 Ladies and gentlemen let me see make sure make sure we on here right tonight wanting to go live last night and spirit one feeling it so let me get on in here tonight let's get right to it okay Kayla was ready hot on the press now hi Tony any advice for getting my mom to move out of my house she's been living with me for four years now Kayla you might be stuck with that one you might be stuck with that one I really don't know what to tell you you know close to home for me okay similar situations I really do not know what to tell you know I feel like sometimes and as they get up in age they're getting ready to meet the Lord at some point and they want to coast they feel like they don't live too too hard and been through too much and want to live off the child and it's I really don't have an answer for that one you might it might be a family life you know what it's a we got some family life coaches on my mentor dot life mother daughter I think we just added mother daughter coaching so check out my mentor dot life on that one how do you get over being on video I recorded a video and all I could see were my imperfections well coach Chris I don't watch my videos that's how I get over it like if I watch my videos I would not post them so I don't watch any of my videos I shoot it I shoot it in one take every video you watch on on my YouTube I shoot it in one take and I don't watch it when I shoot these right here I do this live I don't watch the live back I probably can't I can count on one hand out of the probably 300 or so videos I have on YouTube I can count on one hand how many of them I've watched back and the only time I watch it back is when I get a bunch of comments about something I said and I can't remember that what I said because it's in the moment just flowing with the spirit so I say shoot it let it go don't don't don't critique yourself hi when is a good timeline to start dating after a divorce every situation is different every situation is different ain't no cookie cutter for that you ain't no cookie cutter for that one so you probably you got to wait on your heart wait to what you feeling but typically on average is it's about a year what are your thoughts on seeing a guy who doesn't ask to exchange social media info his best friend follows me on IG but he has yet to mention it or follow me his IG page is public and Facebook it just mean it don't mean much don't mean much to him it's like sometimes it's kind of like it's kind of like if you know a celebrity in real life you don't need they you don't need their autograph it's similar to that he may look at it like I know you in real life like I don't need to follow you on social media so it could be something like that I wouldn't read too much into that why do guys tell you that your female part is good as if it's some sort of compliment I don't know it just conversation like 90% of the stuff men say it just conversation had my first session with Miss Erica Dylan she was great hey that's awesome now she talking about a coach on my mentor that life they human they're not my coaches a little sometimes people say oh don't I'm glad to be on your team no you're not on my team you're independent consultant you're independent contractor my mentor is a site that I found it but I don't stamp any other coaches they got to prove themselves earning on way this just a site for people who want a coach or a consultant to be able to find one but it ain't it's called my mentor dot life now so I'm glad you had a great experience if you mess around have a bad experience okay that's for a refund you know don't bring it to me happy and humble God bless you not Tony how would you advise a devout man scared of commitment how would you advise a devout man scared of commitment as people of faith we both want marriage but growing up without a father has made him afraid of vulnerability and long-term commitment um you won't be able to advise him and what you got to realize is you can't listen to when somebody says they're afraid of commitment because of their upbringing and all of that everybody won't love for themselves everybody want to experience love for themselves so when somebody won't commit to you that's just really because they don't want you so you got to understand that and a devout a person who devout in their faith they're going to be able to talk to God and get the strength for their relationship when they need it what if the woman makes more than the man how does that work with dates I remember the millionaire matchmaker said money is the male energy for one thing I'll tell you the millionaire matchmaker don't know what she talking about because she can't match herself so you need to be careful who you listen to and then number two is if the woman make more than the man when you go on a date it really he still is courting you he's still courting you so he ought to be able to afford a date if he want to go out on dates you can offer to pay your half if you know you got it and you okay with panning pan your half and you're not gonna judge him but he need to be coming to pay and expecting to pay because he is the one courting and you can offer and even when you offer he still need to be able to say no I got it because he's courting you but it's all right with you to offer and if he accepts it okay that just mean he ain't got it or he just wants you to feel empowered you know now if he say no you take care the whole bill you got it come on big money now that's a red flag gone by your business well a man still consider marriage if you have been with more men than expected I'm reading Mrs. Wright in most cases no if the man is if the man wants marriage now it's hard for y'all to hear that's hard for women to hear because it is a double standard it is a double standard but here's the thing it's only a double standard when because you allow it to be because a woman has the right to have the same stipulation a woman can say hey if you don't slept with X amount of women I don't want to be with you a woman can say that but a lot of time women don't ask men how many women have you been with and a lot of time women may not have a number that they comfortable with but men men are very territorial men very territorial so men will be like yeah so um so how many guys have you been with in your life and try to act like it's like this unassuming innocent question and remember what I tell you everything you say can and will be held against you in the court of love and so yeah that can make a man gone by this business that that really can make a man go on by this business might not make sense to you but that's the truth gee a God bless you now I'm on work at my lunch break just wanting to show some love a bless you bless you hi Tony hey this a I'm getting a good opportunity here I'm trying to hold my finger on the question so I could just go and order these ones that's in the chat now when I click up top if somebody sent a blessing the chat just run away from it so y'all forgive me now but I'm trying to go right in order down this hill line so y'all let me do this here for a little minute because I'd be feeling bad for y'all who come in here and then be posting each question 90 times and then people keep hitting up top and I keep having to go up there but y'all got to forgive me now my face shine I got an extra light on me tonight so y'all got to give them what you see on my face that's anointing okay there ain't no oil that's holy oil okay so get with it beautiful soul God bless you how should a wife react if her husband shows her DMs he has received I appreciate it but wouldn't a real man shield that from his wife and handle it himself by not by not responding or blocking the women now he will handle it himself a real man will handle it himself but it's also him being transparent it's also him being you know being open because since he's showing you you could say at any given time hey let me see them DM let me see what you be getting now I remember my daddy told me one time when I was dating my wife early on she would always tell me when a guy try to holler that's also coming from a place of insecurity because I used to do that as well I show my wife some DMs but really what we doing when we do it it's like hey you see how they sweating me you see how they feeling me you need to sweat me a little more that's really why people do that it's coming from a place of insecurity but nine out of ten times it's an innocent insecurity it's not anything vindictive or malicious so understand that but one time my daddy told me he said man my daddy told me he said he told me to tell my girlfriend don't come telling me when another man try to holler at you because when the man you won't holler at you you ain't gonna come tell me so don't keep come telling me about when look when look earlier coming to holler at you and that's typically what happened a lot of time we tell about when look earlier come to holler but somebody look good then we can keep that ourselves so that's what I would just tell them and that's what I remember telling my wife too long I said hey you ain't got to anybody who come in what they saying to you you know she was 19 years old and I say you just hang on here about that and from that day forward she never told me again how should a wife react okay that's what I just read coach rock God bless you now hey brother Tony bless you I received the inbox from someone who trying to heal from a NARC what I want to know is can I coach a person who's trying to heal from a NARC or should I suggest they get a therapist suggest that they get a therapist but at the same time you could coach somebody on a toxic relationship because that's essentially what people talking about when they talking about a narcissist a lot of people really don't know what they talking about when they call somebody a narcissist because you being a man me being a man we understand that this behavior is way more common then and this and men everyday men are capable of some really foul stuff that people keep labeling as a narcissist and so you know it's alright to have that session and see what they talking about and if it get going deep into you know trauma bonds and deep into you know depression or suicidal thoughts and all that that's when you know say hey this a little bit outside of my league you know you got to go to a therapist for this but what we can talk about is writing your book starting your nonprofit organization so coaches have their role therapists have their role guy friend took you God bless you now a guy friend known for 10 years we plan to be friends with benefits but never happen