that soy sauce but Since four minutes, I got to go. Hey god bless y'all. Thank you Now I said no more question y'all saying now y'all seen y'all seen the moderates say no more question I know more questions than the last question life a soul. Okay life a soul and double it up on the question God bless you Tony my culture only courts and we believe in love after marriage not before So that complicates things Well, I can't remember your last question But that's good because courting should feel like love even though y'all believe in love after marriage That's what that coordinates. That's the love before marriage. That's what that coordinates Because see without that courting then you won't have nothing. So just understand that right now So so may say you getting courted properly Because see y'all court, but there's some rules and regulations to that court. I bet you So courting don't mean You know, he ain't got to show up and show out I mean, you know, he still got to do something Now y'all listen now if I miss your question, forgive me. I'm just one person over here. I'm trying to Get the question. Let me see I'm gonna do one little scroll through here And make sure I ain't miss none. That's left right here in the chat Y'all forgive me now Okay, court and I hope I see your disappeared on me. Do you think it would make sense to call and meet with uh Still trying to heal and he thinks he did nothing wrong No, no, go on about your business. I can't even say the words on here because it didn't got my video took down All right I think I got all the question That popped up there at the top to the vip line Forgive me. I ain't get enough of the ones in the regular chat But sometimes I get old flooded that with them wanting them colorful ones popping up there on my screen Um the day third that I probably won't be on here tomorrow unless the lord moved my spirit differently But I might try to make it on hill saturday or sunday But I can't make no promises. So on the community page on my page And uh caramel kisses and the moderators they teach y'all how to set your notification bell So if I post some or whatever you'll be notified, but I try to do as many of these I can for the blessed tribe members So god bless you. I appreciate you to the moderators. Thank y'all so much for your help tonight bless you And um and we'll talk soon