stop talking we got back in contact what does he expect he expect to pick up where y'all left off with their friend with benefits so you need to expect to go about your business otherwise you're gonna be on your bike and you get out here on your bike guess what friend with benefits you blocking all your husband energy so now you're gonna be up the creek without a paddle take care of some a man children that don't even want you so don't play with don't play with that right now Jamecia God bless you now God bless you what in a life thank you again for everything you teach us both the spiritual and the relationship guidance I'm sure you get this often but you're truly a blessing I hope God continues to pour out in your life hey bless you you can't ever hear that enough when you dealing with all these different personalities and all these demands of people you can't ever hear it enough because you could hear I could hear a hundred compliments right like that and one criticism of how you're fuming tomorrow men see it's blessing I bless you hi Tony thanks for all you do I'm a new coach on my mentor dot life specializing in dysfunctional family education and youth okay we just will talk about dysfunctional family with the young lady who want her mama to move out our house so to that young lady who asked that question coach tomorrow you could find coach tomorrow on there you could so when you hit browse coaches or find a coach it's gonna take you to a page with a list of all the coaches if you want to get right to who you're looking for you could click on the filter it's a little line that says filter when you click filter it'll open up you could type in tomorrow and her name her it'll and then hit enter and it'll bring up her profile lover of faith God bless you now God bless you Tony if men fall in love two to five years into marriage should women still have their guards up even after saying I do how can we know that they are sincere that's a really really good question and yes you still should have your guards up in the sense of what I mean by that is you still moving into it you he's still working for everything so you know I and not to be too transparent with y'all but when you think about the things you could do for your husband okay sang it on the microphone those are lari may fall out that dough sang on the microphone okay let's say like this alright let's say you want to put on you some lingerie go in the kitchen and cook alright let's think about all the different things you will want to do for your husband you don't roll them all out right away you space it out a little bit so the deep of the love God my every year my wife roll out another husband benefit and we going into we've been married 13 years she still rolling out she still ain't gave me 100% of everything that she could give to me as her husband and I think that's wisdom I think that's wisdom because yes it does because it's a lot of women who they say Tony I married this man and two weeks in the marriage I was like whoa there you this that's what the woman to do when they talking to me like two weeks in the marriage this man and I'm like whoa what's going on I say yep that's how some men to do you they'll get you all the way in and then wanna be Conor McGregor in the UFC in the marriage when you've been dating me you ain't see it so guess what they got you all the way in the marriage then they want to be Conor McGregor what you got to do get on up out of there nullified right to the courthouse okay all right just sign the marriage certificate okay I will be signing divorce certificate all right thank you can you go your honor okay though thank you get your blood purge get right on out of there so you have to at any given time you got to realize that you might have to leave that man if he if he's trying to play you like a fool oh gosh girl bless you now bless you now that's why I don't like talking for almost a year he didn't call me on my b-day said he was too busy didn't call me on Mother's Day yet he wants to marry me when I discuss my b-day or my bad day he turns the conversation back to him okay though okay dope gosh girl you know what that mean you know what that mean got to go got to go so now the words y'all like to you narcissists that might be it that might be it he might be the one he might be one of those what y'all be talking about you hear me when a man doing you like that that lets you know that he's self-centered he's selfish and if you keep going with him you're gonna feel like a prisoner on Rikers Island you it's gonna be the most miserable situation you could be in you're gonna hate life you got to understand that so these right here this what this right here are these are the red flags okay and that's what you got to recognize and realize these red flags so understand that right there now y'all let me I miss some of these let me see lover of faith I'ma grab you hold on y'all hold your questions in the chat hold your question don't put nothing in the chat let me let me let me hold on with these hold on now Jazzy thank you for all of your videos it's great content and blessing a lot of lives including mine may God continue to bless you with your wisdom bless you with wisdom knowledge and understanding patience a God bless you now Jazzy God bless you now y'all hold on now let me love or faith I found you your message disappeared on me but I can't even got you bless you now Tony if men fall in love no that's when I saw it was a numb and disappeared with that no I saw tomorrow's on okay to key in God bless you now God friend known for 10 years nope I saw that one too all right I might be caught up hey Jazzy bless you now thank you for that blessing Malaysia Malaysia that's your now what to do if a girl dated for 10 months he tested boundaries they broke up but his friends want her to continue praying for him it was long distance he needed clarity and hasn't yet reached out let it go let it go ten months y'all already and fills it out in ten months go on by to business go on by to business that's me moving y'all to life and friends always gonna be selfish towards a friend they always want you to do what's best for a friend you can't worry about what they want you got to do was best for you MJ Cooper bless you now why do men hit women especially especially when they're guilty of lies now I don't know if you meant hate women or you actually talking about what you talking about now and for one can't really talk about that in an open way on here just cuz you know this YouTube this ain't this ain't Tony tube okay but what you what you got to realize men can be very insecure and weak and going through a lot of pain but that right there is something although I mentioned it to actually address it and label it that's some for a therapist that's something you talk to with a therapist because she gonna get into his childhood she gonna get into all that but typically I know for myself as a man having been a grown boy and being around grown boys it come from insecurity insecurity pain frustration Marilyn bless you now Tony is it a red flag if a man is not married at the age of 50 yes unless he is like Apostle Paul unless he like Apostle Paul or unless he got a billion it's one or two things I need to see from a man that's 50 years old and has never been married now if he's not married but he has been married no it's not a red flag if he if he's already been married and divorced but if he's never been married I need to see a billion in network to show me where you've been spending your time at getting to the bag or I need to see your ministry to show me that you've been living like Apostle Paul and you the random race God gave you to run and you still on it or you getting ready you getting ready to settle down and get married pretty humble God bless you now I've left my child's father however he goes out his way to make me angry he stops my house and accuses me of other men when he has other women why is he trying to make me miserable because he's miserable because he's miserable and you got some key words in there that mean you need a session when you're using words like that because them things lead to greater things if somebody's talking to you and all of that that's a look you need a session okay so you're gonna have to you know save up a little bit or gonna make that gonna make that move to my mentor God like and get your sense so you could talk through that but he wants you to be miserable like him that's so tired straining him and he wants you to feel it k a bless your ties and all friends thanks for everything tga bless you love all faith and I know I'm gonna tell y'all that I'm about to tell y'all you know the blessings y'all be giving me I've been blessing people and I was gonna put a number on it but I'm gonna tell you right here I this month I was sold more than half of what I used to make in a year I was sold that in a month more than half of what I used to make in a year so imagine your year salary and imagine giving away half of that in a month when when God elevate you and take you to where you're trying to get to imagine when he take you to where you trying to get to and then you going and you giving monthly about what you used to make in a whole year so I want y'all to understand like a how y'all be blessing me I be paying it for so and I feel like it's just a this is a circle of love so I want y'all to understand that anytime you send me a blessing I say a prayer on it whether you come on here whether it come on cash out I say a prayer on it and say Lord bless them bless them pull out and they like cuz it whether it's 99 cent or whatever it is hey I want you to know it I don't take it lightly love or faith God bless it Tony thank you you explained it beautifully my only fear about guarding your heart after marriage is he will think I am holding back and that might push him away you are right you are right about that and so you have to be you can't be necessarily verbal about it it has to be a feeling it got to be the way you move the way you carry yourself and a man always gonna respect the woman a man who loves you is gonna respect your space he gonna respect where you at so he might want something from you and if you say no no I'm not feeling that I'm not I'm not there or no I'm not you know or you moving slowly you're not just all out there but it's something that is between you and God and you giving him you you're not telling him that you're not giving yourself or all of you and you may be given all of you but you paying attention you paying attention to what he's doing what he's saying that's that's the other side of it of not completely you don't just go blind some people they go and like oh he will never ever ever cheat no that's a human that's a human you ain't dating Jesus Jesus the only man who was without sin if you dating a man and his name ain't Jesus he capable of everything under the Sun so you got to be open to it you got to be mindful of it you got to be crazy cycle but you got to keep your eyes open and and still pay attention to your intuition starfish God bless you now left ex after eight months cheating in the DMs confirmed after I left he cheated in real life he is back let him know I know he cheated or don't bother you shouldn't be bother being well because you're already than left and if you have to leave a man after eight months and he cheated on you in eight months you might be cheating on you the rest of your life he couldn't even hold out for eight months he cheated on you no you plan yourself you plan yourself and when you play yourself especially when you come here and ask that question and I tell you you plan yourself and you keep on going then guess what you're gonna get everything that's coming to you so hey you better wake up and smell the coffee and get that fold just get that fold is in the morning and let that fold just hey take you where you need to go I'm trying to tell you why you giving these vitamins trying to keep me ready so I could serve Tiffany Lane God bless you now no question just a blessing thank you mr. gas and ties and offer me oh bless you bless you tonight hey I'm gonna tell y'all something about the wife a woman's influence for so long I wanted to go open a church I wanted to open the church open the church and my wife told me she said Tony listen the church it's a lot of pastors getting in trouble it's a lot of pals cheating on their wives it's a lot that being a pastor is is the rap is going down God called you to reach outside them four walls to be able to reach people with his word without having to stand behind a pulpit hitting across the head with a Bible to be able to be wise as a circuit harmless as a dog so y'all don't understand when you send me a blessing and you say ties at all from you you calling me a minister and then that right there hit me that hit me that hit me because my wife she I told her what some of y'all be saying and she said didn't I tell you didn't I tell you that God have ministers that God gonna raise up ministers in different area your church on YouTube you ain't got to be in four walls paying rent on a building and managing all the spirits inside this building your church gonna be bigger than that that what my wife told me and I just I just Lord you speaking to I'm gonna listen to you put me with I want y'all to understand it by the woman's influence too so and if you ain't got the book yet make sure you make sure you get a woman's influence Queen VV God bless you now my boyfriend is a musician is it controlling to not want him to interact with women if they support him on social media what are some boundaries I can set yes it is controlling I mean you do gotta just like I'm interacting with you so you know and this my job so if you supported me I'm gonna say thank you you know what it should be is if y'all gonna really be together and be all the way in then he should be okay with you having his password being able to you know see the messages being able to see what the young lady is saying but those are desirous a message retracted I don't know what that mean you did a charge bike or your car got declined or you just deleted the message but God bless you now either way whatever happened now God bless you Melissa bless you now so yeah that that would be controlling you know if you if you don't have what it takes if you don't have a heart and the confidence to let your musician your musician man say hey and say thank you and to his supporters then you don't need to be with a musician you don't need to meet be with a musician you got to be with who you can have to be with a school teacher you know be with somebody else but any man you deal with that's gonna be a public figure you're gonna have to deal with people want to support him and all of that and you got to know who you are you got to know you the queen and if he don't make you the queen and treat you like the queen like every woman every every one of y'all know that I got a queen and you're gonna know about the queen and if your heart ain't in the right place you're gonna be salty when you see the way I treat the queen the way I talk to her the way I look at her if your heart and in the right place you're gonna be salty but but I don't care you gonna know she the queen so you're gonna know hey I could support Tony but I need to have my spirit in the right place because if I got my spirit in the wrong place he gonna expose me he gonna hurt my feelings so bad and it's been some loose booties that they came and didn't didn't believe that what I do is real and that I live what I teach and they to come in the DM hey just gonna put hey who is you hey you need to be writing a business hi how can I book your services you're not getting a response from me talking my hey with all your booty I child if you don't go on somewhere you're talking a tonic asking and I got a queen yeah me don't thank just cuz you got your little scantily clad outfit you gonna come in the DM talking my hey and get a response delete leave a write down red feelings hurt but they gonna know I got a queen don't step to me when you step to me it need to be by business don't and a lot of ladies send me long questions in the DM I don't answer questions in the DM I answer questions where everybody could see it just like this right here I don't do one-on-one in the DM the way you feeling special no if you can't catch me on the live then you need to catch me on a professional session you hit me so that's how your musician let him see this little excerpt to know that that's how you gonna set it up that's how you got to set it up if if he's serious about you darling God bless you now that's your darling boss lady Papa bless you now I'm writing a book on overcoming my blessing and generational curses how can I incorporate healing from this in my life coaching coach on healing trying to choose my three areas wisely I don't know if we have healing on my mentor now but you it might be on there but yes you can coach on self love you can coach on forgiveness you can coach on healing or you could coach on confidence you know but as far as the actual acts that you went through the n-word that I can't say on here that's for a therapist that's for a therapist not for a life coach because see that deals with some clinical diagnosis or some clinical treatment plans when healing from that now yes God may have healed you but what God did for you it might not look the same way for somebody else so you try to put your prescription that God gave you on somebody else now you become liable so you got to be very careful with that you know and you got to realize everything ain't for everybody you know you can't say the whole world so you got to do what you could do but you can't say the whole world you're gonna have to be able to help but understand you're not gonna be able to get down and stitch somebody together and put the Neil Spurn on every day you will have to be more so of an example of the healing and coming full circle a brandy God blessing I told my wife today I say I'll be trying to answer the questions that be in the chat but what so many people be you know keep blessing me that I get stuck up there and I got to answer those because they sacrifice an extra financial so I want y'all to understand this ain't easy on me trying to get through all these questions so y'all bear with me brandy God blessing I've been seeing a guy two years I just found out he's talking to another woman says he does have feelings for me but we are too much alike for a relationship he's okay with friends with benefits I want real love thoughts brandy you need to lose his phone number tonight you lose his phone number tonight however you got to say it whatever you got to say if you want to say it in a text if you want to send a voice memo if you want to leave a voicemail if you want to talk to him on the phone but you need to tell him okay thank you for your time you have wasted my time I will be losing your number please don't contact me ever again goodbye just a it's gonna be the hardest thing you do in your life up until this point but life can get harder so understand that but you don't waste it two years you cannot waste another single day because he don't want you he don't want you he moving on about his life you got to move on about your life he tried you like a slap fool when he said I don't want you but we cool so if you want to stay on your bike as a fake friend with benefits I let you be a dummy that's what he said in English he said I don't want you I'm looking for somebody else but I could use you for what's between your legs if you willing to let me use you like that so here here go to application for dummies just fill this out the please don't forget to sign the application for dummies and then turn it back in within three business days thank you that's what he's saying to you and listen you can't let nobody he got me hot how he tried you that man tried you so bad free to God bless you God man and man tried you like a basal oh my goodness man and man trying you to me to God bless you Tony I've been following you for a long time and let me tell you you are blessed and I always say you're my little big brother a woman's influence is blessing me you and your wife wrote a great book a thank you so much for getting that book seen pray love God bless you now now see pray love say she gonna send her laugh in a sticker what a little blessing on it ain't God bless you cuz she said he moderated the lead need chat so I'm finna send a blessing I really appreciate that Leela Leela Leela Leela J bless you now hi I'm 35 Hungarian living in the US met a guy 59 I know it's a big age gap but he speaks my main language speak on the phone for two hours a lot in common guys in my age play me out because I'm not from out here thoughts no no see this is a thing system they play you out because you ain't got the rules to the game it ain't cuz you ain't from here see you ain't got to be from here you ain't got to speak no English you speak good English you ain't got the none of that you just got to know the rules to the game see they play you out cuz you have not set your standards yet what you what's your standards let me give you some standards no sex before marriage okay ain't no fleeing ring of Dean without a ring okay ain't no coming in my house ain't no going in your house ain't no calling me every other day but claiming you trying to get to know me see you got to set your stand you got to keep watching these videos put all of the together set your standards and when you set your standard you're gonna stop getting played now what you got to understand about this right here you you can't date granddaddy okay cuz see you 35 he 59 24 24 yep that's what that is 24 years older than you that's he old enough to be your daddy he didn't have he old enough to the had three or four kids that much older than you so he could be your daddy and you could have siblings that's how old he is compared to you so he's speaking your main languages because he didn't been here twice as long as you now by so that's how he's speaking your language is because you you are a baby to him so it's like taking candy from a baby he's like this this this this baby don't know nothing he just got game for days because he 59 he done been around two and three times you 35 so you don't know you know you don't know all the game and tricks that he know so you think you'd have been played by the man your age granddaddy finna get you a run for your money you hit me granddaddy finna how you so whoa I granddaddy finna how you so stressed out because he got way more game than the 35 year old man because he didn't seem too much and done too much and let me tell you the reason why he want you is because he trying to get his groove back like Stella that's why he want you it ain't about that he liked you and that he a good man 59 year old being able to talk to a exotic see you got to realize when you when you hungarian in America that's exotic that's like the tiger king that's exotic he would get his tiger from Hungarian I don't know if that's true but what I'm saying is when you in America and you from somewhere else you are exotic so not only do he got a woman that 24 years younger than him but she from another country got a little accent different culture oh he feeling so good he feeling so good he finna give you so much game you don't want to have stalking Parker brothers wonder God bless you now I asked my husband to leave after four years of marriage because he was treating me like trash but for Mother's Day I get a text at 9 p.m. I didn't forget about you why because he didn't forget about you but he disrespect you by text you at 9 p.m. and you doing the right thing if he treat you like trash keep going by to business don't don't don't let love stuff like that you know like on Mario cart on Mario cart where you driving on Mario cart on the game and you could throw the banana peel back down you could throw the oil spill back there you can throw the little the little turtle back there and the person who driving behind you they drive behind you and you throw that little turtle and they crash that's what he doing to you he see you back there he finna take this hill y'all gotta forgive my wife and got my dog on Gucci a hand sound so he take their hands out Tyler you hit me and you but he see you back there so as you going nothing you know you slipping a slash because he confused you so now what you doing you on the chat spending money to ask a question about a loser that's why men do what they do because it confuse you it confuse you you know why we find these little thing like on Etsy or whatever these people they take old bags and they are cut the material out the old bag and make it and it just wrap around this hill fashionista stuff you know why y'all forgive me there Etsy and all that Shopify all all kind of stuff I'd be having in this house Anna ain't gonna say your last name on here Anna God bless you now part in your life dating for seven years dating for seven years Anna let me read your message again dating for seven years recently found out he was following liking commenting and a few messages to provocative girls on social media confronted him and he apologized and deleted his social media cannot trust him no you cannot trust him you cannot trust a man that dates you for seven years you can't trust a man that dates you more than two years no you cannot trust him he deleted the social media that you know about he got another social media on the splack of valley junior that you don't have a clue about go on Instagram and search splack of valley junior boom there you go all the women on now he got a Instagram splack of valley junior got somebody else apps on his body and he talked to all of them provocative dressed women so he deleted the Instagram you know about but a man who've been dating you seven years this how much he kept this how much he care for you this much hell you know what this is this the fall of my chocolate milk that I drunk earlier today the fall that you pull off the top when you get ready to stick your straw in there this how much he care about you the man been dating you for seven years and you know what I'm finna do with this put it right here my trash can you can't trust a man been dating you for seven years that's a that ought to be a crime in 49 of the 50 states they somebody for seven years ain't nobody got that kind of time we only get a little one life he then dated you for seven years aspiring soul god bless you not Tony what are your tips for couples on still maintaining variety interests even after marriage you gotta be spontaneous you gotta be creative you gotta tap into your whole brain so like today I'm doing this live at 830 me and my wife went to get our son something to eat brought it by then we went to get us something to eat we drove to the to the place ordered our food sat outside on the little bench dinner had us a dinner date then went to Starbucks got our Starbucks together we get the same drink ice tall ice caramel macchiato got our caramel macchiato came on home then I come in I got 15 minutes to get on the live she'll mean so she created a date for us so we keep that fire burning when I get off here we gonna get on our Netflix and chill you know what I mean so you gotta think outside of Boston we have a car date we have a car date we have a at the park bench date y'all are forgiven I bought them a little dog and look they ain't just be going to bark when it won't bark it the dog literally weigh two and a half pounds and be one of art like rock wallet enjoy your God bless you now Tony you have already dropped so many gems with comedy that I had to bless you lol people ask me how I have the mindset I do at 23 I tell them it's Jesus and you thank you a bless you now bless you now ain't telling no joke so if you laugh at anything I say that mean you got a good sense of humor that mean that your spirit in the right place cuz I ain't telling no joke so that mean that your spirit in the right place I seen pray love bless you now Tony you are just awesome been binging on your videos for days God use you to confirm many things for me please do video for pre-teen girls and young boys on how to see how to see boys and girls as Christians a God bless you I'm seeing that might be for you that's out of my that's out of my wheelhouse because for one because of the new laws on YouTube I can't talk to them under 18 you feel me okay I get demonetized and for two I'm just too real for kids so if for me you got to hear from me and then you got to translate from me to the kids because I don't know how to talk talk to kids and listen trust me when I tell you this come on at nine years old my son knew about everything y'all know by everything you know by my son I talked my son at nine years old I don't know how to talk to kids if my wife knew the conversations I had with my son when he was at nine years old I would have been relegated to the doghouse for life I was told my son at nine years old he said daddy daddy daddy please stop that my stomach hurting my stomach hurting daddy I couldn't help it I don't know how to talk to kids so listen to them y'all don't ask me about that I got one course on Tony gas Academy that's called raising young men ages 13 18 that's probably the best I could do Melissa God bless you God bless you I feel like I'm gonna miss some of these blessings up here cuz I'm talking and they could come in so y'all forgive me please charge it to my head not my heart I'm gonna try to catch them in the chat though my ex was mean used me and made me cry a lot thank you for giving me strength to leave them and not go back thank you for helping me realize myself work I'm happy I'm no longer with them the guidance you give me your videos help me so much God bless you a blessing now bless now hold on I'm gonna miss some of these up here some of these it's too many I'm up there y'all Britain the God bless you after 11 years of forgetting my worth I finally told my baby daddy we're done now he says he wants to be friends raise the kids so that we both be there for them but yet he's even more consistent thoughts when a man when if a baby that is inconsistent I'll let that courthouse be consistent for him I let that child support be consistent every month if he want to be consistent inconsistent that I give him some consistency in his life and that's that child support every month and I know a lot of men hate it special black man be already put a government man that's a scam all right well you should have did what you're supposed to do and kept your dirty thing in your hand instead of going right here skiing round and want to run off and be nasty and can't take care you sorry kid your butt need to be on child support you need to be under the jail that why we got all all their crime on crime out here all this going on because you're sorry but want to sleep around and then don't want to take care your responsibility and want to cry about some child support if you would have been a man you want to worry about no child support so guess what if you couldn't do what you're supposed to do then pay that child support with pride because listen to me if I do my wife wrong listen you have 50% you have 80% because I'm a dog I don't deserve nothing you need go to the child support court put me on the mics put me on the mic because I'm a dog when I used to get in trouble as a kid I just take the belt till my daddy hey what me what man I just got done stealing what me you see I'm saying we got to have a new man today we got soft men so when a man it want to be inconsistent I'm gonna give him a consistent child support that's what I tell my daughter that what I tell my sister and I'm trying to the net of God bless you now you have changed my life for the better thank you I'm I'm an English professor brand new lifecoat you had to put English professor in there dinner I don't know I'd be racking your brain I know you be pulling your hair right you're English professor listening to me I write nonfiction and fiction psychological thrillers do I need different websites for each genre and one for life coaching no no you are unique being you're unique being you could put them all in the same site you just put you know your bio and you put your services and you put your books you put it all in the same site just on different pages now y'all forgive me real quick y'all give me a moment a y'all hold your chats now hold your chats let me try to get in here Bridget God bless you now I bought a woman's influence a great book I'm on chapter 6 y'all y'all y'all give me a second let me catch the let's learn incorporated bless you now let me catch the thank you Tony I'm blocking him like you say blocked branded God bless you now y'all send a double and triple blessing why I never thought you'll be burdened by blessings see that's that's a that's a whole word right there when the Lord of put you in a position to where your blessings become heavy do I I'm trying to read through keep up with blessings everybody have me until well let me tell you something love I am bless you I'm working on writing my own book and having it published by August 2020 do you have any suggestions on any great editors and publishers if you have not take taking the birth your book program on Tony gas and Academy comm then take that if you already took it then email to support at Tony Gaskins comm support at Tony gas comm we got editors you don't need a publisher you publish yourself you just got to go to the website and upload your main script and your book called journey to heal man I missed a lot Tony why do men feel the need to prove they still got it and insist on wanting to still feel young by chasing women even after having a whole wife and children insecurity it's just insecurity it's all insecure just not being affirmed as a young man not knowing who he is not knowing who love him and why they love him not hearing that that you great that you special it just it's just insecurity he operate from insecurity freedom I hope I told you thank you God bless you now brandy I think I caught up now y'all give me a second I missed some more on blessing that came up there so let y'all let me get to this scene pray love I saw your blessing Anna love I am boy you got to know how to read what can you imagine somebody over here on my side don't know how to read I might not sound educated but listen here I show know how to read aspiring soul God bless you Tony what are your tips for couples on maintaining right I answer that question okay I'm catching up little little J they all take me as a joke Tony it's so depressing never had a problem like this in my country thank you for your wisdom by the way I take your advice God bless all I tell you what if your accent is really strong that also makes change the way of a man look at you I remember going through that in college the young lady was very smart and very intelligent but because her accent was so strong from her country it sounded the same way as like a four or five-year-old taught English yours might not be that bad so it was hard because I'm looking at a grown woman but her English made it sound like she was way younger so it was hard for me to take her serious so sometimes it could be a language barrier and that's in all seriousness that's not a you just like if a person talking and they like a man is he listening and he like and so he kind of take it as a joke and he takes take it as like oh I could get over on you because you don't know this language so but you can't take that personal you just got you still got to have your standards because your standards gonna speak louder than what's coming out your mouth now y'all hold on now mama called up okay okay Kim Sue bless you now unfaithful and I care about unfaithful and I care about message me saying he's still in love with me inconsistent communication different state wants us to try but won't commit or get counseling I made progress but now I got stuck well you're gonna need coaching Kim because you gonna have to hear something that you ain't never heard before in a way you ain't never heard it shy friend recently found out a guy who I dated for 11 months ex-girlfriend looks exactly like me broke up he's peed off do you think I was harsh on him no no you weren't hard for breaking up I don't know what the girl ex-girlfriend looks exactly like you got to do with anything but no you what you weren't harsh for breaking up with a Lashon hi I want to rephrase my question from the last live I know no face-to-face dating during this here situation when do you think it'll be safe face-to-face 2021 well see you gonna have to ask dr. Fawcy you gonna have to ask I'm a different Tony see you got Tony Fawcy that working up there you really gonna have to add because see me you didn't get me hemmed up with no medical advice okay y'all be trying to him somebody hey Tony can you talk about such and such no I can't talk about that no so say I don't know when you can do face-to-face dating so I'm gonna tell you pray on it and listen dr. Fawcy okay Anthony Fawcy because my name is not Anthony though so a lot of people think my name is Tony so Tony Fawcy Tony gas can I can't get at right there so date on FaceTime date on the cell phone and stay out of the face-to-face until the professional the health professional tell you otherwise MJ Cooper God bless you you're right a man can only treat his wife the way you treat your wife when he's loyal otherwise he has no focus hey you right by that now now y'all hold on now I'm almost caught up aspiring soul thank you Tony you accidentally missed questions from love eye and journey to heal see she she paid five dollars to tell me that I miss questions and y'all see I'm going back through the question but but thank you because see that a type personality she's spending more money to tell me what I done did wrong on here but a I'm gonna set that blessing all the same I really don't miss nothing I miss it then I go back and get it so y'all y'all you know let me do this now but if you want to send a blessing a God bless you now I'm gonna appreciate you all the same Sabrina God bless y'all watching the video of a couple on divorce court have you ever thought about doing reaction videos was watching and was thinking about what may Tony say about this God bless you if I when I run out of content that's when I do reaction videos but right now I got too many reaction to the questions I'll be getting in the comment section so I really but when I run out of content then I do reaction video okay I'm caught up now because here go Coco boyfriend wants to focus on school but wants to stay cool I'm focused because I'm technically single now and he said that if I move out of town he will come with me Coco I've been seeing you in here every Q&A you're gonna need a session you're gonna need a session cuz you be coming with some loaded question for that 499 and it just really ain't we really ain't gonna be able to really get as deep as what you be going through Coco because I was seeing you here every night I'm on here you asking a question but you're gonna need to be able to sit down and really talk through that thing for an hour you you got at least 40 45 minutes of explaining in you and then you come up with the plan but from what you just told me your boyfriend full of it your boyfriend full of it and he wasting your time true life God bless you now bless your part in her life hello Tony thanks for everything I was talking to this guy for five months then one day I called him no answer he said his phone died then he said it was on 30% so his mom could reach him then two days no contact block or track shoes um it's it's it's five months okay you dealing with him for five months then he met another woman and start to give her some time spending some time with her and that's what throw job calmly the Cooper God bless you now part in her life so that's what you got to realize when it's a shorter amount of time like that you got to be okay letting go you can't when you see something the way it's a riff and then boom he disappears and he's not saying hey I was in the hospital with a 19 hey some such past away I just was down and out but he just popped back up oh I just you know I don't know what I was doing last two days now you know he's not fully focused on you he's not transparent he's not honest he's not really invested in you so that's your sign that's your opportunity right there to break free what a lot of women do wrong is you get that sign at three months four months five months like it is for you and you ignore it so now he's showing you that I'm not all the way focused on you I'm not all the way locked in my attention is other ways I'm telling lies I'm not being transparent you ignore it brush it under the rug thinking that it don't mean anything and the next thing you know you at month 16 friends would benefit situation ship wondering what happened and forgetting that at five months the relationship was over and he showed you but you ignore it because he sometimes what we'd be way known is we want the truth to slap us in the face we wanted to be like but sometimes it's not like that sometimes it's like this hey hey you probably ought to move on with your life sometimes just like that it ain't always gonna be hey you need to move on with your life ah Jennifer God bless you now may God pour his love and joy on you and bless try today Jacqueline I see you popped in at the right time does bless try members get notification when you are live I'm not getting notification you know what to see here's the thing um what you got to realize about the notifications is they'll have to go through a server so when you when that go through a server let me give you an example if I got a mailing list of 25,000 people that mailing list provider MailChimp gonna charge me two hundred dollars a month to be able to email those 25,000 people so on YouTube if I got a hundred and ninety thousand people that's cost that costs a whole lot of money with server capacity for YouTube to send out a notification to a hundred and ninety thousand emails and they don't hook it up to the bless tribe to where it say oh the bless try get a notification so what you got to do is check I typically go live at 8 30 or 9 and I typically do it Sunday 2 day Wednesday Thursday so put that in your calendar Sunday 2 day Wednesday Thursday and I try to go no earlier than 7 so you gonna catch all them but it's archive and you can watch the replay so if you miss it I'm gonna be here you know so so don't y'all be getting upset if you miss one I'm gonna be here I'm gonna be here Lord willing I'm gonna be here so you gonna catch you gonna catch other ones but that notifications it ain't been working right cuz you know it costs so much money then you got to remember you got people on here that got 30 million subscribers when they go live can you imagine how many emails got to go out so it's just YouTube I feel like they just get overloaded and they just don't have a server capacity to send out the notifications like they used to watch and my God bless you now when do you have the expectations conversation with a guy do you initiate being in a relationship did you initiate being in a relationship when you met your wife oh yeah now I initiated not I initiated but see what you got to realize I met my wife in 2005 okay it's 2020 so when I met my wife we barely had social media when we had I had a flip phone that if I sit in the sun too long it dies I mean go kaput kaput I literally was in the phone in the sun texting and all the ink left out my phone and the phone just died I say what is the world is T-Mobile selling me so you see I'm saying I met my wife 2005 the 2020 man different type of man that's why I be trying to tell y'all the 2020 man is a different type of man he's spore right because we didn't have match.com black booty meat.com e harmony Eli's.com tinder that sound like tinder booty tinder bust them up bumble all of this these men so spoiled today and so this is the other thing what I told y'all okay is don't a niche don't talk about expectations be about expectation you ain't got to talk about your expectation he grown somebody else was supposed to somebody else was supposed to raise him somebody let's learn yeah those the moderator deleting messages but they delete them because I told them to delete them so understand in the chat only thing supposed to be in the chat is just questions so in it all the extra motor cons and all of that they delete that because when I go to the chat I got to be able to get right to the questions but if everybody putting hey lol hey bye this and that that that's thousand chats in there and I got to be scrolling for days and I don't get to see the question so what they what what the moderator is doing to delete that it's not malicious they ain't trying to be mean they just trying to keep the chat clear so only put questions in the chat until we open it up I typically open up the way y'all just free flow the last 15 minutes y'all can say whatever but only put questions in the chat and then when somebody ask a question please let me answer the question because folks been getting mad when everybody throwing in a two cents and they come into my page so y'all let me answer the question and just understand ain't deleting to be mean SJ God bless you now mr. Gaskins you definitely have a gift from God your answers are not just experience but divine revelation from God God's be a God bless you not SJ I appreciate that word I appreciate that word oh somebody bless him just disappear let me go find it let me go find it my wonder y'all hold on real quick let me get my little gander I have to start similar that to Loma lap sound like I live in a gated neighborhood but uh you just sometimes folks they'll be getting here playing play with the wrong one come up short peace for heart God bless you now Tony why do most men never really settle down and constantly are on the hunt for other women or an upgrade you know that's a real tough question to answer but it really comes down to human nature you know it's it really comes down to us never really being satisfied you know how you could get the job you want and then five years in now you want to raise now you want to upgrade now you want to promotion you get the car that you want two three years in now you want a new car you get a house three years in four years in now you want to remodel the whole house it's just this and men deal with that in relationships to where he get this woman and say okay nice you know nice little booty on okay oh man she ain't got no breath okay get this woman okay got this got that oh man I want to have green eye okay get this woman alright through the red green I oh man I want to have Halle Berry how cut okay get this woman so that's what he's doing this grown boys and it's more grown boys than grown men why because we got more sin than righteousness so when you got more sin than righteousness you gonna have more grown boys and more grown girls then grown men and grown women so it really is not to do with you it's just some people they be wanting to they be wanting to get the next best thing the next best thing the next best thing and then the next thing you know they end up up the creek without a problem they ain't got nobody cuz they was never thankful for who they had so that's that's their life that's their plight they gonna have to live with that you can't worry about that you got to know the person for you gonna be for you T look God bless you now God bless you now that's a show no blessing y'all be blessing me like y'all get stimulus checks every week I'm like Lord I need some of this stimulation what kind of y'all just that bless that be a blessing thank you for the videos that confirm so much for me and guided me to fulfill my purpose your courses that help start the journey of my purpose and your books that provide so much understanding thank you Tila now you a bless you need to write a book now that read like a poem and I ain't see no typos and now you need to write a book you need to write a book now cuz you writing this little chat so I mean you had to tap with your thumbs you have no typos and it will pull at it you need to take that birth your book or a y'all I got 18 moments now got 18 moments I'm trying to relax I work all day serving serving everybody else so I actually end up staying up to midnight or two o'clock in the morning just trying to get some time for me so that's why I be looking tired sometimes cuz I'd be up trying to spend time with me because all day I'm coaching and writing and serving others so I so I got 18 more minutes on here now so I'm gonna try to answer me chat how long is too long to see if they gonna come back please help I need please help mr. Tony on how long is too long to be honest with you a day is too long as soon as as soon as y'all break up you got to go on about your business as soon as y'all break up it's not your place to sit and wait at the rest stop for them to catch you to come back to you you got to get back on the road the destiny and get gone meaning that you get into your healing you get into your growth you reading your boss you get doing your session you taking your course whatever you doing woosa but it's on him to come get you not you sitting there waiting gone about your life if you if you heal in a month and then you and on day 32 you meet Prince Charming got to go swept off my feet swept off my feet walking down the aisle you see what I'm saying don't sit there and wait see the problem what so many people do wrong is you break up with somebody and then you stand still and then I always say if somebody keep running in and out your life that means you standing still can nobody run in and out your life unless you stand still Mars for you God bless you not on the young lady who sent their blessing in the orange I'm gonna get you but I got to get the hill of turquoise ones because they be Mars for you God bless you now hi Tony when is the right time to let a man you are newly dating know that you what you want and looking for serious relationship nothing casual okay Mars for you she she just came into the chat just came into the toner gas and stratosphere um so y'all forgive me when you meet a man you don't let him know anything you don't let him know that you looking for a serious relationship you don't let him know what you're looking for you watching him when you meet a man if you tell him that you look for a serious relationship he gonna be serious as a heart attack but he gonna look serious because you just told him you looking for a serious relationship so he's gonna look and pretend to be serious to make you do this and when you do this you get slept so when you meet a man you got to keep your guard up and all you doing it all you doing it but y'all come in there come right in hey and then that thing you know so you can't come in and tell a man I'm looking for a serious relationship if you bought the games get out of my life you can't do that because guess what he gonna pretend but if you don't tell him then he's going to be him and when he's being him now you get to see what he's bought now you get to read and respond to what he's showing you because he just being him because you didn't give him the blueprint cartel is asking a woman to dance on a date is considered to be sinful because I am holding her close is having a glass of wine wrong on a date okay cartel um no that's not a sin to ask her to dance now see the sin come if you go to lust in her heart in your heart so you dancing with her now but you go to picture and stuff that's where you go to get in the sin alright a glass of wine on a date the Bible say obey the laws of the land so if you 21 if the drinking age is 21 then that wine is not a sin because it's not illegal and Jesus drank wine that's why I call it Jesus Jews Jews with with his mama and the mama say hey they don't ran out of wine so they need you to go dip your thing in it and he was like one man what but Jesus went over there turn that water in the wine and it was the best wine they had all night the man like y'all should have had had a good wine y'all say the good wine for last y'all should have had a good wine first then say the trash for last so what's the sin is to be a drunker that's that the Bible tell you don't be no wine Bibbler okay a drunker Alexandria I got you here good evening this is an appreciation chat Tony thanks for the book sessions and advice it's all being put to good use bless you and the queen a God bless you are not part of our life Lord a y'all I got 13 more minutes now 13 more minutes Lanetra bless you now I'm ready to start dating but I seem to only run into men that just won't what should I do I'm ready for something serious see the reason why you run into men that just won't this is because that's just the way the mop flops and the cookie crumbles the way my college football coach used to say it just the numbers you can't worry about that but see what you got to realize is you're not gonna run into a man that don't want this every man that you meet want you on your bike unless he liked men's okay but it's even some men's who like men's who still touching women you see what I mean so that's every man you gonna meet now you ready for something serious but see what serious mean to a man is this here so what you got to do bring them on into your stratosphere but how your how your game how your knowledge when you got your knowledge it don't matter what he won't it's about what you want so when you got your knowledge he gonna say hey yeah so what you think about you know you say I'm not ready for that oh really when you gonna be ready I don't know it's I know it ain't the day so you see I'm saying when you got your knowledge now it don't matter what he won't oh well you know that's gonna bring us closer oh yeah hmm not the day so when you think you're gonna be ready not the day you see what I'm saying so now if he that's if that's all he won't he gonna go on by this business if he see you he like you he want more now you're gonna start to do the work when he start to do the work now he start to fall in love Diane lot bless you now continue to pour in others is God pouring to you bless you so well Shanice here's a blessing Tony you've been an inspiration in my life reading single is not a curse and just finished the birth your book course never thought of writing a book ideas are coming out of nowhere not sure what to do next a God bless you write down your ideas come up with your outline and just in every chapter tell a story make a point tell a story make a point that's all you doing in every chapter you telling the story and you teaching the lesson from the story and it just broke it down into just different lessons you come up with seven lessons or seven keys or seven laws if you if you could get 10 if you could get 15 and do that you see what you see what this book is right here it's 22 it's 22 lessons you don't know love do you hate yourself they are not winning it's just lessons right it just lessons and then in each one I tell a story that taught me that lesson so I tell a story and I make a point before you know it this whole book this hill whole book 276 pages in book form I wrote it in five or six days so that's all you do you break you break your story down in the lessons and then you tell a story teach a lesson Dean of God bless you now being that women have not the higher chance of getting a grown man in a relationship slash marriage is it rational to expect the marriage that you can put your guard down yes it is it is to expect the marriage but what you got to realize that anything worth having is worth working for so what you got to realize is the in order to have the best marriage you got to be the most prepared so what that means is is it's people out there on every level MJ Cooper God bless you now yeah take you some karate it's people out there on every levels but what you got to realize is is okay I'm trying to see if I miss any other question is that when you rise to the top when you the cream rise to the top so that as you work on yourself you start to attract the people who working on themselves so think about this and this why I try to always tell folks like think about this if you got a GED it's a certain type of job for you if you get a bachelor's it's a certain type of job for you if you get a master's it's a certain type of job for you if you get a doctor it's a certain type of job for you if you become a lawyer you get a law degree and you pass the bar it's a certain type of job for you see a person who passed the bar could get a job that somebody who have a GED can't get so what I mean by that is even in relationships the person who has the knowledge who has done the work who has healed their heart the real men and the real women that's out there they're gonna connect they're gonna click because it's all vibration so when you start to vibrate meaning you start to think and act and behave on another level you elevate so when you elevate now guess what we out of eye because if he elevating you elevate now y'all see out of eye the people who ain't thinking on y'all level they down here they look in there out of eye so you got to keep elevating and that then the more you elevate the more you learn the more you grow the difference you're gonna start to attract all of God bless you now if boyfriend proposed after three months of dating rushing into marriage saying he loves me and can't wait to be with me when I say I want to think take things slow because I'm not sure yet he gets mad okay got to go got to go because I'm gonna tell you like this right here any man who want to get married in three months is know what that is any man who want to get married three because see this is the thing he don't even know you he only know you you could be Lorraine a bobbitt niece y'all know what Lorraine a bobbitt did this the man she took out cut it right off his third leg and meat leg cut it right off you could be Lorraine a bobbitt niece he don't even know he don't even know if you Lorraine a bobbitt niece and he told me I want to marry you that right there that's suspect then when you tell him I want to take it slow that's rational that's common sense he ought to know that cuz cuz you don't know he tad bonding nephew so and then he get mad about you making a rational logical decision to take it a little slow oh cool cool for Cocoa Puffs I'm telling you right now you better put your track shoes on and set a PR Brittany God bless you now hi tg a male I know said it's deceiving if a woman doesn't tell a man straight up that she's waiting until marriage I completely disagree thoughts you right but he gonna tell you that because he don't want to waste his time with a woman who waiting until marriage cuz he don't want to wait until marriage but see if he interested in you then it don't matter if you wait until marriage cuz he gonna be there regardless if he interested in you so that's just old Jedi mind trick reverse psychology you just okay good try oh that was cute okay you learned that in psychology class okay there all right bye just going about you been being Tracy God bless you if you see an ex and he says I'm glad you're happy is he being sincere it just depends on your ex if you were dating you know Michael Blackson then he probably not serious if you were dating Barack Obama then he probably could be serious you said I mean it depends on your ex if you know he's a clown and he's a funny guy and he you know no character what have you then comedian then he's not being serious if you know he is a good man y'all just ain't work out and he could be serious Natasha J God bless you pursued me two years and started dating a year ago he got a new job and needed space February said he wanted me back and let's talk day of talk said he was having family problems and needed to figure it out thoughts what to say it sound like it's over see what happened here is when you let a man pursue you for two years in them two years he's not building love he built a resentment because a man want a woman who gonna confirm his interest in her within the first three months so when he pursue you for two years now it's like he a Greyhound on the track chasing that bunny so he got bad intentions when he kept that bunny that Greyhound ain't happy about that bunny keep running and running and running and he got to keep picking it up picking up picking up picking up picking up he won't get that bunny to rip it apart so he got you now the question is when he got you did you get on your bike see if he got you he caught you with resentment got you on your bike so now he won thank you mission complete gotcha made me chase it for two years I'm finna dog you out that's what a man coming to do when you let a man pursue you for two years he want to catch you and rip you apart so now that's why you getting the treatment you getting because you will treat him like little ugly you will treat him like he looks challenged because if he were tall dark and handsome and look like a glass of chocolate milk in the Sahara Desert you wouldn't let him pursue you two years you would have been oh yeah okay great to meet you all right yes oh yeah so what are we gonna do you would have been building with him talking to him but when a man pursue you two years he start to feel insecure inadequate and ugly looks challenged and so when he catch you he got bad intentions so that's what you got to realize that's what you going through right now that's what you going through right now peace for heart God bless you now turn it away you speak about your queen is so refreshing why do you think so many marriages result in resentment and hatred I'll be honest with you as a man and men don't like to hear this as a man nine out ten time it's the man now some of the time it's the woman but both times this broken individuals coming from pain and hurt inadequacy insecurity but what I see the most as a relationship coach who do this every day who in the trenches not even men that's in all these little group meek towel and red pill and all this then some clowns then some clowns and they want to call real men simps and punks but they really the punks and they really the clowns because they don't confront their pain and their issues from the girl who broke up with them before the middle school dance he asked her to dance she say yeah then a day before the day and he tell her she tell him I can't go with you come on go on with a quarterback so now he been hurt all his life now he want to be in the meek towel now he want to holler about a red pill because he got hurt by a woman who treated him like look ugly so what's what's happening is and a lot of these relationships what I'm saying the man is not stepping up and being a man and being faithful the number one failure is a man being unfaithful because when you unfaithful spiritually or emotionally physically any kind of way it breaks down the relationship so now finances become an issue now religion becomes an issue how you raise your kid become an issue everything becomes an issue because the stuff run downhill the stuff run downhill it's a trickle down effect but now not in time what I notice as a professional doing this for the last 13 years it's on the man so that's why I give away the game the way I give away the game because I know if women learn now you got what you need to hold a man accountable me and get away with it because women come in so unassuming women think the world gonna be kind to you women think that you're gonna walk up to the world and in the world just go just oh you're so beautiful that's what women think the world gonna do but the world ain't trying you know what we're gonna do to you that's what the world trying to do to you so women go in and they want to trust a man get on their bike spend money on the man wine and dine just wooing food want to go through all this with the man but the man hasn't even proven himself so the next thing you know this woman is wide-eyed and she like a deer standing in the road and she want to get his f-150 that's coming 80 miles an hour she want to give it a hug but what you think that f-150 that f-250 that doodly about to do to that deer standing in the road with deer and headlights and a man driving the f-150 he texting what you think finna happen to that deer that's what's happening in relationship women wide open today going up the men who are untamed lions and then the woman she's a gazelle because she want to approach him she want to go and get on a bike so guess what boom he take advantage of so now when women are not prepared and equipped by their fathers they going into a relationship thinking a man gonna treat them like they father treated them not realizing that your boyfriend or your husband not going to treat you the way your father treated you because you came from your father's loins so he had to provide for you and care for you and love you on a different level in a different way because you flesh of his flesh blood his blood but see this man that you meet he was raised by his mama to see you as a meal ticket as a dinner plate because she called him and she catered to him and she baby him and she never pop her out of his mouth so he still got breath milk round his mouth so he going to get a woman that's gonna replace his mama but still he could sleep with her so now the woman becomes a mama who could sleep with a husband so men today looking for mama's they could sleep with yes ancestral relationship and still are looking for a wife who gonna hold him accountable and make him respect her because she respects herself so see that's why you dealing with the day and that's what God had to bring me into the realization and that's why I bring the truth that I bring because I'm commissioned by God on high not by Chaton satan the adversary but by God on how to bring clarity and then you're gonna see other relationship teachers bringing confusion and they bringing confusion because they sent by the adversary so they want you to be defiling the bed they want you in fornication they want women pursuing men they want women court and men they want women on a bank it's so many people hire me and they say oh my therapist told me I just need to sing on the microphone my therapist told me I need to to myself my therapist told me I need to just sleep with I'm like what no we need godly principal MJ Cooper a y'all I miss I had to go on a little teaching right there now so I miss some so y'all give me one a little second real quick and I'm finna grab these and I'm finna go I don't want to win overtime a no more question now no more question no more question y'all let me get through the hill we done now we are overtime let me see miss lowkey started talking six months after ending long distant relationship or last relationship both not fully heal last relationship especially him first year was good bandages second year was bad because I stopped the benefits third year trying to grow if he does the work another try if single miss lowkey you wasting your time you wasting your time y'all in third year still doing bad you wasting your time sister all things Lady T dates a guy for a month find out he's talking to women on Facebook and IG we spoke on and decided to continue dating but he got distant and eventually start responding to me why all things Lady T what he trying to do is give you the respect that you don't have for yourself so he let you find him out talking to those other women with the hopes that that would be enough for you to walk away but when he talked to you he's not gonna tell you a I let you catch me talking to other women because I don't want you and I'm hoping in this what he's saying in English so when he talking to you he said all those mistake I ain't mean about that I want to be with you you know we could work this out we could make it happen but he expecting you to be like man you tried me like a baser man what you got me what you take me for boo boo the fool and now you out here looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him but he was trying to get you to walk away that's why I'm an attention so when you stayed he like oh she ain't get a hint so now let me get distant because I don't met this one over here loose booty nine oh one that's a screen name loose booty nine oh one in the Facebook Messenger and I want to deal with her and so that's why you got distance so when a man give you a reason to leave go ahead and leave because if you keep talking to a man who trying to push you away by disrespecting you then disrespecting yourself and he is not going to have any respect for you and then what he's going to do is he's going to leave you for a woman who respects herself that's what you got to realize now y'all hold on one second now wave it naturally used to left for message for somebody and she sent $10 to get it out to you now I see y'all could read all that cuz y'all ain't got to read all I got to read and y'all ain't got to answer no question so y'all get to read all them super chats y'all read them for I read them Beto God bless you thank you Tony for all you do you have consistently confirmed so much I'm so grateful hey God bless you now hold on y'all hold on no more question now we all we all done hey I really appreciate y'all to the moderators every all the moderators I see two Bella and coach share their glam rocks makeup I don't know if Caramel kisses made it tonight and Mama Tish okay Caramel kisses okay all five of y'all in here hey God bless you I appreciate y'all and I want you to remember what I'm telling y'all about what I was just saying with the ladies you know we're in a new day today we're in a new day today and I'm gonna tell you the truth men and women being turned over to a reprobate mind so what that mean is people losing a mind so women actually becoming sorry men comments becoming sorry so what this mean is you're gonna have the broad road and you're gonna have a lot of people sorry but the people who get knowledge and the people who growing you're gonna elevate and you're gonna link up because like attracts like so you don't track what you want you attract what you are so you gotta become what you want to attract so that's what you got to realize and when you understand that cream rise to the top then you become the cream of the crop so when you become the cream of the crop the cream gonna rise to the top and you're gonna meet the person that's for you but see when you listening to all the influences of the negativity and people who don't have what you trying to get people who broke busted and disgusted looking like who shot John forgot to kill him people who miserable and pessimistic and that's who you talking to you watching them on your reality TV you watching them on YouTube you watching loose booty 901 on YouTube she trying to tell you how to bait a man with your body she trying to tell you to find a provider or mindset man and you listening women who ain't never had no good relationship can't even have no good relationship they man cheating on them and they come telling you how to be a loose booty gold digger instead of how to be a classy respectful self-sufficient woman who is humble and confident you said I mean and then you're gonna have grown boys that's gonna come tell you get on your bike tell a man your whole game plan on the first date let him know if you gonna wait for marriage let him know what you looking for in a man you know why the grown boys telling you that on YouTube and the other networks because they still playing the field so they want to see you in the comments with your hands up yes amen and then you finna get a DM cuz now he could tell you slap crazy and twice on Sunday looking like boo boo the fool so he coming to the DM to tell a what's up I appreciate your support start that conversation cuz now he see you a dub now he see you look like a deer in the headlights so he finna come get you now that ain't I told y'all don't send no more blessing now y'all still sending blessing he white God bless you now that God bless now you don't y'all send me no more blessing I just want to send a blessing you are nor a blessing now that don't y'all send no Anisha read now we done with the Q&A Anisha 28 version ready start dating and advice Anisha let me ask you this do you have a job okay you got a job do you got a raise do you got a promotion okay you got all that do you have a for profit business your LLC okay do you have a nonprofit business your foundation okay have you written your book all right get you four to seven streams of income before you start worrying about Dave because you're version you 28 you bring the table to the table so make sure you get all your ducks in a row for you worry about Dave all right TG University made areas hey God bless you if I miss your blessing if you sent me a question I hope you understand why I can't get to every question when you see how many questions on here if you sent me a blessing I hope you understand why I might miss some of them blessing so please forgive me if I miss you and y'all still blessing me and hey I appreciate you that what I feel bad about though is if a hater watching that's what I feel bad about because the Bible say God will prepare a table for you before your enemies and I still have not got to the point to where I want to see a hater or a God hater or somebody who built a spirit I still ain't got to the point where I want to see them eat their words so when y'all y'all be blessing me so that I'd be like Lord please don't let a hater be watching because they'll be so depressed and so I want you to know I'm praying for you if you're hating if you're jealous and you come over here to watch to say let me see what time it going let me see what time it going because you a life coach or your author a get the hate out your blood and support get your support and so to everybody who's supporting me I really really appreciate you it means more timid and you know Stephanie Dion God bless you now I see your blessing right there God bless you so I appreciate y'all and the next time I go live probably Sunday probably Sunday Lord willing God bless you we'll talk soon